So … your laying there with your significant other (or your FwB, Cut Buddy, or one night stand) and thinking to yourself “Ok … so I know I’m gonna f*ck … but my balls (or clit) are dry. Man … I sure want some head”.
Now your mind starts to race. You know there are certain rules to this. Asking flat out rarely works … unless you are extremely comfortable with this person. Sure you could just put it in her mouth and hope for the best … but you could be bitten or denied head for years to come. You could go ahead and just give her some … with the hopes of receiving … but all of us know too often how that scenario plays out (“ummm … you want me to do what now … ha ha ha … suck your own dick! I got mine!”).
What to do? How do you make sure you go to sleep feeling orally satisfied?
SBM to the rescue. Here are a few suggestions to ensure that you go to sleep … “satisfied”.
1. Lay her head on your “pillow”.
You love letting her rest your head on your chest. Just keep inching her head further south until she’s resting on that little patch of hair right above your “best friend”. Then, complain about the heat and pull him out … real casual like. The rest should write itself.
2. Talk about your friend’s great girlfriend who just loves to give head.
The power of suggestion … its powerful. Your girl wants to be a good girlfriend (or at least move up the ranks from the cut buddy). You think so highly of your friend’s girl … so maybe it will just motivate her to “do better”.
3. Pop in that all oral porn movie you got.
“Hey baby … wanna watch something with me”. After watching skilled professionals make kielbabasa sized “things” disappear into thin air … she’ll start thinking “I can do that! She ain’t got nothing on me!” Isn’t that competitive spirit lovely!
4. Give her diamonds (ring, tennis bracelet, earrings).
If this one doesn’t work … you need to let her ass go anyway. To any woman who has received a gift of diamonds and didn’t properly “thank” her man … kill yourself (in the proverbial words of Juicy J).
5. Tell her close her eyes. Kiss her neck. Kiss her forhead. Kiss her cheek. Then right as she anticipates the final kiss … put it on her lips.
Uh … never actually tried this one … but it should work in theory … right?!?!
So … 5 tips on making sure that special someone gives you some “special attention”. I will admit … these tactics really should only be used on a girlfriend or very serious dating partner. There is a good chance you might either waste your money, get cursed out, or possbly be laughed at so hard … your “person” swallows their own tounge.
I know there have to be a lot more suggestions out there … my infallible wisdom is limited to just me. What other methods are there out there? Any women that can cosign, rebut, or suggest better? And I know someone has got a story!
So … go out and get some head … your balls shall be dry no more!
Wow…just wow. Where do you come up with this stuff…lol…I shall return later for further comment.
For me I just go straight for the 69 and dont ask questions. just grab a womans upper thighs and bring them forcefully and lustfully towards you.. like you know what da fuck you doin son!
laying on your back cram her muff into your face like your a fat chick with pork rinds.
at this point… she is shocked you went for the 69 and now shes getting pleasured and its being done in a masculine and dominant way. shes gonna put it in her mouth. like do you know the depths of to what type of asshole it would take to NOT? this has worked for me for years…… ok ok ok.. so only one year but whose counting. Even worked on an angry black woman who told me "I havent done that in years" even claimed she never blew her ex husband either (she wouldnt have gotten a housekey from me without doin the duty.. much less the princess cut solitaire)
Now… the key to this is doin it lustfuly and forcefully. like your a man who knows what the hell your doin.
""cum ere ye wench""" and put her into place. forget that lay her head on a pillow, use your SBM billy dee williams voice and turn her into a submissive. I am about as beta male as they come and a huge sucker and simp. not a single woman this year no matter how much she was in control of our dating life has been anywhere close to being alpha/dominant in bed. you will get some women who want to try…. and some women who think they love to take control… knock that shit the fuck out of them, and put them in their natural and primal role. its not about being a great lover, its about more than that.
Another tip from the HNIC. get your ass in the gym. Your a man. muscle looks and feels good in the bedroom. I seriously think a woman respects you more when your physically more imposing and dominating than she is in bed.
which leads me to my 2nd point. LOSE THE GUT SLACKER. if I can get on girls about bein heavy why the hell would you guys get to slide? no sista is turned on by having to work around your beer belly.
If you keep yourself lean enough, women almost feel drawn to kiss the "V" on your abdomen and once in the area they usually follow where its pointing. Not sayin its a no brainer… but I think it helps.
Shave it like a porn star… this helps too.
but once you get her to go down on you during the 69 that first time…. just never do that shit again. She will still give you head because she already has, and its the best like that
Wow Hasani…I declare…who is this new man I see before me…I swear the pussy has gone to his head…lol.
"What other methods are there out there?"
this is probably a serious reach…but how about ohhh….being in love (and in a committed relationship and or marriage.)
Good Morning, Everyone
This topic is a hell of a way to start the week. I enjoy getting head but I prefer doggystyle. I do have two stories on how I got head when I was younger. I'll post them later.
I can't even get to work because I am reading this post and ROFL!!! I gotta get ready. I'll be back!!!
ROTFLMAO!!!!!! I cannot even stop laughing right now!
@ SBM – Dude! I'm nominating you for the Comedy for Monday prize! I totally needed this laugh this morning. As for your number one ~ not trying to get too TMI up in here ~ but ummm, do you not shave your forest [in reference to putting her head near the patch of hair]? My BF shaves (with the exception of a sexy line/trail of hair that is cut close). I think I may puke if I ever saw a man with Rock Creek Park in his pants. LMAO.
lol@"rock creek park in his pants"
yeah definitely not a good look. I detest HAIRY MEN!
P.S. – Also, how about just saying "mandingo warrior misses you baby" and pull him out for her? LMAO! Use caution – – – she may kick you in it for actually saying that! ROTFLMAO
@Hasani – Well dayum! I'm over here slightly horny reading your instruction guide. Let me find out you got some kinkiness with you weird man!
so my gurl Dee put me on to this blog and ive been spying around for bout a while now and i must must must comment on this post!!!! WOOOOOOOOOOOW…its 2008 and why are grown folks still having to ask for head or hell to be asked…oh, cuz somebody in the equation is still in little child mode…dammit just do it!!!!!!!im not saying with everydamnbody u screw, but there ought to be that one "special" person. Ladies…dont just do it for him, do that shit for you…its amazing the things that come out a mans mouth when uve got his dick touching ur throat!!! oh garsh i love My Marius!!! (hey Dee)
Interesting start to the week. Here are my reasons why they wouldn't work 🙂
"Just keep inching her head further south"
Never going to work…oldest trick in the book…only work if the woman wants to do it anyway; otherwise she's going to give you the WTF look.
"Talk about your friend’s great girlfriend who just loves to give head."
Question would be–are you fantasizing about your friend's girlfriend? Maybe you need to call her.
Pop in that all oral porn movie you got.
Might get horny but unless you swinging like the dude in the video still doesn't guarantee head.
Give her diamonds (ring, tennis bracelet, earrings).
Dang this one is hard–we love jewelry–especially the bling. I go back to what I said in #1…I won't give in. LOL…Don't think gifts can buy sexual favors. Tempting maybe. LOL
as she anticipates the final kiss … put it on her lips.
If she's expecting lips and get d*** instead it might get it bit.
@Shelia… ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG, I so love all you guys that comment here. Mondays are always the pits for me, but thanks to the commentary here.. you've made my Monday worthwhile! Thank you!
If you're in a steady (monogamous) relationship… I say don't ask. Simply say "I'm not wet enough yet" (although you really shouldn't have to say that). Just pull it out and let the business get handled. Usually if my BF is horny while I'm sleep…he'll wake me up by rubbing his thingy on my lips. I'm always welcoming of my man's Wild Thing! LMAO
They still MAKE this model of women? Sigh… lol. I say that only half jokingly.
HNIC has a point … sounds like a good tactic — the element of surprise.
Wow! I had to read, leave, come back and read it again. Good one SBM, good one.
@Comeback-That's a good one I like it. Love and affection because when I do it that way….he better look out.
@Humble-You always shock me with your likes. But I'm thinking the non-simpers do things differently. Interested in the two ways from when you were younger. But wait, are you almost anti-oral?
@Lena-Yes, HNIC does have a point. The grabbing and oh….wow
@Ms. F-Whoa lady! I don't blame you though….That's kinda irresistible!
Teacia. have you been reading? Getting "booty" has never been the problem… since I have been single. its actually been a hinderance. I have complained in MANY post in the past about how women only want men (or just me) as a part time squeeze toy and never as their main attraction. which would have been cool when I was 19, but I was a womans "starting point guard" for 01 years, Ill be damned if Im gonna accept being any womans part time playtoy at this age.
Only things new are that I am sleeping with an american born black women, and I am taking a few "L"s in the bedroom….. oh and the slightly nicer paycheck which is really insignificant to me since its greatly impacting my "nappyness" and boxing 🙁
I have always been a beta male but seriously, dont mistake me and my low sex drive for being a femme in bed. Tiffy is singing a new tune, thats TOTALLY irelivant to this blog. Your totally not going to magically start giving a guy head when you are steady dating and you arent going to do new tricks once you get a wedding ring. fact is… you do LESS when you live together…. trust the man who has lived with someone…. Im an expert.
The focus on this post is GETTING head. I have always been a fan of makin the area appealing. I have my abdomen and top of my area always shaved baby bare. I work out, so I actually NEED the hair on me balls… but I am constantly batteling my weight and lower abdomen to make it sexy and appealing.
But finally I view oral sex as a form of respect… hell I view sex period as a form of respect. Ill let a woman be as dominant as her personality dictates in the office… ill let her be as mouthy as she wants in public… Ill even let her run the show around the house if shes the type… but seriously theres no such thing as a woman being dominant in the bedroom. And the dom role should be established on the 2nd time you are in bed.
make sure she lays on YOU after sex. Brothas the post game wrap up is some important subliminal shit.
if she thinks she has a better rapport with you, she will be more apt to give you head.
lets not forget … women biologically cant separate sex from emotions… god made them that way.
@Comeback: "this is probably a serious reach…but how about ohhh….being in love (and in a committed relationship and or marriage.)" I don't know about you or anyone else on here but…it is definitely reaching to assume I'm fallin in love or marrying anyone who has not been south of my belly button!
why are we bothering to ask for it? If it's someone you've been sleeping with regularly, they should know what you like and/or want…furthermore, are you providing the same? I mean, if you're doing it I would assume the favor would be returned…i know that's a risky assumption but I can't grasp my mind around the fact that people still come in that model, I thought it was discontinued (the model of human that doesn't "do" oral)
@HNIC: "women biologically cant separate sex from emotions… god made them that way." haha…that's funny, I've been a woman for a very long time since I was born that way, and well, I wouldn't make that claim…and since I've been one much longer than you've been dating them, I'll accept expert status, lol. Besides, how does that explain your comments about women only wanting to f*ck you? Por ejemplo: "I have complained in MANY post in the past about how women only want men (or just me) as a part time squeeze toy and never as their main attraction."
Hey TeenaMarie girl…glad you felt the urge to comment…these folks don't know me as Dee around here…but hey I love you all the same…lol!! Oh and please don't tell me we back on the Marius kick…good ass dick will do it to you everytime…lol!
Hey Bree, sorry I missed the party….I was doing waaaaay too much this weekend, met Alex's folks half way between Tally and Jax for "the exchange"…my bf said it sounded like a drug deal me dropping my kid off on the highway and all…lol.
….ok now let me finish reading these oh so exciting comments.
I wouldn't call it the element of surprise. Im not SPRINGING the dick on you. Im letting you get swept up in a ravenous passionate moment.
If I "goon hand" your thighs and ass and pull you onto my face how is that going to make you feel? as much as you THINK your going to say "sheet.. no nigga betta pull me anywhere" trust me… your going along with it.
and theres eating pussy like a wimp… then theres having her labia plastered on your upper lip. (thumbs up)
having her sitting on your face is pretty much what makes it…. even the most hard core of feminist man ating ABW's is swept up in that moment. your engulfing yourself in her "female"
the more turned on and carried away you get in bed the more apt she will be to try something she wouldnt normally do. besides, if your really going to task on the vulva like you should be, her mouth is going to be wide open anyway… and inches from your rod… hmmm … wonder what I should do with this mouth…. GULP.
now if you want to play on varsity? while in the 69 and shes giving you head… try to eat her so well that she has to STOP giving you head to moan, gasp, or grimace and bite the sheets .
Thats a fun game 😉
@ Bree – Some people aren't big on oral… not to say they don't believe in it, but they can do without it. I was over the age of 25 when I started sucking on the penis and that's only because I was in love! LOL. Now I do it because I'm in love and happy… but also because I love it and it pleases my man.
So maybe those people will grow out of it when they meet the right person. There is criteria for being edible! lol
good point… women cant seperate sex form emotions, but use me for a squeeze toy all the time.
I have no explanation for this, ive only been single for a year.
This women using men thing seems to be more previlant up here in the north and seems to run heavy around my age bracket of 27-35. if I ever figure it all out I should like write a book or something…………
Ok so Sheila is right…had this dude seriously stand over me with his penis in my face…I looked at him like he lost his damn mind and had NO desire to sleep with him after that. He went on apologizing for 2 weeks but I wasn't trying to hear it…lol…and that nigga didn't give head…sheeeeiiiiiiiit…i'll be damned!!!
"its amazing the things that come out a mans mouth when uve got his dick touching ur throat!!!"
….TeenaMarie…ROTFLMAO…oh wow…I know that's right…lol.
Lena *hi-five*…I thought those models were extinct as well…upgrade your life fellas…lol.
Comeback I don't know about needing love to give and receive head. I guess technically you SHOULD be in love with the person you're sleeping with but it's 2008…some people just want to get their rocks off. But I must admit when you do love a man you put your whole heart and soul into waxing that dick clean…lol.
Hasani…getting head while in you're in a committed relationship is muy diferente than getting it from random chic #42…i'm just saying. And although sex may not have been you're problem…you've been stepping you're writing game up since the newfound confidence of making mas dinero and getting a taste of some chocolate vajayjay…just making an observation Sani baby…lol.
Damn you Hasani! I'm about to make a call! lol
And to think… I thought I was sexually touched! lol
Hasani not all women get emotionally involved with sex…shit it sometimes had the opposite effect on me. I have to go with Bree on this one, especially since I know how we rolled. There were times when after sex I lost all interest in a dude, even if the sex was banging…I was just over the high of wondering what the sex would be like. This went on for years…so much so that my friends started calling me the "Black Widow"…a term that my current beau has deemed my past as well.
There has been a moment or two though when I so in love with the dick but couldn't stand the man, that I couldn't even think straight…nothing but a highway to hell right there…thankfully I got them both on lock now.
So, I personally have been both giving and receiving for almost 10 years. I actually liked giving a lot more than receiving and at this point I am okay with either. Now…I think in 2008 it is okay to just give a little but I think we have to be careful. My biggest question here is anyone using protection while doing this? Just curious?
@Teacia-Yep. I know the feeling of hating the man loving the sex and of loving the sex and hating the man. That can really throw you for a serious loop…
I'm just saying that if you're in love you don't have to have your man read from a guide..like he's 12 and getting his merit badge of cunnl^$lin^gus honor.
As Ms. Freckles wrote, sex is great when there aren't any inhibitions. I find that I don't have any when I actually love the man I'm with.
Good point Comeback…and after last weekend I would have to agree.
Ummm Jaclynn sweetie…even I haven't been sucking the wang wang for 10 years and I'm ummmm 29…please tell me you were not a KID when you started having sex and giving head?!?!?
…you don't have to reveal your age, but uhhh please just say it ain't so and that was a typo.
@Jaclynn – I can count on one hand how many men I've performed oral on. All were with longterm boyfriends or jumpoffs that had been my jumpoff for over 9 months. So to answer your question, no it was not "protected oral sex". I was friends first with them and we all knew our health status. I don't play that! Never have and never will.
@Comeback – Yes ma'am. No inhibitions are the bestest and only way to have sex with the person you love and are happily committed too. Definitely didn't know what it was like to love giving head as much as receiving until my BF. Whew! Where's my phone!
@Teacia – you got me over here crying in laughter! " Ummm Jaclynn sweetie…even I haven’t been sucking the wang wang for 10 years and I’m ummmm 29 " THAT WAS HILARIOUS!!!
"while in the 69 and shes giving you head… try to eat her so well that she has to STOP giving you head to moan, gasp, or grimace and bite the sheets "
This is why 69 is difficult for me. I'm usually getting head so good I can't concentrate on the head I'm giving.
What's with this talk of love & head. Sure … I don't give every random jump off head … but I enjoy it so much that many an underserving soul has recieved my "attention". Lol … sometimes I just was practicing to keep my skills up. And to be honest … possibly the best head I ever recieved was from the randomnest situation ever … that I will never mention again.
I don't know if I can get with the 69 kick. I tried it like twice back in college. Getting someone to enjoy your end so much they forget what their doing was easy … but why the f*ck would I want to do that? In addition, then got so involved they started moving, they rocked the wrong way … and then my nose ended up somewhere I just never planned for it today. I looked like a scene out of alien …
One big thing I forgot to emphasize, is this is about getting head TONIGHT!. Sure … your special someone will give you the "business" and make sure your happy … but what if she is not thinking about it right now … and your just not willing to wait until the feeling moves her. That can be a tough one.
@HNIC: I honestly think you got a really good point with the bedside manner. Gonna inspire me to do like 3 things differently next time around.
Hmmm….well I was fairly young. I wasn't like 9 or anything like that, but young yes-then I had a long term thing going and that was a big thing because I wasn't having sex. I haven't had that many oral "partners" but I have kept them for awhile. Although I think I got mad once and made him wear a condom during the act.
@Teacia-I'm so sorry to disappoint no typo…I think I just got caught up early…and remember not quite 10…almost though…I'm thinking you know how old I am…maybe..hmm..can't remember.
@SBM – Just tell her you want some head. You are a "taken" man now… you should be able to have open communication with your woman homey. I'm quick to tell my BF to taste me. Usually I'll say "kiss her…she wants to be kissed" and he'll do it. No hidden messages or guess work.
@Ms. Freckles: Whats the fun in that? I still like #5 the best.
SBM #5 will get you right where you're at right now…with dry balls…but it would be funny as hell, especially since she's you're girl…she may actually find some humor in it.
**WARNING** I do not suggest you try it though, if she's as crazy as you say she just might bite that shit off.
I am a little curious about the random head act though…please expound.
Jaclynn sweetie yes I know how old you are, which is what made my question so funny…to me that is. We'll have to discuss this and a few other things offline…these folks are nosey as hell on here(myslef included of course).
@Teacia-I must be in trouble. I must say #5 can and should be banned. Awww…I hope SBM's GF would not bite it off. He needs it. He might want kids someday…!
@Ms. Freckles: you are fuckin' hilarious! OMG, hahaha! This has to be my favorite post to date!
@Comeback and Ms. Freckels: good point, the men I've been in love with definitely get it soooo much better than someone I'm just "puttin' it on". Also, when I was younger I wasn't that into receiving head…but i've loved giving it ever since I started (I won't say how long ago that was, none of your business, but i wasn't 10, lmao!)
@Hasani: it's not just going on up north, it's in the south too, guys in Atlanta complain about it too…my ex-BF lives in South Carolina told me last week it's happening to him alot as well. All I gotta say is, there may have been a guy or two or…nevermind the number, that I've only wanted to spend time with naked and had no qualms about it.
I actually take pride in my abilities and quite honestly it depends on my mood and the nature of the relationship how a guy should come at me to get it. That putting it in my face and hoping I'll wrap these big, juicly lips around it may actually work if I'm in a submissive mood and I'm attracted to his cockiness (no pun intended) enough to view it as masculine rather than a plain old asshole move. The explanation that Hasani gave earlier which included quite a bit of masculinity and erotica would definitely work…hell it got my boy shorts wet just thinking about it…hell i'm trying to figure out how to get to my dude right now to take care of him…Hasani, he has you to thank for the ridiculous head game he's about to get tonight! LMAO
Oh yeah, another sure fire way to get head is to spend money on them.
If you happen to be at an outlet mall with her and you don't once offer to buy her ANYTHING…please believe you will gets NO head at all.
…yes this was a moment taken from my personal journal…*sighing* niggas!
You got to give a little to get a little…and we all have our weak spots.
"This is why 69 is difficult for me. I’m usually getting head so good I can’t concentrate on the head I’m giving."
chickenboo…. its called focsus son. You think Kobe dosent head the people jeering him when he makes those free throws? you think batman dosent know he is up against unbeatable odds? but they get the job done right? well get back in there soldier. You young bucks have such sensitive peepee's I swear. Try jerking off a few times a week WITHOUT lubrication if you are sexually active. you will desensetise your penis more and more so you wont be as succeptable to quick orgasms…. remember something about mary? you should clean the pipes before being with a partner anyway.
its amazing the same woman talking about I havent been in a serious relationship in my life… is also talkin about how sex it better in a comitted relationship?!!?!? how da fuk would you know?
OK… as prob the only person on this blog who has seen both sides of the fence. Thats bullshit. my love could get me off quicker… I mean with blinding speed after 10 years of practice, but miss alaska who is an absolute stranger to me is lightyears better and has my senses awakened and me doing things differently.
hell my brother is getting married in a few weeks, he fully admits his fience is no where near the lover that his ex was.
sex is about who is good at sex and who matches with your bedroom spirit. sex is as much spiritual as it is physical…. theres no real mental about it. I myself think I am not great physically at sex, but my bedside manner and ability to whip someone else up into a frenzy I feel makes people think I am better than I actually am. Miss Alaska was sayin this to me sunday. I dont do anything differently than when we first had sex 3 weeks ago… shes just more in sync with my vibe now. makes for a very erotic and highly explosive session.
*SCOLDING* Stop it Hasani!!!…and don't act like you have no idea what I'm talking about either. *shaking my damn head*
@Jaclyn & Teacia: I had to go back and read #5…that shit is funny as hell…i culd see my guy doing that and i'd prob laugh my ass off and while my mouth was open he'd stuff it in, LMAO…too damn funny.
@SBM: #5 GO FOR IT! If u feel yourself chickening out, call me and I'll boost you up! HAHAHA! YOU CAN DO IT!
So everyone has me cheering SBM on for #5 as well OR when she's sleep, rub your wang on her lips gently.
You all are too damned much….I tell you. I mean I would scream! But I sometimes use a little teeth anyway. No big deal for me to chomp down hard…especially if I don't really know the negro. Now, if I do and I've told you you can't have it then guess what…you just added like another year on when I would have usually given it and yep-I will give a timestamp.
@Hasani…about the 69 comment…I feel that. 69 is cool and all, it's erotic and freaky…but when I'm giving head, I want all of my attention to be on the work I'm putting in. Most women who love giving head love it for two reasons: 1. it being a selfless act and 2. the ego. I know that's slightly contradictory but women are nurturing individuals by nature…and giving head is the best way, sexually, to offer completely selfless nurturing and its a boost to our ego by watching your mouth make a man squirm, scream, and moan like a bitch (haha). I'm just saying, when I speak into the mic I don't want it to be a duet…I want to give 100% of my attention to pleasing him. I'll do 69, but I'd prefer to take turns.
@Bree – I concur. Now I'm trying to find a way to make it "seem" as though I'm swallowing w/out actually swallowing! It's all in the hand stroke I hear… so you're actually covering it up while it's erupting but giving the illusion that it's in your mouth. Do you know if that is correct?
If I have already let you put your body in me…then there is no question that we are close enough for you to ask me to give you some head.
…and just so it's out there in the universe let me say this too…
Sometimes I'd rather give head than have sex.
On those nights (or mornings, afternoons, early evenings…) when I am not feeling all that sexual…My head game is so tight…I know it won't take that long for him to cum. And we can all go about our business after that…whether back to sleep, to work, to watching the game, to cooking dinner…
But if we start talking about head…you know I gotta ask…
Does it bother men not to have the woman swallow?
'Cause I am letting you know….that shit is nasty TO ME…
The consistency…yuck…it's like someone blowing thier nose in your mouth!
@Ms. Freckles…this is the second time I've given head instructions on this blog…perhaps I should start my own "Speaking Into the Mic with Bree", lol
Do you have a problem with it being in your mouth at all? If not, you could let him erupt in your mouth and then inconspicuously wipe your mouth with your hand pulling it out at the same time…or offer to get him some water and take a detour to the bathroom or kitchen sink to spit.
@blah blah blah – PREACH!!!! That's why I threw my question out there to Bree about the "illusion of swallowing". I let my dude cum in my mouth twice and I almost gagged both times (and I didn't even swallow it). The texture kills me! I must admit, I do believe it also depends on what they eat prior to it coming out.
@Blah blah…hahaha…it does feel like oysters or snot or something, and you're right, head is a great alternative when you don't feel like having sex and your man's "friend" is insistent on doing so…nothing puts a fella to sleep like some great head, lol
@Bree – I actually love the penis in my mouth. It's the texture of his cum that gets me. Like Blah said… it's like the feel of snot (only with mucus in it). I do know that the last time I let him erupt with my mouth open, only a couple or so shots landed in my mouth and he kissed me right after. It shocked me.. but turned me on at the same time.. however, I still couldn't bring myself to swallow. And it gets messy with the letting it run back out the mouth thing.
Goodness. I can't even think about trying to contemplate swallowing. I just simply can't take it. Someone tried once and needless to say some serious cleaning up was ALMOST required.
@Bree-Yep, they fall into a dead sleep. Sometimes you gotta make sure they are breathing!
TEacia… and anyone else.
Sex dosent = money. please get it out of your head. its about as old and archaic as me bringing my laundry over for you to do and abut as asinine as me demanding you clean my apartment and fix 3 meals a day (when we live separate)
I spent over $5,500 total dating "Miss May" over 6 months. I never really got past first base.
I havent spent a dime on Miss Alaska and have her cooking as well as offering to do anything we can think of in the bedroom…. I swear she was offering up anal on sunday but was being indirect about it….
Spending money on a woman dosent make her like you more and it damn sure dosent make her do more for you in bed.
how about this… Ill take you out on a date so I have something to do…. Ill end our date early so you can go the hell home and eat hagendas. Ill go to the asian massage parlor before it closes at 12 and get an hour long full body massage + lay down shower for $60… oh and ill get a happy ending with that too miss Suki Miko (skeet skeet skeet skeet)
its not head, but it sure is more economical than buying Teacia her coach bag when I am struggeling just to put gas in my car. and it cuts out a ton of the hassle. oh and did I mention the massage parlor is open to 12 on friday and saturday nights? damn son if you drop her off early enough you can get on XBOX live and we can play Madden!
@HNIC – Maybe if I had a penis, jacking off would help.
Chickenboo: my bad… sheesh do we have ANY friggin men on the blog for single black men? my wisdom is going to waste and just giving the enemy our secrets!
others: swallowing is not important… its just a fantasy men get from porn. I prefer for women NOT to swallow… that shiz makes ME sick. but cuming in your mouth is pretty much mandatory. and letting me pull out of your cunt and go straight into your mouth to finish I like… likr….omg bonus points!
besides.. its less messy if you just take it all in your mouth and spit it in a towel anyways… do I really need my mangoo all over my tummy? it should go on the tattoo on your back where it belongs. (thumbs up)
@SBM: sorry for turning this into Head 101
@Ms. Freckles: in my experience guys want to cum in your mouth because a. they still want to feel your mouth around them while they're cumming and b. they just like the freakiness of it (they all secretly want to be in pornos, lmao)…of course, don't do anything you don't want to or don't feel comfortable doing. since you just don't like having cum in ur mouth, i'd say and alternative is when he's close, put your hands back around it and move them up and down while squeezing gently and in pulses, make sure your hands are warm and wet, that way it'll feel almost like he's inside you. watch your eyes though! if u can stomach the texture for a few seconds, let him do it in your mouth and then go to the bathroom afterwards. don't swallow if'n you don't wanna. sex is only good if both parties are COMFORTABLE…that includes oral
@HNIC: hahahaha!!! #56 is funny as hell…am I a freak for agreeing? errr…so be it
my line for whats concitered "freaky" and whats normal is rather blurred. Ive been in a relationship almost non stop my entire sexually active life.. so at times I do things and get looks like… "da fuk dis niga doin?" and Im sittin there like… oh I cant put that there???
Ill get the hang of this being single thing eventually.
@HNIC-Yep I understand that completely. I feel odd for liking so many things. And I wanna try alot of stuff too. I'm open but it's gotta be right…if not then the answer if NO
Damn this is a good way to start out a monday! Gives me flash back from my saturday night..haha
I don't encourage buying jewelry… but I do encourage keeping a empty jewelry box around. It just gives the impression that a good head job will be rewarded with a gift box. But ya gotta make sure you FWB has a good sense of humor.. or you might be in trouble..lol
SBM try #5 and let me know how it goes. I might have to take notes if it works for ya…
My fav one has always been the wait til she's sleep technique. Nothing says I need head like puttin it on her lips while she's sleeping. It will make her dream about it..haha
@Humble_One – Man oh man…. I remember belle isle and all the ghetto chaotic bullcrap that always happened on that one particular strip! Whew.
Hasani please…say what you wish but like I said we do it differently down here. I'll be damned if I'm dating a dude, which btw wouldn't be struggling to put gas in his car, and we're out "shopping" and he doesn't buy me a trinket of his appreciation but I'm expected to give him head later that night…NIGGA PLEASE!!!
And also if we're out shopping I'm not just some random chic he's screwing anyways…but know that I will withhold head if I feel like I'm the only one giving in the relationship. These are just my views, and as I stated before I'm a giving individual so I expect the same kindness in return. Carry on.
@Teacia-Now we do know that I'm not at all materialistic, at least when it comes to men, but you are gonna have to give to receive. F'in well right. I am not going to mess around and get lockjaw and I am not getting something in return and yes it can be small.
@Freckles-Hmm…I might have to have that agreement next time around.
@Humble-Wow. Simply wow. Kinda hilarious if you think about it. I mean if either one of them happened to me I might have hurt you. J/K…just wow.
Ok…just finished reading all of the comments and:
Bree I'm ashamed to call you a friend…lol…man and I thought I was a freak…boy was I wrong.
Hasani…well i've already said my piece to you.
Humble…wow, just wow…that was some dirty shit you pulled BOTH times…lol.
Eathan…well there's nothing really to say…we all know you're a SUPER FREAK. and if you guys have no clue, then please read this negro's blog. as much as i hate the concept, the stories are outrageous!!
A woman gets more out of sex than a man does… men arent very fulfilled spiritually or emotionally from sexual release… and Ill be damned if the world would come to an end if men could have a 60 seccond long orgasm as well, much less 5 in one session… but we wont get into that,
So if its good for you,, and good for me… why the fuck would I pay YOU for sex?!?!???? that shit is laughable.
lets turn this into a dollars and sense issue so its easier for you to understand this debate short shal we?
Im not a moron. If you extort me for sex … in this market I will find someone selling the same product overseas for a cheaper rate. I will outsource your services to Sweeden with the swiftness. and there will be a 6 ft blond named Svetlanna sitting in your cubicle.
Now dont take this as blow me or go home… take this as respect me and dont try to get over… or I will sell my product elsewhere. Cuz the dude that your attracted enough to go to bed with… is always gonna be hot enough to sleep with someone else if you treat him bad.
Im american, last I checked we dont negotiate with terrorist threats…. we eliminate them.
@HNIC-True enough we get more orgasms. Some men do have some emotions tied to sex therefore, there can be an emotional release. Now some people do pay for sex and ultimately it's good for them and there's a chance the female has enjoyed it. And it's not paying for sex but showing your mate some form of affection. As for Svetlana, you would have to pay to get her here. There are benefits for just walking down the damned street. Damned. One of the biggest problems of 2008 jobs and immigration and you turn it into sex. This blog is priceless.
Well sorry to keep it real with you, but rarely do I(and most women, including those you THINK you're bringing multiple orgasms) have some spiritual and emotional release from sex. Actually shit I rarely get mine, as do a lot of us…the only satisfaction I get is from him getting his most of the time. And as good as the dick may feel bouncing against the walls of my inner sanctum, it rarely brings me to estacy. So again I state, I must get something out of the deal, other than your toes curling if you want for me to pucker up.
BTW, men have been paying for it since the beginning of time. Everytime you pick up the check or pay for the movie, or any of the other little stuff that you do to show your appreciation, you're paying for it. What's the difference if I want a shopping bag to go along with mine?
If that isn't good enough for you…let the outsourcing begin…I apparently won't be missing out on much anyways!
Oh and for real for real…Osama bin Laden is still on the loose.
I had a little tiff with the boo last night and I'll be _______ if ya'll ain't gonna have me eating my words when I get home from work tonight. Literally.
I will tell him to log on and thank all of you later tonight.
SBM – saving relationships; one head at a time.
I was young and in a different frame of mind when I did those things. I still have a hard time letting a chick do it till I finish. Maybe I'm too sensitive down there. I mean its been times its been so good that I've been brought to my knees. I remember one time she was sucking while I bust. I don't know if I could take that again. Giving aint bad either. Especially if she is thick and she rides your face. Or if its extra wet.
Forget about all the crap and fancy dressing your trying to put on it… extortion is extortion. like theres a name for it. Trade money for sex is a crime as well.
But Im not gonna blow you unless you buy me something?
You can keep your lipstick on honey… Ill go grab me the cute little philipono girl who gives head AND dosent demand payment for it. A woman who expects something for what she does in bed? where does it end… do you do charity work for the payment? do you take care of your kids for the fame reputation you will get? do you get married for the Medical benefits?
Why would a man buy you something in order to have sex with you? you DO know there are other single women just as hot and just as good in bed as you that dont want money for sex right?
I couldnt describe a woman with more sex appeal than Teacia… and Im about as useless a gimp simp punk ass no game havin scrub of a geeky black man as they come…. Im totally not buying her something.
Theres always a hot hard bodied blond out there or a cute soft skinned philippino gal out there to replace the selfish lover you already have boys… and lets not forget the old stand by… the chick slightly less hot but willing to treat you better and ask for less type gal as well. We have options, we arent 15 anymore….its a sellers market.
Hasani please do…spare me the grief already…get in where you fit in or shut up.
"do you do charity work for the payment?"
…as a matter of fact, here in America…people actually get PAID in non profits…go figure.
"I couldnt describe a woman with more sex appeal than Teacia… and Im about as useless a gimp simp punk ass no game havin scrub of a geeky black man as they come…. Im totally not buying her something."
…and you're TOTALLY not getting any…no hard feelings Sani baby…we all live our lives differently. I take care of my man full throttle…and again, in kindergarden script for you: I expect the same in return. I advise you not to tell me no and expect a yes in return. It's just not logical.
Bin ladden is on the loose buy his whole shit is shut down. he is now the equivilant of the hostile 35 year old woman with 3 cats sitting home on saturday night chatting on the internet with her girlfriend about "dat bitch ass nigga who left her for that puerto rican chick with the lollipop always in her mouth."
The "men always pick up the check and always pay for sex" shit is old. Why do you want all the benefits of the modern era and none of the deficits? Can I bring my laundry over and expect dinner for buying you that purse? When I have a bad day at the office how about I smack the shit out of you since Im bigger than you?
How about just for taking you on your first date I demand a dowry from your family?
sounds dumb dont it?
We arent talking about taking care of your man here… we are talking about nobody gets head unless you buy me.. .and yesterday it was nobody gets sex unless you buy buy buy. Thats nonsense, and beyond golddigging… thats whoring only last I checked I can get a callgirl for 200 buck s for the hour and thats a ton cheaper than the $700 watch you claim a woman should get for having sex with a man….
Im beginning to see why the divorce rate is so high and the marriage rate is so low, its really only one type of woman having the problem too.
"5. Tell her close her eyes. Kiss her neck. Kiss her forhead. Kiss her cheek. Then right as she anticipates the final kiss … put it on her lips."
this usually works. you just hafta be careful not to try this in public
@Teacia – I where you are coming from as far as men paying for it. I have a question for you. If a man bought something for you and turned down the sex. Instead of sex he wanted you to clean his gutters on his house or get his car detailed. Would you be willing to do that instead of sex? I can't speak for most dudes but I know I would rather a woman show me her appreciation in a million other ways than having sex with me.
why can't I edit my posts?
@Teacia-I have had one multiple. ONE and I don't ever want another one. I really don't think they know it's not all it's cracked up to be. I could have more fun with the Hustler store's goodies. Yep-outsource me too. And yep Osama is right out there….somewhere, non-eliminated.
Humble…as much as I love Hasani, he's a bit hostile and isn't open to seeing things any other way than his own. Last weekend I spent an uninterrupted 3 days with my man and he didn't have to lift a finger. I made sure he was comfortable, ironed his clothes, cleared his plate and did everything that a woman does for a man. I even did some things for him that others have blatantly said no to on this site. If he asked me to come outside and help change a tire or wash his car WITH him I wouldn't hesitate.
Because I am not a selfish girl I expect certain comforts from my man. Because I am not a selfish girl, he can't tell me no and expect for me to say yes. It's not happening. Head is a luxury…not a necessity, so if he wants it, he needs to provide a few luxuries as well. It's as plain as that.
Hasani…and I'll be a whore just for you baby.
Ignore that last one. Posted that awhile ago but the internet went down. Anyways-
@HNIC-I know for a fact I have no problems taking care of my man at all. I mean come on does this have to happen today. Teacia is not being a golddigger at all. She's simply stating her preferences to the way she likes to be treated. Furthermore, if her man does not have a problem with it then why should you. She obviously has a man who is good to her, therefore, someone out there must believe in treating her the way she wants to be treated
@Humble-When you say you'd rather appreciation be shown in other ways, what do you mean? Is it a homecooked meal? Cleaning your house? A massage? Exactly how should a woman in 2008 show appreciation to a man?
@Teacia-That's why southern women are so amazing…they know how to make a man feel like a man 😉
@Teacia – if a woman was like that then I would be waaay more willing to spoil her. The only thing is that when women have spoiled me in the past, sometimes I felt like I didn't deserve it. I guess I felt like that cause I was shy.
I prefer money for sex?
how can you even begin to defend and condone such logic?
its not hostility… Its an incredulous look of disdain, despair, disillusion
This has gone waaaay past a "this is what my man does for me"
in truth it never started as a "what she does for her man and he for her"… her comment was a woman who has sex, or spreads her legs "for a man" DESERVES monotary compensation. (money/gifts)
And the way to make a woman give you oral sex… weather a partner , a fuck body, girlfriend or wife.. is to buy the gifts.
in truth if your a wife or girlfriend holding out for gifts for sexual favors your a bigger whore than the ones on Baltic Ave in AC…. Im not calling those women whores… dictionary.com is 😉
@HNIC-All I can say is wow. That's just…wow.
@Teacia – in fact if a woman did all that you said you did and was supportive in good and bad times. By supportive I mean holding up my end if something happens and I can't till I get back on my feet. I would wife her.
@Jaclynn – To me apppreciation can be showed in a few ways. I am addicted to shoes and fast cars. If a woman were to buy a pair of sneakers, buy a model of an exotic or muscle, or buy parts for one of my cars I would appreciate that way more than sex. A homecooked meal, cleaning the house, or a massage is also appreciated. Honestly I feel insulted when women play me like they can just thow me some ass and I should be satisfied.
Humble which is why I've been engaged 7 times…for the newcomers I know that revelation may come as a shock…but despite what Hasani thinks, I know how to treat a man.
And no they didn't run out on me…well one of them broke it off, but the other 6 was all my doing.
And like I said Sani baby…expound as you may I'll still be that whore just for you. One man's trash is another man's treasure.
I stand behind my comments. Period.
This is EXACTLY why some from of true love and committment should be in SBM's laundry list. Why??? because relationships ARE exchanges. This takes a sense of maturity to understand cause when my Women's Studies professor proceeded to drop some feminist epistomology on dat azz that stated: " marriage is a form of prostitution", I begged to differ. WHEN I WAS 19.
little more than a decade later it makes total sense. To me when you really love and care for a person you ideally want to make sure all their needs are met in every way that you possibly can and conversely as well. (and yes…to one man on this blog you have been in a relationship the longest..but there have been several times where I have been selfless, sometimes to my detriment.)
That was MY learning lesson. To me sex is SUPPOSED to be spiritual. And when you're on that high, giving oral pleasure is also YOUR pleasure because that connection is there. And if he has other needs ie, washing his clothes, cooking his meals…its get done (with sometimes a little outside help).
@Humble-I can understand all that. This is all I was saying last week when I said for me it's the simple things. And I am assuming you mean when you're in a relationship and if that's the case then a woman throwing sex at you for stuff doesn't really wanna be in a relationship especially if you can't call her when your day is going rough. She should be there for you no matter what….that's the cake…now sex is the icing on the cake.
@Jaclynn – My ex was always there to talk to but that was it. She was a great cheerleader but it went no further than that. I came out my comfort-zone quite a few times for her but she wouldn't do the same for me. My ex also said it was the little things thats why she left. But the problem is she didn't do any of them but expected me to.
"She should be there for you no matter what….that’s the cake…now sex is the icing on the cake."
I cosign this 110% and he should do the same.
Exactly Comeback…and just as he has his needs I have mine. And I need that Cole Haan handbag, lol…just kidding…well kinda.
But in all seriousness, it's a give and take. The men I date understand my mentality because they too benefit from it. It's not for everyone, but it works for me and those who I aim to please.
Oh my dear sweet Jaclynn, your innocence and optimism is sooo refreshing. 🙂
@Teacia-I think you need the bag too. Great fall color lol…my innocence and optimism…wow…sometimes I really have to try. I refuse to be negative!
@Humble-Well sometimes the little things can drive you nuts, BUT the little things are only a problem if there's no communication. If something is bothering me I should be able to come to my man and say honey this is a problem and we should be able to work it out. That's the way it should work hands down.
Yes Jaclynn…brown is a great fall color…along with white…like the one you got collecting dust in a box somewhere…how much you want for it?!?!?
@Jaclynn – this is true but. One of the reasons we broke up was communication. But I think it has to be some understanding too. I had to take a pay cut and was given more responsibility at my job. Not only that but I had to pick up a second job to try to make ends meet. I wanted so bad to go to the streets but i didn't because I had to much to lose. On top of that I am going to school and the school is giving me problems. What I am getting at is that with all that going on I think that you should understand that I am stretched and stressed and at this time I am not really worried about the little things. I'm worried about keeping a roof over my head.
It's not in a box…I think it's in a my luggage. I am gonna use it, I will I swear. And if I don't it's yours gratis.
Does anyone else just want to take Humble_One home, turn on ESPN, make him a good meal, give him a massage, help him with his homework, and….
Just wondering? Lol.
…and then cheat on him because you find his sincerity and humble nature to be not thrilling enough, simpish and weak as stated by a few posters on this blog… oh you set me up for that one nicely Daisy 😉
I don't think I have any real desire for my girl to swallow. Everytime she burps, I wouldn't want to kiss her. Just really have no desire to taste that part of myself.
This whole "buy me something for head" is that true bullsh*t. I mean … if I don't buy you some shoes … you can't suck my dick! I think I'm gonna start making the reverse demands. I can't pay for dinner if you don't blow me on the way to the restaraunt!
Humble … lol at them stories. Might have to try one of them.
@Jaclynn – I'm good now. Don't let my story get you sad. I am trying to have the optimism you have but it is rough. After my situation and seeing close friends go through similar situations but with kids, it's hard to have that outlook. I'm not bitter towards women. When I see my parents together and think of my cousin and other good women I've known I can't be totally negative.
Sex with emotional significance. Often characterized by tenderness, caressing, etc. Sex as ultimate physical manifestation of romantic love. The opposite of fucking. Often used in romance novels for dramatic effect.
A mutual gratification between two consenting people of an intimate and sexual nature.
(n.) One who will perform sexual acts if payment can be arranged
person who willingly uses his or her talent or ability in a base and unworthy way, usually for money or gifts.
@Daisy-I was thinking the same thing. Like I have some chicken and peas going right now…I wonder how I can get them to Detroit….
@Humble-Good. I have to be honest with you (since that's the best policy) my optimism is very, very tough to have. Sometimes it's hard to believe that something good and true and wholesome is out there. In fact, every now and again I find myself to wonder what's really going on in the world because I really do think that women get hurt by men and take it out on the next one and it's just a vicious cycle. At this point I am just trying to promise myself that the next guy will have the opportunity to be himself…without having to have the last guys drama and foolishness on his back.
@HNIC-Thank you Merriam-Webster.
@HNIC…the first words you say to me are filled with bitterness and hostility. Now I understand why you're treated the way you are on here.
Teacia and Comeback, please welcome me to the "dark side."
@ Jaclynn – This true. I've had to deal with a few issues that Ray-Ray, Pookie, and Malik did to (insert female name here) back in the mid to late 90s. But please keep that optimistic outlook we need that. I've thought about being an ass but I'm too old and like I've always felt I am not contributing to the B.S. thats out here.
@Daisy – thank you. but i'm good and have moved on. like I said last week we don't even talk.
Humble how old are u(yeah i'm nosey)?
This might be two ways of getting head if you are a young dude. The first I did when I was 19 the second I think I was 21 or 22.
I met this girl on Belle Isle. I wasn’t really feelin her. The only reason I talked to her was because my boy wanted to talk to her girl so I ran interference. If I remember right she asked for my number I didn’t ask for hers. Anyway we talked for a minute and the last time we talked the subject got to sex. She asked me if I ate out. I said yeah and I talked big sh*t on how i like to eat it. I also said I only do it if it is reciprocal. So we made a day to hook up after that. I’m at her crib we are watching tv on the couch and she jumps on me. She starts kissing my neck. I didn’t kiss her back at all. I did lift her shirt up and started sucking. I also had my hand in her shorts. Anyway she moved down and went to work. When I had enough I got up and went to the bathroom. I aint do nothing in the bathroom but zip my pants up. I came back out and she had her shorts off. I told her I had to bounce my boy just paged me. I aint even have a pager. She new this too. This n*gga blew the f**k up. All I heard was oh hell no, WTF, for real n*gga,? you ain’t s*t
I was talking to this girl for about a month. We talked for a while and when we talked about sex I told her I like oral sex. I never said I ate it First time we hook up I at her crib and we are watching TV. So we eventually get it started. I was hittin for a minute and she got dry. I was still hard so she domed me up. I didn’t finish though because I couldn’t take it. So we start missionary and she is trying to force my head down. I’m like what are you doing. She said I thought you said you ate p**y. I said I like oral sex I didn’t say I liked to give it. Suprisingly that didn’t kill the mood and we continued on until we were both good.
@Humble-Yeah…those negroes did some serious stuff. They really messed it up. Please don't be an ass. Then I wouldn't like your behavior much like….I'll stop here.
@Teacia-That's like twice in one day admitting that. They say that's the first step lol.
@Eathan… the on the lips while sleeping thing only works if the two are inlove or have that sexual connection where it’s okay. My BF and I have a mutual understanding of never telling the other person “no” when it comes to sex.
Daisy… like the others.. you skimmed insted of READ…. nobody was talkin to you… but now I am.
Teacia… not all women prostitute themselves… just the prostitutes.
Lets keep this 100 shal we.
Perhaps you can get some guys to make them pay to have sex with you… but lets be realistic….
guys like me DONT have to.
yes I know the room is having the air sucked out of it by all of you gasping at once
… but seriously… I have no problem getting myself someone to sexually satisfy me. This could be why we are not seeing eye to eye on this one and never shal. I could gain 50lbs of fat and lose my job and grow an osama bin ladden beard and put in dark colored contacts for my eyes… and on niceness alone Im gonna get someone to fuck me now that I think about it. My looks or body are hardly the reason why women find me sexually appealing.
Like the great poet Darryl McDaniels once said…
Its like that….. and thats the way it is………
Oh and btw I don’t rock Coach purses…but I do have my eye on this Cole Haan special edition in brown. *just putting it out in the universe*
Honestly? if you want it ask. if i am in the mood i will do it if not then too bad. It's that simple.
uh huh…u keep telling urself that Sani baby.
…let's just agree to disagree…and the girls up there can continue to sell themselves short to a guy who's banging like 10 chics at one time w/o forewarning any of them. they can keep the heartache and i'll keep the cash.
Wow. I have to say if a woman gives herself away that easily it should be an automatic red flag. Too much is going on to just be all free. I mean Teacia just values herself alot. Can't blame her.
Ummmm I never said you couldn't get women…and you always talking about how someone else is skimming.
Hasani it's not that cut and dry…and we're talking about guys I'm dating…not just random niggas in the mall that ask me out. No amount of money will allow you access to my water park if I'm not feeling your ass, plain and simple. But I'm a realist, I understand the give and take in a relationship…and I don't give not expecting a return. I know it sounds whorish but who cares. I know I put my all into everything I do in a relationship and I expect nothing less in return. If you can expect head, then why I can't expect a certain purse or whatever else the hell I want.
At the end of the day this all boils down to ego. You're ego is too big for you to succumb to my requests monetary or otherwise..yet you expect me to humble myself and drop to my knees at yours….get the fuck outta here because I'm not buying the horseshit you're selling.
And if you really want to know what sets me apart you may want to ask my man…he had a helluva answer when I asked him…maybe I should ask him to chime in on here…although I doubt he will get into this whole blog wars phenomenon.
Let me give you an example: My boy had a birthday, he wanted something in particular, something that was a discontinued item. I was told by every store that I called that it wasn't in the warehouse any longer and I would just have to call around until I located one. I then called the manufacturer in Barcelona Spain, only to find out that they were also out. I then googled every store on the east coast…and after calling 31 stores I eventually found what he wanted. Mind you there were different variations of the product he wanted but I made it my business to find the EXACT item because he mattered so much to me. So if we're at the outlet mall and I want a fucking purse, he better say yes or he will go to sleep with dry balls. PERIOD!
Oh and I forgot to mention that he didn't actually tell me what he wanted. I sent his brother an email asking him to keep it quiet and find out what he wanted…because I wanted for the perfect gift to be a surprise.
That is why I'm worth a Cole Haan purse(i don't really do Coach for the last time), because not all women will jump through hoops like this, and for a relatively new relationship at that.
There's more depth and character to me than one paragraph on a blog represents. I have high demands and expectations because my performance ratings are just as high, if not higher.
@Humble-Wow just reading that made me kinda sad. I am wondering what I can do to help. Gee whiz, there’s that innocence and optimism Teacia was talking about. I think I’m too darn giving. Some women just aren’t ready to deal with that kinda thing. It takes a strong woman to be a man’s safe area in the storm. It’s hard to be that for someone, but when you are and they are worth it and they know you’re worth it I think you pray and get through it….
“This whole “buy me something for head” is that true bullsh*t. I mean … if I don’t buy you some shoes … you can’t suck my dick! I think I’m gonna start making the reverse demands. I can’t pay for dinner if you don’t blow me on the way to the restaraunt!”
SBM…I think you should try it and report back on how that works out for you…should make for an interesting read.
Hasani all women prostitute themselves for men…some are just more demanding than others…get over it already.
theres no depth … you extort and abuse men. period.
why do you do it? because you CAN. your overly sexually attractive and look to abuse weaker willed men that can fall for your large tits and a smile. lets be honest… goerge clooney isnt going to be buying you a cole haan. BTW… you should do coach, your not an asian teenager.
But seriously, I could walk down the street and rob the first 5ft white dude I see… dosent make it right. just because you CAN get a guy to buy stuff for you by using your sexuality against him.. dosent make it right either.
Are you any better than the men who run around and shit on our black women and abuse them just because they get a kick out of it? are you any better than the man who beats his wife just because hes bigger than she is? your using your gof given ability to manipulate another person for your own gain.
Im not bad lookin either ya know. Whats to stop me from running around princeton and having the older single black women… mothers of children who just want a young buff brotha with broad shoulders and light eyes to hopefully pay her some attention. Oh damn and im all happy and could play with the kids too… work her up and make her think she god herself a great catch for her and her kids… and then ask for her to buy me a new pair of jordans.
I can do that almost as easy as you can, I choose not to. Im not gonna say Im a saint but I dont feel using people is something I should make a habbit out of in my life.
Your kinda backtracking. If you treat your man good… thats not anythign special… your supposed to treat other people good. But theres a huge seperation between your claims of "i treat my man good and would expect him to do likewise" and saying that every man should buy gifts for every single woman he has sex with or goes out on a date with… and no woman should give men sexual favors unless they get monotary rewards for it…
how about this… Ill drive down to jax FL and you meet me at the airport. Ill write a check for 1,000 made out to cash. We will then walk into your church and ask your Pastor if he agrees that a wife should with hold sexual gratification of her husband unless he rewards her with a Cole Haan bag. if he agrees with you ILl give you the damn check and take my ass back home, if he agrees with me I want to take a picture with you holding up a sign saying "DAmn I hate when hes right" for my Myspace page.
Wait.. you think that no other woman on this blog would buy their man a gift??? you dont think nice non angry black women like Ms Deveroux would call around for a pair a sneakers her man was lookin for? You dont think blah blah can bake a cake for her man because its his birthday and not sit there expecting a gucci tote set for it?
If I peel away your face and take away the boobs are you REALLY that different than any woman on this blog?
are any of you any better than the next woman on the street?
your god created you all the same, and made nobody a more superior human being than those next to you.
and while on the topic of your god. You do nice and generous things for people because its … what was the saying again… the "good Christian thing to do."
Dont we have kids and are role models for people that are looking up to us everyday and we want to teach them …. THIS? to get over on, con and use those lesser than you because you have the ability to?
can you imagine how unsuccessful my boyscout troop will be if I told them to expect rewards for doind community service or to stop helping little old ladys cross the street because they should be giving them a dollar for it?
well hasani you started this day off with a fan club…yet u managed to fuck up your moment in the limelight.
…maybe one day you'll get a clue.
the ability to contradict yourself on a single post…
Imply that I am crazy for thinking myself the caliber of man that dosent have to pay for sex and cant get women…. then go on a rant about how many women I sleep with…… amazing.
so if a total loser like myself… an everyday black man with really no special qualities that set me apart from the next brotha you would pass in the mall…..
why would he have to buy you a coach bag to have sex with you… when he could obviously get other women much easier and just as good looking.. only with less attitude???
what sets you apart from any other black woman on this blog that makes you so special?
I still have a fan club…. you act like I dont get paid to write my opinions for thousands of American teens to read or something.
Still doesn't change that abusing others simply because you feel that you can, is wrong.
Im sorry if you turn hostile towards me just because I dont agree that the way you treat men or encourage other women to regard men, its morally wrong.
but lets be frank… Im a normal black male, the 80% of black males that are just as sexually attractive as I am are not going to pay a trick for sex. We will "settle" for having sex with someone who is sexually attracted to us insted of someone attracted to our wallet.
The other 80% of brothas like me are having sex, and will continue to have sex with other women, holding out wont change my sex in the slightest. good luck to ya in finding a sugar daddy.
here's the thing, i'm capable of cutting you down to size…and in the past would have jumped on the opportunity…but for what.
you win, i concede the point.
til' tomorrow my friend.
Whatever happened to men who handled their affairs discreetly? What happened to the women who treated them well because the knew they would never want for anything?
Something in the world is so not right.
What ever happened to sistas who stood by their men insted of cutting them down to size to appeise their own ego?
what ever happened to the desire to be stronger as a unit than your own shining star?
what ever happened to discipline of our children? Now every time I go to the mall I have to watch more and more black children cuttin up like they are white children?
why are we in a time when black men yearn to be loved and black women yearn for independence and a carefree single lifestyle filled with men whom they can call for favors but never really giving much in return?
when did it become glamorous to be a 35 year old spinster with 2 cats?
why do we care more about how much money our sisters/friends boyfriend earns and what car does he drive.. than how good of a man he is and how hard he pounds her in the bedroom?
why do we treat our children as accessories insted of a part of us?
whats going to happen to the middle class black man if they continue to outsource jobs to india and mylasia? Ill never get any head if I dont make any money…. right?
why was is a golden era when black men made all the moeny and our family values stayed secure.. but now we live in an era where the sista has the better paying jobs and somehow has also wrested control and decapitated the family structure?
why are broken homes commonplace and men leave nagging women but at the expense of childern?
why do women want everything thats not offered to them? when I was 19 all I wanted was sex and nobody wanted to give me much…. now I have the sex drive of a turtle and just want to be loved and everyone seems to just want to fuck me?
can the divide between our two factions be repaired in this generation? or should we just go our separate ways?
@HNIC: Not to say that I subscribe to the line of thought that Teacia espouses or not, but why do you seem sooooo hostile about this subject with her?? It seems it's like common knowledge that men "pay for it." Regardless, of how, or why, or when you pay for it is of non-importance, BUT it's just apart of the gender roles we ALL perpetuate. I'm sure T, like myself and many other women on here, don't have any problem cooking cleaning, ironing, washing, etc for our men, regardless of the sitaution, so I don't understand why you have such a problem with fulfilling your "role."
Also, I think that men should be willing to give head ALL THE DAMN TIME, since you're most likely going to get yours regardless if I get mine or not. Yes, you feel amazing inside of me, but it DOES NOT compare to the feeling I get when you put your tongue on "my girl." F*kc, just eat the damn pussy and, most likely I'll return the favor and suck your dick! Geez!
"Also, I think that men should be willing to give head ALL THE DAMN TIME, since you’re most likely going to get yours regardless if I get mine or not. Yes, you feel amazing inside of me, but it DOES NOT compare to the feeling I get when you put your tongue on “my girl.” F*kc, just eat the damn pussy and, most likely I’ll return the favor and suck your dick! Geez!"
AND THE CHURCH SAID "AMEN"
Renegade your twisting the original concept my beautiful southern belle .
Saying your not going to give a man head unless he buys you stuff is not part of a gender role. its getting over. Im morally opposed to bullies.
and there really are no gender roles anymore. lets be real. I dated a woman for 10 years. She couldnt cook a damn thing, she couldnt raise my garden and would kill my roses, couldnt sew, couldnt bake. And the relationship worked and the household worked and prospered.
To keep it real… YES most of the women on here would NOT cook clean ect for a man, this has already ben said.
And I am not saying I wont do for a woman…. because we all know I have no shortage of niceness and giving when it comes to people….. but saying you wont do something for a lover is wrong.
Im just as attractive to women as Teacia is to men. whats to stop me from going out and grabbin all the little moms around princeton who are raising their children by themselves after the usual divorce and are unmarried and would just love a "buff beautiful black stud" or whatever phrase you guys use to describe me. whats to stop me from havin her pay for my new P-coat….. ps3….. Alieanware computer and Armani double breasted 5 button? you think comeback has a problem with me "dating up" now… wait til Im loungin with a princeton cougar …. or TWO. Im not a saint, but I dont do this because I dont view it as such a nice thing.
I dont have a boyscout troop because I am trying to bag all the moms, I do it because its the right things to do…. and it fun, and our young black children can use it.
I didnt buy a watch for a woman because I was lookin for her to toss my salad, and she didnt get me my new job because she wanted me to suck her toes.
And I havent bought a damn thing for miss Alaska. Shes an angry black woman and loves the shit out of me. even she isnt so demented that she thinks women should with hold sexual favors. she thinks the girls on my blog are crazy, set progressive sistas back 40 years and says thats why their all unmarried.
thats comming from a sista who didnt suck her husband's dick … ya know… the nigga who gave her a $12,00 solitare and a 4 bedroom house…but does a marvelous job on the shaft of yours truly.
renegade Id worship the ground you walk on if I started dating you… thats just what I do. Im an extra large cornball with extra cheese 😀
Truth be told, I think you and give me a hollar behind the scenes. Myspace works but you could get the batphone as well… I bet you must have the most enchanting voice and accent.
But as wonderous as it would be, and as starry eyed as I would get looking at your pictures, with all the fun youd have on friday nights doing salsa and cha-cha with your me, for all the jealous stares we would get from women at my social club events as you posed for pictures with you well dressed black prince (our skin completions would photograph well together) , the 45 minutes of slow building torturous abuse you would take sitting on my face (see description above) …and as fat as I would make you from eating my Oreo cheesecake…
all that would come crashing to an end if you held out on something you would normally do as a lover and a partner just to get a reward. it would be a waste of our triumphant union.
but I dont think it would play out that way… I think you would be southern nice to me and I would be black male like nice to you… and we would get along famously.
I like the mental picture, and would welcome hearing from you… just to see if your as beautiful over live voice as you are in a simple picture.
To set the damn record straight once and for all, you're not attractive Hasani…no chic who has seen you're picture on here finds you attractive. And you are by far NOT as attractive to women as I am to men…shit or even as I am to women. Period.
"I dated a woman for 10 years. She couldnt cook a damn thing, she couldnt raise my garden and would kill my roses, couldnt sew, couldnt bake. And the relationship worked and the household worked and prospered."
…it worked until it didn't…now why exactly aren't you guys together since it "worked and prospered"…and maybe next time you need to make better choices.
"To keep it real… YES most of the women on here would NOT cook clean ect for a man, this has already ben said."
…3 women on here said that and 2 of them don't even comment here anymore…and the other recently has changed her tune…pay attention negro.
"whats to stop me from going out and grabbin all the little moms around princeton who are raising their children by themselves after the usual divorce and are unmarried and would just love a “buff beautiful black stud” or whatever phrase you guys use to describe me. "
….we use idiot, again PAY ATTENTION!
"Im not a saint, but I dont do this because I dont view it as such a nice thing."
….you're fucking multiple women, without their knowledge and you think I have a moral issue…right. men who date me aren't under any dilusions. and like i said, i NEVER have to ask for anything and i never said i withheld sex for money, but i'm not sleeping with a man who doesn't do shit for me…it's an unspoken expectation down here…i'm a product of my environment…for which i make no qualms.
"And I havent bought a damn thing for miss Alaska. Shes an angry black woman and loves the shit out of me. even she isnt so demented that she thinks women should with hold sexual favors. she thinks the girls on my blog are crazy, set progressive sistas back 40 years and says thats why their all unmarried."
…progression is overrated. and maye she should have held out until you showed some genuine interest in her…now she's caught up in this bullshit as semi-relationship…she can have that.
you're up north…you guys are big on that shit up there, we stick to our roles in the south, we're not pre-dependent, and neither are we overly independent…actually we're interpendent. you take care of me and i take care of you…this includes financially, mentally, emotionally and sexually. in my opinion the progressive sisters who are sucking niggas dry who ain't doing a damn thing for them except using them for a meal, while fucking various other women and buying them gifts is what's really setting us back is why so many man fuck around like you do.
and if miss alaska knew what you really said on this blog, trust that she would bounce your ass out of there.
"thats comming from a sista who didnt suck her husband’s dick … ya know… the nigga who gave her a $12,00 solitare and a 4 bedroom house…but does a marvelous job on the shaft of yours truly."
…and that's why her progressive ass is divorced now and fucking a man who could give two shits about her but is too sexually addicted to her to let her go, while putting her down every chance he gets and uplifting the others in his life who is doing things for. see the correlation, you haven't spend a dime on Ms. AK and you haven't had shit nice to say about her, all those other white "tricks(ur words not mine)" that you are spending money on you've had nothing but nice things to say, inlcuding the one who dumped you after putting her through medical school….hmmmm, kind of makes you wonder.
Wow. This is utterly ridiculous. I think a lot happened to all those roles Hasani. For one thing black men, including my father, were put in a bad predicament. It left the women alone at home with children to raise so they pulled themselves up by the bootstraps and did what they had to do. It worked….and from them on the demise of the black family. Once we learned AGAIN that we could go at it alone we did. It's bred inside of us that we can survive without you. We've been doing it since before we set foot on this soil. Because I bet I just bet any woman on here could go out and buy her own damned Coach, Cole Haan or simple purse from Wal-Mart and then go buy a Michele watch without Hasani, SBM or any other man.
Simply put, the women on this blog seem to know where they have been, where they are now and where they are going without a man.
Renegade he's hostile because he lacks the mental capacity to disagree without the name calling and becoming beligerent…which is a surefire sign of ignorance.
I usually ignore Hasani because he isn't able to just disagree, state his opinion and move on. He isn't able to be open to all facets of an argument. It's like he lives in this magical world in his mind where he receives no visitors.
Oh well, maybe one day he'll be able to respond like a civilized adult…until then we're stuck with this.
Jaclynn, you're response was very insightful miss lady…kudos to you. However, this reality is what I have a problem with. I think our independence has made our men because less inspired to get off of their asses and do what they're supposed to do.
I mentioned the private school fees to my daughter's father, and he said he would "help" with the additional expenses. Not waiting around to see what he's actually going to do I went and got a second job just in case. But he knows that I'm going to do what I have to to make things happen for our daughter, he knows that he can "fall short" because of our make it happen mentality.
I think our men need to know that we need to them survive, but we all have our pride, we all have our egos and no one wants to be the first to admit it. Jaclynn we do need them, but our pride is our downfall. We can do it without them but we can do it better with them.
Preach on girl. You are absolutely right, we've been too proud to stop and say we need you. I know I do and I am not afraid to say it but I am not going to tell someone like…that I need him because when you do that you are submitting yourself to some fool's whims and that I will not reduce myself to that.
"..that I need him because when you do that you are submitting yourself to some fool’s whims and that I will not reduce myself to that."
case in point…and that is the mentality we need to change.
@HNIC: You paint a really nice picture with your words . . .
If you were dating me, you'd most likely be annoyed. I loathe talking on the phone, and tend to default to text message as my main means of communication.
@Teacia: Real talk, why is there so much beef between you two?
Renegade who knows…it all just kind of started one day.
LMAO!!!! I know I am soooooo late but hey I have been busy.
This is so funny! Unfortunately, #2 is what got me to doing it in the first place. Plus I figured I should because I was a virgin at the time and I trusted him.
# 5 has happened also but we were in a committed relationship and it was just funny as hell!!
I did have a guy go down on me and the way he positioned himself put his dick right on my lips. Because I wasn't feeling him like that I just moved my head…lol!!
I can't wait till I get a chance to read all the comments. I bet its some funny shit here.