One good thing about Single Black Male is that our cast of writers have the ability to think outside the box. We present age old arguments and dilemmas in a fresh and updated light for our readers, in order to adjust and relate to current times. I’m heavily influenced by sports, literature, pop culture, and other aspects of society, and love to showcase said influences in my articles. I love comics and anime, and my favorite superhero Spider-Man and his mythos has inspired a certain culture of accountability and realism. Over the next few weeks, I will showcase different aspects of his mythos and teachings (as fictitious stories serve as allegory’s to society culture) in order to better convey my message.
Spider-Man has probably the most famous teaching of any comic book hero. A phrase that I would put money on that at least 80% of all Americans have heard in some way, shape or form even if you don’t know from where it originated. The saying was actually a teaching from Peter Parker’s Uncle Ben Parker:
“With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility“
To geek out for a second: This teaching by Peter’s uncle became even more poignant when Spider-Man let a crook get away that ended up killing Uncle Ben. At that moment, Spider-Man realized that he had a responsibility to utilize his abilities to help others and make a difference. To use these powers for evil or not at all would be irresponsible. This teaching shapes Spider-Man to be the paragon of justice that we know today.
Where am I going with this? Glad you asked. Men and women must adhere to these same principles in dating and relationships.
I know when I have power over an ex. I know what words to say, actions to perform, or situations to create, in order to manipulate former lovers to my hearts desire. It’s no secret that even if things ended horribly, there’s usually one party that can exude power and control over another. We have to show restraint and avoid making someones life miserable for our own personal gain. It’s always funny when I hear dudes or women talk about “I can get him/her back if I tried.” If I had a dollar for every time I heard this slogan I’d go to Jacob with 25 thou be rich. Some people even purposely interfere in their exes new relationships just because they can! You have to show restraint.Things ended for a reason and its time to move forward. Karma is a whore too and you’ll end up f*cked somehow!
Whether the individuals got it or not, we must refrain from having some poor soul blow their entire bank account at our own convenience. Women, to have some poor simp spend his 1/15 paycheck on some LouBoutins is just wrong. Men, to have a woman cooking, cleaning, and wifing the game out with no real reciprocation and false expectations is a recipe for disaster. There should be some type of quid pro quo standard where its not a one way street. You don’t want the individual to develop a resentment towards you, because any troubles you experience from there will be on you.
Leading Individuals on AKA the #Swindle
Most of the time, we are excellent judges of character, or know someone who can tell a smart individual from the naive. You may have a certain phrase or situation to bring up that will compel an individual to do as you please. You may also use that bomb head you give, that special trick betwixt the sheets, or even your famous back rub, to emotionally control the target of your swindle. I know it may seem right in certain circumstances, but you will more than likely end up hurting someone you care about, or incur the wrath of a lovestruck and scorned individual.
So there you have it. Some of the ways we can use those irresistible qualities we possess for ingenuous purposes. I wanted to point this out because Men and Women bring unnecessary problems upon themselves by denying certain concrete truths. We think that by getting our way we’ll be straight but you bring emotional factors into this situation for which you will be held accountable. Just understand that whether you are rich, handsome/beautiful, in a position of power, or have any other appealing characteristic, that you have an inherent responsibility to stay humble and use those qualities wisely. Absolute power corrupts absolutely, and while in some cases (jobs, hookups, etc) it is necessary, you have to use proper judgement with matters of the heart.
Do you guys know any other situations where using your God given talents in an abusive manner can do more hurt than help? Am I just bitchin? Let me know, I don’t bite 🙂