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S***** Zealots: Girls Just Want To Have Fun

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“wanna pretend, like you Ms. Goodie, Four-Shoes, even Bo knew, that you got poked, like acupuncture patients while our nation is a boat, Straight sinkin, I hate thinkin that these the future mommas, of our chillun, they f***** a different n**** every time, they get the feelin to…”
(Source: Outkast – Jazzy Belle)

Gentlemen, we must admit we have lost Pride Rock.



Women have not been liberated. These women liberated their selves. They did not land on Plymouth Rock, Plymouth Rock landed on us. It used to be a time where we were having sex with women and never calling back, but I’m here to tell you, nowadays women are having sex with us and never calling back. They not asking permission or giving no warning. You just getting a tap and poke after you c*m asking you to leave or where her clothes are so she can leave. Got negros using words like “cuddle” and asking dumb questions like “can you just lie here with me for ten minutes?”

Next thing you know they are going to be drinking Henny and smoking Newports… Wait, they already are.

So now a guy goes out to the club and he meets a chick and things seem to be going good. He’s an attractive young chap so he thinks that by buying this girl a few drinks and exchanging flirtatious communication he can win. And after arriving at midnight, he’s leaving at 2AM. He’s humming to himself, “She don’t know where we going going, back to the crib, show you how I’m living…” He gets her in the crib and they have some more shots and then clothes come off, he’s doing the dougie and then something happens… She rocks back on him and he has to get out of the nectar of this peach. It dawns on him, is she enjoying this more than me?

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Here’s what he didn’t notice:

– She came to the club with 7 girls
– They found their way into his VIP
– They are all staying at the Grand Hyatt in a double
– Why does she have a change of clothes in her Louie bag?
– Not one of her friends asked her where she was going.

As soon as he gets back in the nectar, he let’s go of his plaster and collapses. She gets up and goes to the bathroom, he thinks to himself, “I’m the man.” While in the bathroom she texts her friends and tells them all about the sexual encounter. She ends it with, “I’m good, I’m going to stay here and get him to take me to breakfast in the morning.”

Got em.

I don’t fault these sexual zealots, they are doing them and doing it well. I think the only concern I have is that they get mad when they think that someone is judging them or calling them names. Seriously?! You can’t expect to be out here having a different dude whenever you want and not expecting someone to talk about it. I’ll be straight up with you, even though guys may congratulate other guys about their sexual conquests, you girls will let the hood know about a dog. It goes both ways. Also, you have to at least admit this; you’ll hear a group of girls talking about a guy and how he’s calmed down since settling down with a girl. Those chicks are happy for that guy. Then, you have a group of guys talking about a girl and how she’s calmed down, but she used to get around. And not just around, but AROUND. Those guys feel bad for that guy.

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#kanyeshrug

Listen man, what can we do? Nothing. It’s like an old Eddie Murphy skit.

“Richard said, “The next time the motherf***** call, tell him I said, “Suck *my* d***.” I don’t give a f***. Whatever the f*** make the people laugh, say that sh**. Do the people laugh when you say what you say?” I said, “Yes.” He said, “Do you get paid?” I said, “Yes.” He said, “Well, tell Bill I said have a Coke and a smile and shut the f*** up. Jello pudding-eating motherf*****.”

Moral of the story: If you’re still getting buns, why you complaining? I say, live and let live.

SBM faithful, go on and testify. (Noting that we have some women on here who have vehemently defended their sexual conquests.)

Comment(90)

  1. it's one of those double standards that exists in society that i don't understand why. i understand why a man pays for dates and why it's more acceptable for when a woman puts her hands on a man than the other way around. when a man has a s*x he has to have it with someone and i'm assuming that it's a woman (unless he's gay), so why fault the woman for giving you something that you want?

    i'm not one to judge anyone for what they do between the sheets. even if they are in between the sheets with me, i'm still not judging. i'm grown, she's grown. grown people have s*x (for real children have s*x). its just happens.

  2. Yes, there is a new breef of women out here and they are not taking names or prisoners. I don't happen to agree with this promiscuous behavior. It eventually will catch up to you having all of these men running in and out. Men, do this better than women…the very make-up a man allows him to mate with more than one woman at a time without forming any real emotional attachments. Women, try to play this game and they end up getting hurt and caught up. Besides, that, a woman can't do everything a man does. Plain and simple…and like Dr J said, you running all around with different guys and when somebody calls you a H** you get all up in arms. Well, if you are carrying yourelf like a H** then what do you expect……

  3. I say get it in. If you are safe, doing the doing with another ADULT, no harm no foul. And if he/they stroke and give backshots like its their life’s mission sheeeeiiittt its going down. When at all possible both parties should be aware of what it is before getting involved-just chex. If not before most def after a warm towel has been delivered. Me, myself, and I, personally (all of us sleep are deprived right now) think that a lot of people put too much stock in the physical asspect of chex. “I gave him my body, but I gave you my soul” that’s deep right?.

  4. I say do what you want. I'm not all loosey goosey but I'm known to go on a date or two and never call a man again. What can I say? Food is expensive. Charge it to the game!

  5. Queen,

    I’ll have to respectfully disagree with you.

    It’s my opinion (perhaps mine alone) that women who get caught up and emotional are those who believe that in having the chex leads to a relationship. If you go into a situation knowing what it is and not what you hope its gonna be afterwards those problems can be avoided. It is very possible for women to hit and run without getting emotionally attached.

    When its just chex, there is no need to bask in the after ambiance and stare into each other eyes talking about dreams, aspirations and what they wanna be when they grow up. Just chex situations only require that whomever is leaving use the time while the host or hostess is getting a nice soapy warm towel to collect themselves enough to get “cleaned up”, fist bump and roll out.

    K.I.P. = KEEP IT PHYSICAL

    1. I know what Streetz said about the exes, but I facked my ex a couple times after we broke up. Afterwards I laid back to enjoy the last feeling of everything, got my a** up, cleaned up, and left. If he was at my place, I asked him to leave. If its just s*x to me, I'm leaving.. 🙂

  6. I have an associate that facks "hard". Her friends and I can't understand it. Like she will fack 3 dudes in the same crew, smoke a blunt with them and then up and leave or ask them to leave. The thing is that the only men that are off limits are those that are not interested in her and those that she has no interest in. She messed with this one guy that was in a relationship. When his girl approached her, she was just like "If he told you, why are you asking me? I'm just getting mine". All I'm saying is that, if your facking to the point where you have to fit in some kegel exercises into your schedule, because your good good is looser than some get after some goose…then you got a problem..

    Happy Thursday to all!!

  7. I say do what you want. I'm not all loosey goosey but I'm known to go on a date or two and never call a man again. What can I say? Food is expensive! Charge it to the game.

  8. "Straight sinkin, I hate thinkin that these the future mommas, of our chillun, they f***** a different n**** every time, they get the feelin to…”

    Aah, ahh, aah AAAH, ahh, ahh, ahh…AAAAAAAAAAAAHHHH!

    I ripped ATLiens to my computer at work and had to play it as soon as I read this.

    “Women have not been liberated. These women liberated their selves. They did not land on Plymouth Rock, Plymouth Rock landed on us. It used to be a time where we were having sex with women and never calling back, but I’m here to tell you, nowadays women are having s*x with us and never calling back. They not asking permission or giving no warning. You just getting a tap and poke after you c*m asking you to leave or where her clothes are so she can leave.”

    Like I said in a post last week: is this a bad thing for men? Ooh nos! Don’t use me for my d!ng a l!ing! What, now that we’re done you’re leaving? It’s a week later and she didn’t call me back! Oh, woe is me!

    Women didn’t liberate anything. All they did was give men exactly what we’ve wanted from the beginning; no-strings attached s*x with no commitment. And women wonder why chivalry is dead, why men can’t commit, why they are getting married later, if at all, etc.

    “I don’t fault these s****** zealots, they are doing them and doing it well. I think the only concern I have is that they get mad when they think that someone is judging them or calling them names. Seriously?!”

    Since we’re quoting rap lyrics today:

    See it's your thang and you can shake it how you wanna,

    Give it up free or make your money on the corner.

    But don't be bad and play the game, get mad and change

    Then you wonder why these muthaf**kas call you names.

  9. This post is too real!

    "Next thing you know they are going to be drinking Henny and smoking Newports… Wait, they already are."

    (this is a whole post on its own, seems "lady like" is a dying quality)

    If dude knows what he's getting into or realizes this girl is not going to be his future ex wife, then ride on!

    "Cash, gas, or @$$, no one rides for free."

    The drinks at the club, the breakfast in the morning, as long as he's getting his (Burberry raincoat on of course), everything costs.

    However, I can't understand how these Simping Kens keep raising the price of the pu$$y. If it's only costing you a drink don't pay 2 or three or dinner and a movie and a trip to Maui.

    1. wait- drinking Hennessy isnt lady-like? What if I keep my pinky in the air and cross my legs at the ankle?

        1. I'll pass on the Newports. But the Hennessy…preferably Hennessy Black(not available everywhere check your listings), neat with a bottle of water and let the good times roll. Pinky in the air, legs crossed at the ankle in all my lady like glory!

  10. The real question is what these ladies are going to do with themselves as time flies by.

    I love me a smut. Fun for everybody. Aint nothing like New P_))^, so SOMEONE has to be giving it up. However, I'm fully aware that FWB and jumping off crazy isn't in life goal for most of there woman who are doing it now? But what man is mature enough to wife a former jump. B/C I AM NOT THE ONE!

    I really appreciate jumpoffs. I like to talk to them (I always get into a girl's head b4 I pipe). But once your done jumping, I wouldn't dare wife it.

    I have a close friend whose wifey has one of the biggest jumps in LI (they even made a facebook group full of people she suck'd off). She jumped off with a bunch of people he knows and constantly has to see. Her favorite thing to do was to suck dudes off on the random without any foreplay. She didn't want to kiss, didn't want you to touch her, she didn't want any forplay. She liked to be used. When it was my boy's turn .. he fell in love with her and she moved passed that phase. We would go to parties where people had triz'd her and is was akward. But people respected him for knowingly being 'that guy'.

    1. "I really appreciate jumpoffs. I like to talk to them (I always get into a girl’s head b4 I pipe)"

      And they look at you with the big puppy dog eyes thinking "He is sooo smart n stuff. He really gets me. I think I love him. Ima let him hit cuz I know he gotta love me too" Hence feelings caught and now you have a stalker because she can't believe "how you did her like that after all she gave you"

      BULLSNICKETY!

      Ima write a book and title it,

      "Jedi Mind Tricks. May the Force Be With You"

      1. That respect the giving son is more of a "Damn he has a lot of inner strength to be walking around with THAT broad!" Trust I've been in similar situations and it's NOT worth it. That's just some super simp shyt to be honest.

        "Women do what you feel. Men do what you feel. I don't know there's a line in there somewhere!" – Tony Horton (via Groucho Marx)

    2. People respected him? I'ont know about that. They might have poured out a little liquor. But no man is like, yeah that used to be communal beats and now that's your wifey. Good looking my dude.

      1. why is this such a big deal to men? (and again, im using the term men lightly)

        i just dont get it…….but women are supposed to accept that men f*ck around alot.

        i just would like to understand the mentality behind it.

        1. Posting this again since I got stuck in Purgatory with Hugh Jazz and 'em:

          I don’t think it’s limited to gender. I don’t know many women that would want to be with a dude that smashed their friend(s). Or maybe they’re lying. Either way, I know I wouldn’t want to be with a woman who messed with anyone I have to see constantly and I know plenty of dudes that feel the same way.

          Mainly because men have a complex that this is "their" good good. No one wants a continuous reminder that there was another Conqueror or, worse yet, that a whole Trojan battalion used to stomp on those grounds as well.

        2. ok ok….

          but as a GROWN man or woman, one should already know certain things once you reach mental maturity. guess most just arent there yet.

          i will understand it one day…but like i said once before in another article….i hate double standards.

    3. But what man is mature enough to wife a former jump. B/C I AM NOT THE ONE!
      @ Cheeks You would want to wacth yaself myfriend because more and more jumpoffs are gettin wifed Some are just that good at it and most of the good ones You would never know Women talk to men just like Men talk to women Some of us get into ya heads too (before we get on them) Dont sleep lol
      That being said I do believe also that a woman can't or shouldnt do everything a man does And it is their genetic make up to chase tail I just think a lot of women are adapting Some are a adapting well and will thrive while others will die off
      But in this day and age women for the sake of their hearts Need to man up and seperate s*x from love

  11. Some promiscuous men tend to not be protection savvy so girls if you are open to letting Tom, Hakeem, Darnell, Wale, Mtumbo, Francois, Vladimir, Chen, Jose, Patel, et. al. get into your goodness please add very protection savvy (and faithfully follow the rules) alongside liberated female to your resume.

    *I know I always bring up diseases and what not, but I can't help it…its the field I work in. You see and hear the strangest things from people who should really know better*

  12. so the big concern is how others will look at you? lol….well ok, keep living life that way….i wish you all the best of luck.

    i will probably stop commenting, because this type of topic always gets me hype lol. and i tend to turn into a sarcastic a$$hole…….

    1. you are not allowed to stop commenting. lol. everyone here at SBM behind the scenes looks forward you your comments.

      in response to your comment, i don't think you should live life based on the way people view you, but you shouldn't be surprised that people may react towards your actions.

      1. i understand not being surprised by other people's reactions.

        but im referring to the way you men on here are thinking….the article itself even. shows that other people's reactions are so important to you all. so that would men you would only go out with a woman who is a dime because you dont want other people wondering why you are with such an ugly woman….or a fat woman….or a woman with kids……list goes on. seems that you all care a little too much about other people's opinions.

        i mean, i could understand if you said you wanted a virgin (or close) because of religion, or because you are that way and want someone who is the same as you, or something like that. but to want or not want something simply because of others' reactions is just silly to me.

        just my opinion….just trying to understand it all….

      2. But your reactions are all dead because you dont know what we dont want you to know And if you think you know the honest history of every SO every one of them

        your foolish

        So its not a offence shes taking Its a (shaking of the head) Man if you only knew

        Some men have to live a lil in la la land to wife a woman too

    1. oh thats what that means lol. i thought i cleaned up my comments. does awaiting moderation mean others cant see it?

      1. I believe so. You have three comments:

        – why is this such a big deal to men?

        – so the big concern is how others will look at you?

        – oh thats what that means lol.

        If you wrote more than that, I can't see it.

        1. minor admin note:
          SBM is being attacked by the gods that be. IF you want your comments to post you will have to take out all dirty words, this includes the word, "s*x".

          @hughjazz @tunde @juniebug all of you are guilty that's why it's awaiting moderation

  13. (this was my orginial post)

    lol……..

    well ive been a nympho since age 7 so there aint no changing my wh*ring ways.

    lol, nah im in a committed relationship now. but when im single i have fun. i do who and what i want, when i want. at the same time, im picky about who i f*ck. and i never f*ck for money (or anything else). i just f*ck cuz i like the guy and love s*x….takes alot for me to like a guy though. so usually i just find one guy who knows how to put it down p*rn star style like i do and just f*ck only him.

    dont understand why its such a big deal when women have s*x with a bunch of guys. as long as she is safe, then who cares. well, i know a lot of people care, but i dont. and i d*mn sure dont care about being called a name. cuz i live my life for me and me only….i dont even care about what family think. because at the end of the day, i gotta worry about my own happiness. i grew up being teased about everything….im dark skinned (bet that turned alot of men off lol)…and hit puberty at age 9. so i got teased about my dark skin, about my pimples and about being a good student all at the age of 9. so i grew thick skin really early on and learned that while people are sitting there judging me about the way that i am, im getting mines and living a happy life. now one of those kids who teased me is now on welfare and just had her 4th baby by a 3rd baby daddy, while i have a college degree and no kids. so i choose to do me all day everyday. yep there are people who probably feel bad for my man, but he is a REAL man…..and doesnt care about the past. he is just happy to be getting p*rn star s*x 14 times a week…….

  14. the disease argument is weak in my opinion. because you can sleep with one person…h*ll, you can be married and faithful and still catch a disease…i know a woman personally who caught HIV from her HUSBAND. whereas, if you’re going out f*cking alot, then you are going to be alot more safe about it. if you are having s*x, then you are at risk…….

    1. I just read this comment in its entirety.

      You know I love you like a play cousin but the more sex you have the more at risk you are because you're probabilty increases.

      If you have a 1 in 5 chance of contracting herpes and you have 1 partner, you chance is WAY lower than someone who has sex with 5. That's simple statistics.

      Meanwhile the CDC says that 48% of Black women have herpes.

      Excuse me while I place this white towel called having relations with Black women on the floor.

      1. "love you like a play cousin"?…is that better than "you are like a sister to me" lol…….

        but my point was that the disease argument is weak to me because you can catch a disease from f*cking one person…

        its all about responsibility and one should have that no matter how many people they f*ck…..

        1. ….but you'd be surprised at the number of people that hold your last statement to heart and actually practice it. It is still very low.

      2. The CDC didn't say that 48% of black women have herpes. 48% of the people ALREADY WITH HERPES IN THE STUDY were black female.

        But don't let facts get in the way of your regularly-scheduled black female bashing.

        1. Since I couldn't successfully edit:

          BTW, if 48% of people with herpes are black female, who the h*ll do you think we're getting it from? It's not like men of other races are sleeping with us en masse.

      3. The CDC did not say that 48% of black women have Herpes, it says that 48% of women in the 14-49 age bracket have Herpes. This is census data on black people only from March 2004: http://www.census.gov/population/socdemo/race/bla
        The total number of all black women was 19,327,000. The number of black women between the ages of 14-49 is roughly 10 million. Of that 10 million 48% of THEM have Herpes which is roughly 5 million women. That 35 year range is too narrow to represent half of ALL black women period, and if they were talking about half of ALL black women they couldn't use age as a qualifier since black women aren't only aged 14-49. However, the 5 million in the 14-49 age bracket that do have Herpes still represents at the very least a quarter of the black female population which is still a staggering number. In addition, if we are to assume that the women you date are between the ages of 14-49, than half of your dateable population does have Herpes BUT not half of ALL black women have Herpes. I know you've called someone a "disingenuous intellectual", so I hope I sound neither insincere or uninformed. : )

        1. Let me make sure I have this right. We are somehow trying to attack the statistic to prove it's incorrectly reported? How about this, instead of arguing over the statistic we just agree that it's a serious problem.

    2. Just a note: As a woman, the more sexual partners you have the higher your chances are at getting HPV which could lead to cervical cancer, etc. It's not detected in men easily, if at all. Casual s*x is not what it use to be.

  15. $ex is a cuss word now? OK, comment modified.

    “Straight sinkin, I hate thinkin that these the future mommas, of our chillun, they f***** a different n**** every time, they get the feelin to…”

    Aah, ahh, aah AAAH, ahh, ahh, ahh…AAAAAAAAAAAAHHHH!

    I ripped ATLiens to my computer at work and had to play it as soon as I read this.

    “Women have not been liberated. These women liberated their selves. They did not land on Plymouth Rock, Plymouth Rock landed on us. It used to be a time where we were having $ex with women and never calling back, but I’m here to tell you, nowadays women are having $ex with us and never calling back. They not asking permission or giving no warning. You just getting a tap and poke after you c*m asking you to leave or where her clothes are so she can leave.”

    Like I said in a post last week: is this a bad thing for men? Ooh nos! Don’t use me for my d!ng a l!ing! What, now that we’re done you’re leaving? It’s a week later and she didn’t call me back! Oh, woe is me!

    Women didn’t liberate anything. All they did was give men exactly what we’ve wanted from the beginning; no-strings attached $ex and we don’t even have to pretend like we care afterwards. And women wonder why chivalry is dead, why men can’t commit, why they are getting married later, if at all, etc.

    “I don’t fault these $exual zealots, they are doing them and doing it well. I think the only concern I have is that they get mad when they think that someone is judging them or calling them names. Seriously?!”

    Since we’re quoting rap lyrics today:

    See it’s your thang and you can shake it how you wanna,

    Give it up free or make your money on the corner.

    But don’t be bad and play the game, get mad and change

    Then you wonder why these muthaf__kas call you names.

        1. lol, nah i like to let it all out….

          but i can be a little too sarcastic at times, and that usually causes a little drama on these types of sites….

        2. I know some people have trouble separating opinions on a topic from a personal attack, but if you are going to be "a little too sarcastic", there will be no drama. At least not from me.

  16. :Humming: Nelly Fertado's "Maneater"… Some women got game, some don't. Some women hang up the Jersey, some don't. And the same goes for men. I've got clingy guys, I've had not so clingy guys. Sigh such is life people in the big city (Lansing, MI is not one of them tho)

  17. I liked this post. For the woman in the scenario – is she a ho, or is she just smarter and more prepared than the guy? LOL, I love how we just assume she does this with any and everybody. Call me crazy, but I tend to assume the other way – she may be ending a self-imposed hiatus. That's usually what has led to the most scandalous behavior in my crew.

    Men do need to realize that the game has changed some. But really, those men who are salty about it tend to be the ones losing out in the new system. Or the ones who had this really simple breakdown of women (Madonna or Whore) who now have to accept that yes, even "good" women can (and will) get their swerve on from time to time. The woman in the scenario may not be the same one to run a train on the FAMU football team, so don't lump her in the same category. Or…go ahead and call her a ho. Won't hurt her any.

    1. I actually like the new system. I think that it brings more to light. Back in the day sexual zealots were more vindictive and methodical leading to cheating wives. Rather let it be known that she's trying to get it in, she's not trying to be tied down.

      I must say though someone said that a women who gets around gets all loosy goosey…. that's not actually true.

  18. what is the first word in the title post supposed to be?

    wow, asteriks are whats hot in the streets? ok I'll read the post now and try to use context clues…

    1. i understand the whole not trying to get the site shut down but words like s*x and h*ll are not curse words. i try not to curse on here and use flag words like pron. but i only like being censored to a point.

  19. So I guess i'm a zealot, I have slept with dudes in the same crew, I can not quickly off of the top of my head tell you how many dudes I have slept with in the last year, I date openly, sometimes guys buy me stuff, fly me places, sometimes I don't give a damn about them, sometimes I do and when I do I show them respect, split bills don't sleep with other dudes or lie to them. In general I have a whatever attitude if I feel like doing something, experiencing someone I do, but really it's complicated. I do not always like who I am and I do question my integrity as a woman, it's an ongoing struggle. On one hand i'm tough and do what I feel, put up walls talk to dudes that I would never want to be wifed by but on the other hand I feel ashamed and uncomfortable with my past. Will I respect the man that I marry for loving me past and all without insecurities Or will I subconsciously think he's a chump that wifed a girl who everyone had? I value myself, but realistically no matter how liberated you are it is hard to escape the societal pressure to be "ladylike" and "pure" no matter how gangster you are.

    1. First off, thanks for the honesty. Not sure how old you are – but I would say that you're still finding your comfort zone and you're somewhere in the middle of "still playing around with bad boys" and "you know, at some point I'll want something better". Let your consience be your guide – sometimes we don't know what we're capable of or what our boundaries are until we've crossed them. You'll settle down once you've "sewn your royal oats" and – miracle of miracles – you'll find a man who won't.even.ask.about.it. Because contrary to what the little'uns on here preach, most men over the age of 27 stick to a don't ask, don't tell policy, lol.

    2. I'm in the "don't ask, don't tell" age range that Anna is refering to and believe me, it gets better.

      Do you, protective yourself while doing it. What other people have to say about you is none of your business.

  20. Wait wait… Double standards… Follow me if you will…

    So a man sleeps sleeps with many women and his boys cheer him on. That ish is mad cool to them. Then those same dudes call a random woman that sleeps with many men a h*e. But, that woman who sleeps with many men is called a h*e by her girls. Those same women call men who sleep with many women a h*e as well. So basically, us men cheer on our friends, while women don't do that for their women friend. The factor people forget is that we are cheering on our FRIENDS regardless of gender for getting theirs. While women are more likely to call a fellow woman friend a h*e rather cheering her on. Who's doing the judging? We're not creating the double standard, women are.

    How can I say this? Because a guy would cheer for a women (who is their friend, you know 'she is one of the boys') for getting hers, while a woman with the same friend with call her a h*e. True story. POW!

    1. "Who’s doing the judging? We’re not creating the double standard, women are. "

      maybe so, maybe no…

      SOME women do this to feel they have a "one up" on their girls; they need to make themselves feel better than their girl as far as in the eyes of men. maybe something like a competition? so…do they really think this way or do they do it because they knew men thought this way, first? hmm.

      having said that, I have never called out any of my friends for their exploits–in front or behind their backs. friends don't do that if they are truly friends and not jealous/secretly hating their girls. thats that frienemy ish.

      1. Exaaactly. Just don't hang with the crew from "Mean Girls" and you'll be all right. A real friend will want you to be happy and safe – so if you she pulls you up on something you don't have to second guess why.

      2. I once witnessed a group of groupies arguing over who would get to have relations with the baller. It was hilarious, there was screaming and shoving. Now that's what I call frenemies.

  21. *sigh*

    ok, i officially have to say good-bye to this topic…..

    i look foward to tomorrow's post….

    have a great day everyone…….

    1. I agree with you. It is both silly and necessary. However, both genders do it equally when appropriate. If a guy is looking to wife her then yeah her history will matter TO A POINT, but if she's just a smash, he doesn't care. Women have the same approach as far as I know. I mean, I know homies that wifed'd strippers, so I'm sure each of them thought about the implications of that. But that fact didn't matter clearly… but them again, maybe I'm not understanding your frustrations.

      But just not paying attention to others reactions about your interest is irresponsible. Dude may be KNOWN for jedi Mind tricks, just like a woman may be known for it. How would you know? Everyone would hate to hear: "We thought you knew." I've witnessed that a few times. You have to use a life and phone a friend sometimes… lol

      Just share your viewpoint: each one, teach one. You never know how what you're saying could affect someone's viewpoint on the situation.

  22. "She came to the club with 7 girls
    – They found their way into his VIP
    – They are all staying at the Grand Hyatt in a double
    – Why does she have a change of clothes in her Louie bag?
    – Not one of her friends asked her where she was going."

    ding ! ding ! ding! She might be a hoe.

    Right on, Dr. Jay. However, I don't think we should be mad at men who are upset that women are exhibiting this type of behavior. That implys a desire on the man's part to respect this woman. Nothing wrong with that…..at all actually.

    SHE's f*ing up, however, if she's doing sh*t like this and claiming she's looking for love.

  23. Thanks Anna N. and Juniebug. Good assessment Anna and I appreciate the advice. I enjoy experiences, I never want to be scared to try things/live my life. I know that I am a fun, intelligent, and motivated woman. I want to be a good wife and a good mother and I will be someday. I do have misgivings about my life style choices, but one day/situation at a time.

  24. But what man is mature enough to wife a former jump. B/C I AM NOT THE ONE!

    @ Cheeks You would want to wacth yaself myfriend because more and more jumpoffs are gettin wifed Some are just that good at it and most of the good ones You would never know Women talk to men just like Men talk to women Some of us get into ya heads too (before we get on them) Dont sleep lol

    That being said I do believe also that a woman can’t or shouldnt do everything a man does And it is their genetic make up to chase tail I just think a lot of women are adapting Some are a adapting well and will thrive while others will die off

    But in this day and age women for the sake of their hearts Need to man up and seperate facking from love

    Reply

    1. Put the following statements together:

      more and more jumpoffs are gettin wifed

      I just think a lot of women are adapting Some are a adapting well and will thrive while others will die off

      And it sounds like you're saying that jumpoffs who are chexual zealots will progress given other types of women will die off via natural selection. That is a wild concept and I like it. We want a "lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets." How else would they get the freak part down? lmao

    2. thiiiiis.

      So many girls manage to make jumpoff with dudes that will probably never speak in life in different cities, states, and countries. You may be wifing a certified, card carrying, "lady of the night."

      1. That is exactly why you have to demand a CARFAX report from these women. If you can't get one of those, visit your local fraternity, masonery or athletic organization to get a national report on these women.

        You can't forget to do a background investigation.

        Women google men.

        Men just ask frat.

  25. Women are definitely playing the game with a certain kind of swagger nowadays. I have been known to smash and dash pull a few drive-bys in my day and frankly, I think the reason women don't usually game men is because it's so easy it's not even fun.

    Women are better liars, first of all. I don't know how many times I've had someone tell me they were one place when I had enough eyewitnesses and DNA evidence for an entire episode of Law & Order to prove the contrary.

    Our girls are good with the #swindle as well. KeKe and LaFriqa are probably getting down too so they know what works and what doesn't. Ray-Ray and Bongo haven't had any since before Whitney got on that rock in the new milennium, therefore, they probably don't understand that pulling the wool over a woman's eyes is fruitless.

    I tell it like it is.

  26. Sorry for all the commenting rules. We got blocked in the workplace (again) Tuesday and I'm trying to minimize the damage and get us on the "good" sites list.

    Banned words are:

    f*

    sh*

    pen**

    s*x

    pus**

    p*rn

    I'm trying to reach a happy medium, but don't expect that until next week.

  27. I'm going to tell you, even more entertaining then the actual post was the commentary. The way you all tried to censor yourselves… priceless.

    Fack, chexual, chex, $ex…

    gotta love it.

  28. I love love love this post. The way i see it, is when i'm boo'd up then I'm boo'd up. If not then why not do me. I don't do everyone but I will do what it do and then chuck the deuces. Or if they're good keep em on the team. I think the real issue is that like with most stuff, women are doing it and doing it better than them. As far as people talking about, people are always going to talk. Personally, i don't care. Neither do my friends who do the same thing. Why live life on what other people think? What's the point in that? I've smashed a homie a time or 2, and i know they know…and if they think i'm a lady of "easy virtue" because of it so what? It's not like i'm seeing them again 😉

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