A few days ago someone asked in a comment:
Can a man drive a woman to cheat? Why or why not?
Of course I have to think of it from my perspective:
Can a woman drive a man to cheat?
And while there was a good healthy talk about it … in traditional SBM style I have to take it to the frontpage and let my true feelings be known.
One person cannot drive another person to cheat … but they sure as hell can encourage them
A cheater is a cheater. They had it in their heart to cheat (not saying that they knew they would or planned to do it … but they had the capacity to do it in their heart). Someone who is not a cheater is simply not going to cheat. You can entice them, put the p*ssy in their face, and threaten their job … but they won’t do it.
Even if an “anti-cheater” is walking in the strip club, trips on spilled drink, happens to fall into a condom someone was holding, falls into the girl doing toe touches on the floor … and she happens to be ok with it … and magically no one else can see them because a curtain just fell down hiding them from view … he still would pull out and say “sorry … but I have a girlfriend”. Yes … someone who is determined to not cheat and lacks the capacity to do it … won’t. Period!
But … not everyone is like that. Some are born with inclination to cheat. Scientists now are trying to determine the gene (ok … me and my cousin Pookie), but until that breakthrough comes … you just don’t know.
There are a few different kinds of cheaters. You have your natural born cheaters (never smelt a pussy he didn’t like), your occasional cheaters (sometimes you just need a change), and the accidental cheater (same scenario as above … he just aint pull out) … but their all cheaters.
So … given that everyone is either a cheater or anti-cheater, no one can be forced from one group to the other. Sure, a cheater may be able to resist cheating … but he’s not an anti-cheater.
The girlfriend or wife of the “non cheating cheater” can’t drive him to cheat … but she can sure as hell encourage his ass.
By allowing your man to know your not the one, your encouraging him to cheat. By not being the best girl you can be … by being selfish … by withholding previously promised sex … by cheating on him … you are encouraging his ass. Just like if you put a pipe in front of a recovering fiend … you are essentially giving him fuel to cheat.
But … the anti-cheater won’t do it.
Cheating is a personal decision … and no matter how close to the edge your pushed, you are the one cheating, you are the one breaking the rules, and you need to own up to that sh*t like a man (or woman).