Women, I’m going to tell you something you already know: You can single handedly serve as motivation for men to upgrade themselves. Jay-Z and Kells, before the Phantom Gun in MSG incident, made a truthful track: Power of the P.U.S.S.Y. This basically dropped science about the catalyst which women provide men to improve themselves. Men pursue women, and subconsciously perform certain tasks, motivated on the surface by self accomplishment, and secretly for the affection…of the center of our attention. One major example of this is the gym.
We all want to get in shape for our own reasons. Men will say it’s to lose the last 10 pounds, get back into high school or college shape, or to prolong their lives/maintain a healthy lifestyle. I currently have a health challenge I chronicle at DOT NET, so I’m more than aware of fitness goals. Don’t think that some woman won’t help to give men that extra nudge to get up off Twitter and do an effin SITUP! I mean, my motivations are purely women-based health oriented, but let me share with you a story where I saw the power of female motivation:
While I was in Dallas, I hit up the LA Fitness location (my gym in NY, don’t be confused lol) in Grand Prairie. It looked just like my home gym, with certain differences (space, they had better weights, different setup of equipment, etc). The NY Gym is still > that one, but I could tell it was a smaller location. I went to do a normal workout, and I was in the zone, getting on my Jersey Shore workout flow. I saw a few people in there, and everyone was doing their own exercises as usual. I went over to the free weights section to do some squats, when I notice 2 cute TX hotties doing the same exercise near me. I had to keep focus so I didn’t hurt myself, so I started my warm-up set of 135 (one plate on each side) to do my warm-up set of 10. As I start the exercise, I see through the reflection in the mirror that shorty is doing the exercise at the SAME pace as me! So, I pay no attention and finish my set. This woman, in her sweet southern accent, says “How many did you do?” I look at her, smiled, and say “I did 10”, thinking that my NYC swag stature and confidence would impress. This woman then goes “I did 15, I beat you!” Um….
(props to Meka on the pic!)
I’m sorry… but I didn’t know we were competing! So I applaud her and inform her that I’m getting warmed up! I through another 50 lbs on to do squats at 185, and shorty MATCHES me rep for rep! Mind you, she wasn’t a Lou Ferrigno lookin‘ female, she was slim trim and athletic, like a soccer or track athlete. So in my mind I’m going crazy like “wow, she’s cute and strong, I gotta show her what’s up!” I quickly learned that everything was stronger in Texas! Set #3 comes around, and I decide to stay at 185, this woman went up to 2 PLATES!!! Put it in perspective: I’ve never attempted that weight, for whatever reason. I now have a trainer in there challenging me to match her in that weight. Out of respect for her beauty, strength, and my dignity, I was gonna go IN. Then, I remembered a line from one of my favorite poems:
A coward can smile when there’s naught to fear, and nothing his progress bars, but it takes a man to stand and cheer while the other fellow stars.
So, I laughed it off and said “Miss, you won’t have me going back to NY blogging about telling a story of how a pretty lady made me pull/break my back and injure myself for the rest of my trip! which didn’t involve sex” Did I mention that her last set was 2 plates and a quarter on each side, with a spotter, for 5 sets b4 she COLLAPSED?!! SMH! I definitely paused, and realized that my motivation to push myself that far was spurred by both competition and sexual attraction.
I have to concede that there’s some percentage of man’s drive for success attributed to attaining the approval and admiration of the opposite sex. Its a good thing that reason trumped my machismo, or I’d be typing from a hospital bed or chiropractors office! Men, utilize that motivation to attain your goals. Women, just keep doing what you do.
What other areas do you notice where a woman’s influence and presence will make a man switch his flow up. Yes i left them all out on purpose. I’ll let you tell it!