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In Economics there is a very important concept that comes up a lot with consumer spending.  The Propensity to Consume tells us that if I give you a dollar … your not going to spend the whole dollar.  Your going to save some portion of it in your savings … and spend some ofther portion of it.

I hear you asking yourself … “What the f*ck does this have to do with dating n sh*t?!”  Hold on … let a n****a warm up.

So … every guy, big or small, short or tall, p*ssy eating or not has a propensity to holla.  Just like my previous example, if you put 100 fine, banging females in front of any Single Black Male, he is not going to “holla” (read: attempt to sleep with, obtain a number, or marry) every single one of those women.  The ratio of women out of that 100 that he tries to hand out vitamin D to … is his Marginal Propensity to Holla (MPH).

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The Marginal Propensity to Holla is defined as such:

For any man, given 100 oppurtunities to “get at” a woman he finds attractive, the percentage of women he attempts to “woo” is his propensity to Holla.

A man’s MPH says a lot about him.  Every guy has someone in the crew who is always “on it”.  This is the person who will introduce the crew to a big group of girls, who you put in the front of the pack, who doesn’t care if he is hearing no or yes … as long as she is talking.  This guy has no fear.

On the other end of the spectrum you have the sociall awkward guy.  This guy will be in a club, liquored up, have a girl just putting it on him, have her grabbing on his neck and playing with his ear … and will still come up with 5 whack a** reasons not to talk to her.  This poor fellow fears women, might have a problem with premature ejaculation, and is in terribly need of some self-confidence.

But beware of any guy with a high MPH.  A guy who will try and talk to anything with a p***y any woman can spell trouble for hig guy friends, and the women he persues.  Lets look at some of the negative traits of the 100 MPH man.

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1. Too much time spent at the club

The club is the 100 MPH man’s stomping ground.  He can literally talk to a girl, fail, then turn around and talk to her friend … and actually have a chance.  If one room is looking bad, he’s got another room.  He has all kinds of tricks in his bag, and even if he leaves one to book (get a phone number) another, he doens’t need to feel bad … its the club.  This also means he spends way too much money, and we all know the club is time better spent reading n sh*t … right?

2. Obsessed with his looks

Women like shiny things … or pretty things … or muscular things … you get the point.  This guy either spends 2-3 hours a day working out, half his pay check on clothes and hair products, brushes his hair 2 hours a day to keep them 360 waves fresh, or takes longer than your sister to get ready to leave the house.

3. Totally consumed with … “the chase”

He likes to holla because he likes the chase.  This means your sister, wife, and mother are all up for game.  It means you will get left at the club if he drove and a girl is trying to go back.  It means he will click over and forget you on the phone when a chic calls.  It also means he will continue to flirt and get number even though he is “with” you (that one is to my women).

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Personally, about a 40% rate is good.  You need to learn that every woman isn’t worth talking to and wasting your time.  Be choosy!

To the women, does this apply to you?  Do you … “holla”?  The guys … where do you rank?

– Your lovable SBM

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  1. I'm probably somewhere between 15 to 25 out of 100, and here's why: I'm nowhere near socially awkward, but I'm still opposite of that fearless friend that WE ALL HAVE that would holla at a bowlegged chicken (a real chicken, not a chickenhead) so long as it had a vagina.

    I hate rejection (on the job or when trying to holla). I gotta have some sort of an inkling before I make the move, just like a guy shouldn't be dumb enough to propose to his woman unless he knows she's going to say yes. Why bother?

    The list is good.

    On No. 1: I pray you're not trying to meet the love of your life in the club. lol.

    No. 2: I'm only thinking about Chicago from Poetic Justice. lol. Dude didn't have one 360 wave.

    No. 3: Any dude that willing to leave a female he's with to bump uglies with another one deserves an eyes-wide open castration.

    I think that's it. Again, good post.

  2. i got a partner like this spends each and every damn day in the club but he can run up on some women in the club but outside the club ehhhh not so much

  3. psh, i holla! lol…

    no seriously, i do. i mean, not at everyone and anyone but if i see something i like, i do go for it. my moms always raised me to pick and choose what i want because if i wanted to picked and chosen, i may end up with something i didn't want. so instead of being stuck with lackluster loser larry who somehow thought he had a chance with me, i choose the dude that seems like he'd fit me better.

    i'm definitely not at 100, more like 20 i think… but mix me with a lil alcohol and that rises to about a 75…lol!

  4. I would have to say that I'm at about a 2%…and those 2 guys have to be something SERIOUS for me to even consider walking up to and putting myself out there. But if there are 100 men, there are bound to be probably 2 that will stop me in my tracks. But if they're stopping me in my tracks then they must be doing the same to most other females in there, which at that point means that I wouldn't actually step to them.

    So I guess this means that my FPH is 0%. I normally don't step to guys. What I will do is make myself extremely available in any given scenario to make it comfortable for them to step to me, but that's usually about as far as I go with that one there.

  5. I like for a man to be confident and discriminate, valuing himself and his sex…..not to the point of being a conceited arrogant asshole but more like being disciplined and having refined tastes.

    I don't holla = chase after men BTW…some women have no problem approaching/persuing a man, in my world thats ass backwards!

  6. I don't holla. I'm somewhere between socially awkward and a gracious smile. I'm the really shy type around people I don't know so mostly guys just sneak in and become my friend then cautiously try to show their interest. Even though I'm shy, when I warm up to you I'm brutally honest, no filter. But for the most part I'm 0% unless I'm on that alcohol, which is typically only when I'm out with a close guy friend. Definitely no hollering at other dudes then, lol.

  7. I think I'm about 25% sober and about 75% when I'm not. I hate when chicks be like I can get another chick's number in the club. Just cuz i got your number that dont mean we dating. I dont think chicks should get mad about this. You want me to not holla at the next chick, then promise me some cutty that night

  8. I think guys that have a MPH of 85 or greater usually come off as desperate. Desperate for attention and just wack for trying to get at any and everything that walks by. I think of these guys as vultures.

    I don't holla at all anymore because I'm not single. Back in my single days I wouldn't go so far as to ask a guy for his number but I would flirt heavily as to encourage him to ask for mine if I found him attractive. I would say my MPH was still around 1% because I would survey the room/club and pick one guy to focus my attention on. If it turned into something then great if not, oh well, that was it for the night.

  9. "I think guys that have a MPH of 85 or greater usually come off as desperate. Desperate for attention and just wack for trying to get at any and everything that walks by."

    @tam: truer words haven't been spoken yet, and if they have, I don't know where they are. lol.

  10. lol Peyso women want to feel special. We dont want to feel like another notch on the belt

    If you do plan on getting more digits from other women..try and do it discreetly

    if you plan on playing the honest role "you aint my girl" …then plan on keeping a dry "wrangler" lol

    Thismayconcern: I agree..Its wack as hell to try and holler at everything walking. I feel that men who do that appear to have high confidence but really have low self esteem. They get their esteem by being accepted by alot of women. If there aint a woman's drawers he could get into, he'd probably kill himself lol

  11. I have a very outgoing personality. I warm up to just about anyone, so I get people asking for the digits alot.

    I think thats kinda my FPH in a backwards way. I usually dont give the number out tho. lol, but I seem to make most guys think they have a chance

  12. I'm low speed…like around 10MPH. If I'm full of beer then it gets up to about 35 (or driving drunk).

  13. I silently "holla". I'm shy with strangers and it takes a bit to warm up to people, but a smile speaks a million words. A smile with bedroom eyes speaks a trillion.

  14. I agree with your post.

    If a man is in the club all in my face and then minutes later, I see him running the same game on another chick, it’s a wrap.

    I’m not saying that just bc he hollas he’s my man, or that I go around following him, but clubs in my city are kinda small.

  15. Well, I have a very outgoing personality but I wouldn't call myself "cool" – my wink looks something like a facial tic or possibly an epileptic seizure. I (used to) just let my booty do the talking and wait for guys to come. I feel the same way about rejection as I do about spiders. Blinding fear no matter how small. So no holla.

    This whole post reminds me of the scene in "The Wood" when the boys are at the school dance and bet to see who can get the most numbers. Ole boy only has one at the end, but still wins the bet because "Her number is worth ten of those other girls."

    It's about quality, not quantity!

  16. Ive never been the dude to be all thirst mode to holla. Id say im more of a 20% holla. I have mental and visual standards and try to align myself within those, ya dig?

    You always got the boys wholl holla at anything witha vajayjay. They help to filter for the good ones. So I say, play on playa!

  17. At 33 its really about mood-setting hell time of day too, bars/lounges/clubs are different they are meant for socializing but in everyday life its really about the moment, being in NYC its a lil different its a pedestrian city so you are more face to face but as you grow up you get used to it, funny things is there are times on the train a bid lil summin comes on and I aint really in the mood but DAMN!! However things have changed I cant just holla to holla I got it feel she WANTS me to holla yea its that non verbal language when trying to get the other to notice the subtle eye contact, a slight smile yep, that moment never gets old

  18. In my personal opinion, sometimes I feel like dude’s treat the club like it’s a battle royal video game trying to win as much as possible during the allotted time, 10-3. To me that’s just ridiculous because you get marginal returns and poor quality with that approach.

    I rarely will holla at a club, but I stand out and that is noticeable. I’ve had several females approach me and ask why I don’t holla at women. I’m always like, “well, i really just don’t think i’m going to meet anyone worth talking to in here, so i’m just trying to have a good time.” I’ll hold conversations with women, but i’m not asking for a number and maybe not even a name.

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