It’s that time again! I got an email from a reader asking about men’s thought processes. Check it out:
Got topics for a future blog…is it true…after men have “lived the bachelor life” they are able to immediately identify their Mrs. Forever, and can/ will ask her to marry them within the first year of dating?
I think we must all beware of generalization of men or women in general. Humans are unique creatures who all don’t subscribe to one particular thought pattern 100% of the time. I can, however, take the commonalities and see whether we can reach a logical conclusion. Every man has a different level of “bachelor life” to live. Some dudes calm down after college, some dudes are the “forever wifed up” dudes who always seem to have a girlfriend, while others never seem to settle down, EVER. However, we all reach a point where we say “OK I need to find something steady”, we identify a lady who intrigues us with her beauty and intelligence, and we commit to her. Once a man identifies her as the one, he’ll go through the necessary steps in his head to see if his theory is fact. This varies between individuals, but I believe we all need to be with someone a certain amount of time before we get ready to pop the question. Women can identify “the one” a LOT little quicker than men, but still want to see if the relationship stands the test of time.
Men definitely can ask a woman to marry him within one year or dating. I’ve seen even less than that. I would ask “Is a year enough time to know you should marry someone?” I would think a little more time is required to see all your faults individually and as a couple, to build as a unit, and to get yourself right financially, emotionally, and spiritually, to take that next step. Or maybe I just have naturally cold feet. Either way, I would tell you to concern yourself with the growth and development of the relationship and each other, and let everything else work itself out. I’d rather have a marriage that lasts that took 5 years to come to fruition than a 6 month proposal turn into a 2 year divorce. Of course there’s exceptions in either case, so that makes due diligence in relationship building even more important.
Does the time it takes men to pop the question matter? Did I answer this well? Chime in, as our readers all help each other to get these answers!
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