Bloggin aint easy, especially regarding sex and relationships. All of us on the internets write these blogs to inform, assist, and address issues concerning everyone. For me, it can also be therapeutic. However, these blogs are not without their caveats. A bloggers rants, opinions, and sexually mentally stimulating writings may seem effortless, but we take a lot of risk when we post these blogs. Take a look into our world, as I uncover some of the pitfalls and consequences of Sex/Relationship blogging:
High Expectations – When you write a sex and relationship blog, you talk a lot of sh*t about your sex game give advice, speak about your personal experience, and offer constructive criticism to both current events and readers questions. We read a lot of other sex/relationship blogs, hear countless stories from our friends, associates, and acquaintances, and scrutinize this aspect of our lives in great detail. It would behoove us to draw from these areas and present a realistic and beneficial blog for you. Anyone who reads these blogs may assume that the men and women writing these blogs must be sexual deities experts in the sack and in relationships. I’m here to tell you that I’m a Scorpio and yes it’s true us sex/relationship bloggers are human. We make, have made, and probably will make the same mistakes that you have. We just draw from our collective experience and share with you, to help you be better than us, have intelligent conversation about mature topics, and inevitably, pass time during the day at work.
Dating/Relationship Issues – SBM touched on this in his Dating a Blogger story. I’d also like to add that your wifey/cut buddy/FwB may not appreciate some of your commentary on the blogs. I know some people whose S/O’s would b*tch and complain about the advice they gave on blogs, or would want to know every single details about the commenters, other bloggers, and of any “first hand experience” you may have. At times, we like to separate our “work” from pleasure, and it can be intrusive to constantly pick at someones craft, especially when they deal with personal issues. It’s a fine line to tread if you have a love interest who makes it difficult.
Real life conflict – Unless you are 100% anonymous, your family and friends most likely know that you blog. For Sex and Relationship bloggers, we think of this as a gift and a curse. We want to promote our blogs, we want our friends to read and promote as well. Chances are, people that your current and former significant other/person you dated/cut buddy reads these blogs too. This may place a filter on what you post. You don’t want to put too much of your personal business out on the e-streets and at the same time you may not want to throw anyone under the bus either. Even if you keep the story super anonymous and generic, someone may read saying “This reggin is talking about me?!” and proceed to break your car windows and post a plethora of hate tweets on your account confront you and give the blogger unnecessary headaches. Although some people may deserve the ether, you do have to consider these factors and it may inhibit your creativity.
You Need More People – Credibility can make or break any blogger/writer. Imagine if you found out that I was really a 16yr old Warcraft playing dude from middle America who’s a social parriah & has seen no pahhhhhhhts of the p***y in real life ever? Would you still take his word as gospel? What about if someone who knows a blogger in real life comes onto his/her blog to blast them for giving out hypocritical information. Do you see is as hate or valid opinion? I can remember 3 separate occasions in which I told close friends “I think certain people may try to blast me for this one” Fortunately, I’ll listen to heavy Gucci Mane, OJ, and 50 cent to boost my inner “Streetz LaFleur” and post like a gangsta!
Trust Issues – As I touched on earlier in this blog, we get our knowledge from past experiences, along with the first hand accounts of these crazy situations. I can tell you that many of the emails we receive don’t make our blog (we try to answer common questions in one shot), the stories I hear make me fall into cooch out of my chair! If I knew y’all like that and didn’t want to get fired from my real job you hear half of what a sex and relationship blogger hears from people seeking advice, you would become paranoid. How do you trust people when vows of marriage, relationships, friendships, and celibacy many other moral adjectives are broken easily. I give the side eye now more than ever, and because i have this experience, I can point out a suspect situation a mile away. Funny thing is, us bloggers STILL get into stupid situations with all our knowledge. Damned either way I guess!
For all my bloggers in all areas, this one is for you. If you hesitated to express your feelings due to the above reasons or any other, then STAND UP!! This is for you too! Did I forget anything? Do you see these reasons as merely excuses? What are your experiences reading these blogs, writing them, and knowing people who write them? Let’s G chat.
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