Making Love: A passionate and emotionally charge fit of sexual intercourse. Often contains a feeling of union between the individuals and ends in mutual sexual satisfaction. Performed between two people with strong emotional attachment.
F*cking: Placing a penis into a vagina. Repeating until someone (or both parties) orgasm, get tired, or just don’t feel like it anymore.
Personally … I am a love maker. I like to kiss … I like to sleep with people I have a emotional attachment too … and I enjoy all the little details and touches that go into making it all a memorable event. Goes back to me being a hopeless romantic I guess.
I might be worst than your average person. When I get really into it … I go all out. Candles in her favorite scent. Rose pedals on the bed. The same R&B I can’t stand playing in the background … all that good sh*t.
Then the act. I’m not gonna rush … ohhhh no. I like to worship a woman’s body. Let her know that my inevitable release is the last thing on my mind. Make sure she knows how beautiful she is to me. Let her know that this isn’t mere sex. Make her and this moment burn into her memory … and make sure to pleasure all her senses.
Oddly enough … this same thing has gotten me in trouble.
For a long time I just couldn’t find a true place for a good f*ck. “What do you mean your tired, its only been 90 minutes”. “Grab your hair … I wanna run warm bath water down your back”. “But how can I look at you if your bent over?” (ok … thats I lie … I’ve always loved doggie). Yeah … apparently doing too much too often just isn’t good.
So while my heart always will lust for those hours long sessions with deep passionate kissing and looking longingly into the eyes of my lover … I have finally figured out that 20 minutes on top of a table in a hotel room is whats really needed some of the time. Sometimes that quickie is all we both really need.
I think it was all those black love scenes in movies. Love & Basketball, Brown Sugar, Love Jones! Warped a young brother’s head.
So to all those in my past looking for fast & hard and got soft and long … my bad. I got better.
Do you always need that soul touching love making or can just “breaking that back” suffice?
Hmmmm..lovemaking is great but hot passionate quickies that ya know jus happen..that's even hotter..the unplanned bent over in the kitchen kinda loving
When miss alaska decided to mouth off at me during a public event… I didnt take her home and "make love to her"
no no no… I banged her like a screen door, left her collapsed in the fetal position in the bed and got straight up and walked out the door.. leaving her all alone to think about it.
ever see that R kelly video where he takes MR Biggs wife, he finds out beats his ass and leaves him in the wilderness bloody. he looks down at r kelly all battered and bruised and screams "I DID THIS TO YOU!!!"
yeah… ya gotta do that to women sometimes.
making love dosent get your point across, when a man needs to teach a woman a lesson.
Okay, coming from someone who has been committed for the last two years to the same dayum man:
A mix of both is necessary for me. We do the "breaking the back" quite often lately as we both have things to do & places to go. However, we also have our "just want to be with you all night and fudge the rest of the world" moments occassionally. Luckily our sex has never died off… we still have sex everyday (if possible)… but I think we've kind of reserved the romantic sex for when someone is really stressed out or special occassions.
So to answer your question: both quickies and romance are necessary in a relationship. Just don't allow one to take place a lot more than the other. Anything gets old if you keep doing for sooooooo long without any change or creativity.
@ Hasani – how in the hell does you beating the kitty up like a mad-man and leaving teach a woman anything????? Please share because this inquiring mind would love to know. If my man beats any part of my kitty up… it's because I requested it! All you did was make yourself look like a idiot. She probably got hers and was happy to see you bounce the hell out of her house.
"So while my heart always will lust for those hours long sessions with deep passionate kissing and looking longingly into the eyes of my lover … I have finally figured out that 20 minutes on top of a table in a hotel room is whats really needed some of the time. Sometimes that quickie is all we both really need."
AMEN!!
As far as the rest of the post goes…well I'm not feeling all lovey dovey so I probaly shouldn't respond at the moment, since my thoughts are being pulicly recorded for his personal viewing and scrutiny.
LMAO @ Teacia!
Girl, gone head and let it out!!!
We see where SBM's mind is this week lol!
I used to think it was lovemaking or bust. Boy was I stupid. I wanna leave work, get it in, and go right back like nothing happened.
@Teacia-HAHA. All of our thoughts are being recorded! But it's okay I can understand.
@Ms. Freckles-When Hasani lets you know how you could do that to a woman please let me know because I sure don't get it. I wish a man would sex as a way of punishment…then he wouldn't have to worry about getting head, cause I'd give it happily but he might end up bleeding.
@Jaclynn – I concur about the man ending up bleeding! The nerve of some of these imposters pretending to be men!
I love making love but it has to be at the right time. I don't want to make love before I go to work. If you are walking around the crib and and your ass looks like it is about to bust out your shorts or jogging pants I aint trying to make love. I
@Humble_One ~ You are hilarious dude. My dude's thing is when I'm over the stove cooking… that's when he seems to want to get it in quickly before dinner type stuff.
Yep Freckles I do believe you are right!
@Humble-Coming out of your shell, eh?
Does anyone remember the song "All I Got is 15 Minutes?" I think it's like that.
Funny thing was I WAS JUST THINKING ABOUT THIS LAST NIGHT…
too funny …too funny.
Both. I need both of course inside a committed relationship. I'm taking measurements right now for a sink interlude I'm planning. Because a man has to be a certain height to get me on the sink. And though we aren't quite there yet.
You best believe i'll be measuring his inseam this weekend….maybe I'll get Nordstrom's or Neimens to do it. LOL
Catch a fire…keep a fire extinguisher close by Ms. F 🙂
@Comeback-Wow. You are planning a sink interlude? Why can't we just let it happen? Let it flow! I think if he's determined no matter what height he will work something out!
@Ms. Freckles – I am just like your boyfriend. Its been plenty times it went down in the kitchen
@Comeback – the sink interlude is nice I think you'll like it
@Jaclynn – just a little bit. I hope I don't come off as prude or anything.
Try some patio action. Maybe it was the thrill of getting caught (being watched) or seeing the "surprised" look on your neighbors' faces when yall wake up in the morning. Hehehe…
@Neonnea – Oooooo… I did the patio a couple times. FUN STUFF. I'm sure the neighbors enjoyed the show!
@Neonnea & Ms. Freckles – what time of day did you do the patio?
@Neonnea-Try a rest stop! With the trucks like 100 ft. away!
@Humble-No you don't seem like a prude. You just seem reserved and shy. There's nothing wrong with that at all. I actually like it, because it's more refreshing seeing a man whose not all about numerous women at the same time. I am not going to say anything more right now. Thank you.*
*This is because I do not want another day like yesterday.
I cant give out all the male secrets there freckles 😉
but I dont think your angry tone makes sense…. if she was happy to see me leave and didnt want me there… she wouldnt be sleeping with me in the first place now would she.
oh and yes she got hers… 5 times……… and she knows who gave it to her too
Humble, we started around 5 a.m.
Last December I tried the handstand trick and almost broke my dayum neck. Shameful part is had I broke my neck… the BF would not have been able to help me seeing as though he was handcuffed to the chair. *shaking my head*.
Be creative… not deadly!
@Humble_One ~ We got started at roughly 11:30 pm or midnight.
@Hasani ~ you are a plum mess.
Still in a tiff. Going on day 3 with no booty. Have no comments for today.
the man in the pic looks hella nervous, lol!
@Daisy-What's up love? Maybe SBM and Humble can help? You need booty. Everyone does. And I know because if I don't get something that resembles it soon there will be serious repercussions.
I always wanted to do the patio but was scared of the neighbors would call the police. If it would have been in the city instead of the suburbs it would have went down. The closest to a patio for me would have been in a playscape.
Belle yes he does…lol. He looks very unsure…good observation.
Don't think I can get into the handcuff thing. I won't knock it yet. However, I do like the effects that ice and dentin ice can bring in the heat of passion…
haha…ya'll are hilarious. @SBM, yes love-making is all nice and good but sometimes a girl wants to be thrown up against a wall, or bent over the back of the couch, or taken at the bathroom sink while she's bent over splashing water on her face, or played with in the car, or f*cked in a bathroom at the sprint store…errrr….i think i've said too much
the patio is definitely a good look, had my first orgasm on a patio…and piggybacking off of some of the conversation from yesterday, that was when i was like 23…so as Teacia said yesterday, sex for women isn't always about having an orgasm, more about enjoying the act and pleasing someone else…it's when we get older that it becomes more about us "getting ours"
Freckles and Jaclynn, it's not rant day but I sure have a helluva one.
I hate it when my man doesn't come to my defense. Especially when we have a conversation in depth about something and he understands it. He claims to love and understand me, but I always feel like I'm going out on a limb on my own in certain situations.
If we don't see eye to eye on certain things, and we don't share the same beliefs and core values then what the hell are we doing. What exactly are we holding on to…do you really want to fuss/debate with me every damn day about something that I thought we resolved days ago. If these feelings are causing an insecurity in how you feel about me then what are we doing?
Uggggh, fuck making love!
Since you are in the city Humble, make a comfortable spot in front of your sliding door, open your blinds right before the sun come up and give your lady a combination of love making (I recommend the ice on the side) and f*ing (I recommend a little tug at her hair in the doggie style position).
Try it and let me know if that's a good substitute to patio action.
@Ms. Freckles @ Neonnea – oh ok. I thought it was broad daylight. I have seen people do it in daylight before. Well not black people.
…see I told ya I should have just sat this one out.
@Jaclynn – It's not that big of a deal. We've spent everyday together since we met. It was a little overwhelming for me and now he's trying to stay away so I miss him more. Although it IS a bit fishy but I'm trying to enjoy the time to myself (getting things done around the house, catching up with friends, going back to a regular workout schedule, etc.). So I guess this is what I've said I always wanted but now I'm not so sure if I want it. Craziness….
Jaclyn – mental note taken (rest stop action)
Teacia – *cyber hug* Maybe dude is taking the stress out on you that he has pinned up for the rest of the world; perhaps he is insecure. Are you holding on for security reasons…or maybe you just got comfortable with seeing him around. It's frustrating trying to find the next contendor especially when the game has too many new young players and definitely over rated. Your girls all booed up; you've settle for something you think you can deal with…
@ Teacia – Have you said all of this to your man? I mean I'm sure he knows how you feel but, telling him exactly what you wrote above may help drive the point home especially since I'm sure in the heat of the moment things may come out another way. Just my 27 cents.
@Ms. Freckles: Gotdamn … Handcuffs and a handstand!
@Teacia: Variety is the spice of life (or some BS like that). If your really like u say u are, and he knows the quality of woman he got, he's gonna work something out. Besides, two people agreeing on everything is boring. Me and mines don't … but we got something a lot stronger holding us down than simply agreeing on the surface.
@Neonnea: In front of the patio with some ice. Hmmmm. I got a patio overlooking a lake and have been waiting for the right time to go out there in the dark of night and … well … don't know if that is a make love of f*ck situation?
@Humble: Before my current gf, its been forever since I had someone I actually cared about. I'm all for spontaneous, but sometimes I feel like I forgot how to do a lot of things. Gotta get used to caring about one person who is actually down for stuff. Eh … live & learn.
@Daisy: Can't find some D? Did you try going outside … cause its everywhere!
@Bree: I swear I used to think I was a freak. *sigh*
@Jaclynn: Whats with girls needing D? I mean … the stuff grows like ragweed. Pretty easy to go pick you up one at ur local supermarket.
@Teacia – Woooooosaaaahhhh. I understand what you mean. However, it sounds as if you guys are just disagreeing and creating some unnecessary tension in your relationship. The best thing to do is talk it out. Communicate your feelings to him and allow him to do the same in return without yelling, judging or demeaning each other. Then have wild hard sex and let it go.
@Jaclynn – What was wrong with yesterday?
SBM – I think it's possible to do both…at the same time.
@Teacia-I put you first cause you're my girl and I like you and I want your relationship to work out. Give him time. Communicate. Let him know it's scary to feel like you're with someone but have no support.
@SBM-Well I don't want an ordinary one. It has to be prime USDA type stuff. If you are not careful you could get a spoiled one. That stinks and you can't eat it. 🙂
@Humble-All kinds of ridiculous back and forth at the hands of….yeah…notice I've been doing that alot. It boils down to black men and women not having it together when together and that's all I am going to say about that, for now at least. Hmm…btw-you are getting less prudish by the minute. I like it more and more.
@Daisy-Awww girlie…now I know it will be okay.
@SBM. I have regular D. I just needed some me time so he gave me my space and now I REALLY miss him after only 3 days of not seeing him (we still talk via e-mail/text/phone every few hours). Not to mention all this crap you're posting has got a sista all bothered. J/K – about the crap, not the bothered.
@Neonnea – I have a house so that isn't exactly going to work but regardless I will make a note of what you said. Tugging on the hair is kind of funny. I've been through that and if it is a weave i'm not tugging.
@SBM – Yes hun… I was in Detroit for Christmas for an entire week. Going 7 days without sex is unheard of in my relationship! So when I got back to town, I wanted to put it on him to show him how much I missed him. Sooooo, my looney tail creates a sexual playlist and had it on my stereo. Got some handcuffs and a chair… handcuffed him to the chair… stripped/danced for him until I was naked. Then decided I'd think I could do a handstand like I could back in high school days except on him (trying to give him head while on this handstand trying my hardest to balance myself on his thighs). Needless to say before my mouth could go down for the 2nd suck.. my ass lost balance and tumbled I went! LMAO. We both laughed hard as hell trying to think of how we would have explained that to the paramedics had I actually got hurt! He was loving my effort though. I need to get my ass in the gym! lol
@Humble_one – try the car while driving (if the woman is petite enough).
Freckels… Im not a mess or a plum. she was a mess actually.. I was quite fine afterwards. thats just the way it goes and is the beauty and power of sex.
Teacia: I dont understand… miss er comes to my defense and she is somehow using me.. so isnt your man not comming to your defense and taking your side… "un using" you (I'll take using your logic against you for $200 alex)
real talk….. we WONT see eye to eye on all things.. we WONT always have the same core values and beliefs… we are not your clones we are your mates. I spent 10 years with a woman I had not a single damn thing in common … except love. I loved her everyday more than the next, but we didnt have many of the same core values, seperate religions, came from separate social classes… hell we didnt even eat the same foods :p We arent really out here to date our clones. But you are right, it would be nice to have a "partner" who stood on your side even when she dosent agree with what your saying.
I ask god every day for aother sane healthy woman that will be unyielding and true partner, because thats how I think man and woman work best……… but then again wtf do I know.
Daisy. Men and boys both need our space. its not that we dont like you guys and not that we are cold insensetive bastards…. because the black man is perhaps the most compassionate and loveable creature on the earth….. but the key to landing your man is based on spacing. We went over this before. Ya gotta know when to be up his ass and all huggy and also know when to go two days with only a text msg to say hi and update him on your whereabouts.
@Neonnea: I don't feel like I'm settling…I think he's a great guy. I just feel like we're on different wavelengths at times. Sometimes I think the distance between each wavelength is too great. And I just want to know that he has my back, regardless of how much he disagrees. I'm not holding on for any other reason than how good he makes me feel, my heart smiles when I think of the greatness of his heart…I just wish he saw the same in me. *omg, let me find out that i'm actually tearing up ova this nigga*
@Daisy: yes I told him, but he's hellbent on driving his point home so much that he doesn't feel the pain in my statements. he's not use to doing things a certain way, and even in my patience it seems like we're getting nowhere. he's definitely trying…and i do mean that in all honesty…but i find huge shortcomings in a man not standing in defense of his woman, especially if i'm just being misunderstood.
@SBM: what is that? and two people not agreeing on just about everything is destructive. if you don't agree on the surface, then what is it that you could possibly have that holds you down?
OOOOH! Has anyone had upside down 69? I am interested in trying that!!!
@Humble-Your backyard should be used at all times.
@Ms. Freckles-I did try it in a parking deck during the busy daylight. I ain't even petite but it worked out oh so well! Talk about deeeep!
@Jaclynn – I meant while he's driving!!! Tried it on rte 50 in Maryland a couple months back. I was scared and orgasming at the same time!!! lol
And yes I've tried the upside down 69, it's more work for the dude to hold you up than it is for you. But it's fun!
Hasani here's the difference, my issue was a theory, which can neither be proven nor emphatically disproven. it was a conversation that required depth and knowledge of one's history, and understanding of one's culture and certain current cultural trend that are practiced at home and abroad to fully understand, one which he did.
yours was a fact, you were incorrect about your fact, you could look it up and with definance say no sweetie you're wrong.
if i was arguing that the sky was in fact purple, and he jumped up and she's right, i don't care what yall say she's right, then that would not be him aiding in my defense, that would be him feeling pity for me and steering the frey away from my obvious incorrect assertion…which is neither warranted nor is it healthy. if i am wrong in definance, i am wrong…and no man should defend that.
Ms Freckles you takin a little too far…State Troopers on 50 going to DC like CRAZY…there isn't even a line item on a ticket for driving while "gettin off"…Why not pull over. Put your hazzards on. Light them road side "candles" (for extra light). And be safe with it.
My only disclaimer though is this is NOT for longer legged women. Even in an SUV your right leg near the drivers door WILL be smashed. no two ways about it.
@Ms. Freckles – I tried the car. I had a Bronco so it worked good. Didn't go all the way through because the police came around. Once again I was in the suburbs. I have done the movie theater though.
@Jaclynn – I'll make a note of that. I have done 69 that way.
@Comeback – It was something the BF recommended and wanted to do. Cars were driving pass us and his windows were not tinted!!!! Granted it was nighttime… but you still tend to feel like the world is watching.
LOL @ no line item!
PLUS… where is the adventure in pulling over? Everyone can do that!
Ms. Freckles well why not something that still has elements of danger and getting caught. How about a late late movie….when you have a bunch of people spending the night and they are sleep…but you and he are doin it somewhere close..never mind. Im telling my bizness
I personally like both depending on my mood…. the two are not mutually exclusive. Making love is fantastic, but sometimes you just really want that back breaking, hair pulling, name calling, down and dirty fuck. Or you don't feel like going through the whole production of love making and just wanna get that quickie in and get on with life. Each has an appropriate time and place. I'd get bored with a dude that was only on one or the other. Be versatile!
@Teacia-:( You are very right. I think when it is something that he feels passionate about whether he agrees or not I think he should not let you feel like you are out there all alone. But only to some degree, if he disagrees then I think he should make that known and noticed but with you behind closed doors. There's just got to be a foundation built.
@Freckles-I am aware. I was offering a safer suggestion lol.
@Humble-Hmmm…I should come to Detroit then lol?
Teacia, chin up girl. Had to play devil's advocate for a minute with my initial statement. However, I know what you are going through. Once upon a time, my dad didn't stand up for me and it hurt me to my heart. Now, I get accused for being too nonchalant, too prideful. If my own dad didn't have my back, I assume some random man wouldn't either; no matter how good he is to me.
Teacia.. theres actually no difference… only where your standing and where I am standing. everything looks different to a black woman who is thinking about a black man with a white woman, its skewed in some haze of anger and movie type evil music plays in the background…. and when a woman thinks about herself and her own life its rose colored. The situations not only fundamentaly the same the instances are the same.
You dont have to be a philosophy phd to deduce this my black queen, god gave you the sharpest wit on the planet. but enough finger pointing and one uping eachother…. I gave you a resolution already. heed it or not, it is your own.
Upside down 69 would require a woman not to be fat and a man to have a strong upperbody…. so I think if I say I have done this someone is going to start a flame war or something sayin I prob did it with a white woman who had the body of a 5 year old boy or something and say how im an asshole because I didnt buy her a tiffany bracelet for having my cock in her mouth….. cuz thats how things are going these days here.
But yes I actually did the upside 69 this weekend. We were falling off the couch, her neck and face were red as hell from the blood rushing to her head, it was not as steamy as you would think. I still prefer a woman sitting on my face type of 69, while laying on my back.
For you people who want a little kink. A local couples club is a great thing to try. Im not saying go and fuck everyone… not a problem if you do… but the majority of people go to couples clubs to watch others have sex. You can get dressed up in something ultra slutty that you prob couldnt wear anyplace else and go and flirt and have conversation with other couples and get drunk with your man… and then put on a show for all of the people because at a normal couples event there are 60-70 people and 10-16 in any given room. people will always ask before trying to play with you and you just say no thanks, swingers arent monsters.
depending on how confidant you are in your ability to put on a show, would depend on how lard of a room/audience you want to be in front of. Trust me, watching, hearing and smelling the musk of others engaged in lovemaking is such a thrilling and different thing… your man will want to go back…. trust me.
@Jaclynn – lol. Yeah you can come here. On second thought give me about 2-3 months. I am back in the gym. When I did that I was in better shape. My ex wasn't big but she had a flat stomach with thick legs and wide hips so I know I don't have the stamina to do that now. When I did that I was running 5 miles a day and lifting weights.
@Hasani – dude… a swingers club is not "sexy". That's some gotta be beyond freaky so what the hell type stuff! There's one in DC on U street (PURE) I think it's called now. I've never been — but my girl said her and a friend accidentally went on a Saturday night and to their surprise found it to be the most weird thing they've ever seen. Guys can only get in if they're with a woman.
I think if your in a relationship…you always have to try new things…altho, back breaking ain't knew…but you get my drift.
Worse thing that can be said about why a woman left a man or a man left a woman…
"They bored me in bed!"
@Hasani – I have no problem giving space. But when your space is so you can clear your head and gain closure about a woman you were once in a TEN YEAR relationship with then it makes me a little nervous. Not that I don't want him to get the closure he needs because I understand that in the end it will help us. I'm just saying – I gotta be a pretty secure woman to be cool with all of this. **walking away while grabbing my imaginary cajones**
@Hasani-Well thanks…just thanks. Let me starve myself now. Maybe it was with a white woman, maybe it was Miss Alaska, maybe it was RuPaul, whatever. Get yours, but please get tested I wouldn't want you spreading STDs.
@Humble-Haha…that will work. I will work to flatten my stomach and you work in the gym and I will come up there, but won't it be cold? Ummm…I don't think I have enough coats, scarves, etc. to keep me warm…Furthest north I go like that is Chicago and I'm always cold. I digress. Yep…more and more…more and more….
@Freckles-You are right. Swingers clubs…unsexy.
HNIC: Mia Lovely ain't no small chick…and I saw Justin Slayer pick her up and sling her around and 69'd her something….gooooood… and she was putting in work too.
I have a "madness" library…and I think I start off with Mia and Justin scene all the time…lol
I agree with Ms. Freckles…there are clubs and people's homes even that are doing this swining thing. I heard though that the norm is to PARTICIPATE not actually go and look around.
Thats where I personally draw the line. I think too much confusion gets started with wife/girlfriend/husband/boyfriend swapping. So what happens when you run up on somebody who pleases you more than your partner. It just is not a healthy alternative way to please. There is too many other things that a committed couple can do than introducing other people into a situation (even minus the vouyer stuff-cause like I said, most of those places EXPECT you to participate).
my opinion and for me. Now if two mature adults can compartmentilize everything emotionally and phsyically–then rock on. But I've never seen this successfully done without problems down the line.
depends on which swingers or couples club you go to ms freckles…. dont confuse swingers clubs with couples clubs… The one I went to you not only had to have a mate (no duh) but you could never come back again without that partner. which I thought was DEEP, but touching. half the night was chating with other couples in their 30's about home, kids and what not. and strip poker, strip spades. watched others have sex in few rooms and went home and had sex.
It was sexy to watch others have sex.. if your friend thinks its wierd… then its not for her. I think B&D S&M is wierd… obviously not everyone agrees with me. I seriously cant knock any man for what he wants to do with any woman behind closed doors. if you wanna wear panties and stockings and have her wear a football players uniform… I cant call it wierd, since your doin it with a woman.
So to each his own. but i love hoe you can shoot down someone elses OPINION… especially when youhave no first hand knowledge… thats a winning attitude if I ever saw one.
how about we all just have sex in the missionary possition and in the bed and leave it vanilla then
comeback.. its not the norm to participate. I think Ill take my visit and first hand knowledge over your 2nd hand knowledge any day. this may come as a shock to you….. but your wrong (ooh that felt good to say)
oh and justin slayer is hardly a normal sized man. the guy benches 350 for christs sakes. I could swing mia BANG and olivia o LOVELY around too if I upped my bench by 100lbs
@Neonnea: Yes, Yes, Yes to the pulling of the hair!!!
Um, I think I'll take "F'n for 500, Alex!" Who doesn't want to make love, but that would obviously require me to . . . be in love with someone other than myself. I think you can still enjoy the intimacies of making love while you're just having sex.
SBM's post has sort of made me miss having sex with a man I am in love with . . . dang, that was the best ever! I'm much more willing to venture off into some random kinkiness when my emotions are involved. A man won't get too many no's outta me. LOL!!
@Hasani – you made your opinion known as did I. So why the sensitivity? Let's grow up shall we!
And thats exactly what I'm talking about. we can all make our opinions known without venturing back down the rabbit hole.
The picture looks like 2 men . . .
LMAO @ "the picture looks like 2 men.."
I was thinking the same thing!!!
@Jaclynn – lol its deal then lol. Where are you from? I understand. My family from the west coast don't want any part of Detroit in the winter.
@Ms Freckles & Renegade – Its a man and a woman. Its just that ol' girls caesar is cut tight as hell.
@Humble-I am a Birmingham native. I am doing my thing in New Orleans now. I can't say I blame them. Although I've only been to Detroit once and I can say I liked it, now Windsor on the other hand was a totally different story I got accused of soliciting. Yep-kinda tarnished my views. Maybe you have turned my views of the city around.
@Renegade, etc. – I was thinking the same thing. Two men…maybe that's why one looks so nervous.
@Jaclynn – Oh your from the south too. It seems like most of the women that post here are fro the south. How do you get accused of soliciting in Windsor?
@Humble-Well I was standing in the hotel and like the bellman spoke to me and when he did the lady at the desk accused me of soliciting. I was young and very upset. I couldn't believe it. Haha. Yes, southern women are the greatest. So I am kinda curious about you….I'd sort of like to more…at the risk of being…shocked.
yay! If a love connection results…I'm a believer! Kudos to SBM for hooking people up via this site 🙂
See Renegade, it's not just me…he just doesn't know how to get along…nor does he care to know how.
@Jaclynn – How do you get accused of soliciting by just standing in a hotel? How were you dressed? You can IM me through MSN. I could use some company at work.
@Humble-Just standing there dressed normally. I was super young but I am sort of endowed. Anyways…ok…I take it your IM name is the same as your name here but @ msn or hotmail:?
@Jaclynn – Thats crazy.
SBM, I nominated you for the "Blog To Watch" category
http://www.blackweblogawards.com/categories/index…
or humble can shoot you an email from your site and everyone doesn't have to know his business…i swear u kids can't do anything discreetly!
yeah Belle it slipped my mind to mention it this morning but i nominated him in like 10 categories…lol…i just couldn't pick one.
@Teacia-I swear I was thinking the exact same damned thing. But I got caught up with something here before I could say it. Yes, that he could. Good thinking.
@Humble-Can you follow Teacia's advice? Click on the blog and I'll get it there.
@Belle-I am gonna vote!
wait… what!? same shit happens everyday. Blog post… Hasani makes a comment about the topic, other people comment. Hasani makes an opinion, you attack Hasani. Me re stating my opinion is not attacking you… you telling me I am wrong is attacking me. thats all ill say on that.
Speaking of sex… I just met my FIRST american born black female that works out… today at the gym. OMG pretty hair. I was so excited to have a sista starting out doin the workout thang. 30lbs and she would be unstoppable type sexy., and I would/will totally date her since she said she just broke up with someone. I havent been on a date ina while either =(
would women have sex with a man with a cute face and nice hair if he had a jacked up body or do you guys need that whole package?? (thats saying he has an ok personality in both cases)
@HNIC: I recently tried to date for personality and found that I kept looking at his "pear shaped" body and knew that it couldnt go any further. Shallow? Maybe Progressive? Definitely.. I kinda felt bad but I just couldnt get over his build. I also hate hairy men
@Humble-I set it to have my an option to e-mail under view my profile. There ya go. Look forward to hearing from you.
@Hasani-I think because the way you say things can be abrasive. Everyone's opinions are welcome here but you can say very inflammatory things. I know personally I get to the point where I am unsure of why it happens.
@Jaclynn – I sent you a email.
@HNIC:
"would women have sex with a man with a cute face and nice hair if he had a jacked up body or do you guys need that whole package?? (thats saying he has an ok personality in both cases)"
Um, I think I have stated this one before, but I find it extremely difficult to date someone if I am not physically attracted him. He can be a 7 or so in the face, but I need a spectacular body to look at. I love a good personality, but who doesn't? A man who can make me laugh and understand my humor, mostly as cynicism and objective observations, and not hate, can easily win me over. I don't care about the hair; just keep it nice and neat.
dont care about the hair?!?! but thats my best feature!! Ima cry.. Ill never get my renegade now 🙁
I was planning on watching the mets play the astros too. come on Renny baby… Ill buy ya some crackerjacks and a warm pretzel.. my treat!
OK, heres the 20 dollar question that we toss back and forth at the gym. which body type is more appealing? the physically imposing 6'1 225 brotha with the 55 inch shoulders… or the sleek 6'1 190lb brotha with the 6 pack and V abdomen?
the young guns at the gym keep saying they want to look like me and eat peanut butter and jelly sanwiches to put on weight, I am trying to look like them and go from 230 down to 190ish.. sigh men are never happy with what we have since we never know what ladies like.
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@Hasani: Can we not have Renegade turn into another Comeback. I mean … she seems to only acknowledge you every once in awhile and looks like she took down her picture after some of your comments. And while you have turned into a potent p*ssy getting machine, telling a girl your touching yourself to her picture aint gonna do it.
Please stop disrespecting Renegade and Teacia with all these overtly sexual comments mixed in with hatred. Its odd. Also, be nicer to the women here. I'm a serious anti-simp person … but treat these women with respect.
@Renegade: Thanks for not encouraging him too much. I am gonna need you to post some more screw links up here.
@Teacia: I hope your situation with your man is going better. Like I said earlier, I haven't been with anyone in so long its just hard sometimes … but I know mine is worth it … so just gotta work it out. Giving up is the p*ssy way out anyway. Go home and humm on his balls … bet he'll be sorry.
@Jaclynn & Humble: Hope ya'll make a good lil connection … but if ya'll turn into Hasani and Comeback I'm going to shut this motherf*cker down!
@Belle: Thanks. The love is appreciated.
@Jolie: Am I one of the few people in the world who are obsessed with looks? I mean … sure u can't be ugly … but a good personality always adds liek 2 points (yes … two whole points) to someone's ranking.
@HNIC: Well, I have curly hair, so if for some reason I procreate with the man I am involved with, my kid will likely come out with something that is manageable; that's pretty much my only concern when it comes to hair. If you're hair is your best feature, what are you going to do when it falls out? LOL! Actually, I like REALLY big men, 6'3'' (min) and weighing in around 250 or more (depending on height). Generally speaking, abs are nice, but a flat stomach with some type of definition is cool, but I'm not gon' lie, a lil flat belly is cool too. If you're 6'5' and weight 315, it's kinda hard to achieve or maintain a 6 pack.
Oh, and I don't eat cracker jacks or warm pretzels, or most any other snacks for that matter. If I'm at a sporting event, I'd rather drink my calories (beer) than eat them. Thanks for the offer though. lol
@SBM: Thanks, but I'm not really bothered by it. If that's how he chooses to get his rocks off, then so be it. It's a personal goal of mine to be at least 7.5 out of every 10 men's fantasy. 😉 LOL!!
I'll find some more links for you . . .
LOL…SBM he'll be getting no head in the near future.
Oh and Renegade you're not bothered by it YET…trust me, give him some…it gets old pretty fast.
Oooooh Jaclynn and Humble must be getting their macs on behind the scenes…seeing as how they've both gone missing in action and all.
"Jaclynn and Humble sitting in a tree…k-i-s-s-i-n-g…first comes love, then comes marriage…then comes the baby in the baby carriage"…lol…oh how I humor myself. 🙂
I am not missing in action. I am so right here.
@SBM-I am glad you finally said something about Hasani's behavior. It was getting very off-putting.
@SBM: I dated him for his personality alone which says that I just dont go off of looks. He was nice looking just didnt like his "shape" hard to explain. Like renegade said,
"I like REALLY big men, 6′3” (min) and weighing in around 250 or more (depending on height). Generally speaking, abs are nice, but a flat stomach with some type of definition is cool, but I’m not gon’ lie, a lil flat belly is cool too. "
I totally agree. It was just something about him in particular. but he is still around. I was honest. Told him how I really felt and he respected it and actually told me he is working on it. so we shall see.
SBM you make me sound evil..
oh and that was nice how you stuck up for Teacia and Renegade.. the girl of yours must be a good influence..
oh shit…let me try that again…Renegade give him some TIME…lol…it gets old pretty quick.
whew lawd, i almost had a stroke when i reread that comment.
@Teacia-I was thinking I know she didn't wait…I was researching…I thought you were drunk 🙂 BTW-Not sure. I was wrong though earlier.
Jolie that was nice of SBM wasn't it…too bad someone else had to be disrespected before he said anything…hmmm. oh well…i'll take it how i can get it.
Jaclynn…girl I was like hell to the naw…let me fix this right nah!!!
What is the story behind the beef b/w HNIC, Comeback, Teacia, and Renegade? Why is there so much animosity b/w them?
@Teacia-Wow. I am speechless. This has been interesting.
@Humble-Good question and ????? what happened to you?
@Jaclynn – still here
Humble for clarification, there is no beef that Renegade is a part of.
Everything else requires a backstory that will only rehash a bunch of mess that needs to remained buried. The three of us just don't see eye to eye on a lot of things. Wounds take a little time to heal, even when inflicted in cyberspace. It has caused people to leave the blog and never return, some to leave for small periods and others to just fall back altogether.
Just like any family, we have our problems, our falling outs and our healing moments…we've yet to heal completely and it shows. But we'll be fine…if we can all learn to respect one another, and voice an opinion without an indirect or direct attack on someone's character. There's only one person left who refuses to grasp this kumbayah notion.
But that is all…nothing to write home about…anymore anyways.
@Humble-Ok…I tried your MSN. I think. Did I have it wrong? I won't say the name I see…but I hope I typed it write or some guy is getting terribly mean and bitchy messages j/k….lol….I was actually going to sit and talk but every time I have sat down I end up back in the car again. Please forgive me. 🙂 Maybe I shall make it up to you on my trip to Detroit. Even upside down I bet it's fab…ok…let me stop lol…
@Teacia – I see. I was just wondering where the hostility came from. In my mind I wondering how people that are strangers could beef so hard. I thought maybe everyone knew each other outside of this blog.
@Jaclynn – I will shoot you an email before I leave.
@Humble-That's the exact same thing I thought I was thinking they were gonna hate me but when I needed them there they were.
Humble there are a few of us that have become friends with folks outside the blog…from the looks of things though I think I may be leading the pack and connecting the blog strangers to one another all at once.
Have you ever walked by a white guy and he called you a n*gger…yeah well it's the same feeling. You don't have to know someone personally to be disrespected. Things had calmed down considerably, the vibe was positive…but old habits die hard I guess.
If you really want to know what the real deal is, go back about a month or so from now…hell better yet 6 weeks and just start reading…trust me you'd actually be amazed at how far our little triangle of love has come.
Jaclynn…how could we not love you…who ever else would have posed an upside down 69 question…you get the free annual membership pass for that one alone.
True, true. Trust me Teacia…I am full of such questions.
Ok so Humble you got me curious as to when it all make a left turn for the worse…if you got a few days start with, "All She Needs…Two Things."…that bad boy is 321 comments…so it may take a minute…and the next 5 should explain the dynamics.
Enjoy!! It kind of made me nauseous going through it all again.
I did notice how much I've changed on this blog since then, it's almost as if I've been negatively influenced by the cynicism and have lost my true self somewhere along the way.
…maybe it's my turn for a sabatical to regroup…yep it's my turn.
Love making? Love making is great.. and it's wonderful if the situation calls for it. (honeymoon sex, on the jamaica beach sex OR you're my 1st love sex) But for all those other occassions that says I need a nut? Ya gotta slip a spank on her ass just to let her know that this ain't love making. Now I normally do that around the 12 minute mark..22 min .. and again at the 33 & 49 min mark. The key is to do it firmly enough to get her attention and yet gentle enough that she won't call the Po Po's on ya. But everytime ya spank her ass ….she'll no the love making has stopped.
And just for the record.. nothing says quickie Fukk Like a 28 min session on the hotel sofa..while watching espn! Yeah..i never ever miss sports center updates..lol
@Ethan: OMG, I feel you on the Sports Center updates. I literally have to say, turn the TV off, otherwise I'LL keep watching the ticker and listening to the commentary, EVEN THOUGH they keep looping the same stuff. LOL!! Ooooh, and don't get me started on the spanking . . . LOVES it!!
@Humble One: As T already stated, there's no beef on my end. Matter of fact, I just recently asked the exact same question. However, it seems to be the case that whenever T and I agree on something (most likely because we share alot of the same southern values and ideals), HNIC gets kinda reckless with his cynical words and flawed rationale. It's entertaining nonetheless.
@Renegade-See for me it's not sports it was soaps. I once did it during CBS Daytime and watched tv the whole time….I even tried new positions for the sake of seeing TV. SAD. He didn't care though so ha! I am glad you have good southern woman values, in no offense, but they are the best kind
Well put Teacia…I don't have any beef. I go to sleep at night in peace and feel good about the shyt. I KNOW you IS comin to DC and maybe oneday we'll have a reunion, but for now we just meet here.
I also wish Hasani peace as well. And I hope that some of the projecting will simmer as well. Im still feeling high off this dam#n eclipse and I'd like to keep it that way.
***can I take yall down this planetary road with me***
thanks…anyway eclipse's have a way of testing people, relationships (and even my dear Betsy Mae)…but on the other side is perspective…
i go in peace yall…namaste NINJAs. LOL
…not coming to DC anytime soon…sorry Comeback. however, if that shall happen to change i'll keep you posted…i'm genuinely interested in hanging out…i think we have more in common than we don't.
you know, the next solar eclipse is in 2017 AND it'll be over North America this time…u won't have to be on the tip of Maine to see it like you had to this time around. i don't know, maybe we'll have a better chance of the energy rubbing off then.
True dat. I had my pin hole projector telescope ready like a mug. God 2017….
I'll be 30. Hot damn!!! I should have a party.
SBM… dont hate nephew… appreciate!
Renegade: I will have to abduct the mets mascot before next they go to play the astros. never under estimate the creativity of us men that are single, we are half loco anyways.
Teacia: do you REALLY think I wont be getting any head in the near future? how about we have a race… see which happens more… the number of times I get head this year and the number of expensive gifts you get as rewards and bribes from the men you seduce…….
we can bet 1 paycheck on it… which gives you the better reward by the way.
You can tell yourself Im not attractive all you want.. you already said I was (oh the warm fuzzy feeling I get from recollections)
someone say party in DC? Im soo down. I work 7 days a week though, so I would need at least a weeks notice 😉 but since SBM has to remain anonymous he can pull a "charlie" from charlies angels and be sitting in the background watching everyone interact but we wouldnt know who he was…..
6'3 250?!?!?!? how about if we bench 250 insted?
ya your talkin about bulky types, they usually cant maintain a 6pac. Theres just too many brothas I see that look great in a wife beater but bad with their shirt off. I am in that category. Workin hard to try and lean out… but DIZAAMN dats one big nigga you attracted to 0_o!
Ima have to place a call to me boy Barry Bonds
@HNIC: I don't know if it's just me, but whatever you said doesn't make sense. Normally, I can decipher your thoughts through the litter of misspelled words and the occasional misuse of proper grammar, but I read and re-read this, and I still can't get it . . . or maybe I just don't understand whatever message you are trying to articulate. I dunno.
Yeah, pretty much all the men I have dated within the past 6 years range in height from 6'3" to 6'7," and weight, 250 to like 330 . . .
Hasani please ok…first off my response was directed to SBM about my boyfriend…i'm tired of telling your ass to pay attention. I wasn't talking about you, my thoughts don't constantly revolve around goofy ass…although yours seem to always find their way over here.
And check the record please, I NEVER stated that you were attractive. I said that you weren't hard on the eyes but definitely not my type.
Get it together already…geez.
you all are great! THIS HAS BECOME MY SOAP … AS THE SBM.NET TURNS!
@Asshole-Could you please learn to read? You are reading the fabulous blog that SBM has created. You are the complete and total antithesis of the type of man any woman in her right mind would ever in life want to be with. I would thank you to get your shit together first and worry about the rest of us last. Because while I am sure you think are the shit you are really just a piece of shit.
Please stop disrespecting the women of this blog, SBM and Humble (the true nice guys) and most importantly yourself. Please crawl back into your hole and leave us alone. When you realize your purpose perhaps then and only then will you become truly happy, healthy and whole.
Thank you and have a nice night.
Teacia: Uh-huh…. talkin to SBM… well then pardon me.. but now your talkin to me, so ya… I think He will be getting head.. so will I… so will humble, Lion and Buffalo and all the rest of us single black men. Its just part of sex today that happens to go on.
And your right… you never stated I was attractive… so just tell me Im not 🙂
I cant stop you from being cute enough to use men… you cant stop me from being cute enough to date and be goofy. no skin off my back.
Renegade… it was me making a joke I will have to trade places with the mets mascot (since I am in NY) to catch a ride to the astros game (since your in texas), Should never use sports references for jokes with women… mental note.
Why cant we be Dynasty insted of as the world turns? was totally the best soap ever.
@HNIC: Oooh, I see. You were waaaaay off with that one, which explains why it didn't register on my radar. Actually, I am a sports junkie, but I only watch baseball in person with beer in hand. Can't stomach it on the tube. UGH!! In the future, don't insult my aptitude when it comes to sports, because I probably know as much or maybe more than you when it comes to football; you may have me on baseball though.
Yep-even when the post is directed at him he doesn't see it. Just as I thought…he only reads what will allow him to have some drama. Then he interprets it as something totally different than it was meant to be. Personally it sounds like we are dealing with a spoiled five year old.
Renegade: I'm with you on the baseball…gotta see it live but I do love the atmosphere. Surprisingly enough I can watch golf for hours upon hours upon hours upon days. It is like watching paint dry but I can't seem to get enough of it.
Football is my thing though…I can watch it on TV, back to back and classic games from past seasons. I watch HBO sports just to keep current on anything I've missed…love that damn Bob Costas…and Bryant Gumble…and how could I forget Inside the NFL with Bob, Dan, Chris and Chris…loves it!! I'm kind of mad that they cancelled the show and Showtime had to pick it up, especially since I don't subscribe to Showtime.
Who knows…my love may stem from it having something to do with the men in tights.
@Hasani: I still love you…and I in no way find you remotely attractive, but everyone is different…sorry mister.
@ALL: Funny stuff little lady…but please don't get into the back and forth with Hasani…no good will come from it I promise!!
@Teacia-I have stated my piece. If he wants to engage in back and forth then so be it. I don't engage in foolishness with bitch ass men who are trying to overcompensate for their shortcomings both in and out of the bedroom.
DAAAAAMMMNNNNNN!!!
Wow…and on that note good night all and have a great week. I may make it back over here for a good soul cleansing rant on Friday.
@Angry LL: Damn … a bitch ass man though. Thats deep. The boy is crazy, but every once in awhile he drop nuggets of wisdom.
If we could only get him to calm down, stop being arrogant, and not make jokes about masturbating to the fine and sophisticated women on here … ya'll would love him.
@Teacia: I've check Hasani many of time … I just don't do it every time. He has gotten personal emails, public comments, comments edited, and been threatened with permanent banning. I mean … can I get half a day off.
@Comeback: Busy day?
@Jaclynn & Humble: If ya'll get married or something, I'll dedicate a whole post to the happiness ya'll found. And lemme know how that upside down 69 pans out for ya.
Damn SBM, whats with all the sex talk. Is something missing in your life?…lol
I like both, especially if we are busy. But when there is time I love the have a "Love Jones" moment.
Lovemaking is great its like speaking into each other souls without saying a word. Its like taking away all the pain and stress that person may be feeling. Its leaving your mark on that person so they dream about you. Lovemaking can never be replaced. However we do have lives to live so a quickie is all you can get to remind you to come home every night…lol
Ummm is that 2 men in that picture? It sure looks like it.
oh Renegade …, I wasnt insulting your aptitude… wasnt the mascot innuendo me assuming your general knowledge or sports and our areas?????????
I assume all sistas know everything since we are the most cunning and well adjusted ethnic group on the planet.. I may be a tad biased.
Baseball, is too expensive to watch here. Yankee stadium to get 2 Heinekens and and 2 sausages, ya hand the man $40 bucks and dont get change back…. and who has just ONE beer in 3 hours? Yankee stadium is more of a ballers date than the 40/40 club… literally.
Dont worry, forget NY , I can relocate to texas at a moments notice… I could even start to love "chipolte" sauce and "wrangler" jeans 😉
It's "Chipotle." And not too many of us wear wranglers in Houston. Need I remind you that Houston is the 4th largest city in the country, we're really not as country as you suspect. No tumble weeds around here. LOL!! Don't get me wrong, Texas as a whole (outside of our major cities-Houston, Austin, Dallas and San Antonio) is pretty country and arse-backwards, but please believe you won't see such things frequently around these parts. The state is so BIG that we kind of can't help the "country" stereotype people place on us.
@ SBM-
There are other (sub) categories.
A) With f…ing, there is no emotional attachment, no caring, it is just the physical process- ruff, rugged, and raw! However, you could married and f…ing your spouse (Keep in mind that married folk don't always "make love."). Or, it could be some honey you met in the club- aka, the one night stand.
B) By having sex, this is one step below "making love" but above the aforementioned "f…king." You might care for the person, but you don't necessarily go all out for your partner. There may be some "down south" activity, but not all the time. I think most people in a serious relationship "have sex" than "make love."
C) Now with "making love", both parties go all out for one another. All the bells and whistles are in play (no pun intended). The southern activity is in full swing. The touching, kissing, and Al Green (or Marvin Gaye) playing in the background is on point! You want your partner to be satisfied- and you will not stop until she is! "Making love" is shared with only the very best! Few are chosen, but the chosen are few.
-After Hours
Mmmmm, a lot of both does you good.
Both is good for me. Sorry so short, my brain is still going Coo-Coo for Cocoa Puffs over the thought of being "worshipped." Ha!
First of all, I am the Miss Alaska that HNIC (Hasani) loves to write about. And he's 100% full of shit.
Biggest mistake I ever made.
I knew it when I met him- I shoulda listened to myself and stayed the hell away.
Ima take my cooking and fucking somewhere else- his ass wasn't worth it.