One of my favorite sayings growing up was “Those who live in glass houses should not throw stones”. I think this is one of the realest sayings ever, because we do it on a regular basis. As a society, we judge quickly, although we may have similar or greater flaws than “the accused”. While I believe we all deserve our opinion, we should show restraint, get all the facts, and show temperament before drawing conclusions. This was evident in the Hofstra case where 5 men were falsely accused of raping a young lady. A lot of people branded these men guilty. Their home addresses were published to the world. Their families threatened. Jobs lost. Expelled from school. They were placed in P.C. with the general population of inmates, who “knew what they did” and dudes in jail don’t take kindly to rapists. Once they were exonerated (thank God for video phones), it was like the public collectively said ‘my bad” and kept it moving. Yet their reputations and privacy were put on blast, and reputation takes time to recover. It sucks that we will jump to conclusions like this, but unfortunately that’s what us humans do.
As you saw with the homie RCLS’s post, people find it difficult to forgive and forget actions. I feel that I can forgive 90% of the actions committed against me (save for extreme cases), however forgetting is another issue. If you betrayed my trust or did something foul, it’s easy to straight forgive, but I won’t be the fool to trust you the same way and get burned again. I’ve had fights with frat brothers, cousins, homies, and have reconciled eventually. I wouldn’t forget what happened, but I would be over it. To constantly be affected and harp on another person’s mistake shows that you will be stuck in the past, while others move on with their lives. I definitely held a grudge or two in my day, but I learned to live and let live.
We blog, comment, and speak to our friends about the things people do, yet we do the same things! You say the woman who goes back to her ex is dumb, yet you still deal with your ex. Paying for the p*ssy is corny, but you tell chicks to just throw it in the bag so you can hit. Crack is whack but weed is all you need. This do as I say and not as I do mentality takes away from real talk and makes us judge others with clouded sight. I find this challenging, especially commenting or talking about topics that I know pertain to me. All I can do is be me, keep it real, and state opinion. I try hard not to judge, and try to express sincere views.
What if it was you?
I’ve learned through my 21 years on this Earth #theswindle that to be Human is to be imperfect. We all make mistakes, no matter the magnitude. It pisses me off seeing people vilify Chris Breezy after he took his punishment, apologized, and serves the term of his punishment. I understand that he is a public figure and therefore is subject to any amount of jokes, ridicule, or commentary from anyone. However, it makes me sick seeing some talk show hosts and everyday people still equate every facet of his life to the “well he’s a woman beater so…” mentality. You see him smile during his community service and say “He doesn’t take his sentence seriously, he should’ve gone to jail”. Well, I can tell you that there’s some things that I hated doing or times I got punished ad had to laugh while “carrying out my sentence” as a way to motivate myself, lighten the mood, and just to get by (No Talib Kweli) You hear he released new music, and you dismiss it before the mp3 uploads to zshare! I think many of these people are the same individuals who would demand or expect people to forgive them for their mistakes. What if it was you? Would you figure no one would forgive you and fight tooth and nail to earn back 100% trust, or would you move on with your life and atone for your sins the best way you know possible. We all have mistakes we wish we could take back, and people in our lives that we hurt and from whom we want forgiveness. We should remember this when we so easily tear down others who make the same mistake. To be clear, I don’t condone Breezy’s actions one bit and think hitting women is wrong. Hell, some of you talk about wanting to be choked during sex, and I’m 100% GOOD on that! “Punch me in the face Streetz I love it!” You crazy?! My point is, that at some point, you have to let it go and stop stressing the situation.
So what’s the verdict? Is it human nature to judge? Can we control it? Is it valid? Somebody let me know what these b*tches want from a nukka
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