“Don’t drop the ball!”
These are the words of encouragement offered to a male by the fellas when they know he’s in the process of securing the bunz. These popular words could be said at a night club, or they could be said while sittin’ around a tv playin’ xbox and talkin’ about the opposite sex. Maybe one of the fellas in the crew is the point guard and he threw his boy a pass so he could get the assist added to his stats sheet. Whatever the case, nobody wants to see their friend drop the touchdown pass or miss the dunk. And even more important, nobody wants to be the guy that dropped the ball. As a man that has had as many as 8 male housemates, I can tell you that none of us wanted to be the dude who walked in the next morning or extra late at night with a look of disappointment. Scenario time. And yes, this does happen post college:
Point Guard Jamal: Damn dog, you back kinda soon? What happened with the shorty I hooked you up with at the club? You told us to bounce and you’d handle yours? Quick skeets?
Clumsy Hands Tyrone: Nah man, sh*t fell through. I don’t know what happened. We was vibin’, then her girls were ready to go, and then she said she was tired and needed to be up early in the morning.
PGJ: Did you put on the full court press?
CHT: Yeah, I tried. Didn’t seem like it was gonna go anywhere so I just bounced.
PGJ: Damn man…you dropped the ball!
CHT: F*ck you.
PGJ: Nah dog, you were supposed to f*ck her.
I know my scenarios tend to be more dramatic than Tyler Perry movies, but these types of conversations happen all the time. It doesn’t even take a whole night to drop the ball. It can be dropped in seconds apparently. I’ve dropped the ball a couple times over the years. It usually happened cuz I missed a key signal or didn’t fill in her box the blank with the right password. There was a time when I dropped the ball and didn’t even realize it til years later when the chick told me sumthin like “I really had a thing for you a couple years ago.” She thought the words of honesty were harmless at the time, though they were more like salt in the proverbial wound. I could’ve, should’ve, and would’ve beat, but my intermediate level gamesmanship failed me. Arg. To be young and stupid.
I was thinking about all this good stuff recently. I asked a sexy woman female friend if it’s really that easy for a dude to drop the ball when a chick is out and lookin’ for someone to cure her Mandingo Syndrome symptoms (Pronounced “Give me D or give me death”) She quickly nodded yes. I was honestly amazed at how small the window of opportunity can be, even after the guy proves that he’s heterosexual and not on the DL. The usage of one wrong word or a brief period of silence in a conversation can be the difference between the warmth inside and being left out in the cold phoning your friend to come pick you up. I guess this is what makes game…game.
Us men folk are drastically different usually. Even though we too can tell immediately if we’d have sex with a woman, a lot of the other filter stuff goes out the window. If we just lookin’ to go deep, we don’t care where she went to school, what sports or groups she was a part of, how much swagger she has, and BS like that. We don’t care if she has great conversation skills, unless we’re conversing about how to get somewhere private so that we can frolick in the nude. The point for us is that she looks decent, we would beat, and we just need to get to an environment that is conducive to beating. I mean let’s think about it. How often does a decent looking woman with clean breath and no body odor get called out for “dropping the ball” with a single and heterosexual man? Exactly.
So for today, I’m curious. Is it really that easy for a dude to drop the ball with a woman that has initial interest in him? Are their dudes out there that have passed on a smash opportunity because a woman made a critical mistake during conversation (i.e. Talking to her was borderline painful)? Does any of this even matter when you’re wild horny and just looking for a mildly attractive person to free your loins of tension? Hmm…
Catching, Scoring, Sleeping,