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SingleBlackMale.net will be taking New Years Day off … and maybe Friday too if I’m not over from the hangover of NYE in the ATL! Don’t miss me too much … check the blogroll … plenty of good stuff for ya.
It feels so good to have internet access in my life once again. While I was at home for the holidays, my Blackberry was having network issues and I couldn’t find any unsecure networks to hop on and get my daily fix. I was struggling. Luckily for me, I went to my cousin’s crib and he had the high speed stuff upstairs. I lost myself in the e-world and became anti-social for about 35 minutes before returning to the real world. I must’ve looked high when I came back downstairs. It was seriously heroine in my veins.
As I was perusing the net, I logged into all the usuals: Three Ways, Gmail, SBM, Facebook, Black Planet , AIM, Twitter, etc. Each site was like injecting just a bit more wholesome goodness, until Myspace gave me a temporary buzz kill. Ever since I updated my location and changed my pic, I’ve been getting an influx of add me requests, messages, and generic comments. I log in like every 3-4 days just to clear things up and make sure I didn’t miss a message or friend request from the woman of my dreams…sike. As I was cleaning up the inbox this time, I noticed a very dark picture and someone telling me they lived in Boston and what phone number I could reach them at. At this point, I was pretty sketched out. I had already deleted an assortment of “hey cutie” and “maybe we can hang out one day” messages, but this one was different.
Out of curiosity, I went to the person’s page where I found no other pictures but noticed all 10 of the person’s friends were dudes with shirts off. I also noticed the person had relocated from Atlanta. This was enough to tip me off and scare me away. Request deleted and my high fading, I left Myspace only to return a few days letter and notice another message from this person. This time it was “so I guess you’re not gonna call me are you?” as if this wasn’t evident in my lack of response the first time. I’m a heterosexual male! There’s nothing in my profile that indicates I wanna meet up with men off the internet to engage in acts of parfaitness! My friends are a combo of men (fully clothed) and women (some scantily clad). My profile says interested in women and my about me isn’t ambiguous at all. I’m from upstate NY, not ATL, DC, or San Fran (No disrespect to any of those wonderful places). I mean damn, to each their own, but leave me out of your e-tomfoolery.
People are really bold online nowadays, especially in the slums of Myspace. Whether it’s the homie (not that there’s anything wrong with that) hoping I’m on the DL, or the women throughout the country telling me I’m sexy and that we should talk sometimes, I get equally as weirded out. Anonymity does wonders….then again, these people aren’t really anonymous. And no, I’m not full of myself. I’m sure many of the folks here get these messages on the regular even with the ante-upped privacy settings.
It just amazes me how open and willing people are to begin something over the internet that materializes into an in-person interaction. Even with all the crazy stories that we hear, people are still willing to look for love and pleasure online. Not me, not I. I think people are a bit nutty out there. But again, to each their own.
I’d be curious to hear some of the online horror or funny stories that people have encountered on sites like Myspace, Blackplanet, and Facebook. Some of us can probably just log in and then copy/paste what was said. I’m also curious as to why people are so willing nowadays to seek love on the web? Let it all out folks. You know you want to…
P.S. Let’s try to keep it somewhat PC.