This isn’t about chicken nuggets or gold nuggets or even the Denver Nuggets. It’s about something far less valuable. You know that little teeny weeny itty bitty little nugget that just won’t go away? No matter how many times you flush it, it just won’t go away. It just keeps coming right back up. For some reason, this nugget is determined to not go away. It floats there, teasing you…becoming a blight on your life. You just can’t get rid of this nugget.
This particular nugget I speak of, however, is not your lunch, but the ex that just won’t go away. The relationship is over, but somehow they are still…there. Where? There. No matter how many times you try to get rid of them, they just keep popping back up. They find a way to very intricately weave themselves into your life after the relationship is over. This little nugget has so many ways to pop back up. Sometimes it could feel like you see them more now the relationship is over than when you were together. Depending on how the relationship ended, this could make certain situations very uncomfortable, especially if you committed the cardinal sin of dating a co-worker. Now you have to see Mr. “Not Ready for Committment” and Ms. “I don’t like doing that” every single day. Great. The most common nuggets are the ones you have friends in common with. These nuggets are particularly tricky. You can pretty much bank on seeing this person at every social event you go to. Church…nugget. Club…nugget. Bowling alley…nugget. Grocery store…nugget. This nugget just won’t go away.
The annoying part about the nugget is not so much having to see this person as much as it’s about this person making themselves visible. They follow your every move on facebook/twitter/myspace. They cleverly pick the brains of friends or co-workers to keep tabs on you. They find stupid reasons to communicate with you like sending you texts or irrelevant posts on your facebook wall. Anything at all they can do to get your attention they will. Some nuggets are motivated by the hope that deep down there is still a chance for your broken relationship to be fixed. They feel as though if they are persistent enough, they can wear you down and achieve their ultimate goal. Maybe they’ll get lucky and corner you at the club and blame it on the alcohol. Or maybe all their incessant and meaningless communications will strike up a convo that leads to more than just talking. Some nuggets are just evil, salty, haterade drinking demons that have nothing better to do than to show up where they you are going to be and try to rain on your newly single parade. The nugget will not go away. At all.
This is why I practice and preach a firm no dating of co-workers policy, because when a co-worker turns into a nugget, this could turn out to be your own personal hell. Especially if you work closely with this person or you happen to be their superior or vice versa. More uncomfortable than a prostate exam. The underlying and subtle problem with this nugget is that it paints a new social landscape for you. People you used to be cool with are no longer cool with you because you are no longer dating the nugget, or maybe you lose friends based on your affiliation with this nugget. And no matter how hard you try, you just can’t get rid of this nugget!
I’m not a relationship expert at all, so I can’t tell you how to get rid of this nugget. Hopefully the planets align correctly for you and get a good flush in and get rid of this nugget. Maybe the nugget will stop floating on it’s own and just go away. But I’m sure we’ve all had our share of little nuggets that just won’t go away. So let’s help each other out. Any best practices on nugget removal? Got a nugget, don’t know to get rid of it? And for those of you that read this and now all you can think about is going to Mickey D’s for a 10 piece, it’s ok…go ahead.