At night my mind conjures up images, thoughts, and what seems to be real life threesomes action movies. I would like to think I have some control over my actions in these dreams, that I can exhibit some free will in this realistic movie that is not really happening … but do I?
Dreams have been called windows into the subconscious. A way of our brains telling us what we really want and are really thinking about. Some say they are predictors of the future, windows into our soul, and all that other stuff.
So where are you going with all this?
Hold on … I got you.
So what happens when a married man dreams of his secretary at work coming into his office in a Catholic school girl uniform? What happens to the woman who moans “Oh … T.I.” while her boyfriend readjusts himself next to her? What about the woman who wakes up violently, looking at her man as the scene of the most explicit 3 girl orgy plays through her head?
I mean … this is a tough one. If these dreams are a sign as to what the person really wants, then shouldn’t you be mad that your mate is fantasizing about someone else? Does it mean that Jamal is really gay because he woke up in a cold sweat after giving Lil Wayne the bidness having a random gay encounter (*shudder*)? Can we be held responsible for the thoughts that happen during the night?
I know I usually have and answer to my own questions … I know many of you come here for enlightenment … and all that sh*t … but I … I don’t know (OK, I do … its a dream … let that sh*t go).
On one hand, the fantasies of someone who is actually immediately available (like your crazy baby’s mama who still thinks your gonna get back together after 3 restraining orders) might actually indicate a threat. Why are they thinking about some pussy/dick that they had once … and can prolly get again? How come they aint dreaming about you?
On the other hand … sit your insecure ass down. He/She did not program the dream into their head, and they are laying next to you … right? They prolly just had some bad taco bell … the next dream will involve you and a midget ballerina’s dress, some guacamole, and Gary Coleman.
What do you think? Ever had a dream of your SO cheating and then turned around and hit them? Ever dreamed you lost them then turned around and pulled em closer? Ever had the best sex of your life, to wake up and see it was a dream with your girl’s older sister?
my ex not only had a dream about my best friend, but TALKED to ME while he was dreaming, asking me where she was because he wanted to do ***** to her.
you can imagine how he was awakened. lol.
i believe dreams like those (the more realistic ones) indicate a subconscious desire, fear, etc.. some kind of tangible feeling. it's easy to say 'oh it was just a dream' until you are experiencing it.
i mean because honestly, if your woman was having an explicit dream about your best friend AUDIBLY, would you be quick to brush it off?
Dreams are just that…. dreams. We think about a lot of wild ish that we would NEVER do even when we are awake (ex. pimp slapping your boss). You've got to allow folks room to be human. I'm not gonna condemn my man because his subconscious generated a fantasy about my friend while he was sleeping…. hell, she's sexy, so I can't even be mad at his subconscious for that. Now if there are signs of CONSCIOUS and active lusting, well, that's a different matter.
There's just enough active and conscious behavior to get pissed off about without getting mad at harmless ish. What a person wants is demonstrated by choices and actions, not some random mess their brain generates on autopilot.
I don't think you can get mad at a person for dreaming… dreams are not always literal anyway.
I had one about having s3x with Nelly once…. other than that, my dreams are pretty weird.. sometimes I'm different people in them.
I think dreams are subconscious desires, for me, mine are mostly fears. My dreams would make great Will Smith or MI action movies, I'm always being chased, about to be tortured, scaling buildings or riding a bike like i'm in the FBI. Scary really.
the guy formally known as dude… :-(… said the other week that I kept saying the word car over and over in my sleep. I don't remember dreaming though. He dreamt that we went to Vegas and eloped and everything was all good **side eye** but I'm a free woman now… about to be up to my old antics ** devilish grin**
I always have extremely vivid $ex dreams. Sometimes they are about my SO and sometimes they are about a random person I passed in the street. I hope that some of my dreams aren't really my subconcious desire because that's just scary. I think, especially in this day and age, where we are overloaded with information and often are multi-tasking constantly that our brain can't process all of the things we see and hear. These little bits of info get jumbled up in our brains with a bunch of other things and then come out in our dreams just not necessarily in a way that makes sense. This is why you can see an old classmate on facebook and then that night have a crazy dream about them where you are doing things you'd never do in real life.
So no, I wouldn't get mad over a dream.
I'm not a cheater, but it seams like alot of dreams are like episodes of cheaters where I'm caught in the middle. I'm talking females that have never met each other in the same dream, "catching me in the act" with yet another woman. Very strange, strange indeed.
I agree Nicki Sunshine dreams are seldom literal…..
sometimes dreams can fore warn of things tho and reveal truths.
"So what happens when a married man dreams of his secretary at work coming into his office in a Catholic school girl uniform? What happens to the woman who moans “Oh … T.I.” while her boyfriend readjusts himself next to her?"
These two situations would probably garner two different reactions. The first situation would probably hurt more and/or be more worrisome because they have access to their dreamee every day. The second is more like a fantasy that has less of a chance of being realized.
Not saying I would blow up if the first situation happened, but I'd be a little bit more affected by it than the second one. Even if they're both just dreams.
i originally started my blog, http://www.sleep-is-the-cousin-of-death.blogspot.com,(sh… plug) to post about my dreams. i usually have troubles remembering my dreams but when i do they are usually profound. i bout this dream book to interpret my dreams becuase dreams are usually never about what you dream about. they usually have some other meaning.
dreams are unique. no other individual can have your background, your emotions, or your experiences. every dream is connected with your own "reality".
a dream unifies the body, mind, and spirit. It provides you with insight into yourself and a means for self-exploration. In understanding your dreams, you will have a better understanding and discovery of your true self.
I used to dream of love and shit…now I dream of someone getting beat the eff down.
I think my dreams revolve around what is going on in my life.
Altho, back in the day when my "center" was in place and it all just flowed…I'd have dreams/nightmares that came true.
My shit is out of whack right now so…enlightenment and all that hogwash is eff'd.
I've never dreamed about sex with a specific person…just a gender.
lately i been dreaming about my exes…*shrugs*
I think i'm just horny
How come no one addressed the "suspect" dreams?
I know if my girl wakes up and tells me she had the raunchiest lesbian threesome … please believe I'm going to think something about that one!