Where is Katt Williams when you need him? You know, to tell Steve Harvey to stfd and stfu. (USE HEADPHONES IF AT WORK!)
Steve Harvey has been making the media circuit these past few days. I first saw it on CNN…then heard Oprah endorsed it, followed by an appearance on Tyra and a plethora of Facebook status’. Steve Harvey has been making the media circuits and running his mouth.
All the hoopla is focused around his book, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” which is hurdling to the top of a best-seller lists and no doubt causing problems in otherwise happy or growing towards it relationships. The book is a self-help guide of sorts aimed at arming women with knowledge be a winner in relationships. This, ladies and gentleman, is why books should not cultivate our relationships just like they shouldn’t raise our kids.
Thinking “like a man” is a gross generalization that all men, especially Black men, are dogs only out for p***y. Neegro please. If we keep peddling this stuff to the masses it will become generally excepted and in turn truth. To devote a book to women aimed at seeing through a man’s bs is to assume bs is a part of every man. If we approach interactions with the opposite sex these ideas good sex, love and happiness will walk out of our lives. One of my favorite paradigms of Sociology is the social reaction theory or labeling theorywhich primarily deals with criminology and why people behave the way they do. Simply put if your mother is Mrs. Baker and continuously tells you, “You ain’t s**t. You just like your daddy. You don’t do s**t, and you never gonna amount to s**t. All you do is eat, sleep, and s**t” chances are, you will end up not being s**t. If we as a society keep believing the person we’re seeking is fundamentally no good, that what we will continue to find.
I understand we are in a recession and need extra cash, but just because I can make money in porn doesn’t mean that you’ll see my balls on a DVD anytime soon. One of my boys actually paid for the book because he wanted to see just what Mr. Harvey had to say in full context. So far he is most intrigued by Harvey’s 90-day rule which is akin to medical coverage at a new job. I will keep this short and simple. Telling a man to “wait 90-days” is to assume that women do not like sex just as much as men, and we ALL know that false.
From what I’ve heard, read and seen this book underlines the immaturity present in our culture when it comes to being in any degree of relationships. If you must make up a game and arbitrary rules, perhaps you should be writing “circle yes or no letters” and not masquerading as a grown person. In the article on CNN, Harvey tells the story of his daughter and a guy who told her grandfather that ‘were just “kickin it”‘. He goes on to say he called his daughter in, had the guy inform her as such and that they two ended things the next day. First and foremost, Steve Harvey is a hater AND a cockblocker. Let your (grown) child grow up and make their own mistakes. Parents of young and grown adults alike should not be a Robocop but rather a message board – I can write all over it, ask all types of question but at the end of the day, I make the action. If it took an old-man intervention for his TWENTY-SIX (26) year old daughter and her THIRTY (30) year old male friend to breakdown and see where things were going, maybe she was just dumb and he was immature. Nobody wants to see their kid fall off the bike but they wont keep going unless it happens a couple of times (or so I hear, I never had a bike growing up so I wouldn’t know).
Now Mr. FAQ has not read the book nor do I plan on it. Why go to books for advice when I can just come here?