Love Goggles

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She is beautiful, goergeous, and just sooooooo sexy.  You look at her and think to yourself … “how did God craft a creature so perfect … and then bless me with her.”  You worship every part of her body … her well curved hips, her pouty lips that beg to be kissed, her impeccable belly button that you feel the need to visit every night, the soft skin that you love to touch and caress, and those eyes that allow you to look deep into and lose yourself.  She is the prototype in every way … and her beauty is matched by none.  You see her through those rose tinted “love goggles.”

Sad thing … all your friends with their regular “shades” see her for the 300 pound, bald headed, hair legged, abomination of nature that she really is (with a lopsided titty).

Yes … love goggles … aka the “Shallow Hal” effect.

I can’t speak for everyone … but I know for me … when I really really like someone … and truly when I love them … can’t no one tell me she isn’t a dime.  Everything about her body is beautiful to me.  Every curve of her body, her eyes, her lips, her thighs … even her p*ssy lady parts becomes something to behold.

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I have actually met a girl who I thought was midly attractive … well … not attractive at all … and then become so engrossed with her personality and being that she soon became georgous in my eyes.

On the other hand … it’s a telltale way for me to determine when I’m over someone.  I will actual look at an old picture and that feeling of “wow … your so beautiful” turns into “gotdamn … what was I thinking? I’ve got to stay off the drugs alcohol bad judgements”  Suddenly my personal Halle Berry turns into a regular low budget Missy Elliot (sorry ya’ll … she’s not cute).

Love goggles … they are very powerful tools and I love mine so very much.  It allows me to not be consumed by the phat a$$es and big titties pleasing asthetics I see every day when I’m committed to someone and focus on that special someone … because their beauty and sex appeal trump all others.

And I forgot the xray powers that love goggles give you.  If someone was capable of seeing through Halle Berry’s blinding beauty (yes ya’ll … she really is that fine) and see the true craziness that lies beneath … then they are doing their job.  These goggles will expose that firm breasted, onion booty model that just walked by for the bubble headed, hood rattish, golddigger that lies beneath.

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Do you own a pair of love goggles?

Next time … the “her body is so good that I don’t care is she is stealing from me, sleeping with my brother, and calls me gay” glasses.

Comment(360)

  1. Morning,

    Wow, I won't lie I definitely have some. In fact, I think I have used them once or twice in life where EVERYTHING about a person becomes the best thing ever. I don't know I don't think I'm too shallow but I have just a few basic requirements that always have to be met. At this point, if or when they are not I have to kinda keep it moving.

  2. "….because their beauty and sex appeal trump all others." I'm truly touched this AM. This is how it should be. For me, attractiveness has an extremely strong correlation to personality, which is why I don't go ga-ga over every attractive dude I see (like some of my friends). It's that je ne sais quoi that gets me.

  3. LMAO! You and these random blogs I tell ya!
    Okay… so once upon a time I owned a pair of "love goggles" and dated the oooogliest person I've ever been interested in. And was pissed when I found out he was cheating on ME!!! I felt like for the charity work of a relationship I gave him… he would have been the last mofo to cheat considering he's not the most appealing thing on this earth. So needless to say, I'm back to my shallow ways! May as well enjoy looking at the person if you're going to deal with them! lmao.

  4. i own an expert pair.

    something about me makes women have to opposite effect though.
    Miss alaska yesterday told me "you think your special just because you make alot of money, you dont have kids and you dont deal drugs" "take away your muscle and take away you eyes and you aint all that special of a brotha"

    hell even my mother laughed at that one when I complained to her.

  5. women are born with these…how many ugly dudes have you seen with beautiful women. one of the best boyfriends i had wasn't a looker…in fact, people kept asking me what the hell i was doing…but he was an amazing man and i loved him..still do.

    men, on the other hand…well, a few men have them it seems…i don't think it's been handed out to all of them, lol.

    Randomness: the economy is in turmoil, but i'm caught up on all my bills and sporting a sexy a$$ surplus in my bank account!! YYYEEAAAAAHHH BOYEEEE!

  6. uhhh yeah, commenting on this one will definitely make a few folks hate me so i'll just say that i had a pair but returned them for a full refund.

    men are assholes so i'm cosigning with Freckles, "…I’m back to my shallow ways! May as well enjoy looking at the person if you’re going to deal with them!"

  7. Oh yes I remember one time me and my bestie was out at a bar and we seen this fine brother playing pool with maggilla gorilla and i was like u should holla at him thats just his sister, and then they started playin kissy face i was like ewwwwwwwwwwww.

    I would take his glasses n smash them to itty bitty pieces if i ever saw him on the street.

  8. i received relationship advice from a friend a while back where he was listening to both sides of our story and trying to give us advice, when he met us he told me that if he had seen how mix matched we "looked" he would have given different advice and told him to "stop f*cking up." So again I'm with Freckles, you had ME and you messed it up…yeah never again.

    i felt as i got older that looks wouldn't matter as much, but man i'm starting to rethink that b/c even "average" looking men are becoming complete jerks and selfish assholes so why bother…staying in my lane 4 real.

  9. I don't own a pair of love googles. I can't say that every man I've dealt with looks like a model, but none of them have been mud ducks.

    I do own a pair of forgiveness (aka stupid) googles… these are googles that allow me to overlook or "forgive" certain things like: the fact that he has a child that he never spends time with, that this negro is cheap, and so and so. I've burned those googles now.

  10. @ Breelicious: but i’m caught up on all my bills and sporting a sexy a$$ surplus in my bank account!!

    *Hi-five*…Surplus? Get'em girl…I learned this morning that all money markets secured before September are guaranteed by the gov. (Phyoof!)

  11. Love goggles are great…everyone needs a pair. There wouldn't be so many single (read:bitter) folks singing the blues about, "where are all the good men/women" if everyone would slim down their "dealbreaker" list.

  12. Better Than Most, I agree I was talking to a friend of mine about my deal breaker list. Physical attraction is a big deal for me. I mean I work 2 darn jobs and when i get off work from a hard day I don't want to be like damn I gotta go home smh. I wanna be like DAMN I gotta GET HOME!! when u kickin it with someone who is only simi fine or just "ok" them love googles start to turn into wtf googles

  13. I think a man's love goggles comes with time and maturity. I have noticed amongst all of my close friends how much our taste has changed. There are women that I would give a chance now that 5 years ago I would kick to the curb. I still have my standards. I just adjusted them to fit the reality of the world we are in. Whats funny is that the more attractive I find you the less serious I take you. Me and a few of my friends feel this way.

  14. IT AINT SHALLOW TO BASE INTEREST ON LOOKS!!! cuz i for damn sure will not say 2 words to ur ass if i cant look at ur ass!!! so ive never owned a pair of love goggles…i have, however equipped myself with a broken pair of night goggles that were spray painted with 20 coats of black…that damn marius i tell ya!!! intyway…all of my fellaz have been so easy on the eye and im quite damn proud of it!!! hmmm…let the search continue!!!

  15. WAIT…just had a memory laspe…there was this one dude, who was in fact very hard on the eye…but he had dreads, and that my dear is my weakness…:(…intyway…dude was hung like a horse, mouth piece was something serious, AND his dreads were well kept…so i guess instead of love goggles i had LUST GOGGLES!!! hmmmm…gotta go find where i put those…BRB

  16. The best thing about the love goggles though is helping you completely disregard the beauty of an ex as the ugly reality of her personality and being start to show. When that xray comes out and you just see the black goo on the inside … its a beautiful thing.

  17. @Humble: "Whats funny is that the more attractive I find you the less serious I take you. Me and a few of my friends feel this way."

    Ahhh…the great shallow debate. Are attractive chics lacking "up top?" A "friend" of mine and I met by arguing this moot point. He said that he would never talk to me b/c I looked plastic, but after our initial intellectual exchange(read: all out word brawl) on our homegirl's blog(remember EKS's blog Bree) he was mildly hooked.

    I think it's an unfortunate thing the bad wrap "attractive" chics get, even by attractive men. I actually cut my hair last summer just so people could take me seriously, sad sad sad…but it worked. Although I love my short and sassy I'm starting to miss it long, and only haven't gone back out of fear of how I will be perceived again. But f*ck it, I'm going to back to who I am. I gotta do what makes me feel good about me, and if that makes you apprehensive about approaching me then it's your loss, because behind this beauty there lies an IQ of 141, so hey it's whatever.

  18. I hate to say this because I love my commenters … but I hate shallow people something serious.

    Shallow women who think their pretty (and they may or may not be) are usually high maintenance, needy, complainers, and just make bad girlfriends. As a result of learning this a long time ago … I just can't stand shallow people.

    Get your life right!

  19. Wow. I am seeing some different things here on the blog today…I think my third eye is growing…
    "I think a man’s love goggles comes with time and maturity"-I think Humble's right. I am by no means a perfect beauty, in fact, I'm rather flawed and I find that there are few men around my age who are open to it AND when I do find someone who is decent and is interested he tends to be some years older. Just my opinion

    Teena:I gots me some lust goggles too!

  20. SBM sweetie, "hate" is such a strong word. Usually there are insecurties attached with such strong sentiments, maybe you need to self-reflect for a while and work that out.

    "Shallow women who think their pretty (and they may or may not be) are usually high maintenance, needy, complainers, and just make bad girlfriends."

    …not to everyone. besides, this is a generalization and i know plenty a pretty chic who isn't this way. i for one am all of the above minus the "bad girlfriend" part, but who's to say that any of this is a bad thing. to each his own, some men like to please women and they don't mind the work that comes along with the women like you mentioned above, but if you're not one of them then she will in turn be viewed as a "bad girlfriend."

    i don't know, i think we over think this too much, maybe we should stick with what works for us.

  21. Just so we are on the same page (sorry to go off topic so much)… but what's "pretty"?! On second thought..nevermind, nevermind…

  22. Jaclynn this entire post was a shallow based post, and shallow based arguments usually tend to get nasty whether they're directed specifically at someone or not. And since my general argument would be veiwed as specific I was going to originally bow out, but now is as good a time as any.

    Good day all.

  23. I WISH i had some sort of goggles. I meet some really fun to be around women, but I absolutely cannot be with someone that I dont have a physical attraction to, and regardless of how cool I think you are, im still going to know that you arent cute.

  24. “Shallow women who think their pretty (and they may or may not be) are usually high maintenance, needy, complainers, and just make bad girlfriends.”

    well…im damn PRETTY!!! but im not high maintenance, needy, a complainer, and damn sho not a bad girlfriend…so patna STOP…ur words are sounding a lil jaded…r u???

    AND…WHATS PRETTY???: webster says artful, clever or pleasing by delicacy or grace, having conventiionally accepted elements of beauty!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    ok???

  25. ok .. yeah I think that women do have these goggles on a lot. I can admit I have worn them. I have given guys a chance that would not typically be my type physically. You know what the problem is with doing so. THey somehow get pumped up and develop and ego. they start talking out they arss and acting like they are Boris or Idris. Now Boris and Idris they can get away with a lot but the average joe I think NOT. So when a beautiful girl gives and average guy a chance he usually will fugg it up. He realizes that damn, "if i pulled her.. not telling who else I could pull" and they start acting a DAMN FOOL. It sucks getting played by the ugly dude you only decided to date cause he looked good on paper and had a good personality.. NEVER AGAIN for me 🙂

  26. Teena:I'm impressed by your artistic and clever display on the definition of beauty.

    NoMore:Hey hun…missed ya…sure could use you right about now! How was the time you were away?

  27. no…now im hahaha-ing at mystery 49!!! a question was asked…and answer was giving…no one specifically was pointed out to answer…so I sought out WEBSTER and wanted to see what he had to say…

    so thank you!!!

  28. @Jac: Hey, im good, how are you? "sure could use you right now"…you make me sound like a vibrator.

    I dont think wanting to be attracted to the person you are with is shallow. However that attraction comes, whether its there from first sight or grown through an acquired process. In a perfect world, everyone would be attracted to personality but…"life aint peaches & cream and I aint Sara Lee b!tch" (c) Lloyd Banks

  29. Hey I happen to like Sara Lee!

    Heroes, I personally don't want to be with a person that has to "grow" on me, like we talked about in a previous post it just sounds like a fungus and u know a fungus can be hard to get rid of once they grow!!!

  30. thoughts on non attractive girls:

    – Every girl knows how to make themselves up to maximize their attractivism. It's really hard to find a non-attractive woman nowadays
    – Unless she has a bad attitude.
    – Nonattractive women must and WILL work harder. Pretty McFine Fine will sit on her ass, cause she's too prissy. While Sarah Plain-and-Aiight will actually work for, and cherish what she has
    – and that carries over in bed too…but i don't have any experience with that **looks around, pulls collar**

    why…(dance step)..so(dance step)…serious(dance step)

  31. Well Teen, help me out then..since you want to get so technical…based on your OWN WEBSTER definition..having conventiionally accepted elements of beauty..what exactly does that mean to everyone (on the BLOG, of course)???!!!

  32. mystery…that aint my own webster definition…thats websters, like for real, the dictionary websters definition…page 984, eleventh edition!!!

    now hows that for technicality!!!!!

    and i cant answer what it will mean to everyone…im no mind reader or nuttn like dat!!!

    garsh im killn myself…yall watching????

  33. @Better: LOL @ Shady chest hair.

    @Comeback: You know, I never thought about that. Actually, your point makes the line funnier.

    @Mikki: Yeah I agree with you, I need that attraction established immediately. But sometimes after people get to know each other, the things that they deem "attractive" may change.

  34. @mystery: Cracking up at your use of the word meats.

    @Mik: NOOOOO. I got hair caught between my teeth once. Very un-sessy trying to remove it. LOL

  35. mystery…i personally think that everybody has that something. Something that makes them beautiful. My granny always said that there was a lid for every pot.

    But really its all relative to me. i think David Letterman is sexy as he$ll. I've had a crush on that man since I was 7. Now to most he may not be the finest man that ever walked the earth but he's sexy to me. Other people don't really have to think he's attractive. It doesn't change the way I feel about his overbite and that little cute gap. you know???

  36. Ok..you get a golden star for technicality, teen..wanna cookie too?! Anywho..that's my whole point..to get the OPINIONS/DEFINITION from the BLOGGERS…otherwise I would've sought out WEBSTER myself! I'm VERY educated but thanks anyway, sweetie…so AGAIN…i ask the BLOGGERS..what's "pretty"…OF COURSE EDUCATED people know this means different things to different people

  37. Teena: let it go, she's a bit of an ass(read: b*tch) and i don't want for you to start showing ur true colors up in here, just let it go.

  38. #Mik: Thanks doll. LOL.

    Between my lips and Jigs lips, that baby's lips would look like he is holding a wedge of lemon in his mouth.

  39. Tha absolute most.

    Whyso: Whewwww! I swear ladies must be laying you out every night

    NoMore:Nope…not a vibrator..I don't have to do anything to please them…you on the other hand….

    @Nicki:NOT Jay-Z…Welll…for purely financially shallow reasons maybe so…

    Mikki:You are too funny today.

    Comeback:Is Mrs. Callender real?

  40. @mystery: "CAN”T EVER HATE ON A DUDE WITH BIG LIPS…they can be put to good use, I’ll tell ya"

    And the same thing holds true for women with them. LOL. 🙂

  41. YES…ill take a chocolate chip cookie!!!

    oh and guess what…im a blogger, and i gave u the definition i wanted to give from my blogging damn perspective…ok??? no one questioned ur educational level or status, so dont fret, youre still PRETTY damn smart to us all, right???

  42. Good Morning Folks!

    I'll be lurking most of the day cuz I'm mad busy.

    So, I've had goggles ONCE. But, they weren't love goggles. This dude was a friend, no interest sparked until one night we were at a party and I put the wind on him and we became infactuated with each other since then. He was NOT cute. Even one of our mutual friends (more so his friend than mine's) asked me…what do you see in him? My whole thing was well we're always around each other and I don't wanna mess with a really good looking guy that all the women want (this was college so casual sex was more rampant). I guess those would be warehouse goggles.

    @SBM: I think you'd have to be around someone a lot before the love goggles turn on. How could you even initially have interest in someone that wasn't attractive to you in the first place? I can't do it. And, it's not shallow (well, maybe a little).

    You don't have to be the finest dude but I have to be somewhat attracted to you.

  43. << Givin' Teen her chocolate chip cookie. Next time, I'd LOVE to hear from YOU & your OWN definitions, not WEBSTERS. And the other bloggers know I'm educated, I'm not a new kid on the block, hun, I just wanted you to become aware but I appreciate you for acknowledging my smarts. THANKS. 🙂

  44. Teena, speak for yourself.

    I need someone to suck on more than a lemon…life's not fair.

    Can I leave the club for lunch? Is it non-celibate if it's just oral?

    Comeback, what be the rules?

    Also, does anyone find that someone becomes sexy on the basis of mind sex?

  45. @jac: No you cannot leave the club for lunch. We are like the Crips… there is only one way out.

    j/k

    I've never had mind sex…. Am I a prude?????? Well, I've had a man do it to me and I just felt weird and giggly… I can text dirty things but I can't say them.

  46. Hi. My name is Daisy. And I find Lil Wayne sexy.

    There. I said it.

    *** quickly runs back to the corner dodging the fruit, cookies, and starbucks being thrown….***

  47. Cracking up at Comeback's use of the Celibate Sweater…

    Are we like the Gentlemen's Club or that show with Monique (I forget the name?)

  48. << Use to think Dennis Rodman was cute…BACK IN THE DAY..I think I was like 1 (and before he got really weird)…so PLEASE don't hold it against me folk, for I didn't know any better! Lol

  49. Seriously, this is a horrible horrible addiction I have. I would lick all his wrappers and become a police woman.

    I've even started reading his football articles he writes for ESPN.

    I need rehab ya'll.

  50. ROTFL. "But DAISY LIL WAYNE? really??? he looks like a turd!!"

    I was not ready for that… Now Critters.. those little things that role with the spikes… yes, he looks like those.

  51. "Hi. My name is Daisy. And I find Lil Wayne sexy."

    @ Diasy…i can't hate this at all…i was on concreteloop a LONG LONG time ago talking about how cute this boy was. I think he does what a lot of really cute chocolate men do..and that is to uglify themselves with tats, bad dreads, grills..but he has really nice skin. to me that boy is kind of beautiful.

  52. << Givin’ Teen her chocolate chip cookie.

    THANK YOU…ITS DELISH!!!

    Next time, I’d LOVE to hear from YOU & your OWN definitions, not WEBSTERS.

    OK…ILL KEEP THAT IN MIND!!!

    And the other bloggers know I’m educated, I’m not a new kid on the block, hun, I just wanted you to become aware but I appreciate you for acknowledging my smarts. THANKS.

    BLAH BLAH BLAH!!

    AND DAISY…no need to run…LIL WAYNE IS DAMN SEXY WITH HIS SKINTY, COCAINE SNIFFING LONG DREADS HAVING ASS!!!

    but he's no MICHAEL DEWAYNE VICK!!! NOW thats what i call sexy!!!!

  53. Ok Mama Comeback. I am hanging in there. Grumbling about cold showers but good. Oh and Humble, where is you darling!?1!?!???

    I find ***whispers*** T-Pain mildly attractive.

    Nicki…by Mind Sex I mean like the song from Dead Prez…you know that conversation that makes you wanna ooooh

  54. @Jac: "by Mind Sex I mean like the song from Dead Prez…you know that conversation that makes you wanna ooooh"

    Aw. Hmm…. It's been a looonnnng time and my memory is starting to get fuzzy!

  55. IT WAS BEFORE all that Comeback..I was like 10 for gees-o-petes sake! Lol

    And Thanks for the response Teen, let's me know you're payin' close attention to me! 🙂

  56. @Jac: T-Pain. Ma'am. I'm revoking your drivers license and taking you to surgically implant magnifying glasses in your eyeballs POST HASTE.

    J/K

  57. @Jac: "Uh oh…any takers on having a little Mind Sex with Nicki!!??!???"

    LOL. I'm too weak for that…. Must. Resist. Now.

  58. Wow @ JAc..now c..if he licks the lollipop as good as he says, has some good d*#$, and the loot…then it might not be half bad to romp in the sheets with him…just DON"T FORGET THE PAPER BAG! Lol

  59. @ Mikki – you're so wrong for that. He kinda does look like a gremlin but hey, I loved the gremlins when I was little so maybe that explains my infatuation….

    @ Comeback – thanks for being on my side. These heffas are true chocolate lovers.

  60. If it broke then you'd be one paid baby momma. I wonder if THAT could get me on "The Real Housewives of the Midwest" series….

    **Booking flight to NOLA now with cheap condoms in hand**

  61. lmaoooooooooooo..Mikki…I love you dearly, you know that…and he's not the worst on the list that I've heard today but he's not cute either..lol

  62. Daisy: I somehow don't recommend that. Just trust me…a condom would do no good. I do not advise. NoLa…has high rates. This is why I'm celibate and only doing people NOT from here 🙁

  63. HA! I definitely have a pair of these. I usually am not one that is seriously into looks when it comes to relationships. Now don't get me wrong I love 'eye candy', but when I want something serious I tend to look beyond the surface. I use to think all 'pretty people' were kind crazy anyway (or maybe just the ones I knew). I know now that is not always the case.

    Love goggles can be great sometimes because it allows you to truly enjoy a person for who they really are.

  64. Ok, ok I kinda like R. Kelly and I know I'm young but not young enough 🙁 anyways yes him and sort of ***whispering again*** P. Diddy (whoever he is today)

  65. " pick some crushes who don’t secretely love the “Village People”

    ***hums young man there is to need to fear..i say young man**

    thats funny comeback ur a nut….

    Ok Ok I had a dream i was gonna marry sean kingston

  66. "May as well enjoy looking at the person if you’re going to deal with them!”

    Ms Freckles & Teacia – high five.

    Comeback Girl is on to something when she tries to see things with that THIRD eye. If you learn how to use that third eye, you can see right through bull. Now some folks are master bullsh**ers so you might not see right away but still keep the love goggles off/buried/in the closet until you know exactly who you are dealing with.

  67. Okay, I'm feelin' sad now..:(..since ya'll dissed all of my crushes (old & new alike) & said they like the villiage people…sighs…so, I'm off to sulk..lol

  68. Dang I can't think of any more boogers….

    Reggie Bush always has my heart. He is a young tendoroni… and he's far from a mud duck.

  69. " I absolutely cannot be with someone that I dont have a physical attraction to, and regardless of how cool I think you are, im still going to know that you arent cute."

    No More Heroes that is real. There has to be something attractive about the man for me to talk to him on that level. I had goggles on before and dated an ugly dude and that sucker cheated on me. So after that, if I don't find something attractive about the man, I'm not getting involved with him. I'll be his friend but that's about it.

  70. (i snuck on heree, on the job *lookin around like a paranoid runaway slave*)

    my love goggles are always in effect all the time. i'm one who is a sucker for personality. i love a man who is intelligent,sweet,smart and everything else that is positive on the inside,as a result……. i've dated men who werent that much of a winner in the looks dept. one day i'mma date a tyson beckfordesque dude for the hell of it but i know i wont take him seriously. my love goggels are always on and my friends keep giving me the scream face whenever i show a new dude. luckily enough i wont be talkin to anyone anytime soon.

  71. @mystery: hell yeah ma'am. Mud duck. LOL

    @given: You will never have me tearing up at the thought of the SCREAM FACE. Wow the visual on that is amazing.

  72. @SBM

    "Shallow women who think their pretty (and they may or may not be) are usually high maintenance, needy, complainers, and just make bad girlfriends."

    I dont find all the pretty women shallow. You would have to be shallow or not to bright if you dont notice how some women's attitude changes depending on looks. The more they are eye-candy the more they are high maintenance, needy, complainers, and so on. It's not their fault completely. Men relate to them based on their looks so they are partly a product of that. How many times have you heard or seen a dude be extra friendly or go all out of his way for a woman just off of her appearance. He know nothing about her but will give her the world.

  73. "Now some folks are master bullsh**ers so you might not see right away but still keep the love goggles off/buried/in the closet until you know exactly who you are dealing with"

    @ Shelia EXACTLY. Im working on mastering the art of balancing fairy dust with bullshyt detection. And I think you can do both without being an overly jaded ABW @zzhole and not being a doormat either. But again I think it goes back to doing some checks on who you are too. I've gotten to the point where alot of the bs'ers don't even see me (nor I them)-because I'm actively working on cleanin up my own shyt. the romantic victim is double played.

  74. Point well taken Humble. I'll go one step further to say that depending on how guys (in general) respond to a certain woman, depends on how she views herself in SOME CASES (cause I know women who are not HALF of pretty yet because guys have told them so, believe it)!

  75. @the Men

    Am I the only one that notices with some women that the bigger the a*s, breast, and the prettier the face the more needy, selfish, and high maintenance they are. If you could plot characteristics on a x-y chart you will see a slope.

  76. I agree with Humble but mystery some women get pretty mixed up.

    Big ass and Big titties do NOT EQUAL PRETTY lol. I had a friend who was dog (sorry God) I mean dog ass (sorry again im going to hell) ugly BUT she had some large breastesssesss and men most days didnt even see her face lol

  77. "sweet baby jesus, 8lbs, 6oz laying in a manger!!!

    LMAO…girl you are stooopid.

    Dee…pray with me cuz that ignant broad is gone make me lose wht lil religion i DONT have!!!"

    what did I tell you…you hard-headed, sometimes you just gotta let shit die. let her have her day…she's obviously in need of the love.

  78. "Now some folks are master bullsh**ers so you might not see right away but still keep the love goggles off/buried/in the closet until you know exactly who you are dealing with"

    I dont get how women always fall for the master bulls*tters. When will women realize that if a man is %100 in tune with your emotions and you have known him for a month there is a good chance he is not the truth. I know dudes that get over big time with women doing this.

  79. "Am I the only one that notices with some women that the bigger the a*s, breast, and the prettier the face the more needy, selfish, and high maintenance they are."

    Let's call this "enculturation"…you can't get mad at these chics because society has created a norm that says that if you're socially pleasing to the eye that people will give you what you want just to be in your presence. I'm not saying that it's right, but it is the very foundation that this society was built upon…not the "pretty" thing, but the basis behind expectations in this society.

    I personally am a fan of male attention because I often receive it. If I didn't get it so often then I wouldn't be so damn full of myself…so I blame yall asses for my expectations dammit, lol. But being high maintainence isn't necessarily a bad thing if you can maintain it for yourself. This all goes back to the "stay in your lane" theory, if it's not your speed please exit slowly out of the passing lane so that others can get through.

  80. B.Sers come in ALL genders, sizes, and shapes though. You have to beware of them ALL. BEWARE OF THE DOG (aka BITC*) WHO WEARS LIPSTICK! I DON"T LIKE BITCHASSNESS!!!!

  81. @Mikki
    "Big ass and Big titties do NOT EQUAL PRETTY lol. I had a friend who was dog (sorry God) I mean dog ass (sorry again im going to hell) ugly BUT she had some large breastesssesss and men most days didnt even see her face lol"

    Some of these women have the ugliest personalities. I wish I could count how many women I thought were unattractive in the face with a big a*s or big titties that act like they are supermodels. The problem is that men tell them and treat them like they are all that because of their a*s or titties. I've seen dudes do it 1st hand. They don't know their lane or position.

  82. << Will also say though that some women are SO insecure & have SUCH low self-esteem that they feel the need to believe ANYTHING a dude says. HOW MANY DUDES HAVE CALLED Tiffany Pollard (AKA New York) cute?!!!!!! LEt's BE REAL!!!!!!BLANK STARE

  83. And if you want to be considered to be a tipdrill (I think that's the correct word..isn't that a woman with a nice body but ugmo face?)…so be it but you'll neva be "PRETTY" in it's pure form!!! Dudes (MOST) say people like Halle Berry or Stacy Dash are pretty. You havin' a nice body and your lookin' like booty-crack from way back doesn't cut it!!!

  84. See…New York could be a pretty girl if she didn't have all that fakeness and such a bad attitude. In fact she would be more pleasing (but less entertaining) without the attitude. Also…I would say that women do feel that if they are attractive then men will be more likely to do what they want.

  85. "Now if I didnt know her backstory or personality, would I hit? HECK YEAH"

    @No More: Given that you DO know her persona and story…if she approached and was not actin' high siddity, loud, and crazy…would that be a diff story?

    I really don't think she's her TV-self all the time. Now her momma! I think that's how she really is.

  86. New York COULD be okay lookin' (if she wasn't so fake and didn't have a bad attitude)..doesn't take away from the fact that she's NOT pretty! And let's not get away from the topic of PHYSICAL ATTRACTION. We're not talkin' about inner beauty (attitudes & such)… just sheer outter appearance! And again, while I understand there are different standards of beauty…you will NEVER go to a babershop & hear men sayin'…New YOrk is FINEEEEEEEE (pretty or cute) the way that you would hear such about Halle Berry, for example.

  87. @Cuzzo: Yes. New York may be the only woman on earth whose personality embodies EVERY trait that I find undesireable in a woman. I actually think she was put on earth so that in the future we would meet and fight to the death.

  88. @Cuzzo
    "I bet somewhere a dude is saying Tyra Banks five-head just doesn’t do it for him."

    That would be me. Her and Vanessa Williams I have never really been attracted too.

  89. @Humble: " I do think you should grow out of it at a point. But sadly a lot dont."

    But what is there to grow out of, being high maintenance…that's a lifestyle choice more than anything, not a personality disorder.

    Neediness, some people just have dependant personalities…besides isn't that they way they've done it for centuries. Remember the women's liberation movement has only existed for the last 30 years.

    Selfishness, never any excuse for this, under any circumstances…but this has nothing to do with looks, they're a product of their childhood and should at some point grow out of.

  90. The problem with women like New York is that simps and lames f**k their head up. A lot of dudes trick and gas them up on 94 octane so they can have sex with them. Dudes tell them they are hot and they are this and that because they want to have sex with them because of their a*s and ti**ies. This type of behavior kills the game.

  91. @Humble: I've compared her to that muppet and the female gremlin from Gremlins 2.

    "That would be me. Her and Vanessa Williams I have never really been attracted too."

    Ok, so you're not attracted to them but would you deny that they are even pretty? See, I'm not sweatin Tyra on her stats because we all know that models aren't neccessarily pretty in the face (ie. Alec Wec) but Vanessa was Miss America.

  92. I kind of agree with everyone here. Some attitudes are CREATED by the very men who hate them. I come from a family where i never really saw FINE as HELL play out well in the end particularly when thats all you bringing to the table. First of all "fine" is made. Lets be real. Most women don't wake up looking like the cover of a magazine. I don't care if you're Halle Berry, Iman, Heidi Klum ..it just doesn't happen like that. It takes effort, people, magic potions.

    And i say if you got it. Use it. But big butt and a cute smile CAN'T be ALL you bring to the table. Which is why i totally admire self made beautiful women. Being cute opens doors, but know how, savvy and real smarts…keeps the door open, even when people try and dismiss you.

  93. Well said Humble, thats exactly what I think it is.

    Further more, I think its one thing to be high maintenance by your own account, but like we talked about in prior post when you are expecting others to do for you because you came out your mommies belly is a bit on the extreme side, if they want to do for u, pay your bills, fix your watches, pay rent, car note ect great, but If you are telling a man to kick rocks if he doesn't???

  94. @Cuzzo: Thats how I feel about most of the women that are shown as the pinnacle of beauty (Halle, Beyonce, Tyra). I think they are pretty but by no means are they in my Top 25.

  95. "The problem with women like New York is that simps and lames f**k their head up. A lot of dudes trick and gas them up on 94 octane so they can have sex with them. Dudes tell them they are hot and they are this and that because they want to have sex with them because of their a*s and ti**ies. This type of behavior kills the game."

    But then if I'm not mistaken isn't this all she's good for? I've seen her good and I don't for one minute believe it. I think she would embody the characteristics of someone that you'd keep in the streets but wouldn't really take home to Mom.

  96. @Cuzzo

    "Ok, so you’re not attracted to them but would you deny that they are even pretty? See, I’m not sweatin Tyra on her stats because we all know that models aren’t neccessarily pretty in the face (ie. Alec Wec) but Vanessa was Miss America."

    I would not call them ugly or unattractive they are not my type. Just because i am not attracted to you does not mean you are not pretty.

  97. But big butt and a cute smile CAN’T be ALL you bring to the table. Which is why i totally admire self made beautiful women. Being cute opens doors, but know how, savvy and real smarts…keeps the door open, even when people try and dismiss you.

    I have never agreed more.

  98. @No More: that's b/c WE didn't accept them as beautiful first, white America did and we only did what we do best, follow their lead. It goes back to the enculturation thing…and now it's even seeping into our music with videos highlighting women who are "racially ambiguous."

    Which only teaches the youth that to be socially accepted you have to have long wavy hair, light skin and slanted eyes…damn shame.

  99. "Somebody said they liked Jay-Z and his big lips."

    Cuzzo, say it ain't so. Those love goggles must have money flowing from the lenses.

    But seriously though, everybody's perception of what's attractive is different and may also change over time. When I was younger I liked LL Cool J but didn't think he was all that but now homeboy has a body out of this world.

  100. Teacia: I'm glad you referred to the racial ambiguity that is becoming standard. I definitely want my children to be able to embrace their ethnicities in the best way possible.

    Shelia:You are very right, there is lots of money flowing through some of them 🙂

  101. @Teacia and Comback
    There is nothing wrong with being high maintenance. The problem I have is with women that believe that it is someone else's responsibility to sponsor the lifestyle. And Teacia I agree that you dont grow out of being high maintenance. I was speaking more on being self-centered, needy, etc.

  102. "A lot of dudes trick and gas them up on 94 octane so they can have sex with them. Dudes tell them they are hot and they are this and that because they want to have sex with them because of their a*s and ti**ies."

    @Humble: I was about to counteract your point but you are right now that I think of it. You see in Philly there are tons of nice @sses but not so nice faces (nominated as the "most unattractive" city, thank god I'm from New York). Most dudes here notice my assets first cuz I'm always walking somewhere FAST (it's a dangerous city too). But they not on some damn you look fine, like a wine-face Rolex you just shine… I just see the heads turn. So, not being in the ug-mug club, I don't get a ton of gassing up. Whenever I do begin talking to a dude (rarely) they're always like, you must get a lot of guys coming at you. Uh, no.

    I think I just went on a tangent here. So, I'll ask the men this: Do you ever pre-judge and bypass a beautiful woman because you think she must get a lot of attn already? or be in a relationship? or shallow? or dumb? etc.

  103. i probably shouldnt but dammit..IM ME!!!

    TIP DRILL: refer to basketball!!!

    really has nothing to do with ur looks its about ur fuccn factor…for example…ill hit cuz of ur ass, my guy will hit because of ur ass…so forth and so on…therefore making one a TIP DRILL…

  104. Humble: You just like sticking your d!ck between things.

    Also, I think I am slightly high-maintenance, but like Comeback I handle it on my own, now if a man just wants to do something fine, if not fine, at this point I am more interested in the other things he can offer.

  105. @Humble: ?Shout out to women with big lips. I LOVE women with big lips."

    Thank you very much sir.

    Crazy how the things we get made fun of for as children turn into beauty. 🙂

  106. @ Mikki..i think women are sexy all the time. You were givin mad sexxy at your toastmasters debt session…

    i have graduated to Louboutin….now Kim Kardashian was givin MAD sexxy on her show that time when she had on this fitted wrap dress and red bottom heels and sole. Thats an art to look better goin and comin.

    i hope she starts to do better on Dancing..that girl is not comfortable with her sexxy doing the foxtrot..get it together kim.

  107. @Cuzzo

    "Do you ever pre-judge and bypass a beautiful woman because you think she must get a lot of attn already? or be in a relationship? or shallow? or dumb? etc."

    I do bypass them. I bypass them because I know a lot of men are willing to walk on coals and give a limb to be with her just off the strength of her looks. At the moment I dont have the patience to deal with that type of stuff. I also know my lane and try to stay in it. I would be more inclined to approach someone similar to how you described yourself in Philly.

    @Nicki Sunshine
    "Thank you very much sir.
    Crazy how the things we get made fun of for as children turn into beauty."

    You are welcome. I didn't appreciate big lips until I got into kissing. Women always enjoyed kissing me.

  108. i hope she starts to do better on Dancing..

    @Comeback: Me too! It's painful to watch. I don't think I've ever seen someone so visibly self-conscious. But, despite her shady factor, and non-dancing ability, she's gorgeous.

  109. "that’s b/c WE didn’t accept them as beautiful first, white America did and we only did what we do best, follow their lead."

    @Tea: i'd have to woefully disagree with you hun. White ppl put Alec Wec on the runway and she's not a beauty to me. If Bey was a regular person, I'd still think she was beautiful (I might say why the hell does she have all that hair on her [email protected] head?) but pretty none the less. Let's not get it twisted although the Halles, Tyras, and Beyonce's of the world are not everyone mans "type" – they are still pretty. No white person ever told me Angela Bassett was the shiznite either.

  110. @Humble: I'm definitely a kisser too… some men should learn how to enjoy that more… instead of letting it lead right to the shirt ripping off and what nots.

    @comeback and better: I agree about Kim and her dancing. I feel so sorry for her. She's so pretty and I thought she was comfortable with her body, but after seeing her dance, not so sure.

  111. "Being cute opens doors, but know how, savvy and real smarts…keeps the door open, even when people try and dismiss you."

    Comeback Girl – you get a high-five too!!!

  112. "I would be more inclined to approach someone similar to how you described yourself in Philly."

    @Humble: see but dudes don't say sh!t to me until either I begin talking to them (or they get some courage). Then after we begin talking, they're like oh, I thought you were conceited and blah blah blah, you're actually nice. I can't win! I needa move to FL with Tea where the guys are free with their thoughts and their discover cards.

  113. Nicki&Humble:Have you guys ever had anyone say they don't do kissing cause it's too intimate? I had a guy friend like that in HS he was like no…I can fcuk til the cows come home but no kissing!

  114. jac: I've never had any man say that… and I probably wouldn't mess with him if he did, because it makes me feel like a wh***.

    I've def heard people say that before… just not to me.

  115. @Cuzzo

    "see but dudes don’t say sh!t to me until either I begin talking to them (or they get some courage). Then after we begin talking, they’re like oh, I thought you were conceited and blah blah blah, you’re actually nice. I can’t win! I needa move to FL with Tea where the guys are free with their thoughts and their discover cards."

    I am guilty of not speaking up. I can't speak for all men but I feel that if I think you are attractive (especially the black man stereotype attractive) you are use to men trying to get at you 24/7. So although I approach women with respect and so on I dont feel that she will be able to separate me from everyone else. I use to approach women like this but I would get turned down like the million other dudes. After doing that a few times I started to only approach women where I had a vibe that I could win. The very attractive women i've been with approached me or put themselves in a position for me to approach them.

  116. good looking women who dont go out because guys dont approach them?

    that must be the twenty something bracket… tell them to come up to varsity.
    If I go to northern jersey/NY area the women will approach me more than I approach them. I think once you get a certain age the ugly ones know better than to try so I have dated alot of pretty women this year…… sigh and a few models of course.

    its almost as if you people live in an alternate dimension…. or the 90's or something with all your views on the dating scene.

  117. @Jac and Nicki Sunshine – I only kiss with women I have feelings for. I never kiss jumpoffs etc.

    @Cuzzo
    "I needa move to FL with Tea where the guys are free with their thoughts and their discover cards."

    Thats funny because I think I might need to move to Florida or Atlanta. So far the only women i've seen to really feel are the carribbean, canadian, and east coast women. I think I need to explore the south.

  118. Jac im not officially a toaster, I went to a toaster class for the first time last week and im on the fence about it. I think maybe because it was a younger group of folks. One girl told me this guy that spoke is a public speaker and very good, he made me laugh but i didn't give him a standing O or anything, so i feel like if thats as good as it gets i need to find another class.

    I can't be in a class where they are artificially hyping folks up to make them thing they are good when infact they suck lol confidence is one thing but dont flat out lie to me when u know I sound and look like a fool up there on the podium.

    I think that kinda ties into this post lol, same exact concept go figure…

    Jac are you a toaster?

  119. Today's blog makes me think about a friend of mine from high school. Beautiful girl, she was queen of almost everything, smart, etc. Never got a boyfriend. On all accounts men were afraid to approach her. And because of this, she has problems with men and questioning their reasons for approaching her. Sometimes pretty chicks with bad attitudes can ruin it for pretty chicks with good ones, just like that one dude who's an ass messes it up for like 10 men afterwards. Vicious cycles.

  120. this is funny to read…. rewing 8 months and I am called a sellout and a white woman lover because I said I like Kim Kardashian who a certain someone said was "close enough" to white even though shes not. (shape, skin color OR ethnicity)
    now your cheering for her?

    CHECK PLEASE!!!!

    jac: ya hookups get like that sometimes. just having sex is just having sex… its when you do EVERYTHING ELSE, is when you get love goggles.
    for instance, I would have backhanded any other woman through a wall for tryin to blast off on my like miss alaska did the other night…. but shes so damn good in the sack (and in the kitchen) I saw the comment for the utter comedy that it really was and I laughed at her… it was such a cute way of saying im perfect in her eyes 🙂

    ya I got booty goggles on.

  121. Something I am personally realizing about the Love goggles as I attempt to catch up on the comments and prepare for a meeting … you won't really know if you have on the goggles and I don't care what people say … but no one is immune to the googles.

    And whats so wrong about overlooking the fact that her left eye is a little lazy when this person is one of the most deep thinkers you have come across in life?

  122. @ mikki: when u kickin it with someone who is only simi fine or just “ok” them love googles start to turn into wtf googles

    hehehe…true. I don’t know, everyone I deal with romantically is attractive to me in some way. I couldn’t be with a dude who I thought was gross looking, but at the same time, I understand that I have to relax certain standards. I can put on the goggles when a guy who’s smart, funny, exciting is not 6’1 and 195-215lbs.

    However,(I know this is random) taco meat is something that love goggles can’t cure. I dated a guy once with shady chest hair and I wanted to throw up every time he was shirtless. I couldn’t take it. *shudders @ the memory*

  123. For the attractive sisters on this here blog who are always talking about men not approaching them the answer is simple and elementary:

    Make eye contact and smile. I've even waved a guy or two over who was standing at a distance CONSTANTLY eyeing me and smiling. Sometimes they just need a little encouragement to let them know it's ok.

    As far as the guy with the Discover goes, he was smiling for a minute, so I smilingly walked past him headed to the restroom(for no reason mind you), stayed in there for a minute, and then politely scurried my tail over to the bar to get my water(i don't drink).

    The smile let him know that I was warm and friendly, and the bar thing gave him the chance to open with his lead(didn't expect the credit card thing but oh well).

  124. @Humble: I eventually have feelings for all of them. So sad. And yes, I'm guilty of "making out" when someone I didn't know that well. Happens in Miami everytime I go.

    Blessing to not caught any mouth bugs. Damn, I'm typing this out and it's awful.

  125. Hasani: I know you have on the goggles when it comes to Miss Alaska. You seem to just let her get away with everything. Eh…it's cool though, I have men around that let me do whatever and they're not getting the booty 😉

  126. @SBM: i beg to differ, everyone knows when they're wearing them, we just don't care because the person makes us feel all warm and fuzzy inside. and happiness is more important than looks any day of the week.

  127. Good point Comeback & every pot has a different lid. Kudos to Granny for thinkin’ of that (I LOVE the sayings that Granny’s use..lol). ‘Preciate your feedback

  128. @Nicki: when is your trip to Miami again, i'm going to be in serious need of a vacation if i can just make it through the next 30 days.

  129. << CAN”T EVER HATE ON A DUDE WITH BIG LIPS…they can be put to good use, I’ll tell ya (but I ain’t the 1 to gossip so u ain’t heard that from me)..lol

  130. @Nicki: perfect date…count me in, my best friend lives there and it's the week before the Classic, also there's a home game that weekend so the parties will be live.

    And who knows, maybe i'll be ready to start dating again and Miami is as good a place as any to start.

    *sidenote* this diet is really making me cranky as hell. *sigh* 27 more days of this hysteria to go.

  131. "Make eye contact and smile. I’ve even waved a guy or two over who was standing at a distance CONSTANTLY eyeing me and smiling. Sometimes they just need a little encouragement to let them know it’s ok."

    this is difficult for me being out and about. Like im goin to the post office, Im on a mission, Iaint got time to be smilin over the idea of buying some [email protected] stamps. But this is good advice when outside of a nightlife setting.

  132. "this is funny to read…. rewing 8 months and I am called a sellout and a white woman lover because I said I like Kim Kardashian who a certain someone said was “close enough” to white even though shes not. (shape, skin color OR ethnicity)

    now your cheering for her? "

    ive always loved Kim, and tons of other women who represent multiple backgrounds. Eastern European doesn't exactly get the "black" stamp in my book. but whatever.

  133. LOL, Comeback you're a damn fool! if someone smiles at you is it not just a natural reaction to smile back and speak?!?!

    …ok, maybe that is a southern thing right there.

    *leaving work now to climb into my bed and wait for this horrible economy to pass by*

  134. @Daisy: I can't really put a time on it. In my "fantasy," I'm hoping I'd recognize the "one" when he comes so heck, it could be as little as six months.

  135. oh yeah I blame Mikki on the economy with her whole "write your congress person" doo dad speech. This is just the tip of the iceberg is something doesn't get signed. The invisible hand is NOT working black people, lets get with it.

  136. @ daisy. Whenever it is right. And not a moment too late or soon.

    I'd rather wait an extra 6 months, year, etc to make sure i'm ready for us to make a LIFELONG commitment. Note that this is a LIFELONG commitment. Marriage aint no joke. And many of us that think we're ready haven't grown to the point where we are prepared to fully intertwine our lives with someone elses.

    the same women that rush to give ultimatums, have children, etc will be the first ones to bolt whenever shit gets thick. For real.

  137. @Daisy: on the other hand, I dont' want to be dating FOREVER… I'm 27 now, not trying to date for 8 years and then you decide it's time.

  138. "And yes, I’m guilty of “making out” when someone I didn’t know that well. "

    @Nicki: how does this even occur? you start smooching the dude first? I'm not seeing anyone right now and I love kissing. So, don't feel bad, if I could make out with a stranger I'd do it too in a heartbeat.

  139. I absolutely concur Whyso…One of my friends gave her bf the ultimatum that he had until last August to propose. Since then he's done everything possible to get out. She's still holding on like the last life jacket on the Titanic

    Cuzzo…LOL

  140. @Cuzzo: LOL… I always hang out with a guy on the beach the last night in Miami… some nice guy that I pick out… they always seem nice.. but we make out on the beach… stay up damn near until the sunset. LOL. tradition perhaps????

  141. @Daisy – To cosign what Why So said marriage is LIFELONG. So you want to be as educated and sure in your decision as possible. I see too many women and men marry ooff of what they feel at that moment. You may love this person but do you like them enough to spend the rest of your life with them. There is no time you can put on that. It all depends on the individual.

  142. @Cuzzo
    "I’m not seeing anyone right now and I love kissing. So, don’t feel bad, if I could make out with a stranger I’d do it too in a heartbeat."

    Do you have big lips too?

    @Why So Serious?
    "the same women that rush to give ultimatums, have children, etc will be the first ones to bolt whenever shit gets thick. For real."

    Cosign. You sound like you might have gone through something similar to me.

  143. Wow…Humble there you go with the lips then again. You know what I told you earlier.

    And…it seems like a few of the men on here have had to deal with not so stellar relationships.

  144. then too, don't wait too long…

    some of us got that woman that's been holding us down for years. And will probably shoot and catch bullets for you. It's important to get the "player" out of your system, but directly after that go and throw a ring on that finger.

    If you know this is the woman you're going to marry, don't wait. That could be more time building that beautiful union and getting your lives (and kids) started…

  145. @whyso: "If you know this is the woman you’re going to marry, don’t wait. That could be more time building that beautiful union and getting your lives (and kids) started…"

    Very well said… 🙂

  146. Whyso:Man there truly is something special about your line of thinking. I think more guys need to realize that yes they have a chick who shoot, fly, and perform miracles for them. She takes your bullsh*t, loves your dirty drawers and keeps it moving. And the same goes for women who think their stuff doesn't stink—there's always that guy that would give his last and go hungry and we should appreciate them.

  147. "Do you have big lips too?"

    @Humble: nah, not like naomi campbell big. they're a nice size. not too big, not too small. smoochable. look at SBM's myspace – we're friends – "nissy poo" – and u be the judge.

  148. Buuuuutt, New York might be cute to somebody. Not to me and not to you but to somebody. I bet somewhere a dude is saying Tyra Banks five-head just doesn’t do it for him.

    …we all have diff standards of beauty. Somebody said they liked Jay-Z and his big lips. Tiffany and her big lips might do it for somebody.

  149. @Teacia
    “Let’s call this “enculturation”…you can’t get mad at these chics because society has created a norm that says that if you’re socially pleasing to the eye that people will give you what you want just to be in your presence. I’m not saying that it’s right, but it is the very foundation that this society was built upon…not the “pretty” thing, but the basis behind expectations in this society.”

    I agree. I am not mad at them at all. After dealig with a few of these type of women I understand that they are the way they are because of how they have been treated since childhood. I do think you should grow out of it at a point. But sadly a lot dont. My friends and I have discussed this topic thoroughly. We have dated, married, had relationships, and kids by these women and all of us have had very similar experiences.

  150. I know men who find NY cute. Thats just their personal preference…I dont think shes ugly, but i wouldnt go as far as to calling her cute.

    Now if I didnt know her backstory or personality, would I hit? HECK YEAH

  151. @Jac & why so
    "If you know this is the woman you’re going to marry, don’t wait. That could be more time building that beautiful union and getting your lives (and kids) started…"

    I got in my last relationship with this line of thinking. In the beginning I did not know if it would lead to marriage. The only reason I could justify not being with her was to hoe around. I already knew what that was about. I felt that that was not a good enough reason to not be with her. I felt that what I could have with her was bigger than banging random chics.

  152. humble…

    sort of, i think haha. I'm not privy to your situation….I've never been close to marriage though. It scares me, trutfully.

    I refuse to be forced into marriage. We focus on getting married so much that we don't find the people that we will spend the rest of our lives with, and enrich every day of that life…

    lol…my future wife is going to be a lucky gal.

  153. Humble:You put a lot of yourself into that relationship and while I think it is beyond obvious to here how much you loved her I think it's also important to note that it was not a selfish kind of love. One of the big problems relationships in 2008 are having is selfishness from one, the other or both. I think it's only fair to say that when you find someone who you could bend for and who'll bend for you and makes you wake up in the middle of night look @ her while thinking damned this why I'm doing this plus a whole other plethora of things you've got it. And when you've got it, you've just got it and nothing outside of it can destroy that. Case in point, your parents who by your own account have stood by each other no matter what the situation or problems they've faced.

    Whyso:Don't be forced into marriage. If you're forced it's not marriage it's bondage. I think you're also right with the enrichment-I think it's fair and right that both people should bring something to the table. And Whyso…you're absolutely correct you seem to bring a lot to the table so whomever you choose to exchange with will be a very lucky woman.

  154. @Cuzzo

    "nah, not like naomi campbell big. they’re a nice size. not too big, not too small. smoochable."

    As long as they are not caucasian small you are good. I've kissed women with thin lips and it was decent at best.

  155. *reminiscing about smooching* ahhhhhh

    @Tea: it will be worth it in the end, I guess. What u tryna have a six-pack or something? make the booty poke out more?

  156. ayo, this is wayyy off topic, but on my atlanta trip, i found something that wins so much, I might actually have to move.

    sweet tea.

    it's not that they're offering you a delicious drink. it's the WAY they offer it…like "honey, would ya like some sweet tea"

    "well shit yeah!!!"

    if a girl offers me sweet tea, I'm getting down on one knee quick as hell…mmmmmm mmmmmmmm!!!!

  157. Cuzzo, actually this oatmeal is delicious…and I've started to crave oatmeal and tuna fish sandwiches instead of McDonald's, so I guess it's working. And I'm trying to get down between 135-140 of pure sexiness. I want to be toned and tight, gotta get it right. I've put it off long enough.

    And if I can get these DD's down to a D that would be GREAT!!!

    @Why so: yeah someone i recently dated fell in love with sweat tea too. i don't drink it but i hear it's all the rave.

  158. @Teacia
    "yeah someone i recently dated fell in love with sweat tea too. i don’t drink it but i hear it’s all the rave."

    I dont want to drink anyone's sweat. That is just nasty. What is sweet tea?

  159. Yeah being super skinty is not cute. I like my curves, even at my largest my waste is only a 33 but my hips are 43.5 and my thighs are around 27. I'm heavy up top and heavy on the bottom.

    I want to keep my shape just tone it out so that will lead me to losing 15-20 pounds. I'm at 155 right now, so whatever weight will get me solid is what I want to rock. Yeah skinty is soooo played.

  160. Ha ha ha Humble, I meant sweet tea.

    It's just regular tea but it's prepared with sugar in it. Apparently it's a big deal and they only make it pre-sweetened in the South. Up north you gotta sweeten it yourself with the packets on the table.

  161. @Teacia – 155 aint bad depending on how tall you are and if you are active. I use to kick it with a woman that was 5'8" and 150. She was thick.

    @Teacia & Cuzzo – Are women still trying to be skinny or do they understand that men like women that are thick? I thought we were past that. Thick meaning a flat stomach with big thighs and hips.

  162. Is anyone voting early, we vote early starting on the 20th. I will be at my precint(well the sup of elecs) that morning casting my ballot. There is NO WAY I will be standing in those long lines on the 4th to cast my vote. I will also be driving my entire family with me to get it done early.

    VOTE EARLY FOLKS!!! Don't allow yourself to be discouraged with the long lines on voting day, pleeeeease vote early.

    *gathering my soap, stepping down and putting away the box*

  163. Tea, the motto here in Loosiana is vote early and often! Yep…I feel like over here there's voting for something every freaking week.

  164. im skipping around like a fool:

    @why you are brilliant, you totally need a blog. seriously.

    @cuzzo: myspace freaks me out now. but i will accept. some fool sent me a pic of his pen!is. why would you do that? nasty @zz.

    @Mik: yes you and that dag on Dave. Did yall realize the fallout of such an effort. You also realize that Dave is a Republican/Indie.

  165. Humble: Uhhh yeah I'm on 5'2(although i look taller in pics and person) and partna yeah gotta get those pounds down. I was 148 just a few months ago, 142 early part of this year but toned. I got lazy, busy and stopped going to the gym(used to be mandatory).

    "Thick meaning a flat stomach with big thighs and hips."

    …this is my goal, I have a gut now(ewwww), fat and flabby thighs and arm fat for days and this is UNACCEPTABLE! Ok, I'm painting a pic worse than it is but you get my point I'm sure.

  166. Comeback I knew I was missing something on TV last night, but I couldn't put my finger on it(yes, i need to use the guide). I was out cold right after Prison Break went off so I wasn't up to see it anyways. Damn I love that show!

  167. @Humble: I dunno – I know I'm not. I don't think the lbs even matter as long as you work it well, whatever u have. like bruce bruce says: it looks good…on you.

    Would you believe that some women prefer to be bigger (I'm talking in a Mo'Nique way) than most because they are tired of men always coming at them?

    I have T&A that's already boomin' out there…I don't have a washboard stomach and I'm not in a rush to get one either – it would just make everything else more noticeable, and I'm not ready for that type of attn. So, for the time being I'll keep my baby fat (and yes, it is baby fat…never tried to lose the pouch my son gave me a year ago).

    *i'm outty…5000*

  168. @Cuzzo: Why would I pass up a beautiful woman? Isnt that counter-intuitive to the fact that any man would (well, should) want a beautiful woman? Now if you get to know her and then find out that it aint all good, then move accordingly…but to pre-judge a woman being shallow/dumb/money-hungry/get off on attention on account of her being cute is dumb.

    I would actually argue against that fact, considering I know some very good looking women who never go out because guys are not approaching them, as they are too busy thinking themselves out of a date.

  169. *a bunch of randoms*

    i didn't know yall had chick-fil-a up there.

    october baseball, i thought the post season had already happened, shows what i know.

    how you convince yourself to stop WANTING to talk to someone who is undoubtely bad for you?

    i really should have taken my tail to the opinion research poll lab for extra credit, i'll do that tomorrow.

    i'm against the notion of the "bailout"…since ain't nobody in government ever offer to bail me out of anything(not even jail), but hate it as i may, i understand the ramifications of doing nothing. we must do something.

    i really hope i can stick with my physical and financial diet this month.

  170. thanks comeback..that means a lot from you. although im probably too silly/ adhd to keep it up. argh!

    im having a really good day. really good. i don't know why.

    maybe it's cause im thinking about that sweet tea!

  171. "i didn’t know yall had chick-fil-a up there"

    i thought they started up north. The first one i ever saw was in king of prussia PA like 4-5 years ago.

    @ why yeah get crakin on that blog the world could use another smart black man on the net. And are there any in Detroit with it being so cold in the D and all???? ….you could work on it this coming late fall early winter.lol

  172. @Teacia

    "Uhhh yeah I’m on 5′2(although i look taller in pics and person) and partna yeah gotta get those pounds down. I was 148 just a few months ago, 142 early part of this year but toned. I got lazy, busy and stopped going to the gym(used to be mandatory)."

    I remember a girl I use to talk to she was 5'2" 135-140. She was nice. Thick and all. I guess it depends on your build.

  173. aww daisy thats sweet, I want to meet a man and just "know" I figure its easy to know when its "not" so why can't the same be true when its right ya know….

    I think im still destined to marry an engineer of some sort, comeback your one of them right?? can you feel me in on these types since i tend to gravitate towards them like bee's on honey. and how come i never got my reading? im starting to thing your just not that into me!!!

    smh

  174. @Comeback: you really thought that, they're closed Sundays…now you know that's some crazy Christian southern practice. They started in the A' though some 40 years ago, but we've had them here in Florida for at least 11 years that I know of.

    @Humble:i really loved my body until around March, I started packing on the pounds and have been back and forth since…up some 15 pounds. I started taking classes in March and haven't been able to get back on my game since. I'm getting there though, I can feel it already positively affecting my energy level.

  175. Wow im taller than someone woooohooo!! Teacia I had no idea you was that short pictures can't tell.

    I am 5'3 and I am 135 and you can pretty much see from my myspace that im short and small, which is why i cant do "big dudes" but Teacia you just took the short torch from me and that makes me a lil mad.

  176. "comeback your one of them right?? can you feel me in on these types since i tend to gravitate towards them like bee’s on honey. "

    by trade, but I don't be claimin that shyt in public LOL…and no i don't really feel you on that tip. Other than my uncle (RIP) who designed some of the basics on the more evolved switches I am working on now- i have very little kinship with engineers. They are boring as he!ll to me. Alot of them don't have any outside interests other than playin on the computer, with code etc. Prolly too, my area of focus is SOOO narrow that i don't meet a lot of men who know SS$7…maybe the voip signaling stuff…but not the stuff that lights my fire.

  177. @Comeback

    "i have very little kinship with engineers. They are boring as he!ll to me. Alot of them don’t have any outside interests other than playin on the computer, with code etc."

    Damn its like that? Are we that lame?

  178. lmao comeback I understand they do tend to be pretty boring but I think my personality fits that type, I know for a fact I can't do men who try to steal the spotlight or always trying to have the attention out in public n stuff because thats where I like to shine…

    see now if u would just finish my reading we would know these things!!!!

  179. Im sorry Hum i just offended like all the men here. But its true. First of all I HATE TALKING SHOP, with a few minor exceptions. I do like VOIP, sigtran stuff and sometimes i'll read some of the interim standard docs. And my job has been VERY good to me.

    but there SOOO many other things that float my boat and its hard to find other people who feel the same way.

  180. Yep I'm short, but just about err pair of shoes I have come with a 4.75in stilhetto heel. So I usally come off as taller, but I don't mind being short…I just enjoy jazzy slutacious looking heels. I'll gladly take that torch and continue to light the flame.

    And you're thinner than I want to be, with my tig ol bitties, baby making hips, and curvacious bootay I'll probably be 140 at my tonest.

  181. ok its like 4pm here. BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO….

    Mik..so you're sayin that men who are engineers aren't DIVA's…uhhh i think thats ESPECIALLY the case, particularly when they have no other outside interests thats all they care about is working on new apps, fixing the existing ones…and what about those folks that sit on working cmte's that write standards and shyt. They are the WORST. that's their claim to fame: "i wrote it"…who the fyck cares.

  182. lol right Teacia thats not a good look with your boobies n all u might fall over or something lol.

    When I get outta debt I am going to be buying me up some stilhetto's like a mofo heels are so sexy to me.

    Comeback the feeling is mutual Im in the real estate business and I for sure don't want to date a man in real estate, a handy man maybe but not an actual realtor u would think there would be a kinship but its not.

    But engineers I am always fascinated with that computer jargon and the mechanical ones whew boy I just love them! I guess I just like their laid back type of style, they always seem so smooth to me…..

    eh

  183. "lmao comeback u sound a lil “Ticked”"

    LOL…i don't mean to be. I;ve only dated one guy seriously in my field. I met him at work. I blogged about him once. I hated his work ethic. He NEVER was available when shyt would break. And he was VERY VERY boring.

    who dat who in the myspace pic? i need DETAILS.

  184. lmao!!! no this foo did not say banana republic!!

    *Died*

    He isn't a model, he did some photos just for keep sake and for his business magazine minority speak. He is from stl but lives in the Detroit.

    I tried to make him my babies daddy but he wasn't having it I think he is the reason for my fetish for engineers.

  185. im outtie…me and a office bud…are gonna hike a trail tomorrow evening. If I get attacked by any mountain lions. I loved you all. Please somebody take over my blog in two years when it expires. And when you think of A.D.D and Starbucks…remember my name.

    send my regards to broadway. I bequeath my beloved fish to Mikki. Jac can have all my por#n vids and [email protected] books. I leave my fly shoe collection to anybody who can fit 41/42 shoe…i'll finish my will tomorrow morning.

  186. Ok first let me say Sweat Tea is that ish. I LOVE IT! Can someone please fedex me some? Thank you.

    To everyone who responded to my random question – thank you so much. Ya’ll starting to feel like fam (**wipes tear from eye**). I had a “friend” tell me today that she thought it was too soon for my bf and I to be talking marriage. We’ve been together 5 months and haven’t been apart longer than 2 days. He’s there for me in every way (emotionally, spiritually, and uhm well ya know physically) so if and when he asks my answer will be YES with no hesitation.

    It’s not my fault it took her fiance 3 years (6 months of which he lived under the ultimatum of no ring/no arse) to propose!!!

  187. it doesn’t take forever to know, but you need to spend a week or so apart a couple of times, just to make sure you’re not rocking the *denial goggles*.

    i’m all for jumping the broom, and i for one doesn’t think that it takes a lengthy amount of time as long as BOTH parties are on the same page. don’t let that hate rain on your love parade, but make sure you’re not doing it just out of habit.

  188. awww comeback you lost mad eprops lol

    I'm an engineer, and I have many interests and hobbies outside of work, a great social life, and am a leader and example for my younger sibs.

    But you can keep thinking that about engineers…I'd rather fly under the radar anyways

    swoopsh

  189. wow… i have to stop reading the comments here before i start to worry about bein judged and not wantin to come back.

    i will say that whoever said looks don't matter was blind. Looks do matter but I wouldn't call liking someone who isn't a dime having "love goggles" i just think we are all attracted to different people and that attraction doesnt always meet mainstream standards of "beauty" and for that I thank god every day otherwise i wouldnt ever have a date.

    night ya'll.

  190. @Whyso-LoL….I like engineers, I don't like fund-raisers and historians.

    You're now on my radar LoL…

    @Mikki-i'ma holla in one second.

  191. wanna know if a woman wants to be your wife and not just have a wedding?

    tell her you dont want to have a wedding because in your family its bad luck and tell her you dont want to get a large engagement ring just 2 normal wedding bands so you can make a better downpayment on the house.
    most women will revolt at this idea.

    these r the women you do NOT want to marry. See this is another reason the divorce rate has gone down especially in the black community. women are far more dominant in relationships now thus leading into more browbeating into marriage. but once they see they have to give up alot of things to be and stay married it dosent work out and they either walk out on the men or become filled with contempt and wind up demeaning them until it causes a breakup.

    I am a catch now… for my age bracket. I have asked every woman who thinks she is serious about me these questions. I then ask the ultimate question… "would you stay with me forever even if I never wanted to have a wedding, rings or marriage" any woman who says yes to that is who you marry.

    remember boys and girls. to say you want to marry someone you are saying that this person is who you want to spend the rest of your life with no matter what…. them and only them.
    if you then turn around and say I will only stay with you if I have a wedding, then you are already admitting you wont stay with them no matter what. a ring and a ceremony wont change you commitment level, it has to be there already.

    you dont marry someone you can live with.. you marry someone you cant live without.

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