I think the advice is pretty standard that too many bags can cause you problems in your future. People have all types of bags. They have bags when it comes to communicating. Maybe in a past relationship whenever they tried to communicate verbally to someone they were met with an aggressive confrontational response that has led them to now shy away from verbal communication. Maybe in a past relationship they were taken advantage of sexually and that has led them to not be open sexually and reserved to their loved ones. Maybe in the past you’ve dealt with someone who cheated and that has led them to be mad suspect of everything their future partners do that suggest they may be up to something. (I tell you more people suffer from this than a little bit. However, it really is a reflection of what you would have done in a similar situation.) People have all types of bags they carry around with them. Erykah Badu says, “You gon’ miss your bus.” I have one question…
What the hell i’m supposed to do with Louis Vuitton bag I got though?!
They are some fly bags that we carry around. Here’s a few bags that i’ve carried around with me that i’m not ashamed to admit:
Don’t expect nothing from no one, that way you’ll never be disappointed – MARC by Marc Jacobs Remy Croc Satchel
This is a big one for me. I have been let down in the past and at times it caused me to be an ugly person at times. A prime example, is when you expect someone to do something, to be a least bit considerate and then they don’t… and then you shortly thereafter realize that they never had the expectation to do it. Now, i’m just the only one mad about the situation. Un uh pimpin’, I have to keep it moving. How many times have you said to yourself, I would do it for them, and I can’t understand why it wouldn’t dawn on them to do it for me? How many times have you expected someone to just “get it” and they didn’t and it left you disappointed? You can truly fix all that by never expecting anything.
Do not compromise on your dealbreakers – Fendi Forever Boston Satchel
People say that finding happiness is about making compromises. I agree, but I have my dealbreakers. This is a short list of my dealbreakers; lies, deceit, inconsiderate people, one way people, people obsessed with justifying double standards, continuous tardiness, lack of proper etiquette, disregard for social norms, etc. I’m sorry, that’s the short list, I know. In the past i’ve compromised on my dealbreakers to give something it’s due chance. Hells to the naw from now on. We all have dealbreakers, and honestly, i’d like to hear a story of when someone compromised on it and how it turned out positive.
Remember who’s #1, and who’s #2 – The Gucci Fannie Pack
The star player is the one who looks you in the mirror every morning. If you truly appreciate the star player, your #2 won’t mind being around you. People put other people ahead of themselves TOO MUCH. And you know what happens? You end up feeling used and abused. I know it’s wrong to think for yourself before you think of others, but when it comes down to it, self-preservation is the most instinct behavior we have. A practical example of this for our age group is about grad school, (I see this wayyy TOO MUCH), you’re in a relationship with someone and you get into a Top 5 MBA school, but decide to go to a school closer by so that you can maintain your relationship. Oh hells naw. I’m sorry boo boo, if I get into Wharton, I will not be going to Emory just so I can be closer to you. I would hope that we are together in two years, but if we ain’t you ain’t messing with my life decisions.
If you want something done right, sometimes you have to do it yourself – Michael Kors Astor Tote
This might be an extension to my first one, but here’s why it’s different to me. I extend this to everything. I mean, maybe i’m much more of Kobe than LeBron, but I just trust myself to get the job done before i’ll trust someone else. I know I piss a lot of people off when I say, “Don’t worry about it, i’ll take care of it” but it means so much more to me than it means to another person. Have you ever asked someone to do something for you and when they do it, it’s just not quite the way you would have done it? I am trying to think of a perfect example, but perhaps this one applies; I told my friend to pick up OJ from the grocery store. He had knowledge that I only drink Tropicana or Florida Natural… imagine my surprise when he shows up with Tampico Orange “drink.” I had that look on my face like in the first five minutes of Sweeney Todd when you are sitting there like, “Wait a minute, is this fool singing?! This fool is singing.”
Honorable Mention: Don’t Trust Anybody (DTA) – Louis Vuitton Monogram Montsouris Backpack
I really don’t want to get into this one, because a lot of people do not know how deep my trust issues run. I don’t really trust a lot of people. I “trust” them, but I don’t trust them. My grandmother always said, “Trust people to be who they are.” Word to life. I don’t trust anyone as far as I can see them. I always expect people to do what’s best for them in any situation. In relationships, I try avoid conversations about trust because I feel that often times people just will betray you. If I don’t set the expectation of trust, I won’t be disappointed.
These are my awesome designer bags. What are some of yours? What do you feel about bags in general?
– Dr. J