Chivalry and the “old school way” of dating are hot topics here at SingleBlackMale.net. Apparently there are a lot of women lurking in the comments section who yearn for the old school chivalry (which is dead) that used to be so prevalent. They want to reminisce …
Well … SBM wants to live in the times of yore too!
What ever happened to a Dowry?
The good people at Merriam-Webster tell me that a dowry is:
2: the money, goods, or estate that a woman brings to her husband in marriage
3: a gift of money or property by a man to or for his bride
Shhhhheeeeeeeeeeeetttttttttttttttttttt! Sign me up!!!!!
From what I gather, the family of the bride would pay the husband a price for taking their child off their hands. They essentially would pay him for having to feed, care, and clothe another individual for the rest of their life. While things have changed a lot nowadays and woman are very capable of contributing to the household now … shouldn’t we still get broken off just a little bit for the fact we have to actually settle down now? Can I get a little change for having to watch Desperate Housewives now? Shouldn’t I be compensated for having to go see romantic comedies that I hate so dearly? What about admitting I’m wrong when I’m not? Its only fair … right …
Another tradition I don’t feel is commonly practiced goes into paying the wedding. At topweddinglinks.com we see what the Bride’s Parent’s take care of:
The Bride’s Family typically pays for:
The costs of the reception.
The Bride’s Wedding attire/trousseau
Invitations, announcements, thank you notes
The seating assignment chart, napkins and mailing costs
Bridesmaids, flower girl, ring bearer flowers and accessories
Transportation for bridal party on Wedding day from ceremony to reception.
All gratuities for all services: parking, security
Since no man plans their own wedding … seems fair … right.
So … I ask ya’ll … good people of SBM.net … WTF happened to the Dowry?!?!? Can a brotha get paid for getting married!!!!!!!!!!
P.S. … I’m just messing with ya’ll. FInding my Future Nubian Princess and finally being completed by someone is payment enough. But best believe … if they’re offering … I’m taking!
P.S.S. … I defintely am not trying to pay for my wedding though. F*** that … her parents can bang that one out. Mine got the honeymoon!