Well family … its been a crazy week in the comments section for those of you who follow it … its also been a crazy week at work. So … to end the week … I need to rant and vent.
- For anyone who missed it … comments section took a turn for the worst right around the infamous “Three F’s” post. As anyone can tell you, I don’t have the time or energy to moderate, watch, and get involved with all of these comments (n***a got a job). I just hope anyone hurt who felt they had to leave realizes I love all of them, but … I respect if people felt the need to “take a break” from the SBM fam.
- I think I need a girlfriend again. Maybe this time a biker chick.
- I have two significant female friends in my life. The more I think about it … the more I wonder how I manage to do it. I don’t have emotions (nope … not even Bambi made me cry) … so I wonder how they put up with me. One even told me “You’re not compassionate enough”. I responded “My dick won’t let me. Besides … thats what you have other female friends for”.
- Have you ever been attracted to a female that you wouldn’t find attractive physically, but there is some other innate quality and you just see them all the time. I had a Teacher’s Aide in college who taught an Economics class. She wasn’t even cute … but she knew so damn much about finance. At some point I would ask her to write on the board so I could stare at her ass … her flat ass too. Does that count as Stockholm Syndrome (she had me captive in class … right)?
- I think my 4th greatest fear in life is that I will never understand the female mind. I will marry a woman, love her intimately, and live partially to make her happy … but I won’t understand a damn thing that goes through her mind.
- Why is it women hate other women? Is it genetic, social, or just a big ass coincidence? Not every women hates other women, but its enough that I can make this statement and feel justified.
- So … several women in my lifetime have admitted their crazy. I heard a long time ago that one major component of being crazy is that you think your not crazy. Does this mean that even though she make no f_cking sense that she isn’t crazy? What a conundrum.
- Barack in 08!!!!!!!
Revel me with your own personal rantings. Its Friday. You mentally checked out yesterday and I know I’m not the only one who wants to think out loud for the world.
My random rants….
1. WHY CAN'T PEOPLE IN THE DC METRO AREA DRIVE!!!!
It's like the word/sign "merge" is just a verb that no one has any idea how to do in this area! Argh! My road rage is going to land me in jail one of these days, because I promise I was ready to slap the dentures out this woman's mouth this morning! And no I don't age discriminate…granny can get it too…they shouldn't be driving after the age of 60 anyway!
2. Is it just me or does gas seem to burn faster when it costs $4.09 per gallon?
3. I'm thinking about taking another pole dancing class. It's a great work-out and you learn nice new tricks for your mate.
4. Starting this weekend, I'm officially back on my "get my 4-pack back" regime. Eating healthy by cooking more, working out, going back into heavy dance classes and hiking!
5. The surprise birthday party I WAS planning for my bf is no longer a surprise (bastard)…lol… so now I'm just planning a huge party that he's aware of. Thinking about renting a Lamborghini Gallardo for a day for him to drive. He's heavy into fast luxury cars and sportsbikes. That -ish ain't cheap though! But I'm leaning heavily towards it because he loves it and has been great to me.
6. Definitely overdo for my 8 hour drive back home (Detroit). Hmmm….now just to pick the dates.
7. These mofos at work just love testing a sistah. When they see my head spin, I bet you they back the fudge off!
8. I feel like shopping.
9. Starbuck's is what's on my brain right now…then maybe a quickie in my bf's car later if he can sneak away. I have some serious stress to release.
10. Debating if I'm going to sit in this office all day. Seriously doubting it.
1. I'm going to co-sign Ms. Freckles' #1 RANT…Sometimes while driving in the DC/MD area, I just want to yell out of my window, "MERGE, BITCH! MERGE!"
2. So an ex recently 'googled' himself and found some information about himself on my blog (I put his name out their purposefully), it's the same information that the 'other woman' found and contacted me about him…needless to say after speaking to her for about 5 hrs the other week, I will never understand why some women attack the 'other woman'…This woman was the missing piece to my puzzle and I appreicate her so much! As far as his grimey ass, I ain't taking shit down.
3. As soon as I got back into my serious biking regimine, I also get a serious knee injury, and biking didn't even cause it….damn flip-flops! My feet will never wear any of those again.
4. If another white person asks to touch my hair one more time this week, they're going to draw back a nub!
5. I think I hate my sister. She's one of the most trifiling women I know. Doesn't give a shit about her son. I came across someone who knew her and I mentioned her son, and he was basically like, "Wow, I didn't know she had a kid", and this was AFTER they've known each other for about 6 months. "Flowers in the Attic" much?
6. I'm craving WHITE CASTLE. No, the the frozen ones you buy from the grocery store. But the ones I can get from any location in the NYC/NJ area. I might have to make the 3 1/2 hr trek back home this weekend just for a sack. I'm craving the wave!
7. I finally came across a geniunely nice man. He's a little bit older than what I normally like (40). He falls right into my military fetish (high ranking), ohh so handsome, BUT, he talks to damn much about his job! I swear the first 45 minutes of our convo each day is about work. Eventually I tune out and all I hear is the teacher from the Peanuts cartoons, "Wok wok, wok, wok…wok wok"…Every few minutes I usually throw in a , "Wow, really?"….
8. I've been in the DC/MD area for about 5 yrs now, and I can honestly say, I still hate it. If it wasn't for my job, I wouldn't be here. I've never come across so many pretenious people in my whole entire life.
1) In Detroit, it's quite the contrary. I didn't run into many pretenious people…
2) I wish I could be in three places at once this weekend. Some fellow co-workers back in Raleigh are traveling to WV for a rafting trip. While they are splitting the gas cost amongst themselves I would have to assume all the gas expenses traveling from Kentucky. I'd rather eat my hat. My stepfather's nephews are having a cookout in Detroit this weekend. Won't be going. However, I will be joining some local friends on a little riverboat cruise.
3) I wish I could mail blak chik ALL the White Castles here in Kentucky. I HATE THAT ISH!
4) Can't wait to start my new role OR start a new job soon.
5) Perhaps a class would be good for me as well. Something pertaining to the arts. I need to tunnel all my thoughts into a creative something.
6) SBM – Don't find a girlfriend just to give her a piss poor performance. "Partially happy"? Ladies like Ms. Freckles renting a lambo for her man to make him happy on his day. You have to do more than put gas in your biker chick's 2 wheeler…Generally speaking for right now.
7) With all that "wishing" could someone give me a genie? I'll settle for R. Kelly 🙂
Co-sign like a mofo about CRAVING WHITE CASTLES!!!! YUM! I use to eat them on my way to class back in Detroit EVERY morning. I absolutely LOVE White Castles #1 with a Sprite…lol. Man oh man, and I miss Coney Islands. OMG, I have got to drive home soon!
LMAO@ Blak Chicks #7! When you have to tune them out…it's time to explore new options. LOL.
@SBM – You will never understand the female mind at 100% just like we women will never understand the male mind as much as some of us would like to think we do. That's life. I don't think you're unemotional…just heavily guarded. Your dick has nothing to do with your compassion, your heart & mind run that.
As for women disliking women; I have never been the type to hate another woman. I'm hella cool with everybody until someone rubs me the wrong way or pisses me off…in which I simply state how I'm feeling and a solution is met shortly after. I think women in general are naturally competitive. When SOME women see a lady/woman/female/chick that we feel has something that appeals to others in some way…they try to overcompensate so they can seem like they have more appeal. Make sense?
It's crazy…the other night, I told him everytime he mentions his work, after I ask my 'how was your day' question, he has to pay me $5…so…$50 later…I might have to let him keep on talking…lol…I try to give him at least 15 min to go through his gripes..lol…The last thing I like to do is talk about work when I need some relaxation and quiet time. Example..here we are at the Alicia Keys concert on Sunday…and he sees a coworker….and they start talking about WORK…I'm just standing there…like..O.K?? I sent him an email earlier today with the subject line "Leave Work At Work Tonight"..hopefully he gets my point.
I, too, have been told I'm not compassionate enough. Actually, I've been called cold and unfeeling. Some say I "act like a man" when it comes to emotions. I don't really think that's true. Then again, if that means that I'm not wearing my heart of my sleeve, or playing games then I suppose there's some truth to it.
Men and women won't truly understand each other because we all believe it to be more complicated than it probably really is. Plus we cannot escape how we've been socialized – to believe that we're from different planets. From the very beginning men and women are polarized. It's not meant for us to understand each other. We just aren't raised that way.
"I think my 4th greatest fear in life is that I will never understand the female mind. I will marry a woman, love her intimately, and live partially to make her happy … but I won’t understand a damn thing that goes through her mind."
i wouldnt waste too much time being scared of an inevitability
Ms. Freckles, I hope he gets it. Your statement about women being naturally competitive is mostly true. I've witness friends make themselves appeal to the same man. Honestly, I'm not that pressed. If I found that same guy intriguing, I wouldn't fight for his attention – I'll gracefully back off.
[blak][chik], maybe he will leave work at home. My assumption is that he either 1) really loves his job 2) afraid he will not "keep your attention" if his conversation stray. Wok, wok wok, wok wok…
Give me Waffle House. Bacon, egg and cheese on Texas toast. I like my hash browns smothed, covered and capped.
*leave work at work
@blak chik – LMAO I would have let him keep talking after $50 too! lmao. That is tooooooo funny. Yeah, you're nicer than me because I would have surely told him "I dont' want to hear about your damn job! I have my own job that I have plenty of rants about…why do you think I want to hear about yours all day!"
@ Neonna…yes, he really really really loves his job, but I love mine as well…I just leave it at the office after 2pm.
Waffle House? We don't have those in MD. But I had an artery clogging serving of it in ATL a few weeks back..lol..I'll stick to IHOP…lol
@ Ms. Freckles: LOL! Yeah, I might have to take that advice one of these days, if he doesn't learn to keep quiet about work..I swear I might as well be in the military, with all of the crap I've learned recently.
1. I'm going to need for some to stop hating on White Castles a.k.a Krystals…I think I may enjoy a #1 for lunch, it's Friday and Friday is fast food day….yum.
2. Damn I can't believe SBM said that his dick won't let him show emotions and compassion…I think I'm going to start boycotting penises from now on.
3. I really shouldn't go to Miami with him this weekend, if I do there will a nice warm spot waiting for me in hell…after all he's not really mine. Bree please say a prayer for my soul.
4. I've always wanted to take a pole dancing class…I should ask my cousin if I can practice on my her retractable pole…hell I may as well order one of my own…don't want to be sliding around in her cooch juices…then again where would I put the damn pole without my daughter being able to see it…I need a basement…oh well.
5. I think I'm crazy, or at the very least insane…so I guess knowing that makes me not so crazy, or perhaps even sane…one time for self-reflection up in this biyacth!
6. I'm really not looking forward to this promotion, better pay yes but I will have to work more structured hours and I kind of like my freedom…so I guess it's time to get my grown woman on and come to work 8 hours/day like everyone else…damn conformity…geesh.
7. I really want to go to Miami, just not with him…well that's a lie since he pays for everything. I wonder if there is a way for me to go with him without actually going with him….hmmm, I'm sure Bree can help me figure something out.
8. I think I'm going to practice celibacy…I wonder how the team will take the news that there's no chance of them getting near my secret garden…although according to some it's not so secret…*sigh*…oh well, you gotta start somewhere and change is good…right?!?!?
WT…No Waffle?!? That's the most dirtiest, nastiest, most delicious, fulfilling hole in the wall chain restuarants! Get that artery unclogged and try 'em again…
@Ms. Freckles: Didn't you say you were married yesterday with the whole ring debate? No I didn't take the time to go back and check … I'm lazy today.
Also, why can't I be the fabled one. The one non-gay guy who actually understands the female mind. I swear though, it just all seems so illogical (no offense). Talking to someone just last night and had to get off the phone because I thought my ears were going to start bleeding from the nonsense she was speaking. Yet she felt justified in it all!
And my dick has a lot to do with my lack of emotion. Most men joke about how we think with out penis, but with the testosterone that we produce … there is some truth to it. And I'm not completely without emotion … but pretty damned close.
@Neonnea: I love waffle house and since there are few in Maryland (there are a couple in the boonies FunkyBlackChick), I am contemplating getting on my bike and riding the hour and half (60 minutes at motorcycle speed) just to get some hashbrowns with the chilli on top.
@FunkyBlackChick: IHOP pails in comparison to Waffle House. Went to IHOP last night. I asked for my Hash Browns Covered and Smothered (even Denny's does this) … dude looked at me blank.
@nDenise: Finally, someone else wihtout the emotions. While men & women are raised to be opposites, doesn't mean we can't understand the other. I can understand things I don't agree with, but I swear the logic that some women preach …
@Freckles: That's an extremely thoughtful gift…it's a beautiful to be loved to the point of wanting to make such a grand gesture…he's a lucky guy. *hi-five*
I feel like shopping too…only in Miami though…which causes a conundrum. *sighing* And I feel you on the more appealing thing…I see it everyday…it's the funniest thing ever, maybe it has something to do with the gender relationship gap in our race. In this instance I would have to Hasani's rant credence…he made a very valid point.
@Neonnea: Yeah falling back is definitely the way to go…I never understood the dating shows where women competed for a man's attention and affection. If you have qualities that he's interested in they will shine through amongst all others. I don't know, call me a cynic but putting yourself out there to compete just seems like you're setting yourself up for failure.
Ctrl Atl Delete…I'll be sending a White Castle to Florida.
Teacia, go to Miami; unless dude is that smothering…
@FunkyBlackChick: I HEART me a military man…and I do mean HEART. Maybe it has something to do with every man in my family being military and being in Jax where there's a Navy base and 20 minutes from Brunswick where there's an Army Base, but I HEART men in uniforms…oh and ALPHAS!!!. If you can combine the two it's officially OVA..lol! My ex-fiance who is in the Navy would rant about his job all the time, but after a while of redirecting his energy he got the point. I say cash in while you can…lol…cause after a while he will get it to and you can enjoy a blissful conversation minus the bitter work chatter.
@SBM: A lack of emotion huh…it's not looking good for the home team.
@NDenise: I've been told that I lack emotions, when really I realized that it's just a cover-up to guard my heart. I'm quite sensitive, but rarely has anyone seen me cry and I do mean rarely. When and if it does happen my friends and family get a little worried b/c their not so used to me allowing myself to be vulnerable. I'm hoping this changes one day soon, I need to stop bareing the brunt of the world on my shoulders in silence.
@Neonnea—If there is, I've never seen one. I've been to a few in Southern, VA around the Petersburg/Ft. Lee area.
@SBM— wait, there's a Waffle House in MD? I never knew that. I'm going to have to look into that…but if it's that far into the boonies…with premium gas now at a $4.30-something…(I realize more & more, I should have never gotten rid of the motorcyle) I'm just going to have to stick to IHOP, I love their omelettes…I've never been to a Denny's before, although there is one in my area.
Neonnea we have a Krystals 5 blocks away from my job…I'm actually not a fan of White Castles…they use different fries…but Krystals is my weekness. And dude is FAR from smothering…he usually gives me the keys to the rental, money for food and entertainment and rides off with his cousins for half of the day, while I hang with my bestie and old college roommates. He just has some unfinished business at home which is assuring me one way ticket to hell in a handbasket…if you catch my drift.
SBM – Is that some sort of world record you are trying to achieve? If so, by what date? "Being the FIRST Heterosexual to understand the woman mind." You might as well enjoy the ride. Women aren't just one big packaged deal. Every one of us have a uniqueness that defines our individuality. Anyone from the crazy, lazy, lady to the profession go getter. Learn something from the exposure you have with different women; this will help you to choose among the women you would prefer to be with.
Ride out for that hash browns with the chili 🙂
@The Champ: I fear death too. So … why not a lifetime of flawed logic too?!
@ TEACIA…How ironic..He's an Alpha as well…lol! I'm surrounded by Ft. Meade, Andrews Airforce Base, and a few others…so they're everywhere I turn. A tall, attractive, military man in his uniform= instant panty pudding!
@Teacia: What in the bloody hell is a Krystals?
And BTW … your gonna go to Hell (sorry). We had a post about this, pretty sure you officially shunned that type of … "behavior". Don't start being inconsistent now.
@Ms. Freckles: Where can you even rent a Lambo around here? Also, if your man is a rider too … lemme know. I know he prolly hits one of the 50 bike nights around here.
@Neonnea: Wait wait … women are different? I thought it was like one code ya'll all followed. Every man gets a book of rules to follow as soon as he turn 14. If you got a good friend, they let you know the deal a little earlier. 80% of simps have sold their books for money, or had them taken from them. Huh … I thought everyone got a book.
@Funky Black Chic & Teacia: Alright … got the Alpha thing covered. I work at a military facility, I think I could steal one of these uniforms.
Any branch of military?
My dear sweet SBM, Krystals is the southern and much better version of White Castle…they even have Wi-fi access at their joint…and I came the day after that post if I do recall correctly…never had an opinion on it. *check the record book please*
@FunkyBlackChic: girl get the hell out of here…oh no mam, it would be a WRAP!! Where do you live again, I think it's time for a relocation…although there is someone up in the VA who apparently is still at it, tried to push him off on someone else and he still won't let go…but he is an Alpha and a Major…ooh lawd i'm getting moist just thinking about it.
I have also been accused of lacking emotions. Not big on PDA. I'm passionate yet a little nonchalant. I also like to tell the truth in the nicest possible way. Don't ask me something like "how was the sex?" If it wasn't too good, I'm going to tell you "It wasn't that bad" or "pretty good." If dude come off offended, I'm going to make suggestions for improvements.
Teacia – It's always that big pc. of luggage (baggage)… Enjoy your Krystals. I'll save my Waffle House trip for 3a.m. tonight. Going home for lunch and make a tuna melt on ciabatta bread.
SBM, I'm impartial to the Marines…just the thought of being man handled while he got on his dress uniform…*oh my goodness*…is it hot in here. But any branch will suffice…as long as he's a man's man…not much for the sensitive type…u know the criers and those with all those damn emotions…lol, I can't stand them!!
Somebody give Teacia a fan.
SBM – I'm glad you learned something new today…
@ SBM—-LOL @ steal a uniform! I like my men not surrounded by a 10×10 cell…lol!
@ Teacia—Marines? Major? Let me get a fan really quick..lol.. See where I went wrong in my last relationship was the fact that he was in the Army and an Omega..LOL! But I do prefer Marines or Airforce men..lol
@Neonnea: What did I learn? Alpha's are insensitive?
Neonnea: Girl he didn't divulge of his extra baggage until our second trip, or maybe it was the first one to Miami…hence the shopping spree. Granted he's no longer attached the luggage, he has yet to fully dispose of it. And I don't need that kind of karma in my life…I've indulged long enough…although the weather IS beautiful this weekend…lol…i'm going to do better I promise.
FunkyBlackChic: girl yes, he's a major in the marines, 37 and cute as a button. i'm telling you if i lived in VA, it most certainly would be over…i just can't get over the distance thing.
And I would like to refer back to Bree's transitive axiom for SBM:
So I guess that it could fit, and if I plug in most alphas I know as the b quotient, the end result would be the same.
SBM…why do you need to understand the mind of a female???..just let her be herself…just let her be PERIOD and live in your mind and let her live in hers…mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm kay
why do men want to understand us…shidddddd focus your attention of just satisfying our cravings and the whole would be a much happier place..*snickers*
my cravings (rants of the day)…wet circles around my clit, diet pepsi, warm showers, sticky rice, moose tracks…the champ, Beyonce and JayZ
@Teacia: I know am all "Alphas"! Great! Got a couple LB's that are gonna be upset I am now all "Alphas", but they'll live.
@GeeGee: Really though … circles on your clit. Didn't need to have that in my head. Now I've lost all ability to do all work for the rest of the day.
And not understanding ya'll makes life difficult. Very very difficult (and immensly annoying).
@SBM – Yes, my BF rides (He has a R1…whatever that is. At least that what it says on the side of the bike). He's been off the bike for a little over a month right now though due to a pinched nerve in his neck. My poor baby has been suffering…and NO I DID NOT say I was married. I'm in a long term relationship.
You can rent a lambo and other really high-end cars at http://www.gothamdreamcars.com/new-york-city/lamb…
They deliver to the the metro DC area from NYC.
I agree with Gee Gee on several things…and I agree with that there's no need to attempt to understand, our logic doesn't mesh will yours. Just focus on what keeps us happy, even if it makes no sense at all in your mind.
And SBM she said "wet circles around her clit"…lol, priceless.
So I'm normally a lurker but all this talk or smothering and military men has got a sista busting at the seams. I need to get this out so bear with me. Deep breath. Someone hold my hand!
I've been dating this guy for about a month who's in the military. He does everything we all say we want but for some reason it's driving me up the wall. Are you getting the smothering/military connection now? So no he's not hashbrowns but I feel like I am.
On our first date he told me that he was looking to get married/have kids and if that wasn't what I wanted I should walk away now. It is what I want but I didn't think I'd have to want it the next day. We're together constantly and when I say I need a night alone to hang with my friends he gives me the saddest puppy dog eyes and I end up calling him telling him I miss him and to come over by the end of the night. The way we interact can't be healthy for either of us.
I should also mention that he's from a totally different background than me; he lacks pedigree. It's shallow I know, but it's having an effect on things with us and I can't tell him that cause it would crush him!
Ok I'm going to post this now. Don't bite my head off.
Uhhh Ms. Freckles…ummmm….2…thousand dollars…wow, u must really love you some him.
@Teacia….noooo the cost of the rental will be split between me, his brother, his bestfriend and his parents!!!! lol, I aint hardly PAID like that!
Oh cause I was like DAYUM!!!….can a negro borrow 5 dollars…lol.
This is another site…but I can't confirm if they're legit or not…so I'm suspect: http://us.zilok.com/rental/22346-lamborghini-gall…
Freckles, the second one seem to be the same company as the first…only their using like an Ebay format. I guess their auctioning off the cheaper prices, highest bidder wins.
The third is cheaper than the first and more expensive than the second one. I say go with the 3rd since I'm not sure of the terms on the second. I looked over the agreement on the first and the second and they varied a bit, which is a little suspect considering it's supposedly the same company.
@Teacia…Yeah, I notice the inconsistency as well. The 3rd one is local which is a huge plus. I'd be the one kicking out the most money for it — but I want to make sure everything is legit and worth it. I need to schedule an appt to actually go to the business and see everything for myself. Its a lot of money just for the freaking DEPOSIT to even rent the car regardless if you get it back or not. Crazy!
"We’re together constantly and when I say I need a night alone to hang with my friends he gives me the saddest puppy dog eyes and I end up calling him telling him I miss him and to come over by the end of the night. The way we interact can’t be healthy for either of us."
Daisy, *exhaling*…so this is no big deal. Trust me, it's a phase, courtships are usually like that for the first few months and things start to simmer down a bit and you return to some semblance of your normal lives. You can't honestly be feeling as smothered as you claim if you renig on your friends to be in his presence. This thing goes both ways. If you need space, create some and stick to it, otherwise stop complaining. This man is good to you and is offering everything you want in a mate, if you feel it's going to fast…slow it down a little. If he cares about you then he will respect your space and patiently build something concrete with you.
"I should also mention that he’s from a totally different background than me; he lacks pedigree. It’s shallow I know, but it’s having an effect on things with us and I can’t tell him that cause it would crush him!"
*shaking my head*…this is a day when I really wish Hasani was here to respond. Not only is this statement shallow but it lacks…i'm not going there. Sweetheart, that's a mean thing to say about someone who you clearly are feeling. If you can't love him for who he is then you release him so that he can find someone who will. And then in 5 years when he sends you a random email talking about how good his life is with his wife and two kids you can kick yourself for being so shallowing and missing out on the possibility of something great.
The tours I can actually purchase alone…but I feel a certain way about paying damn near $900 for 40 minutes per each luxury car verses him just having one for the entire day. Decisions…decisions…
Well it is a $200,000 car…they gotta make sure the can any damages.
LMAO @ Teacia requesting Hasani's commentary! Don't wake the beast…PLEASE! lol
If you're going in on it with the folks then I say get the car for the full day, if they renig you always have the tours as a backup plan.
yeah, a few mistakes in that response, but i'm sure u get it. also this is right up Hasani's alley…i guess he got the boycott email as well. *quietly sobbing*
ROTFLMAO @ Teacia quietly sobbing! LOL.
Yeah, I guess you're right. But keep in mind I'm paying for the stuff I'm using to throw the party at his house. Told his boys to supply the liquor and I would handle food and the grill.
Wow, you're talking right up my alley with the cars…@ Gotham cars, ask for "NOAH"..tell him Mike(that's my best friend) from http://www.eleganteleasing.com, referred you…I'm not promising any discounts, but it's worth a shot.
@blak chik — You are the greatest! Thank you! I was questioning how legit they were.
Teamwork is such a beautiful thing. *smiling inside*
@ Ms. Freckles— some women like expensive shoes and purses, I like expensive cars! For my 30th last year, I had the Murcielago Roadster…OMG, the minute you press the gas, it's ORGASMIC!
@SBM: if you didn't learn anything today, I did. Alphas are secretly hopeless romantics that strive to find that woman to compliment them, while ripping their hearts off their sleeves, putting it back in their chest, and stop using their dicks as an excuse to be emotionally detached. Got it!
@Teacia: Yep, Hasani would have torn Daisy to shreds. Instead of giving her the 5 page thesis with 10 different references from a misogynist perspective, I think your quick and brief analysis was well stated. This guy knows what he wants; so I applaud him for being upfront from jump. However, as women, we don't want to lose a good man even if we are not ready for those committments just yet. Maybe he is something like a simp or we try to hold out and find something wrong vs. appreciate his imperfections.
Men in uniforms, need for speed…I've got to at least get me a motorcycle license soon!
That's it! I'm trickin out my Equinox…tint, 22s, tvs. Imma pop in my Snowman CD and fu@k my neighbor with his sexy @ss. 🙂
…In the passenger seat.
RTFLMBAO at Neonnea…gurl I was a step away from losing my job that outburst of laughter. One time for pimpin your ride and your lifestyle…welcome. 😉
after* that outburst…sorry, i was still laughing.
I've invested in the wrong material things. Why not pimp my ride and trade it those pumps? They hurt my feet after a couple of hours and don't get me very far when I walk…
I'm not gonna front, it makes a difference. I swear my car is a guy magnet…what man doesn't dream of a chic driving up in a red convertible(sitting on 20's) with my 14 inch remi flying in the wind…lol.
@Neonnea—my car is a showstopper..lol! I got it from a lease that was returned after it was repo'd from an professional athlete…lol..It's a beauty! I got a car that was originally $130k and I got it for less than $40k, b/c of a hook-up from my best friend.
Hell yeah…cars are the way to go!! Although I do keep me a pair or three of funky fresh pumps and high heels around as well.
Of course I'm not going to get rid of ALL the pumps. They like it when you keep your heels on.
Pure Comedy!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can I play?
LMAO @ all ya'll!!!! Whew, I've been cracking up all week.
@Teacia…"with your remi flying in the air"…LMAO!!!! LOVE IT!
I'm still waiting on Fly to get in on this…girl rant on!
– I am pissed that I didn't get the information I needed TODAY and I won't find out till Monday! I can't sleep I must know!!!
– It's raining in Chicago which I guess is ok, since it has been sunshine all week.
– I hate when you ask people a direct question and don't answer it. They give you a response to everything else in the conversation. When I ask a DIRECT question give me a DIRECT answer. What is so damn hard about that? I don't need your damn advice!
– I don't understand women either. Especially the really emotional, irratic, and petty ones. That is why I surround myself around women like myself. Although SBM I gave some of the men I know this book called 'For Men Only'. It gives you a very accurate insight into women and how they view things. http://www.amazon.com/Men-Only-Straightforward-Gu…
– Why do you think you need a girlfriend? I was thinking last night I wanted a boyfriend but I think I will wait till after the summer…lol
-I responded “My dick won’t let me…SBM will you explain what you mean with this statement.
-I have a fear of failure, and that I might start disliking the human race…lol j/k about the human race although they can annoy the hell out of me today. Oh yeah I am getting better at the fear of failure thing.
-I feel like I should be flying somewhere this weekend.
-I hate I like this guy who doesn't play by my rules. Yet the challenge is fun and keeps me intrigued. What is a girl to do? I just let it play out and go with the flow… Its something different about this fella.
– I love when random blessing happen when you least expect it.
-SBM, why don' t you have emotions honey?
Ok thats enough this is not my journal so I will save some…lol
Teacia and Neonnea. Thanks so much for the comments! You both are VERY right. I'm super afraid of the commitment thing and I don't want to miss out on a great guy so I'm gonna have to start giving myself space just for my own sanity. And don't worry Teacia I NEVER renig on my friends. I just always say I'm going to call them and end up calling him instead. We still spend time together just not as much as we used to. I've already called them tonight and I'll have to wear the pumps that hurt my feet since I'm not sittin on 20's.
Oh and PLEAAAASSSEEE don't tell Hasani. Lord knows he'd douse me and my draws in gasoline if he read that.
@ Ms. Freckles: I took a pole dancing class a couple of weeks ago back home and it was great. I respect strippers on a different level now. I glad I found that class because it is definitely a great workout. I am going to have to find one here in Chicago.
Ms. D – a weekend gettaway sounds great; however, will you truly enjoy the quick escape with your mind on the unknown?
~Thank goodness it's raining in Chi now, because I won't be looking forward to that mess next weekend.
~I hate giving a direct question and receiving an indirect answer as well. Although I've done the same thing. I'm not blk and white. It's always a "but" on the end. *sighing and taking a moment for self reflection*
~A friend recently told me "Failure to prepare is to prepare to fail" Stay on your grind; learn from your mistakes, prepare yourself for the inevitable.
~Daisy – Stilletto…pumps…in…da club! I miss being close by to my good girlfriends. I like the company of my male companion but….
@Neonnea: Yeah it will be nice next weekend I think. I hope so because I can't wait to see Chaka Khun in concert!
Yeah thinking I might take a break from the world this weekend. I definitely learn from my mistakes.
Ms. D: Heeeeey, you've been missed today!!! And Monday is only 2 days away, you can make it…although I know how bad not knowing is. And on the direct question thing I sent Mr. Avanlanche a text asking 3 basic questions and he responded 6 hours later with this long drawn out intense "kid gloves" response and didn't answer a one of my questions. I was so irritated I was just like forget it…he called a little later to expound but I was not interested at that point…lol…he got the voicemail.
Daisy: Girl you'll be fine….just embrace that sexy man who is smitten with you…worst case scenario you can always get rid of the salad forks and make it easy for him. And my 20's came with a pair of hot pumps to match…lol. My daughter is spending the weekend with her father, so I'm hitting the streets with my girls tonight and HARD!! Have fun girly and be safe! And don't worry I'm sure Sani is reading the comments and is CHOOSING not to respond, so I think you're safe for now.
Neonnea: No Miami for me this weekend, I think I may indulge in having my space all to myself this weekend…these are rare moments you know.
wow…. This is family? Incest much:)
Ladies, SBM…enjoy yourselves this weekend.
@Fly: Since I'm the only guy here today … I'd be all for it.
I can't believe that Barack is in Jacksonville giving a press conference right now less than a mile away from my house and I didn't know about it. I think I may have to hit the river to see if I can get a pic…now that I'm done eating my Krystals and all.
LOL…… Its legal in utah. Just leave the sexy ugly ones alone. Messes up the gene pool! LOL
9. If these little boys on this campus keeping trying to get at me I swear I'm going to scream, especially if they keep calling me with "hey girl"…little boy I am a grown ass woman, nothing about my swagger implies that I am anything less. I can't stand their asses…except my students of course, although they tend to get on my nerves as well.
10. I think I'm ready to get married, there is a lot of freaky shit I want to do…and since I've been saving that for the hubby I need to get on that ryt nyh!! Married by 2009 is my goal…here's to celibacy and finding a husband.
Oh and Neonnea you have a good weekend as well!!
@Fly: How can they be sexy and ugly?
You talking about a butta-face?
Its in ur tags "sexy ugly women"!!!
I admire the swag and all u do.
@Fly: Me … swag … naw
@Fly: Lol … I forgot about that. Yeah … that Stolkholm Syndrome is a killer.
Damn…now i gotta get some Krystals…or find me something close to White Castles.
1) Online classes aren't so fun when you have a blackout the same day 2 assignments are due. Lucky me..i spent 1 and 1/2 looking for a place to complete my assignment..then spent 8.25 at kinkos on the computer( which could have bought 2 gallons of gas..well a little less since gas is 4.60 out here)..Once I decided that i was wasting to much money..i figured i would type out the assignment on whatever battery power I had left on my labtop. When I got home, I was so happy to find out that no one thought to call me to let me know the power was back on..
2) Macy's mark downs are bananas!!! 2.99 Calvin Klein boy shorts…yes!
3)Being the person to have to label ALL the mark down..not always so fun..walking and standing for 8hrs is no joke.
4) I could really go for some chocolate
5) not so sure I like my brother's current it girl walking into my room like it's the thing to do..if my door is close..dont come in
6) I love how my boss called me..and asked me to text message her some gangster Tupac ringtones..lol..
7) I love how one of my ex boyfriends radomly called me today..left a message for me to call him back..I decided to (why not)..then heard the message "this number is currently not in service"..lmao..
8) I too could go for a steady relationship…but I need to expand my circle
9) I'm going to need for men well into their 40's to stop pulling up beside me while I'm on an evening walk..especially one who says..I remember 2yrs ago talking to you and you were 16 you must be 18..I never met this man before..so to get rid of him i said it couldn't have been me because i'm 16 now…can't believe he said.."oh you must have been 14..but your really beautiful do you need a ride, can i have your number…i live right over there"..now i have to change my route
10) SMB's blog..provides me with daily entertainment and distractions..I'm here everyday, even if i don't post a comment. I guess because I feel that I'm one of the youngest individuals to comment on here…i feel awkward voicing my opinions on certain topics revolving around sex..just doesn't seem appropriate for me to do.
If your 15-25 why read this forum?
Your not a single black male and dont contribute anything credible to the conversation, only much it up with crossed and unverified views of a world you have yet to experience. especially if your a woman err GIRL15-25 your input on what our life is like as unmarried black middle class men is not credible, valued nor necessary.
Seriously… all kids should just run along and go play on AoL or something theres a thousand people in your genre to play with.
hows that for a rant?
Greetings SBM Fam,
I'm late on the Friday rant I know just bare with me.
I have been bored as hell the past couple of weekends. Nothing to do and no contacts. I cleared out my phone book a few months ago and haven't been successful on replenishing as of yet. Those that read my blog can probably see I haven't been doing a n y t h i n g! What a bummer!
I've also been single for 4 years. That's some BS. I was married for 2 measley years and have had run in's with other guys but nothing came of it. And what makes it even worse is I seem to be attracted to those arrogant ones. You know which ones I'm talking about ladies. Cufflink wearing azz! I think I'm gonna just be celebate with Teacia!
I wish I had super powers to make people disappear until I want to see them again (talk about a rant)
Oh yeah comment#93 HNIC I happen to be 25 yrs of age and 100% grown azz woman. Nobody takes care of me… but me. Maybe the women YOU deal with in that age range have showed you otherwise but I'm on SBM to stay so get over it.
Any of you coming to the essence festival?
Oh well that's my rant for this weekend!
I need a drink!
Hasani ur ass finally shows up and this is what you have to say…lol…way to go Sani…way to go.
@Go B.: Girl so far it's been hard, I had to open up the 16 pack of batteries last night…lol.
@YBL: Your comments are always welcome, a youthful perspective can't hurt…despite what Sani says…he's just a little love deprived these days…pay him no mind.
Oh yeah it's safe to say that I didn't hit up Miami this weekend, chillin at the crib…who knew deleting his number would be so liberating.
60% of my dress shirts have cufflinks that are in my throw closet. I also have a thing for vests (own 4 all solid colors) and hats.
perhaps if i had a thick chain around my neck tattos on my arms, fronts and a "wife B" or a "white T" adorning my precious torso I would be up to yoru standards of man. but since I am domesticated, grown, and the blog is titeled singleblackmale.net and not youngthugniggazz.org I think im in the right place.
if I still cared about helping any of you I would let young lady know that being single for 4 years IS some bullshit. its utterly shameful and not something you should admit as an adult. Its in the same level as being unemployed for 4 years …. only being unemployed is reasonable since we are black and its a recession…. nobody has an exscuse for being single for 4 years other than being Triflilant.
being single is about as cool and glamorous as being unemployed or an axe murderer is
Why all of the hostility Sani…do you need some attention…how about a hug…is Comeback still not giving you any play over at her site…and sweetheart this is SBM's blog and although he's not a thug the title doesn't specify either way. Besides there are plenty of single young thugs and none of us has admitted to dating them or wanting one…and NOBODY told you not to comment on the blog…no one told you to stay away…so take a chill pill already.
And if you don't care about helping us then continue to do what you were doing and kick rocks.
Oh wait that's not nice….Sani we love you…please stay and shower us with your negativism and lop-sided opinion of gender and race relations…this blog wouldn't survive without you…please don't go Sani!!!!!!
are you finished with posting to yourself and demeaning me or are you going back for 2nds?
so now your saying being single is cool?
SBM, antidater, and myself are not thugs… if you want a thug site go back to black planet where you think you belong, we arent stoping you. Take time to read the content and know the men.
you dont love me, and you clearly dont love the black man…. so why do you even post your hate here? didnt pushing away other posters and making a fool out of us all entertain you enough already?
I love black women so much it hurts, but I draw a heavy line in the sand between the beautiful creatures my fathers family is made of and the wretched bitches of my nightmares, that poison the pure river thats my black male mind and stalk my fine black male spirit as its next conquest.
I dont include them in my race, culture of class.. nor consiter them viable mating options. Hell I wouldnt even stop to open a door for them.
not sure what you will fall under, or anyone else… but I only want to associate and help the beuatiful creatures of that were made for me to nourish this life with. if you dont fit, and are working against me… have fun in the bitter depths of hell where your kind belongs.
A Ha Ha Ha HA….I'm obviously not posting to myself since you're responding. And no I don't think being single is cool but it's not the end of the world either…it's a passing phase, for some longer than others.
The only person who shows hate, and not dislike but hate here is you, and you alone now that the others are gone…which by the way has only seemed to help the blog and incite many more to feel safe to respond. And as much as it would be my pleasure to take the credit I can not…you all didn't become fools the day I showed up so please spare me already. My only regret is that Mikki got caught up in the frey, I really enjoyed her input.
Man, I wish I could take offense to your words, if only to make you feel validated…but again I can not help you with this bitter feat. I am here if you want to have an intelligent angry free dialogue about gender and race relations, if that's even a possibilty.
…funny how there's been no arguing with the new dynamics of his commenters….until now that is…thanks again Sani baby for all you do…I'm just saying.
"I draw a heavy line in the sand between the beautiful creatures my fathers family is made of and the wretched bitches of my nightmares, that poison the pure river thats my black male mind and stalk my fine black male spirit as its next conquest."
lmbo…now this right here is priceless, u may want to get this copywritten.
more scarscasm and dry attempts at humor towards a black man eh? I guess a man can tell what category you belong in.
shame and such a waste too, as your face and ass are very cute…. but no.. theres not a female in the world with an ass nice enough to warrent the type of disrespect you lambaste on those around you.
you should set an example for those around you.. your a fucking mother for christs sakes. and this is the attitude you show a new member of my community?? I think the only thing that upsets me more than the whores who get pregnant to entrap men who dont want them…. are parents who are sending their children the wrong messages and being poor role models. I dont give a shit about what crap some random nigga did to you.. .be fucking positive so your seed will have a hopeful outlook on the future. it was your own damn mistake, dont poison your seed too. and never call me out of my name again unles you plan on disrespecting me.. which always seems to be your cause towards me.. towards everyone.
laugh it off as me on a soapbox again, or lament your own actions. I obviously cant help you anymore or any females like you.
I used to have the energy and the spirit and the hype to do so…. but now I just feel….
@Hasani: We are going to stop with the negativity now because I refuse to let things degrade to the point they did last time. No more b*tches, wh*res, comments about children, or young & dumb jokes (apparently thats serious) anymore. Ima start pulling comments as needed.
Also, this isn't your site. Don't say single is bad (I've been single for 4 years too … and I'm about the same age as Go B) … so WTF. Its my site! I'll set any policy about who can or cannot comment or say anything.
@Teacia: Stop starting sh*t. Hasani said some asinine and stupid stuff, but stop bringing up his love life pursuit (or failings) as a rebuttal. Thats just a cheap shot.
@Both of ya'll: Lets be adults here. You know I aint got time for this and am getting ready to go out and look for Mrs. SBM (or Mrs. Tonight) right now!
Who is negative? are you reading anything I say?
Random poster : Im like 19 and a woman and like.. I totally think like is cool and old black men are creepy.
Me: WTF? why are single kids wanting to read a blog on single black men? you guys should be on AOL or someplace.
another random poster: OMG I hate men who dress for success and wont buy me drinks because they think they better than us
Me: Your describing me and every other man on this blog… de hells wrong with you?
Tecia: random insults 1-7 eventhough nobody was ever talking to her.
Me: why are you bein rude tecia and are you finished? (so you can stop) I love black women, but I hate dumb people who try to pass themselves off as women.
Tecia: Man, I wish I could take offense to your words, if only to make you feel validated…but again I can not help you with this bitter feat. I am here if you want to have an intelligent angry free dialogue about gender and race relations, if that’s even a possibilty.
And my final retort…
SET AN EXAMPLE FOR OUR BLACK CHILDREN, STOP BEING MEAN TO BLACK MEN
YOUR PRETTY AND HAVE A NICE BODY but its a shame you always want to fight and argue with any and everyone that comes across your path.
how am I being negative? Im being actual.
If I make a general statement… like I hate cheap ass whores who get knocked up to keep a man. Or if I say Stupid girls who like thugs and think hard working positive black men are soft and "not black" should stay in the projects where they belong. Im not calling anyone names… but if you fit that description… apply it to yourself.
I hate bad people, but love and want more good people around me.
I cant even attend my boxing tourny (dont worry I didnt win) for two days without T shaking the rafters looking for me. Why would I want to argue with you all the time?
Forget my notes and forget my statistics. Wanna know why black women are single and black men date outside our race as the 2nd 3rd and 4th most populat interacial couples? shit just look at this blog and compare it to white blogs and you can see why.
IM tired of fighting the world thats trying to keep me back like im working in quicksand.. and then when I am to come home to constant battle and derogatory remarks?!!?
yo .. white women dont act like this. they are some spazes but generaly they dont go around talking ot their men like they are worthless or below them….
check out a latino forum….
they arent chopin down on the latino man either…
whats wrong wit the negative black women… (love you positive and supportive ones though) that constantly become self destructive to those around them and continue to form this angry black woman and depressed black man stereotype?
"YOUR PRETTY AND HAVE A NICE BODY but its a shame you always want to fight and argue with any and everyone that comes across your path."
…lol, Sani baby you're the only one I enjoy "fighting" with…u just make it some damn easy.
And I seriously doubt that anyone, other than you of course, thinks I'm an angry black women…but hey, se la vie.
right, only me… only SBM on occation but he is less prominant… ever time anti makes a guest appearance.. and I think someone who only dates white women poped on the board for 2 sec and you blew his head off with a shotgun real quick as well…
but check this out….
WHY FIGHT WITH ANYONE AT ALL?! (omg boggle the mind) O_o
if most people wouldnt call you an angry black woman…. then it means just as I stereotype. A true modern angry black woman can put on her corporate face and do what she needs to do in the corporate world and out with fringe friends… but anyone who is intimate with her and dosent need to see the mask gets the slash and burn tactics for no other reason than self entertainment. so I guess random dude on msg board wont have any hold on your future so we dont need to see your mask. thats just a theory though.. a boyfriend would not need see the mask either.
I see no reason to fight with anybody. I have the most hippie attitude you will ever find… Im all like.. empowerment and nappyness and honor and brotherhood and stuff….and I grow flowers listen to enya and meditate and stuff! and am told im overly happy and nice to women…..
AND YOU WANT TO FIGHT WITH ME!?!?
this is sending such a bad msg to anyone who reads and anyone who follows behind you.
I went to a wedding yesterday…. my buddy married an asian woman. shes fukin BEAUTIFUL, got a body like a latino chick and is about as dark skinned as me. At the wedding… not only am I the tallest person there, but come garder time I was the only "man" out there. I had some teens and the other adult was one of those 20 year olds with the overly long shaggy hair… ya know the type that shows up to a wedding with a polo shirt and a TIE.
So why tell this story? cuz it made me realize how much other cultures have it together. i mean… a medium sized wedding and theres not a single batchlor from her side of the family.
what is it with us that our women have to treat us like tecia treats me and not like the kings and princes that we are supposed to be?
why is it all about "this nigga betta pay for me" and "betta hold the door for me" and "betta not expect to get no booty cuz he aitnt worth it" type of stuff?
the wedding made me think alot. I wish we had similar results jumping the broom.
oh for you fellas…I had to put the garder on a 19 year old kid from Laos. Such a shame my old ass 6'2 220lbs ass had to look like a monster salivating over this young girl who was 4'9 and perhaps 90lbs. SBM and anti… you brothers woulda been proud. I put the garder on wit my teeth until the groom gave me the cut it out signal… got all the way to her knee with it. it was better than a strip club… and no I didnt take off my overcoat, hat or shades the whole time I was doing it 🙂
I've never once argued with Anti, only agreed. I fussed with SBM once and it's pretty safe to say we're doing just fine. Eathan and I have an entertaining friendship off this site and he happens to love our dialogue…so please try again.
I've said all I need to say about this, get in where you fit in Sani baby or kick rocks.
@Teaci: Looks like you replaced Comeback as Hasani's battling partner. Cute … lol.
@Hasani: Sometimes I wonder if we are reading the same comments. You are very negative and have a strong disdain for black women here. I'm not sure we are reading the same comments because I don't remember anyone on here goin on about their love affair with thugs. Nor do I feel like I am being attacked as a well to do, educated, black man. I think your taking some of the negativeness of the NJ area (NJ girls have been nice in my opinion, but NY girls would turn anyone off of black women … including women who did took classes at Columbia for a time and then moved to DC). I have got to say, this isn't the best place to vent. I sweat I'm gonna sign you up for a blog and email you the name and password, because thats the format you really need to adopt.
Love you like a bro man … but your definitely dealing with an anger that the likes of me and Anti have yet to develop.
your reading what you want to.
You need to make up your mind what you want to hear sir.
You cant say… "oh HNIC your too nice and giving to these chicks" and then turn around and say "hey man your being negative and have strong distain"
Pick a theory, I cant be everything im just a simple black man.
nobody goes on about their love affair for thugs so I guess nobody should get their panties in a bunch about that comment being directed at them now should they.
you and anti better not have any problems with this love and relationship thing. for christs sakes your in your twenties!!! you just poped out of school at 22 and then did the MBA thang for another 2 years which leads you to being totally on the market for lets say a year or two max? shit your disposition better be rose colored!
I lived with and loved a woman for a long time. Majority of my days I came home to loving arms and I swear the only thing we got into fights about were little things like "why did you use windex to clean the shower" and damnit you got ANOTHER pair of GUcci sunglasses!? or even "why would you wear that thong with those garders" (yes that was a day long fight)
so Im not programed to fight with a woman. you were onto almost the right track before SBM. Im not equiped to argue with an angry black woman.. or any woman for that matter. My highschool sweetheart didnt fuss or argue with me at all. even if you wanna discount 4 of the 6 years as being in highschool and non significant. I had no problems dealing with a happy black woman with good morals and an even better smile. I do have problems with the selfish self centered self destructive and utterly chaotic creatures that sometimes pop up and want to claim they are black women.
If telling our kind they have to send a positive msg to their children, telling the sistas to stop having these babies to try and trap a man, telling these dudes to be kinder more logical and more compassionate with todays women, and telling bum bishes that they shouldnt be proud of being a single non dating non loving spinster. or even telling someone to stop pointing the finger at the black man as to why your not married and showing statistics that yes the black man is still getting married its YOU who are pointing the finger thats not, and thats being single or driving people away with your constant anger and hate…..
If all that is an example of "hate" then yes, I guess truth makes me a hate filled man. Im hurtful because I say how it is and how it needs to be… im not hurtful because I have a bad day or i get personal enjoyment out of pissing others off. I dont get any sense of sadistic elation over the discomfort or anger of others.so yeah, if trying to tell our brothers and sisters to be better people and learn from their faults is making me wrong.. then I dont want to be right.
@Hasani: OK … so we agreed. You are a hate filled man.
Your comment about women loving thugs was actually addressed to every black woman reading this. If you said all black men carry guns and sell crack, I don't do either but its still aimed at me by virtue of "all black men".
You have managed to seperate your emotions and actions. Your emotions are hate and disdain for black women (as expressed here). Your actions are of this unconditional Captain Save-a-ho individual to these women you hate.
Anyways, at the end of the day … this post was about ranting, so I can't be mad that you just started talking about what you feel. But for future references, no more sniping insults, no more personal attacks, and no more off topic rants.
no I didnt address it to anyone.. I addressed it to women whom it applies to.
Im not a thug your not a thug and neither of us ever pretend to be… so whats the issue? the issue is I l0ve black women. your trying to do like teacia… take text litteral young blood and hear yo cuzin out for a minute.
I love "WOMEN" but hate shalow and destructive people.
period… do not pass go and sure nuff dont collect a welfare check.
and you know my shit always stays on topic… even if my scatter brained and seemingingly deranged line of thought dosent seem to be there… it always makes sense and goes back in the end!
like my first post said… hows that for a rant.. well I rant.
I mean.. look how many of my post are either
1):reinforcing my view of the moderators stated topic:
2) Reinforcing my and my factions beliefs about what and how black america needs to be and where we need to go.
oh so let me throw this at the bottom. I know its cool and easy to claim I dont like black women… but if I didnt like black women why do I go out of my way to date so many?!?!???? Now let me ring my own god damn bell a sec… at 30 do you know how easy it is to hop on eharmony and say Im a 6'2 college educated, "well spoken " with a boxers body and a corporate job… ya know.. the basics.. and go on the endless stream of one and two night stands with the white women out there?????
Im actually putting in EFFORT to date, and going out of my way to date black american born women. So dont you ever get it twisted my peoples.
But dont confuse those who are my peoples with those who have similar skin color to me but have a poisonous spirit and a destructive nature to them. To me… sammy sosa dispite having dark skin and nappy hair is still latino. Because of language and because of the seperate spirit that the latino male has. Well I view negative ass, no good, poisonous contraband as not the same race as me either since their spirit is not the same as mine.
And I hate them for it.
@SBM: It's not going to happen…I no longer have a desire to try to logically make any sense of what he goes on about. I have since digressed and hopes he follows my lead.
@Hasani: Please don't refer to me in any more of your posts and I will do the same.
wow, who needs television when you have the comment section!
amazing. your trying to make logical sense out of words and phrases that have statistical backing… and your having PROBLEMS with it!? there was a time when I would have called you on the phone or sent you personal email to relate to you what I am talking about and what I am trying to say. my attempts to help only seem to further the divide between our two races and species. Cant say I never tried to reach you or your type either, because I really did.
Do not call me out of my screen name. Im not your friend, your not related to me.. hell we aint even of the same genetic background! so since we are so unfamiliar, please if you are to address me.. use the veil of anonymity I constructed wwith HNIC. that was… before you oh so respectful types plowed and pryed your ways into someone elses personal life and splashed it across the internet……… respect?
I wont talk to you.. .but lord knows Im gonna have to quote and address any post containing ANGRY BLACK WOMAN SYNDROME" (ABWS)
but have no fear.. I have "miss ER" eventhough shes considered a blonde shes very smart…she is hard at work trying to figure out a cure and how to fight the symptoms.. but somehow I think she is going to be blamed for being the problem by your type eh? I dont think she can come up with a cure though, because as a surgeon she has no experience with emotional damage not spiritual corruption.
I do need you
I do love you
I cant understand you
I cant reach you
"there was a time when I would have called you on the phone or sent you personal email to relate to you what I am talking about and what I am trying to say."
…thank god that time has passed. whooo hoo!!!
"my attempts to help only seem to further the divide between our two races and species."
…you think…BRILLIANT…absolutely brilliant indeed!!
"Im not your friend, your not related to me.. hell we aint even of the same genetic background!"
…and let the church say Ameeeen!!
Hasani seriously you're making yourself look stupid…really…do we really need to bring back the transitive axiom of Hasani's mental capacity. Let's just agree that I can't be reached and even if I could, you lack the mental capacity to accomplish such a feat.
I don't need you
I don't love you
I do understand you
but I could care less.
"If your 15-25 why read this forum?
Your not a single black male and dont contribute anything credible to the conversation, only much it up with crossed and unverified views of a world you have yet to experience. especially if your a woman err GIRL15-25 your input on what our life is like as unmarried black middle class men is not credible, valued nor necessary.
Seriously… all kids should just run along and go play on AoL or something theres a thousand people in your genre to play with.
hows that for a rant?"
I feel that the negativity in this comment was unnecessary. According to you, as an 18 year old "girl", my opinions on the "unmarried black middle class man is not credible, valued nor necessary", and that I should "go play on AOL". Well its a good thing I do not live my life according to you. Its ironic how you type about black women always bringing the black man down, and how sistas need to be taught to stop having kids so young, but then here you are trying to bring a young sistah down. And I definitely felt like you were attacking me in this statement, however correct me if I'm worng:
"Random poster : Im like 19 and a woman and like.. I totally think like is cool and old black men are creepy.
Me: WTF? why are single kids wanting to read a blog on single black men? you guys should be on AOL or someplace."
I don't need to explain why I am uncomfortable with a man who is 40 or over pulling up beside me and trying to "talk" to me, that should be self-explanatory. But I choose to read SBM's blog, because I enjoy doing so. I enjoy the different perspectives from various individuals. Its is very unfair of you to be so judgmental, especially when you sit there and complain about others judging you. If you find what any young woman, or young adult, has to say as unnecessary, then ignore it and move on. This is not your blog, if SBM had a problem with me, he would say so. If SBM had a problem with women speaking on "men issues" he would say so. However, unlike you, he embraces it. So unfortunately for you, I will continue to give my two cents when I see fit, instead of having a jolly good time on AOL. If what I have to say doesn't matter to you, then ignore it.
@ Hasani: * scratching my head* I just don't get your deal. You just go on and on about what again? Dude chill out. If you come to Chicago and I met you I can't hear all that shit.
Have you tried taking yoga to relax? You seem really uptight.
Most of the things you say are not rational to me. It appears that alot of times your perception is very off about black women. It's hard for me to believe you have such a good view on black women when you were with a WHITE woman for 10yrs. and have dated outside of your race since then.
Hasani just relax bro!
YBL: my young sista. you misquote me, thats a dangerous trait if you are ever to go into law or journalism. nobody … especially me is saying "omg ALL black women are pulling ALL black men down"
its people who suffer from ABWS that I dont understand why they are the way they are and feel we need to have an intervention to change. theres great and fantastic sistas out there. Ive been on quite a few dates this past 10 months I can attest to that. but theres is a widespreading corruption of descent in our ranks and its pretty much splitting our race apart.
now on to the age thing. its not negative.. its just against you. theres a difference.
but as to why I havbe this opinion? I got it from the women actually. If a white chick comes on your blog and starts to tell you how to take care of and treat black men you guys torch them and boo them off the soapbox. why ? I dont know.. because if you look at the censes numbers they are doing your job twice as well/long as you are so they have a better insight… but you would flame her off because your black women and according to what many black women wrote who are on this blog "they dont understand the situation and how to care for a black man or understand a black man like (a sista) can.
So if a white woman gets flamed off for giving insight about taking care of a black man to black women
how the hell can a 18 year old black girl give advice on what is going on in my mind as a 35 year old black, single , middle class male?
its amazing you prove my point in your own post. your not cumfortable with a single 40 year old man "talking" to you… prob because of the difference in age, status and all… but you want to tell the men 5-9 years younger than him how much you identify with them?!!?!?!?!?!?!?
I mean.. go ahead and post… I think young slender… nubile.. hard bodied firm and viral young gals are SOO hot… but my question is why the hell would you want to? at 18 your not "single". you just havent been drafted into the majors yet. if your a well spoken and passionate young lady like yourself isnt scooped up in 3 years ill be shocked…but give it 6-8 years where you start to look around and go.. hey im not married wtf yo im SINGLE!
AOL and black planet would be more the speed of younger single folk one would think.
I mean… least time I was single you LITTERALLY were on the playground with pigtails, a metal lunch box and a bookbag. Ive lived eith and loved a woman longer than you have owned any article of clothing in your closet. I have a penis, I have hair on my chest, I am viewed as a big scary threat thats going to mug them by 90% of the people I come across in a workday, I have grey hair, Im starting to notice my hair is thinning in the front, I shave my beard with magic shave because its too thick and i wonder how much protien I will need to up my diet to for building optimal muscle mass and how will doing heavy reps in bench change my boxing handspeed as I bulk up further….
do you identify with any of that? most 18 year old women wouldnt.
ms d please give me a fucking break. I love you and your my faovirte poster, but the absolute most tired answer and cop out is "he dosen tknow shit because he was with a WHITE WOMAN?!!!!!" (Ya I think we all noticed the "caps" as a sign of intrest and exclamation)
your too smart and too beautiful of a person to use such a cop out. do you really and honestly think I wouldnt make you happy for every day of your life and 5 more in the grave just because I was with someone not of your race? so I am less credible because I had a life with a white woman….. but a 22 year old is more credible who hasnt had a serious relationship at all?! this boggles me.
Why do I get along so well with nice black women?
why do african women and other black women born outside of the united states.. always have good relationships with me? I dont recall them sayin anything about who I slept with before them.
Im out here dating now, its an arduous task but im trying to be part of the solution and not part of the problem/ just another statistic. I felt I could find a way to reach the angry and desolate types but in doing so am just growing more tired and zounds more confused.
When I come out for the race… you'll listen to every word I have to say. wanna know why? cuz ill listen to every word you say. and Ill make sure we have a great time because your a beautiful person and a very fresh breath of air any time you come into this board. therefore you would deserve it right?
so yeah your on my good side… but dont take digs at my ex or try to discredit or demean me again. just so we are clear my dutches 😉