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It’s a battlefield out here when it comes to dating!
You have women looking to just use your money and time. Then you got guys looking for nothing but sex and willing to lie to get it. Its way too easy to get caught up wasting time with the wrong person.
The first date … generally the first real attempt at getting to know someone … is of great importance. But … people have jobs, kids, friends, and personal pursuits … so who wants to waste a bunch of time and money on bad, boring, and pointless first dates.
I don’t care what any woman says … but a bad first date is a lot more detrimental for men. Not only is it a complete waste of time, but there is also the wasted effort in planning and executing the perfect date. Worst off … the wasted money. That $50 could have bout 10 lap dances (I love PG County strip clubs …) and helped contributed to some poor girl’s college fund.
So how do you guarantee your time and money aren’t wasted? How do you ensure your not stepping into the car with a psycho? How do you make sure this person is someone you will actually want to take home? That’s easy …
The Preliminary Rounds … aka “The Qualifiers”
Everyone does it even if you don’t know it. We all have some system we use before granting “personal audience” with another person.
Its just like the Olympics … if your going to invest the time and money to fly someone to the other side of the globe to represent you … you don’t want some 30 minute mile loser wearing your flag on your back as they get stop to take a breather in the middle of the race and finish behind Kazakhstan.
Just to make sure your exercising due diligence with good qualifiers to weed out the “slum joints” … here is SBM’s short list qualifiers:
Whether its Facebook, MySpace, Match.com, or just Google … the internet can be a wealth of information and may reveal little things like secret girlfriends, friendships with your ex, or the fact have 3 other girlfriends.
If you have a mutual friend … you’ve hit gold … especially if they like you more. Now you can get the honest opinion of this person from someone else. Serial cheater, disgustingly stupid, or just a chronic liar … your friend just might be able to justify or (unjustify) a first date.
Good Ol’ Conversation
Talk time is a must! No matter if you’ve employed the above. You can really get a feel for a person, get a good idea if their crazy, and possibly find out if their one of those “I don’t give head individuals” (promptly inform them to kill themselves BTW). This one is the most basic … but the the most likely to fail you (people lie!).
There it is. Before you make that “jump” … make sure your qualifying people out here. Too many golddiggers, liars, wannabe players, stalkers, and people with a different relationship age out here. And combine methods when possible … can’t be too safe.
I know some people have the “I’ll go on a first date with anyone” mentality … and I’m gonna say to shut that sh*t up now. You got better things to be doing with your time. And your not a player, a pimpette, or whatever dumba$$ term you wanna use … your just a date whore.
SBM Family … I need more. What qualifiers did I miss? What’s working for you?