“And so I stay clear, We from a small town, And everybody talks and everybody listen, And somehow the truth just always comes up missing.” – Aubrey Graham (I swear, I’ll stop quoting Drake now.)
We’ve been talking a lot about the summer and what the summer brings us. As we get ready to show out, it won’t be long until we are reminded of something that brings us all together. We hate an old gossiping hater!
I think all real men know by heart and respect the Book of Revelations on Dating, Chapter I, Verse 1, scripture that reads, “Just because you see me with her, doesn’t mean I’m sleeping with her.” – The Great Prophet Robert Kelly. But what part of the game is this, where people make up rumors that get better with wine? First I’m sleeping with her, second, I’m having a threesome with her, now this week, me and my partner are both sleeping with her, because that’s how we get down. So here’s my thesis, It’s not what you can prove, it’s what people think.
A lot of women just cringed because they will always say, “I don’t care what people think about me.” That’s cool baby girl, keep on keeping on with your unrealistic views of life, I’m trying to help you today, but if you must be stubborn, do you. The fact remains that as you try and “do you” this summer there’s going to be a couple haters watching you and tweeting about you in the club as you stand there at that athlete’s table drinking his liquor. Funny, the woman looking at you is the real groupie, you don’t even know where you are at, you think you just saw Jesus because you’re so wasted and you actually hate sports.
Now there are three people you need to watch out for:
1) The one who wants your significant other – He/She refuses to stop giving project status reports of your activity in the club; before, during and after the club.
2) The one who just doesn’t like you for no reason – “I don’t like the way that girl looks at me.” “She thinks she’s cute.” “I know someone she used to talk to.”
3) Your funky a*s friends – Do not get it twisted, the people who gossip about you’re a*s the most are your friends. I’ve gotten to the point now that if I know you closely, I really don’t want to be around you. Keeping it 100 with your peoples is a lost art. I’m not saying they don’t love you, it’s just that everyone does it and friends feel a sense of entitlement.
You can avoid a lot of this by not thinking you are invincible. People can see you when you are out. As much as you don’t want nobody in your business and you are convinced that “don’t nobody know you,” people have seen you around and a simple, “Who is that broad” can get at least anecdotal information. You should probably try and not be the closest woman to naked at the club, if you don’t want people thinking you are sleeping with that guy, try not to leave the club with him at the end of the night, wasted and it’s just the two of you.
Do not get it twisted though. We know you did some of it. A lot of people will have you believe that the story about them is 100% false. It’s the ones out here lying and getting caught that are spoiling it for all the other women who are speaking the truth. You may not have slept with all the Redskins, but you slept with two of them guys and you can stop professing that you think football players are nasty and you would never have relations with them. As you reach for another bottle of Santana Moss’s liquor.
To those of you who don’t care what people say about you, this is your part of the show. I’m not going to argue with you about why what people say about you matters. People rarely realize how much we are slaves to our reputations. However, integrity is probably the best word to describe why you should be concerned. It’s not about the hater who is just hating, it’s about the person who does not know you, who may hear about you without knowing you. That person may be a potential business contact, or an employer. It may be a good friend of a man you’re dating who says, “I’m not sure because I don’t know the girl, but I heard she’s a ho.” And whether it is true or false it doesn’t matter once the question is raised. I’m from the school of hard questions, when someone tells me someone is a ho, I always say, “Name 5 people she’s been with.” Most people can’t do it, I ask that they stop saying it, but either way they will just say it to each other.
Remember, it’s not what you can prove, it’s what people think. The point here is simple, people talk and people gossip. Some of it’s true and some of it’s false. Don’t be the person who has a reputation and they can’t own up to 50% of it. But also, keep in mind that the “circle” is real. It’s smaller than you think it is and there’s no removing yourself from the circle, unless you move and change your cell phone number. Saying you don’t mess with Ray Ray no more, doesn’t mean anything if you still go to his parties.
What are your thoughts SBM massive? Don’t you hate the amount of gossip that goes on amongst our network? Doesn’t it seem like someone should just ask you instead of everyone else? Have you ever heard a story about yourself that was so ridiculous you had to stop and laugh? Speak on it.