By now, you’ve all heard the story: Tiger Woods was injured in a car accident on Friday outside of his home. Now when a billion dollar boy like Tiger is involved in a car accident, you’ll get normal hoopla. The craziest thing about this situation was that he was leaving his house at 2:30am. Where was he going? Well, it didn’t take long for TMZ to find out, as they reported that Tiger’s Wife, Ellen Nordegrin, confronted him about a possible affair, scratched up his face during an argument, and broke the mans back windshield with his favorite golf club! Well you knew twitter would go crazy, starting the #tigerwoodswife trending topic (for which ya boy got recognized in Honey Mags best Tweek ever). I got into a few debates over the issue and after hearing some comments I’m convinced that Domestic Violence against men is yet another double standard in this country.
No fancy lists or catch phrases to lead… I’m just going to throw out a few statements I heard and my response;
Mack, I’m Goin’ IN!
“He cheated so he deserves what he gets!”
I won’t front, I know a lot of women who are ready to beat their men down if they step out. We make jokes, and even tell dudes to stop acting up before their shortys go “oops upside their head”. In actuality though, the mere fact that we feel comfortable knowing that a woman can wild out and hit a man and destroy his personal belongings is a PROBLEM! When we glorify and applaud behavior such as in the video below, we cosign domestic violence:
Men cheat. Women cheat. The numbers don’t *Jay-Z Laugh* I get that. Does that give women the right to go Ape sh*t (no pun intended) on personal belongings? Does that give women a free pass to light their boyfriends life up with 1,00 hand slaps? it’s funny how we know the answer to these questions yet we suffer from amnesia when these acts are committed. Besides, it hasn’t been proven that Tiger stepped out so all this violence is based off circumstantial evidence. Tiger should cite the 4th amendment against illegal search and seizure if she did “find anything”!
“That’s what he gets for messing with a White woman!”
Some of you are incredible. I know some said it in jest, but a lot of you were dead serious. What does her race have to do with the cost of sex tea in Asia? Some have said they felt he married white to “have a safe and docile woman who wouldn’t wild out on him”. I’m sorry, but crazy only knows gender and NOT race! SBM showed you the signs of this craziness on Monday! I’ve heard stories from women of all races and nationalities who have done crazy sh*t to men who scorned them. Be afraid fellas! Race had nothing to do with this issue, and some of you were looking to roast Tiger for his choice in women. Keep it real! I mean, race shouldn’t be an issue anyway, because I don’t consider Tiger Woods to be black, even if he does lowkey look like Elvin from Cosby Show, but that’s another blog.
“Where’s the outrage over the domestic abuse against Tiger?”
I’m never the one to say “I told you so” but… We all knew that after the infamous Chris Brown / Rihanna incident, that people would watch closely for more instances of domestic abuse. I also knew, in the back of my head, that if the situation was reversed, that the outrage wouldn’t be as loud-spoken. Yea, Ellen may not be as famous or publicized as Chris Brown, but they are in the same celebrity public eye and both should have kept their hands to themselves! Yes, I know the severity of the injuries Chris Brown inflicted upon Rihanna are a factor. However, while two wrongs, don’t make a right, she left scratches on Tiger’s face all the same. Same difference? I’m not looking to vindicate Chris Brown, but the way people demonized him in the media, I would expect to same from someone who scratched a man’s face up and defiled his vehicle with his OWN GOLFCLUBS!
Tiger will perpetuate the double standard by not implicating his wife to police. Any man who cries domestic violence is ridiculed. Tiger loves privacy and doesn’t trust the press, so he will do his best to contain the issue. I believe Tiger left because he didn’t want to get his arse whooped wanted to avoid conflict. I also think he left because he learned from Chris Brown. He would rather walk away than lay a hand on his wife or do something stupid to lose that endorsement money his public image. Take it from someone who’s been followed during an argument with a significant other, threatened and provoked with phrases like “Why are you looking at me like that?! You gonna hit me?! Go head do it *pokes pokes pokes* DO IT!!” It takes STRENGTH to walk away and calm down, and ladies you need to LET US WALK AWAY!I’m not asking Tiger to sit on Oprah’s couch in the fetal position and cry a river over getting slapped up, but I think we need to acknowledge the issue of domestic violence both ways!
I had another conversation over twitter with a young lady who commended Tiger’s wife for “reacting like the average woman and not a robot athlete’s wife”. This disturbed me, because she cosigned all of her actions under the guise of “normal behaviour”. After our twitter style rap battle conversation, I got to the root of her stance: She would beat her husband down if she cheated, and if he ever raised a hand to her, then “they would be fighting and then they’d reconcile”. Does anyone else see an issue here? Do you agree? It blows my mind how some aspects of domestic violence are accepted in society. I know I’ve heard many tales of couples who hit each other and still function well, and while I wasn’t shocked at the comment, it still made me think. At the end of the say, this double standard that men should not cry or can never be a victim of domestic abuse will get more people hurt and cause more suffering, because some men will retaliate, others will stay quiet and continue to get abused, while the rest will just “play it by ear”. I’ll never dictate how someone should live their life, but I think there should be equal ridicule and condemnation for domestic abuse, regardless of gender.
Do you cosign this post? Any men out there who kept mum to abuse? What’s your views and experiences on this topic? let’s have a great discussion and get some answers.
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