Saturday, I went to see Star Trek. This remake shockingly pleased me, as after the things I heard about Wolverine, I set my expectations low. The casting incredible, the plot great, and the effects were KEY for this film. This movie is the best of all Star Trek movies in my opinion, and I would recommend this to everyone unless you don’t like sci-fi, and if you don’t see it, commit Plaxicocide immediately! What’s my point? Well this movie made me remember how this show juxtaposes different cultural, racial, and gender specific aspects of our own society and uses aliens and different situations to explore these issues. One code that the Federation upholds is the Prime Directive. This rule explicitly states the following:
As the right of each sentient species to live in accordance with its normal cultural evolution is considered sacred, no Starfleet personnel may interfere with the normal and healthy development of alien life and culture. Such interference includes introducing superior knowledge, strength, or technology to a world whose society is incapable of handling such advantages wisely.
Basically, since many worlds Kirk and company travel to don’t have the same capabilities and advancements as the Federation, they cannot interfere in that world and races natural evolution as a society, at any costs. I immediately identified with this notion, because I employ my own Prime Directive when it comes to friends and relationships. Consider the following scenario:
You go out to the club with your friends, and you scope the area. You see a lot of debauchery, partying, and people going crazy. You turn and see a dude popping bottles, dancing with mad women. Basically, he’s shining. You soon realize you notice this dude, but you can’t recall how. Then, it hits you like that left hook from Many Paquiao – that’s xyz’s boyfriend, but xyz is nowhere to be found! So you calmly go about your business. The following day, XYZ asks about your weekend and mentions that her man had to work all weekend and couldn’t hang out with her. Should you tell her what you saw or keep your mouth shut?!
You are good friends with two people who are in a relationship. They have “issues”. You get the story from both sides,and basically see the end result. They both ask for your advice. Do you tell them what the other says? Do you mold the conversation towards the “Best possible outcome”? Do you change the subject and stay out of it?
It’s safe to say we’ve been in both situations before. So what’s the rule of engagement? When selecting a Prime Directive to follow, you must consider the following:
Accountability – If you witness and report on an act committed by an individual which you consider deviant to their relationship protocols, you can and will be held accountable. You do this knowing that eventually your snitching involvement in the situation can and will be brought to light. Even if you use the classic phrase “Just don’t tell them I said it”, trust that the word will get out, so you’ll have to deal with questions from the other side of the aisle. What if you were wrong? You know the friends who report all your movements to your S/O, only to get the “I knew that” routine and make that friend look like an idiot. Whether or not you can handle that pressure influences this decision.
Choosing friends – When you have two friends in a relationship you will hear both sides of a situation (at different times of course, you aint Dr Phil!). You may not like certain aspects of one friends actions, the people a friend wants to date instead of the S/O with which they have problems, and you end up getting emotionally involved in a relationship that isn’t YOURS! They want to know your advice, and know your opinion. These friends provide you with knowledge that one friend doesn’t have (the person has a side piece, they speak about ending it, they lied about something important, etc). Your advanced knowledge of the situation and common trust between the two individuals gives you an unmatched position of power. You sometimes feel compelled to share information with one person at the risk of alienating another, or sway them in one direction when you should be impartial. With great power, comes great responsibility and you have to decide if you want that role.
Co-defendant – “Yo, if XYZ asks, I was with you this weekend”. A recipe for disaster. How about people using you as an alibi without informing you? Alibi FAIL! Do you agree? Will you be ready for that 3AM phone call? Do you even play along?
My personal Prime Directive tells me that I do NOT interfere in situations between a man and woman when I have existing knowledge of certain situations. I must allow for the natural order and evolution of their relationship to go untainted by me. If I see a woman at the club talking it up with dudes when I know she goes out with my homie, I won’t say a word. I’m not going to be cited as “big brother” and get in the middle of things. If I see her tonging dudes down in the club, I’ll ask about their relationship before making that decision to drop dime. When I have two friends in a relationship, I hear both sides and remain objective. I won’t tell stuff that the other confides in me, and I’ll usually ask them not to let me know if they’re being grimy, so I’m not in that position…lol. I won’t try to usher them in a direction to reconcile. I’ll offer constructive advice and let them make the decision. It’s difficult, but like the great Spock, I cannot let emotion consume or guide my decisions in that case.
As you can see, my Prime Directive has clauses and by-laws, what about you? Do you follow a Prime Directive in this situation? Do you drop dime and ask questions later? Do you look the other way and hope you never gets asked about the situation?
Streetz alias “My name is Bennet, and I aint in it!”