“Man … look at her. She’s georgeous”
“What? Who are you talking about?”
“That girl right there in the pink with the track body”
“What the f*ck? She’s like 98 pounds, no ass, no titties. Gimme that one standing right behind her. Hmmmph”
“Are you serious? Why would you want that fat ass?”
“Because dawg … she has a phat ass”
I will tell you right now … I am person #2. Skinny girls scare me and I need some meet on my bones.
Now, don’t get me wrong … I’m not talking about that 350 lbs super thick chick that can’t move right. I don’t have any big girl fetish or anything crazy like that … but I like ass … and I really like breasts. By accepting just a little baby fat … I don’t have to settle or search the world for a thin waist and … exaggerated assets.
Also, when I say skinny … i really mean skinny. Not lean, not average … but “damn … when was the last time she had a hamburger” skinny. Model skinny (Tyra Banks excluded). No ass or titties skinny … yet I have plenty of friends loving the look.
When I see a skinny chic, a bunch of things run through my mind. All these scenarios of me holding her up with one hand, pushing her against the wall, and doing acrobatic moves with her run through my mind … but then the reality of it all settles in … and soon I think of the reasons why … Skinny girls scare me:
- Will I break her?
- I’m no small guy (Over 6′ and 200+ lbs) … and have been (unfairly … kinda) given the label of a “sex freak” by friends. Do I have to worry that you can’t hang? Do I have to be concerned that when I’m trying to give it to you … you might not be able to take it? Hmmm
- Can you cook? Are you broke? Eating disorder?
- Now, obesity is a problem and I’m not saying I want obese women … but why are you so skinny? Can’t afford food? Can’t cook and you can just make salads? Are you anorexic? I just don’t need to deal with convincing you to eat or looking at me funny while I crush my wings and mumbo sauce.
- Where did your ass go?
- Its possibly to be skinny and have an ass (this one doesn’t apply to you), but chance are your not walking around with the proverbial … donkey. And I can live with that … but where did your breasts go?
- Where did your breasts go?
- Absolutely inexcusable!!!!
- Are you going to eat?
- I am a big fan of good food, cooking, and trying new food. Around the 4th time you turn down trying the steak on my plate because “this salad is really filling” … its going to be a wrap.
Anyways … I like a little meat on my bones. Too big is just as bad as too skinny … but don’t give me Kate Moss … give me Toccarra!!!
Any lovers of the thick sista? Anyone who wants him (or her) a backside to grab onto?
It can’t just be me …
ya im that other brotha then.
cuz nothing is more sexy to me than a sexy black body that is upkept like the temple is is.. and worshiped like one.
Sorry, sittin yo fat ass on the couch and eating "pork rinds" and fryin up porgies tellin yourself "men love a phat azz" is retarded.
1) Will you break her? nigga please! What makes you think that jus because juanita ate that extra 7 pieces of fried okra… it all of the sudden gives her super powers? My little blonde gym hottie can take abuse son… and guess what. The woman who sits on her couch cant dish it out because ol girl has no stamina. Stairmaster queen can ride, and not quit and not complain "OMG i need to take a break I'm tired" seriously nothing sounds more PATHETIC during sex than this line.
if your in shape you know how to push yourself further and know that there is a reward for the pain, if your fat all you know how to do is quit.
2) Can you cook? nah women just dont cook anymore Im beginning to think, Ive only dated 3 out of 46 who cooked for me. Age may also play a factor here. Cuz if your a 35 year old woman and you are still in shape, that means your smart enough to know HOW to eat, and not just shovel anything in your mouth.
Example: Fat chick gets home and is hungry. She eats ramen noodles, a can of coke, and chips
In shape hottie has to fire up the grill to eat her grilled chicken (we need protein) or bake that salmon. There are no shortcuts for eating when your in shape other than a shake, and you cant skip a meal either. (actually we eat more)
3+4) Brotha I need to let you meet miss may and compare her to the girl upstairs from me. DD's that sag down to your ribcage on a gal with a 40 inch waist then compare them to Miss Mays "large C's" that are rock hard and on her stand up by themselves. on her 23 inch waist and tummy so flat you can run your hotwheels across it. better muscletone makes breasts perky and have better shape. it also makes a woman walk like a woman and not a penguin because of the god given curve in her pelvis bone is not being overcompensated by bodyfat.
RATIO is whats important.
5) fitness hottie is NEVER going to turn down your steak. We need protein. broiled meats are always a good thing. But always watching what she is eating is a tad annoying to some. to me it shows discipline and resolve. two very sexy traits in a woman. I was never more embarressed and insulted on a date than when I took out that fat nurse and she ordered a tripple cheeseburger with cajun fries, bloomin onion, 3 cosmos and fried apples w ice cream. Then she had the nerve to tell me I should worship her because she worked hard to become a "nurse" and many niggas worship her phat ass and luscious breasts.
sometimes fat is just……FAT
Sir I love you right now. The SECOND black man, the author of this article is one of the many reasons why growing up as a skinny black girl is hard. The stereotypical black woman with big hips and thick thighs is gorgeous, no doubt about it but considering my mama was a little more toned than most, I'm gonna be what society calls a model figure. And this is where the you're too skinny comments come in.
I am 14 right now (July 2013) and will be eighteen in the next four years. Chances are I might fill out; chances are I will always be lean but I'm glad to discover that there are more black men like my daddy who love their brown sugaars in ALL sizes.
God bless you.
OK, heres some for ya. My favorite body (and hair) belong to monica belucchi. watch the matrix 2 and tell me she dosent do it for you.
For all you who will say "OMG THEY ARE ALL WHITE" thats ok, Halle berry is actually the actress with the SLIMEST waist bosting 36C-22-37
by comparison Paris Hilton 34B-25-35… yes Paris is "fatter" than Halle.
Salma Hayek, Measurements: 36C-25-37
Ill take the BUILT janet jackson who was 36-24-36
and finally… I have a thing for blonde chicks. Here is my favorite
http://www.functionx.com/people/swilliams/swillia…
Maybe more men will comment today…
I don't knock nobodies hustle except for the men who do date large women because they can get over and treat them in ways that are rather unacceptable. I take expection to Hasani too. No not because I am 5 7 1/2 at what I consider at healthy and an active size 12, but because most times he diminishes black women to uplift the white ones.
If I said it once I'll say it again….don't put black women down to better justify your preference for non-black women. Date whomever you like.
This again is why i like Eathan, I've never heard him come on disrespecting other black women incessantly. Its been about his preference. Case closed. End of story.
Ummm…everyone has a preference.
However, as a 5'3…120 lb…size 34B sistah – Am I classified as being "skinny" even though I have an athletic shape?
P.S. Contrary to belief SBM… I can throw down in the kitchen and probably eat more than you and 3 other grown ass men combined can eat in one sitting.
I agree Ms. Freckles…
I love food too. I make NO BONES ABOUT IT (no pun intended Hasimeister). But its all about balance. I do make it my business to throw down once a week. There's no way in hell I'm gonna eat 7 variations of ceasar salad with baked salmon every damn day. On a sat, if my body craves some damn jerk chicken and rice. I'm gonna eat it. And I may kill my man's plate too.
@Comeback – I concur! lol. The BF calls me greedy and I could care less.
Did you guys hear about young bird saying on the radio that he doesn't date dark black girls??? The DJ's had a field day trying to call his a racist against his own race just for him stating his preference.
*him
Excuse me for practicing one of Hasani's bad habits with my mispelling…lol… it's relatively early.
Naw…I didn't hear that. But for many a man who doesn't say it…are a few who would think it and call it something else. I appreciate the honesty…now if you coming at it in a way thats derogatory-then yeah Im gonna suggest that you hate yourself. But thats another blog and BET special all together.
Apparently one of the DJ's is a deep chocolate sistah and she was heated. Saying how she wasn't going to buy any of his albums and would recommend no dark sistah buy his album. I thought she carried it a little far since we all have our own preference rather we say it or not.
at 5'10 1/2 and a solid size 10..I work hard to stay in shape and keep my abs rock hard…basketball…tennis…fencing…volleyball..are all part of my routine…Oh, and don't get me started on the cooking and eating…Comeback mentioned jerk chicken & rice…that's one of my favorites…I think it's all about balance and healthy living…
@ HNIC, skinny doesn't always mean in shape or in fitness form. And I noticed you're forever running down your 'list' of women..since you have so many options..why is it that you're single? I'm confused.
Surprisingly I have no deep comment on this issue…to each his own I guess.
"jerk chicken & rice…that’s one of my favorites"
let us not forget the plantains…And will hurt somebody over Indian…Chicken tika masala. I will also hurt somebody over Tara Thai …hoi pik pow (spicy steamed mussels)…I will also hurt somebody over Thaiphoon. I will also hurt somebody over Vietnamese (citron tofu)..I will also hurt somebody over Ohhs and Aaahs' fried chicken and mac and cheese (and my mama's too)..
I'm a foodie. To me the trick is you can't eat most of this stuff everyday. Some of it you shouldn't even be eating once a week. But food should be enjoyed. If Im with you and I feel like Im at a culinary prision. Its a wrap.
Hasani's mad because he can only afford (a salad) or the fried variety of whatever….there are many many in betweens…that actually cost MONEY.
Skinny dosent always mean in shape… but fat NEVER means in shape Funke. I like inshape lean women with the nice feminine shape to them.
If theres a movement where black men dont want to date dark skinned sistas Im fine with that, leaves mo for me 🙂
Im tellin ya, Im still on the lookout for my ATHLETIC toned sista who goes to the gym does cardio AND weight training and looks the part. If I can watch what I eat, and work hard to make myself fighting shape the least I can expect from a woman is to have her ass below 18% body fat.
Im 6'1 and a 3/4 weigh 220 wit 18% Body fat.
So I guess 5'5 115 with 17% body fat, dark skinned, and silky hair. does the mile in 10 minutes happy all the time because she works out and has endorphins running through her body. dedicated and respectful because she was raised right and thats why she goes to the gym and takes care of herself. thats a size 6 right? Ya sign me up for two of those!
comeback said : I take expection to Hasani too. No not because I am 5 7 1/2 at what I consider at healthy and an active size 12, but because most times he diminishes black women to uplift the white ones.
I dont think anyone said… black women are ALL fat LAZY AND OUT OF SHAPE AND SUK ON DA CHICKEN BONZ, AND WHITE WOMEN ARE IN SHAPE AND EAT RIGHT BECAUSE THEY ARE THE SMARTER DEN DA BLACK CHICKZ YO!!. Dont lump all of my sistas into your category because you cant hop on a tredmill and put down the porgies (yeah I used to eat them too I cant front).
Historically we are a lean race, and a smart race, try reading what I say and stop your blind fear of white women. ANYONE regardless of genetics can work down to 18% body fat….. ANYONE white, black, mulato, asian, mutha fukin ALIENS… whatever. will power and dedication are the only things stopping you from not having to go to the beach in a "moo moo".
But at 35 a size 12 is an average shape…….. for a mother of 2.
Boy, do I love food! I like cooking, going out to restaurants, watching the food network, etc, etc, etc. BUT, I work out at least 5 days a week which includes lifting weights, cardio, and training for my 1st half marathon. As most others have commented, it's all about balance. If you want that cake, have a bite, but don't eat the whole thing.
Honestly, I get sooo tired of being out and seeing overweight black women. It's so disheartening to see us killing ourselves because we can't push away from the table and be a bit more active. And what makes it worse is to see them be satisfied with that!!! This obesity thing is not a joke. I'm actually one of the people who agree that you should pay more in health insurance if you are overweight or should by an extra plane ticket if you are spilling over into my seat. I don't think that's being dicriminatory at all. This is weight thing is getting out of hand for our community.
I'm from the south, and there isn't too much jerk chicken and rice going on around these parts, but out here people love fried foods and stuff with gravy! Growing up and recently moving back to Houston has made it harder on me to exert self discipline, because there is every possible kind of food here (that's why we have been ranked among the top 5 fattest cities so many years in a row), plus, we rely too heavily on our cars for transportation, as opposed to the metro, walking, biking, etc. But like I said, it all goes back to self discipline and loving yourself.
I could go on for days about this topic . . . I digress
"But at 35 a size 12 is an average shape…….. for a mother of 2."
I thought we were gonna round up to 40. Since I'm not even 35.
comeback said Hasani’s mad because he can only afford (a salad) or the fried variety of whatever….there are many many in betweens…that actually cost MONEY
Holy hannah why are you commin at me with a dagger today? I aint said a thing to you?! you seem…..well…. angry.
But if you wanna toss things around, I care alot about my body actually. Both you and I have visually put on weight in the past few months. only my body fat and gone DOWN as my weight went UP.
I dont eat fried anything. I eat a whole BAKED chicken every night (breakfast) that I work for the proteinFatCalorie ratio.
I reach 210 grams of protien 5 days a week and supplement with a shake which provides lean fats.
I balance omega3 fats with a 3:1 ratio on weekdays
I run a total of 12 miles a week.
I suppliment glutamine and ker-alkalyne, into my diet for growth and muscle tone.
If I only ate a salad I wouldnt have enough calories to box now would I?
It takes more effort for me to grill this salmon and slow cook organic brown rice… than for you to stop at burger king and shovel fries in yo pie hole.
christ, nobody is blatantly attacking you because they say they like women who actually take care of their bodies.
you seem to get upset about 2 things the most. Me dating in shape women and me dating women with better jobs and education than you. WTF kinda hater are you anyway? cant anyone be better off than you? isnt your pretty face great hair and nice job enough to satisfy you?
eat your damn twinkies and behave.
(puts hair in place)
HI TheRenegade 😀
your so smart… and… wise… and…and… beautiful…and… (faints)
I am neither fat nor skinny…deliciously slim and curvy is what i'll call myself (no that's not code for anything "thick" or "chunky" or "big and beautiful", stop by my myspace page if u think i'm jerkin ya, scrnname "Exotic Southerner") LOL. I will say though, that I have noticed black chics in videos and in magazines get skinnier and skinnier. We used to be a culture that embraced our curves. In my younger years I read many a study on black teens and women having a higher percentage of body acceptance than white ones but these days, its running parallel. I'm not by any means saying we should be cool with being fat…but dayum, we should at least be cool with our cultural trademark – curves!
In regards to the dude saying he doesn't like dark skinned chics…yeah, the chic on the radio show sounds like she was obviously hurt. It amazes me that for YEARS sistahs have been slobbering over dark skinned men, even relegated the light skinned brothas to perpetual second string and as soon as a man says he has a color preference somebody wants to get hot. I garuantee you no one would have said anyting if he said he prefers dark skinned chics. It has more to do with our sensitivity to years of dejecting darkness. It would be nice if we could get past that and just let people like what they like…cuz I shol' loves me a dark chocolate man…MMMH!
I think that I mentioned before that I'm not a small girl. I'm not comfortable with my weight at all, hence my working with a trainer and corraling my terrible eating habits. I also did register for the 5K I spoke about earlier. I've actually lost weight and it's been noticiable. But it doesn't stop dudes from trying to holla. I got hit on by a 26 year old about 2 weeks ago. I was 35 on June 18th. It doesn't stop me from keeping my hair, clothes, shoes and nails on point ALWAYS.
When you look better you feel better. Being a bigger girl doesn't excuse you from looking your best and wearing garments that fit and FLATTER. Just because they make it in your size doesn't mean you should wear it. That really goes for ALL sizes.
I think that until you get to the size you want to be at, you still have to have a swagger at the size you are currently. I've seen some bigger girls who were killing the game.
I hate these conversations…because they usually come down to the fitness experts against the one's who aren't. And usuallly the experts agenda is not helpful but rather the opposite.
I'm really fascinated with emotional levels and thought and weight gain. Different people can eat different things (with all things (levels of excercise/size/seight/height) being equal) and not gain weight. Cortisol and seritonin play huge roles in all of the above (and have NOTHING AT ALL to do with a hamburger or a damn salad).
I think there should be something said about being HAPPY and living in truth that causes weight on many levels to naturally adjust within a healthy limit..partly because we aren't eating to self sooth. I always look back at the relationships that made me the happiest …and often I was at my fittest (because I am a foodie)
@Comeback…girl you got me over here hungry!!! I'm eating a pesto turkey sandwich now and feening for some damn thai food. Thank you so much! lol
@Hasani: I agree … there is something to be said for think waists, phat backsides, and full breasts … but I don't want rock hard abs, I don't like muscle definition, and I just don't care if you can run a mile in 10 minutes. I think I'm always of afraid of my pelvis rubbing on bone or something … hmmm
@Teacia: No comment sweetheart … I'm shocked.
@Comeback: I mean … I love food too … but did you really have to go through every county and dish. And who are you "throwing down" for every week. You love to drop hints, but never speak up.
@Ms. Freckels: See … I might break you … lol … jk
@Tiffany: Your right, until your at the weight that is right for you the swagger will suffer. I do also believe in being healthy and things not getting out of control. For example, Monique. I'm glad she is happy with her size … but she really shoud not be out here promoting obessity of that level. Queen Latifah is someone who always seems to preach a good "stay healthy" lifestyle, while being secure with a few pounds.
@Funky: Something about rock hard abs … IDK. Me and my friend had this discussion … we want fluff. I'll take it a step further and say a lil Baby Phat … but that just might be me.
Ms. Freckles..GIRL YES. But I can't eat that stuff for lunch. I'd be sleepin over here with the itis.
"@Comeback: I mean … I love food too … but did you really have to go through every county and dish"
I left out..Morocco. And those beef kabobs. YUMMMMMM!!!!
SBM baby I think it's best for me to sit this one out. I have no qualms or insecurities about my weight, after all I'm freaking gorgeous. But like Comeback I hate to see us tearing each other down to make a point, and after yesterday I just need a little break from the insanity.
I say do what makes you happy, if it's not killing you or anyone else then it shouldn't be an issue.
Lunch time…
one more country shout out Greece (Spanakopita)….deeeelishhhhh!!!!
I don't really have much to say about this one but some women are naturally skinny. I have a couple of friends who eat like crazy but they are just naturally skinny women. But please believe they can cook their asses off. So don't always let the skinny body fool you.
HNIC:
HI TheRenegade
your so smart… and… wise… and…and… beautiful…and… (faints)
TheRenegade: Gee thanks. You're far too kind. 😉
I don't want anyone on here to think in any way am I bashing big girls or big people in general, BUT I am very passionate about this subject matter. In all honesty, I think I should hand a loaded gun to an obese person who isn't being proactive in trying to initiate a healthier lifestyle, so they can go ahead and kill themselves, because that is all they are doing. Oh, and please don't get me started on childhood obesity . . . those parents should be burned at the stake!
Tiffany: I'm from the H, so I definitely know how the heavier women are out here. Yes, they keep their hair, face, feet, and hands tight, but dang, is it too much to ask to keep the most important thing tight (i.e. your heart, veins, kidneys, lungs)? Yes, there are some big girls who are killing the game, but I promise 9 times out of 10, if you stand 2 women next to each othe with identical features (hair, face, feet, etc), one being heavy set and the other thick in all the right spots and healthy, I'd put my money on it that a man will select the latter. Fat is not nor has it ever been cool. And yes, I so agree with you on the comment about if it is made in your size does NOT mean that it is meant to be worn by you.
@ The Renegade: I definitely get your point. I use to live in Dallas and for majority of my life I was skin and bones. I couldn't gain weight to save my life. I was a vegetarian and I was active for the most part. All of sudden around 2001 I gain about 85-95 lbs over a period of 6 yrs. Part of it had to with medical issues plus my eating habits had gotten terrible. I began eating meat and fast food alot. Once I stopped and things didn't change I went to the doctor and learned a few things about my body. Now I live in Chicago and there is nothing cool about being over weight. People think if you are overweight you don't care about yourself or your poor. So for me just by walking, trying to get back to being a vegetarian, and working out I dropped about 45lbs (25 more to go!!!). This was a goal because being over weight wasn't my natural body. Most people say' oh you are so tall so you don't look over weight' But for me I never had weight on me so to me I was HUGE (5'11 252 at the time, now 222lbs)
Before handing a loaded gun to an obese person I would consider a few things that I notice when I gain my weight.
– I was in love and I had no clue I was getting big. I just ate with my ex and always made me feel sexy plus I was never one to cared about weight since it had never been an issue. Until one faithful day I saw a pic of myself. Thats when I realized I had gain a lot of weight and it wasn't normal.
-I learned that sometimes as women/men we can have a number of hormonal issues going on and not know it. Unless you see your doctor weight can be caused by some of these issues. Some women/men never take the time out to this simple thing. Also depression plays a huge role in weight gain.
-When I see an obese person I also see sadness. I don't care how well you dress yourself up and and portray like you love your body, you DON'T! Being obese meaning 5'6 250 for example is not cool. Usually I believe that there are emotional issues connected with overeating alone with insecurities. To compensate you lie to the public to believe you love yourself. But you can't it hurts to be over weight physically and emotionally. Look at Mo' the comedian. She always talking about loving herself yet her ass has been steady dropping weight. I think sometimes people bullshit themselves into believing that. I notice that alot in Dallas for sure.
I believe when dealing with people who are obese you have to attack the physical, diet and emotional. That is why biggest loser and celebrity fit club work. They have a trainer, dietitian , and a psychologist. Without tackling all these issues at once it will be difficult an obese person to lose weight and keep it off. Everything starts in the mind.
Ok I got a little long winded…sorry 🙂
so true, my niece is a rail and she eats like a line backer, same goes for her mom.
I don't care what size anyone is, as long as you aren't on the verge of dying of a heart attack and you love yourself, then I'm happy for you. There are some bangin' ass skinny chics, some bangin' ass fat chics, and some bangin' ass chics in between (that would be me).
@The Renegade: I mean … a gun to the head … is it that deep … lol.
Like I said, the Moniques of the world convincing us that extremely obese is great is a problem … but what exactly are you considering obese?
Personally, one thing for me that often ruins things is someone with horrible eating habits. If there is one thing I've been good abot for a long time is eating noticably better … but spending all day with someone who is constantly eating stuff I don't just makes life difficult.
@TheRenegede: I'm not really an advocate for handing anyone a gun and telling them off themselves so I can't really ride with that comment and I realize that it was hyperbole but that's a bit much.
I'm quite aware that being fat, overweight, plus size isn't cool. I think the folk that fit into that category know it too. There are some who will try to change their circumstances and some who won't.
As for dudes going for the smaller chick over the bigger one, well I just think that's a crapshoot. I've seen plenty of skinnier dudes with some larger girls. I've seen the opposite. Hasn't stopped me. And really if it's out of 10 chicks, I can't be worried about those other broads, I'm trying to get down for mine. 🙂
dammit I ran out of countries who have the best food.!!!
sike let me stop. Renegade I honestly think like I said above…. that all the fitness experts want to point at the problems and not the symptoms. As someone whose at a fairly healthy weight and size, I'm mind boggled at the hatred and amount of annmosity that is often targeted at overweight people. To me it always points back to something that seems more deeply rooted within the "critizer". Fat is an outward causation of often inward things that have gone unchecked for years (including the way in which we cope, celebrate, love, deal with problems etc). Its an easy attack. But those problems also exist with people who are adament about covering those problems up with a normal size (ie I'd offer up a regular angry male poster as exhibit A,B,C and D).
I'm fascinated at how body metabolizes the food I eat (after I've had a message). There was a recent study that looked at lab rats being petted (sp) and the way in which their bodies metabolized high in fat food as opposed to those that were left on their own to eat the same fatty foods. Both sets of lab animals had the same physical activity restrictions.
I say all that to say. Fat isn't just Fat. And I think its rather insensitive and narrow to believe it as such. And often points back to those that go on the attack crusades. If you really care. Study the whys. And how you draw people in to a program. Not by shooting them. But by having some compassion and eliciting participation through studying behavior.
ok thats my I so wanna be a therapist response…
good response Comeback…i'm happy someone said it so i wouldn't have to.
…great pic of Tocarra by the way…i can't help but feel a little envious…may even apply for a cover spread of myself….hmmm, what say you SBM?
Great response Comeback!!! I agree.
Thanks Teacia and Ms. Dev..I**** meant massage not message.****
Wait, wait, wait, I think everyone has it twisted, and thank you Tiffany in the H for noticing the literary usage. I definitely wouldn't want anyone to off themselves, but in essence that is exactly what they are doing, just at a slower pace. One is pretty much tantamount to the other. Please believe there's not much I dislike about myself besides the fat in my inner thigh that won't seem to go away regardless of how much I exercise, and my personal bout with selfishness. (And this came over time.) But, I was chubby all of my life until my dad got me active in sports and dance, and taught me the fundamentals of eating right when I was in the 8th grade. Otherwise, I may be one of the MO'Niques you all speak of.
See ComBackGirl, all the metobolism stuff you mention, I know all about it. I go a masage therapist, do pilates and yoga, and most importantly visit and always highly recommend my nutritionist here in Houston to people. I don't dislike fat people, especially because I know so many of them, but I do dispise the approach of not doing anything about the sitaution. Yeah, that gumbo and fried chicken tastes good and probably gives you a moment of euphoric ecstacy, BUT having a healthy heart and being around for your kids feels even better.
And yes, FAT IS FAT. FAT isn't skinny or fit or lean, or anything else BUT FAT.
I just wish we as a black community could do better in regard to this mounting issue.
TIffany in houston. MUCH respect fo ya gal. and yes if you can work hard to make yourself look better you will feel better. (other than days I am bruised) I feel GREAT every morning I wake up. ENdorphines are under rated for what they do for your brain and so is serotonin. both are produced naturally when you are eating better and in better shape. If you ever need to talk, about anything in regards to training or diet Im no expert but give me a hollar. remember I was a 40 waist once.
"See ComBackGirl, all the metobolism stuff you mention, I know all about it. I go a masage therapist, do pilates and yoga, and most importantly visit and always highly recommend my nutritionist here in Houston to people"
Well then you also know that unhealthy relationships play out in weight that shows up around women's mid sections. Cortisol levels increase. And the way inwhich insulin process through the body. I know this for a fact. When I was involved in a relationship that I shouldn't have ever gotten into long term. I gained 15 pounds mostly around my midsection. I ran EVERY DAY. ate six times a day. Drank lots of water. Cut back on bad carbs, increased protein. I did this for 4 months. People noticed that my legs and arms were defined. But MY GUT WAS STILL BIG.
Why???? I was still HELLA UNHAPPY. When I started to purge people and thoughts…guess where my weight dropped first.
again I say ALL that to say. Fat is not just fat. Because under different emotional and relationship experiences it shows up and goes away DIFFERENTLY.
as a massage therapist/yoga/mind body instructor…you should know and PREACH that more thatn ANYONE.
the pissin' contests are not going to get you clients. Looking more critically beneath the surface and not from a negative point of view will.
yall got it backwards. This whole "oh theres people who are NATURALLY SKINNY" shit is absurd. we are a naturally slender RACE (negro… not human) but look at how fat we have gotten over the past 4 decades compared to the whites.
its not a case of me being a fitness expert. I just love my body and take pride in myself. Do you know how frakkin fast black men die because of not doing so?
And being out of shape is NOT cool. even if your comebacks and my age. nobody under the age of 40 should not be able to run a mile. your a HUMAN BEING and its only a mile. hell in jersey we run 5k's for FUN. 9 year olds run in the race. what separates you from the 9 year old is that your stuffing fries in your mouth and then sitting down on the couch. frying fish and turning it into cancer on a plate when you can bake dat bad boy with some lemon and dill (yes you can still use texas pete)
It kills me to see my people killing themselves and making exscuses about it. I remember I said something a few months back about how I like lean women, and someone came back with a comment which was something like black woman are naturally heavy its because of our AFRICAN GENES. what an exscuse. Nigerians, especially the ones I date, are all slender. Its a society based off FISH afterall. we werent blaming our genes in the 60's when we were a slender athletic race…. why are we lazy and making exscuses for everything we do now?
I dont use protection for sex because its in my genes to be passionate
I dont eat healthy because its not in my culture to do so
I can eat what I want because black men LOVE a fat ass
Black men die early, its in our genes, I may as well eat and do what I want anyway
Im supposed to be bitchy, black women have "spirit" its in our GENES
Im supposed to be an asshole.. pfft yo real niggas do real thangs.
I cant get a job because the white man is holding me down…… ok well that one still is true…
I'm not an instructor . . . where did that come from? I just like the classes and what they have done for me mentally and physically.
I make $15 dollars an hour at 30 because…..
???? well Hasani fill in the blank
Tiffany in DC. Trust me, cut carbs, cut oils, run for distance every day, and do High intensity interval training monday wednsday and friday and everything will drop… gut thighs and everything. Use google to find a workout thats right for you.
If your "rich" and make over 100k… whats $30 three times a week for a personal trainer session?
How about we help eachother on these issues? Ill help you eat better and hell ill even do your workout plan. You tell me the best way to attack an interview so I stop setteling for the lowest pay just to not make anyone angry… and you can pick some jobs for me too since you seem to hate the one I have worked my way into.
we can even work on the happy black female thing too 🙂
(GASP what a concept a black man and woman working together to make eachother better)
"Trust me, cut carbs, cut oils, run for distance every day, and do High intensity interval training monday wednsday and friday and everything will drop… gut thighs and everything. Use google to find a workout thats right for you"
I actually have the results I was looking for. I believe that in moderation you dont have to deprive yourself. Physical wellness…is also about MENTAL wellness. There is no easy pill for mental fitness other than really digging deep about all the things that work and dont work with your life. You body is an indicator. The way you feel is the best indicator.
Literally laughed out loud and spit out my water on #45…you guys keep me rolling.
I make $15 dollars an hour at 30 because…..
???? well Hasani fill in the blank
Because thats what bristol myers squibb pays me.
Because insted of starting out with a leg up and going from a tier 2 spot like you got up to your oh so lofty tier 3 spot. I climbed from the loading docks… to recieving…. to the tape library…. to Geo center systems analyst (very breifly tier 2) … to Production support staff…. to my current happy production support shift lead admin (this is tier 3).
you can only raise salary by 200% withing a given time frame. dont hate on me because you didnt climb as far as I did. applaud me for working hard to get what I wanted despite starting at the bottom (literally) of the corporate food chain.
If your using the excuse that "I will be sad if I cut out carbs and watch my weight" then you can make an excuse for anything. excuses are what lazy people make to justify lack of execution. your a black woman, mentally the toughest woman to even exist on this entire planet…. and you are going to tell me you start making cop outs about not eating your god damn twinkies?!!?!?!?! and no you didnt get your target results. I have watched you blow up like a fucking baloon over this past year in your pictures. your so god dman pretty it hurts, but you are gaining weight for unknown reasons and then making excuses about it causing you mental anguish.
how about this, Call me… Ill lament you with compliments for your mental anguish and you lose the weight by cutting out the oil, fat, salt and fast food… and actually running on the tredmill. after you trim BACK down to yout NATURAL weight.. you will feel like you have conquered something you thought you couldnt and feel more confidant.
As determined and pig headed as you are I know you can do anything (wit a bit of help) when you put your mind to doing so. did you let the fact that you are a black woman stop you from making the money you wanted? did your GENES hold you back? appearance? education? NOTHING stoped you then… why are you letting yourself stop you now?
*yawning*….more of the same…i'm starting to wonder why i even stop by here anymore.
call me…. theres no need to try and put eachothers faults on blast on a blog to garner more attention.
i KNOW without a dobut I can help you get to 18% body fat…. can you do the same for me and my paygrade?
…there are so many things i want to say regarding the above comment…but i'd rather digress than to entertain the hypocracy.
Not everything is meant for everyone.
I had a peference for beautiful, dark skinned, tall, long, strong man…
…ummm, I am currently with a cute tall, light skin, skinny as hell, man…
Who knew?!
But I make sure I am cooking him fatty foods everytime I see him…the man weighs the same as me!! He's gotta bring that weight up because like SBM mentioned… those hip bones are grinding…and that shit hurts!
As for me…whether on the fatty side or on the athletic thin side…I am who I am and whoever he is…if he's stepping to me then he likes it. When I start feeling uncomfortable, then I will have to address that…until now…my lil squishy ass is doing me just fine.
* I meant, until then…I am fine being squishy…and healthy…but def not a fanatic.
You like Toccara's saggy breasts??? They don't even sit up right!
Blah blah…. Im dark tall and strong… where do I sign up 😀
I must say though, I do have rather pronounced hipbones 🙁
and NO I WILL NOT EAT YOUR FATTY FOOD!! stop tryin to poison me… no no get that deep fried cornbread away from me!
wait.. yo man weighs the same as you? dont that mean you gotta being the weight DOWN and not him UP??? Im now confused.
Im of the train of thought that I should be able to pick my woman up and carry her to bed when she falls asleep on the couch. I like to read to women, my voice is annoying high, squeeky,and boring so it usually knocks them out. I loved reading to miss may and then being able to carry her to sleep while I cleaned up. 106 is a decent size gal to pick up when your 220…. and we looked DAMN FINE in pictures together 🙂
I see Yung Berg was mentioned, I have no problem with preference… I do have a problem with him starting off stating his preference by saying, "I'm a little bit racist" or something to that effect. The DJ that I heard did not go off on him, she was giggling and that pissed me of. He went on to explain some sort of pool test where he says the woman must jump in the pool and if she doesn't look better getting out of it than she's a no go. He doesn't want to see no "brown gel" or "eyelashes falling off." He also referred to dark-skinned women as, "dark butts." LIKE, WTF?
And I love that you love wings and mumbo sauce! 🙂
Made me think of this song: "Something to Hold On" by Spec Boogie (http://www.myspace.com/specboogie)
I think you'll find a man of like mind. LOL
"Keep ya starvers, I need a Toccara
Somebody fuckin' me tonight and feedin' me tomorrow…"
Oh screw thaat pool test. Im a sucker for makeup, good foundation application and good weaves…. total sucker for weaves. I mean they call it "getting dolled up" for a reason. ya supposed to look good when you step out, I dun care how long you need to take in the mirror I just care about the end result. we can be late to the party.
butter face for you ladies.
http://flickr.com/photos/kcjc/1699422606/in/pool-…
SBM how can this scare you?
http://www.andressavieira.com.br/UserFiles/e16g.j…
@Lisa Turtle: With Comeback talking about food all day … I ended up running out and getting me some wings and mumbo sauce tonight. I was starting to get ad that no one said anything about the mumbo sauce!!!
@Belle: Yes I love her big and beautiful breasts. How dare you call them saggy!!!
@Blah Blah Blah: Thanks for not turning this realtively light hearted post into some argument over fat vs. skinny as many other have.
@Everyone: People … lighten up. I don't like skinny chics. Lol … I hate to say it but its not all that serious. I just like to not hit hip bones when I am engaging in doggy style … thats it.
@Hasani: I'm sorry man … aint nothing about that chic doing it for me. A six pack on a woman just doesn't do it for me.
That's messed up SBM, I might have to hop on the wings and mumbo sauce train this weekend!
@Teacia: I can't promise you King … buy you can get the cover of SBM Monthly. Hell … you can be the spokeswoman for the site.
I'm gonna need 4 head shots, 6 full body shots, and 2 nudes …
SBM: To each his own. I used to have a thing for the sloppy body too. especially boobs. but now I like different things like the shape of a womans shoulders and back, and the ratio of her hips to middle. now dont get me wrong, I date anyone. im just talkin about what I like to look at. I dont think either of us would discriminate on any shape or shade of black woman. Ill tackle Toccaras fat ass just as quickly as you would hop on halle berry provided they were nice enough to us.
between lookin at Tecia's body and renegades damn fine self… ya I think you could start SBM monthly.
Ill take the photos cuz Im the journalist. dont mind me while im in the dark room for a half hour "editing" the photos… and dont knock on the door either cuz ill be…. …busy….
Im still trying to figure out how in post 2 I say I like Monica Belucchi, Salma Hyeck, Janet Jackson, and Serena Williams but somehow comeback took that as me putting down black women and glorifying white women!?!?!?
That's it I read all these comments stayedbjective about the hate and tried to see everyones point of view and was gonna click the x, BUT then the phrase "Ill tackle Toccaras fat ass just as quickly as you would hop on halle berry provided they were nice enough to us." from HNIC sent me over the edge. That is the very thought the drives young girls to yo-yo diet and then HAVE huge metabolic issues later in life, thus contributing to the FATT ASSEDNESS you HATE so much.
I support everything else you say about what you prefer and whose fine blah blah blah. 2 each his/her own! But to call Tocarra fat especially in that picture posted is ABSURD, I mean must you have a six pack in order for you not to have a gut with you? Really… wow. The only fat on Tocarra, especially these days are thoseG's she lugging around all over town and hoisting up for display, but hey I'm fine with that. REAL BIG TITTIES are gravity's arch-enemy, (you know Batman Joker style…Lex Luther vs Superman…Green Goblin and Spiderman)
Anyway we [blacks] are not a naturally lean. We are naturally muscular. Some of us come from long lines of lots of muscle mass that was breeded to be BIG and muscular (necessity for cotton bale lifting), ie the TO’s of the world. Kenyans are lean, but most of US [blacks in teh Americas] came from West Africa, big muscular thighs and azzes, Serena style. Big difference.
It’s the reason that a black girl and white girl who are the same height and weight look TOTALLY different. Muscle weighs more than fat. And sure you are right if those two decided to weight train equally the black girl probably would come out weighing more than she did at the start but with less fat, we do (well some of us) build muscle amazingly fast.
I have been a fitness freak (at my fittest I woke up three days a week and worked out with the Houston SWAT team, ran the other 2 and did Pilates on Saturdays) and back and have had several PTs tell me that my muscle ratio is unreal, that I am BIG BYTCH even at my skinniest. I once had a PT tell me if I ever decided to get down to 10-12% I would win my weight class division hands down, because finding a woman as big as me with the amount of lean muscle I have is hard. He was ready to melt the fat covering it. The discipline for that wasn’t in my life style, but trying to be healthier and make better bad choices was. I have never been skinny even at my fittest nor would I want to be. I'm tall 5.10.5 played sports my whole life and still stay active at 35.
I live in Boston now and I see the things that make Houstonians so fat, so Tiffany hang in there. So I love it here the lifestyle makes living healthier easier. So I am working myself back in to a moderation place that feels good for me and not GI Jane, what's the pupose if you can't enjoy life. I know I would enjoy other things more than looking in the mirror at my six pack.
Like SBM this said this was suppose to be a light hearted post about his preference of honeys, instead it turned into this NAW you wrong for liking ‘em thick. And the GREAT DEBATE on FAT!
I say whatever floats your boat. Do you. Well do a healthy you so you can DO YOU and whoever else you are doing a lot longer.
SBM, I'll be showing my face back up in this space again, I have to say I liked your post for its light hearted intent and your comments for the pure drama between the IRL friends. *lol*
Sorry for the diatribe, but I had no choice after the Tocarra’s was called a fat azz.
-OG
**standing ovation** for OG!!! Well said….well said indeed.
OG, we naturally have more muscle mass…. muscle is LEAN. fat is fat. Fat with slow twitch muscle is bulk.
so no.. she is not muscular… infact I would say her body fat is over 35%.
you are bringing up seperate issues. I am about ratio, fitness and LEAN-ness. your bringing up weight.
I love an in shape sista and thats my prerogative.
Im gonna slap the next black person who tries to use the 500 year ago genetic african example.
First NONE of the west african women I date are thick thighed and fat. in truth… they make fun of us for being fat. ya know forget about the 500 years of evolution and white, indian, and asian races we have absorbed into our collective since we have been here… lets blame us being fat on the africans who have a society based off FISHING and not ourselves who have a society based off POPEYE'S
I neve rdisagreed with SBM on thick or fat. I actually made my post OPPOSITE of his. and even came back later to say that dispite both of us having our likes in certain types we would both be just as likely to go with any type of gal that treates us nice. ACTUALLY…. the abost poster, quotes where I said as such.
It dotn matter how many times or how many ways. yall sistas (some) never really listen to what us as black men say and then hear what you want. if you can take me saying Id date any type of women and think I said I think any chick over a size 5 should rot in hell…. you have issues.
Just like Me saying I like Halle berry and I like this blonde chick (Serena Williams)… comebackgirl somehow took that as me saying down with the black woman and long live and praise be to allah for the white ones.
ISSUES
Since you also don't read (listen), I will take this approach and address your reply by posting it and replying in bolded italics.
OG, we naturally have more muscle mass…. muscle is LEAN. fat is fat. Fat with slow twitch muscle is bulk.
so no.. she is not muscular… infact I would say her body fat is over 35%.
Actually Tocarra is like 16-18% based on her last celebrity fit club appeareanc and for the record she was at 25% maybe when she started.
Actually muscles is muscle… and fat is fat… lean is a term used to refer to mass muscle is lean mass. If we are going to school folks up in here then lets do it.
So does now knowing that Tocarra is under your precious 18% body fat bar MAGICALLY make her cool. You have to know you can not eye ball someone and determine his/her body fat right. Lots of women and men have a lot of muscle mas and a lot fat covering it doesn't make them any less fatter or any less muscular, makes them appear fatter sometimes, ie Shaq before the lean down to 7%
Which brings me to my other point you glorifying your 18% body fat you are at the HIGH END of body fat for an avg man according to most charts, recommended body fat for a man is as follows athletic less than 10%, lean (your FAVORITE word) 10%-15%, average 15-18%, above average 18%-20% (looks like you borderline!), overfat 20-25%, and obese more than 25%. And to be fair the recommendations for women are the folllowing, since we know women because we are women and NATURALLY we were made to carry more body fat to BE WOMEN, we would not be able to make babies if it fell below certain percentages, are the following athletic less than 17% athletic (I guess that makes BIG FAT Tocarra a freakin athlete), lean 17-22%, average 22-25% (COWS by your standards, but seems not by the medical or fitness worlds) above average 25-29% overfat 29-35% obese more than 35%.
you are bringing up seperate issues. I am about ratio, fitness and LEAN-ness. your bringing up weight.
I didn't bring up weight I used it as an example about muscle mass that is all. And if you were really about that, you would KNOW Tocarra is not fat. Let's be honest you are about what appeals to you and what doesn't, which is cool DO YOU!
I love an in shape sista and thats my prerogative.
I never told you not to love an in shape anyone (sista, non-sista, brother, dog, blow up doll whatever you want) I said the breaking point was the sheer insanity to call a woman who is FAR from even being over fat based on medical/fitness charts, fat.
Im gonna slap the next black person who tries to use the 500 year ago genetic african example.
First NONE of the west african women I date are thick thighed and fat. in truth… they make fun of us for being fat. ya know forget about the 500 years of evolution and white, indian, and asian races we have absorbed into our collective since we have been here… lets blame us being fat on the africans who have a society based off FISHING and not ourselves who have a society based off POPEYE’S
I believe I used Serena as my example of the West African Archetype (you used her as the archetype for your white girl), and let me just tell you when I was at my heaviest and I was FAT (or fatter depending on what eyes are gazing upon me) the white on my rice WAS AFRICANS!! So the sexually repressed (which is what the African men say about them) African women may laugh, but apparently they can NOT do anything to keep there men from chasing after FAT AZZ black American women. I'm not saying that makes being fat right, I don't ride in the Mo'Nique Fat is the new black camp. TRUST!!
For the record I blame us being FAT on America and our industrialized nation, coupled with the fact that fitness is only recently a luxury we as blacks could afford. Back in the Jim Crowe days black folks was fit because we were holding the majority of blue collar jobs. We never had to thin about getting in cardio it was built into our lives. Coupled with our eating habits what is happening to our race was BOUND to happen. It seems that while we have evolved and understand changing our diets we do not understand the importance of daily exercise routines, like most Americans we are on sit on your azz, processed food culture.
For the record our culture was stripped of us, so our culture as black American is high in fat. Mostly because we were relegated to salt and gravies to disguised the poor quality of food that we were able to afford in slavery to Jim crow, now of course we can afford and that isn't an excuse. The same way a Sushi it a part of the Japanese American diet, pork chops smothered in gravy is ours. Doesn't mean we can't change it or we aren't changing it. It’s just history.
A thick thigh is not one covered in cellulite, I'm talking a thigh that is big and muscular, that is a thick thigh to me. I'm talking like Earl Campell, Robert Newhouse thighs FLo-Jo Jackie Joyner Kersey thighs. I don't think I ever referred to fat thighs. fat is not thick and if you call it that I'll quit (sorry possessed by Q-tip for a minute).
I never rdisagreed with SBM on thick or fat. I actually made my post OPPOSITE of his. and even came back later to say that dispite both of us having our likes in certain types we would both be just as likely to go with any type of gal that treates us nice. ACTUALLY…. the abost poster, quotes where I said as such.
I don't believe I said that you wouldn't date anyone, I think my issue is that through all this back and forth you still wanted to call Tocarra fat. That’s RIDICULOUS. And my point was it is people like you with this flawed perception of reality that drive women to yo-yo diet, which actually makes you FATTER trying to obtain a standard that is NOT realistic, at least it isn't if you say Tocarra is fat. By saying that a woman who is CLEARLY not fat is fat you convey a message of the unobtainable. You could even say she wasn't your cup of tea! Or too much for you to handle but fat, come on. There is a different between a phat azzed woman and a FAT woman. Maybe not to you but to most of the world there is.
It doesn’tn matter how many times or how many ways. yall sistas (some) never really listen to what us as black men say and then hear what you want. if you can take me saying Id date any type of women and think I said I think any chick over a size 5 should rot in hell…. you have issues.
Wow, nice generalization, but I'm not going to fall for the banana in the tail pipe or play Alice in Wonderland in go down that rabbit hole with you. I never said you wouldn't date any kind of woman. You didn't say that but it is obvious from your comments here back and forth with Teacia, if a woman doesn't APPEAR to be 18% body fat to your eyes, then she will be hounded by you to get to that, I guess unless she got her body fat papers. Man, now I got bring my body fat test along with my HIV test. This new millennium dating is FOR REAL
I never said anything about not taking you saying that. What I said was I could not TAKE YOU saying that Tocarra was a FAT ASS. A lot of other women sure, if you called Latifah, Jill Scott, or Mo'Nique a fat ass, I could take that, I might say it wasn't nice. I may not have liked it but I definitely would have to say you had a case for your argument. However if you are calling Tocarra fat…my thought is just DAMN, what does someone who happens to have an extreme appendages (in her case those boobs) have to do to be considered fit by you. I guess for her a double mastectomy would be the only way you would consider her not fat. This is just based on what I have read and understood you to say.
Right here would be were I would make the same generalization about black men as you did women, but it really has NOTHING to do with this exchange. And I really try not to put ANYONE in box. I urge you to try that one day, you might like it.
Just like Me saying I like Halle berry and I like this blonde chick (Serena Williams)… comebackgirl somehow took that as me saying down with the black woman and long live and praise be to allah for the white ones.
ISSUES
ISSUES is right. The fact that you are so quick to jump on black women and ISSUES and downing black women and their issues implicitly lets me know where you are right now. As a matter of fact it seems YOU were the one who brought race into this, but the damn comments went on so long I can't remember, so I’ll give you that one and say the BLACK women brought it up.
I do not think it is an illogical jump for some black women to feel based on your previous comments (which I don't know but can glean from this post’s comments may be a white is better sentiment) that you were continuing on with more of that argument by purposely listing women of non-black or mixed ancestry. I mean really your first comment could have been said with using plenty of female celebrities, for example “Man I don't like them thicker than Beyonce or man give me Jackie Joyner Kersey body type any day. Man, I'm all about what Mya lookin like.” Seeing as I don't really know your comment history as after this I have chosen to just read SBM’s older post and not the comments to those post, I will say my assessment could be COMPLETELY OFF.
ISSUES is correct. I think we all have issues. That is human nature and I know what mine are and I work on them everyday, doesn't mean they are gone, but KNOWING IS HALF THE BATTLE. The real question is before you hurl out some general ISSUE terms to black women, can you state and be honest about your issues?
I look mine in the face everyday some I can change and some I have changed and some I won't change and I will just be content and happy to agree with whoever when they tell me I have them.
I don't need to hurl insults back at you or degrade who you are to make me feel better about my issues, however you are not going to write my view off to being some kind of angry black woman or black woman with black man issues or anything like that.
My point still remains my point Tocarra is NOT a fat ass (I provided you medical charts of body fat. her body fat is public record to prove that) and it's irrelevant if you would date her fat or skinny, or what your character is. It is comments like yours that don't allow people to get through their muck. What if there was a fat girl reading this and she saw that and her reaction was, hell if she's fat why even try, time to eat a Big Mac to fill the hole.
PLEASE do not come back at me about the psychological condition of a woman who would say that because that sir is not the point that is a separate issue. The point is Mr. "I just want us not to be a fat race", if this was more about that you would KNOW the detriment you cause by calling women who are NOT fat or even overweight fat (well by medical and fitness standards…because it is clear your personal standards are skewed) can only hurt and not help the situation our community is facing.
Look it is your God given right to like or dislike who ever you want for what ever reason, but don't expect folks to just take what you are saying. The same way you felt the need or right to post an opposing view to SBM’s post, is the same way many of these commenters felt the right to share their opposition to your comments. If you have the right to say what you want I most certainly should have the right to say what I want and so should anyone else who stops on this page and has two cents, two snaps in a circle, or an Amen to add to the conversation.
Now it's time for me to get Forest Gump on you, that's all I have to say about that.
@SBM, again I apologize for this. I know you don’t bang YOU ROCK the dope rhymes!! Next time I promise to mind my p’s and q’s. Really I do!
@ Teacia- thanks. I really was trying my best to lurk on this site. I was I promise I was.
-OG
So much for the bolded italics oh well.
-OG
DAYUM!!!!! OG officially wins for the longest post EVER on SBM.net….a round of applause and standing o is in order for the sheer will and desire to get through it all!!! *slow clapping and standing o*
I *heart* OG. Really though!!!!!
And I also can appreciate the Ice Cube reference!!!!
Love you blog!
Have a great weekend.
LmAo. There are big girls who don't eat swine and aren't lazy n greedy. Genetics play in, starvation diet doesn't work till about a year n the body feeds on itself, so some girls r thick. Also, bone skinny doesn't mean healthy.
I love how so many judgements are based in stereotypes. Alas… *kanye shrug*