All good things must come to an end at some point. I guess the same can be said for awfulness or unpleasantries as well. In many situations, we have some type of control over the end point. If we hate a job, we tighten up our resumes so we can start looking. If we’re good at what we do, we can make a transition to a new gig. If things are going incredibly well in life, there’s bound to be some catastrophic event that knocks us off the path of happiness and leaves us wondering what we did to deserve whatever it is that happened despite how many Sundays in a row we made it to church. If we’re at a casino and having luck at the slot machine or craps table, we know that eventually we’re gonna start losing…badly. If we’re in some sort of competition and gettin our arses kicked, we know that we need to concede at some point because victory is impossible.
How about in relationships? Things usually start off on the peachy side. That goes on for weeks, months, or years. Come to think of it, you don’t really even need to be in a relationship with the person. You could just be f*ckin satisfying each other’s sexual needs. You could be chillin’ on a regular basis givin’ the appearance that y’all are officially together even though neither of you are ready to take it there. Maybe you’re just casually dating and enjoyin’ each other’s company. This sounds all great and orgasmic, but what happens when things start to really go downhill? I don’t mean having one argument or the other person is in a bad mood for one day. I’m talking about when you have consistent issues popping up or you find yourself losing interest in the person that you’re dealing with?
There’s a infinite number of blogs out there with posts titled “It’s not you, it’s me.” or “How to Break Up with Someone Painlessly”. In those situations, one person isn’t happy with how things are proceeding. In other scenarios, both parties are happy but they can’t just keep going along in whatever mode forever. Regardless, there comes a point where things just need to end. Some people are willing to drag out the process for months or years. They’re willing to just go through the motions because they’re comfortable or they truly want to ensure/fix their relationship or whatever it may be. Many of us have been in relationships where we knew we were fighting an uphill battle, but just did not want to give up. I’m not referencing the crazy and deranged nugget that keeps on resurfacing. I’m talking about those with a genuinely good heart that want to see their situation work out…or even those that are complacent.
We all know a few of the signs that things are headed to their demise. It’s evident in the age and experiences that the readers and writers here share openly. Most of us have seen the symptoms and at some point in life attempted to save a struggling relationship. There are those who can quickly detach and end a situation/relationship at the drop of a dime—though I think those folks are in the minority or never cared that much about the person in the first place. That aside, when things are going bad and efforts to troubleshoot the issue have failed, at what point do we finally decide to call it quits? Given the divorce rate in this country, I’d figure that 50 of those that have been married would be able to provide an answer. Maybe not.
So for today good people of the SBM community, at what point do you throw in the towel and call a relationship or situation to its end? How much are you willing to put up with before you just dead the sh*t and save yourself the headache or worry? Let’s chat it up.
Don’t worry. My relationship is fine,