I was perusing CNN.com last night as part of my usual “I’m not ready to go to bed” routine. I was digging into a tub of Ben & Jerry’s…until I came across an article headline that said “Dating site expels fatties”. When I saw this, I wondered if e-harmony or another one of the popular dating sites had officially crossed the line and crushed some people’s hopes and dreams. I then wondered if a relationship website had ODed in an effort to make some type of point. So me being me, I clicked on the story. It turned out that an internatonal website called beautifulpeople.com had gotten rid of the profiles of members who has posted pictures after packing on a few pounds during the holiday season. The website’s actual statement said they removed people that were “revealing that they had let themselves go”. The founder of the site then went on to say fatties were not allowed to roam the this dating site because it violated the rules of sexiness or something like that.
I’m not sure what’s more sad here. Is it the fact that people were removed for packing on a few pounds? Is it that new members have to be voted in by members who deem them sexy? Or, is it that people felt genuinely hurt when they were banished for pudge and tried to get readmitted to the website as quickly as possible. There’s just something that seems wrong to me about someone hitting up the gym extra hard just so that they can be eligible for a dating website. Then again, this isn’t much different than what most of us start doing a few months before we know we’re going on a vacation when the skin is going to be out. We know we’re gonna be taking pictures and that a good portion of them will end up online. Either way, most of us succumb to letting the opinions of others dictate how we take care of ourselves from an aesthetic perspective.
This leads me to another line of thought though. It’s something that we’ve all talked about at some point in our lives. It’s probably something that a portion of us will have to deal with as we get older and as we get divorced married. Since we can all agree that it’s pretty difficult to seriously date someone that you’re not attracted to, what happens when that person you’re dating starts to not look as sexy as when yall first started rolling around in the sheets? Bare in mind that there are some things that people can control, and then there are other things where the person may not have a choice without going through a series of expensive procedures. In terms of you informing your significant other that you’ve noticed “changes” in their physical appearance, at what point is it okay to actually say something to them? Is it when you have to brace yourself every time they get on top of you? Is it when your friends or family asks you about the person or points out something in their appearance?
I don’t expect folks to answer all the questions I posed above. These are just some of the thoughts I had after reading that article on CNN. I am curious what the readers think about the article and people being flagged and removed from the dating website for not being sexy enough. I know we have sites like hotornot.com and ratemypic.com, but I’ve never heard of something like this happening on a dating site. Also, has anyone here ever had to check a significant other about letting him or herself go? How did you approach it and how did it go over? Let us know.
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