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Hello Summer, Goodbye Wifey Season

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Whatchu want me to do, its SUMMER!

This weekend is the unofficial start of the summer. Memorial Day weekend in the U.S. means entire regional trips to South Beach, Vegas, VA Beach, or any other hot spot. Everyone who was “working on their summer body” well… times up! Some people may have to push back their “beach body debut” until the Summer Solstice, but that’s OK! The days get longer and hotter (no porno) and women get into their sexiest attire. One trend that occurs with the commencement of summer is the end of “wifed-up season”. This season, which begins in the Winter and continues throughout the Spring, is usually signified by people who extensively date and somehow “terminate” their relationship prior to the last weekend in May. The jokes laden within this opening paragraph are obvious, but I wanted to give my reasons why “wifed up season” has no wins in Summer’s Casa:

Frequency of Travel

The summer is usually the least busiest time for work (depending on your profession), and the time where everyone takes vacation. Whether domestic or international, moves are made to see the world and all its splendor. Quality time in your area is going to suffer, and who wants to worry about “taking care of home” when you’re in Jamaica trying to Find Your Love?

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Flashing Lights

Dr J. already spoke on this, but for the sake of this post I must reiterate. Women showing the fruits of their Winter/Spring labour, NICE looking feet, and a genuine happiness and care-free attitude about them. Even the mean muggin females in NYC ease up a bit, lol.

Entertainment

Some of the most enjoyable types of entertainment occur in the summer. Think of all the music that we remember as summer classics (Fresh Prince anyone?). Every time we hear certain songs, we want to drop our windows, pop the sunroof, and drive around the hood nodding our heads to the beat. This is also the season to hit the theaters for the summer blockbusters. Outdoor concerts are always a great look! There’s also the parties, BBQs, beach movements, random walks around your city, impromptu get-togethers at friends houses, and other events that spontaneously occur in the summer. There’s a lot of people things to do, so much that you can get lost in the excitement of it all.

The Fling Factor

I think a scientific study should be conducted dealing with the summer and the probability of having that summer fling(s). I don’t know what it is, but I feel like this season is susceptible to the short lived, intense, passionate relationships that begin spur-of-the-moment and finish by September, yet leave the individuals with no regrets.

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Of course this list isn’t comprehensive! That’s where you fine readers help. What are some other reasons that wifed up season closes shop for the summer? Do some of you go into the playoffs of wifed up season during the summer? Let’s discuss

FYI this list doesn’t include people who are in relationships already. Just putting it out there before the wifed-up manifestos commence…lol

Comment(37)

  1. I feel like people in relationships have to work even harder in the summer. Especially women…all this eye candy roaming around…women on the hunt to take somebody's (anybody's!) man……seems like with summer…comes the "brand new" all of a sudden negroes wanna switch it up on you….coming outta left field with Jack*azznes…all of a sudden…its like the natives become restless…..yeah, good ole summer time…lol.

    1. I really do love the season and all that comes with it..but, I just wanted to share some things I have noticed, in my own experiences around this time of the year…its all love though:-)

  2. Well, being married, my situation is a lil more permanent. That said, when I was a younger dude… in college- I definitely broke up with a girlfriend one time just because summer was coming and I didn't wanna be hemmed up. It was foul. It was really foul because, being young in the game, I didn't man up and just be like…yo, I wanna move around this summer, can we chill for a minute and reconvene the first day the weather drops below 60.

    Instead, I just convinced myself I was unhappy with her. Found myself getting annoyed with the littlest things about her. Stuff like, how she chewed, how she blinked, how she breathed. Eventually, we had an arguement about something super petty. Like, she asked me to drive her somewhere or something – and I turned it into a huge argument… lol. Basically made what was a minor disagreement into a deal breaker. "I'm not changing, so, this ain't gon work". It was foul… she was really really hurt. I grew from it though. And eventually, after growing and maturing, I apologized.

    Moral of the story – if your winter homey seems like he/she is a little antsy, very disagreeable, and not as responsive… you might wanna suggest a summer break.

    See you in September!

    1. This comment cracked me up. Omg. I think I choked on my lunch.

      1. LMAO @ a "lil" more permanent.

      2. "reconvene the first day the weather drops below 60"

      3. "how she chewed, how she blinked, how she breathed…" bury me now.

  3. I gotta admit…suspect behavior this time of year is inevitable. Last summer half of my friends (men and women) were single by June for one reason or another.

  4. For some reason me and actually one of my closest partners always meet a woman and settle somewhat down for the summer Memorial Day weekend without fail. It's so weird to me, but I think it's because we're complete and absolute fools when it's warm and people are outside.

    I never been a seasonal dude though. In fact, I live to have fun and be social, but I also like to keep my head focused and for that reason, although I cut up at cookouts and pool parties, i'm not looking for summer flings.

    I do love love love women in the summer who look good. It's hot as a mug today, but I was in heaven in my commute today. (Saw the ex today… dang she look good.)

    As it pertains to travel, there's a reason why people call me Sobe Jackson. No more questions.

  5. One reason around these parts to stay single in the summer: Caribana.

    With the influx of bodies flocking into the city from the far corners of the globe, shedding your encumbrances is a must.

        1. I had a chick who used to pay for my ticket to Miami basically whenever I wanted. She just wanted the rewards. She knew if she got me to Miami, I would make like Jeezy and Plies in Prive. So yeah Max, go ahead, buy the ticket for the big homie.

  6. I met my girl and got bunned up 2 summers ago, so this doesnt apply to my life but that dont mean it aint true. I know ppl who will let go of whomever they're w/ just b/c its summer.

    One way to make dealing w/ the eye candy easier is to make sure you're SO is eye candy too. I cut up at BBQs too (via Dr. J) but the fact that i feel that my jawn is bad, it makes it a bit easier.

    Big cities are even worse b/c of all the interns who flock to them for the summer. Interns make the world go round

  7. I'm curious to know why guys feel they have a buffet of women to try during the summer months, on vacation, etc. 

    Do men conveniently forget that it's a lot more difficult for them to get laid than it is for women? Shit, all a woman has to do to get laid is show up with condoms and it's game on. Guys have to normally persue and convince and expend energy/money to achieve the goal.

    Guys have this unyielding hope that they will always get some, but it's bullshit ladies. Most likely you've been with way more men, then they will ever be with women.

    The average guy will only be with about 7 females during their lifetime, so I just get genuinely intrigued why ALL guys talk a BIG game about having so much women to choose from and excessive potential hookups. It's quite delusional. But I suppose the summer works in giving everyone hope?

    Anyway, I do see what you mean abt relationships ending In the summer, but I have yet to see an adult, serious, monogamous relationship end bc it's the summer.

    I feel you will likely see this in college aged relationships where the relationship is built more out of convenience (ie the guy is in it for guaranteed sex & has no intention of settling down anytime soon), but you won't see it in relationships that actually mean shit and is a but more than shallow infatuation.

    Best way to remedy this is by not being in a relationship until you feel you're over the whole fuck-fuck-fuck stage, until you've gotten to the 'been there, done that' stafe bc it's illogical to commit to one person and still want to behave single on the summer. It's immature, even. Keep single, until you have a good reason not to be, and the bloody winter isn't a good reason. Deuces.

    Stay thirsty, folks.

    1. "Do men conveniently forget that it's a lot more difficult for them to get laid than it is for women? Shit, all a woman has to do to get laid is show up with condoms and it's game on." – This doesnt have sh*t to do w/ the cost of tea in China. No one argued that this phenomena was one way and many women have prove that it isnt.

      "Guys have to normally persue and convince and expend energy/money to achieve the goal. Guys have this unyielding hope that they will always get some, but it's bullshit ladies." – Another point that has nothing to do w/ the post. If anything, it proves the contrary of your argument. B/c a guy has to spend so much energy, and there is more perceived reason to spend energy in the summer, it makes sense to not have a gf while not expending energy.

      "Most likely you've been with way more men, then they will ever be with women. The average guy will only be with about 7 females during their lifetime, so I just get genuinely intrigued why ALL guys talk a BIG game about having so much women to choose from and excessive potential hookups. It's quite delusional. But I suppose the summer works in giving everyone hope?" – I really dont know what guys you know. The avg has to be pulled down by devout religious folk, and losers and China w/ their 20 million man surplus.

      "Anyway, I do see what you mean abt relationships ending In the summer, but I have yet to see an adult, serious, monogamous relationship end bc it's the summer. I feel you will likely see this in college aged relationships where the relationship is built more out of convenience (ie the guy is in it for guaranteed sex & has no intention of settling down anytime soon), but you won't see it in relationships that actually mean shit and is a but more than shallow infatuation." – I think everyone on here would agree. TMIMITW, myself and Dr J alluded to this.

    2. Sure women can hook up with men faster than men can with women BUT it is really about a matter of numbers. If you are quick witted, smart, motivated and confident then you won't hear "no" all the time.

      It isn't that hard or complex to really talk to a woman. Genuine conversation, laughter and cooking do a whole lot.

      …staying thirsty is what leads to success!

    3. IT finally got my internet working again. Me and the GF are still going strong, and I have never dumped someone simply because it's summer, but I can answer some of those questions.

      "I’m curious to know why guys feel they have a buffet of women to try during the summer months, on vacation, etc."

      Because for a relatively decent looking guy with a good job and a place to live, it's true.

      "Do men conveniently forget that it’s a lot more difficult for them to get laid than it is for women?

      True, because women are the gatekeepers that decide if anything is going down or not. But just because it's "more difficult" doesn't mean it's difficult.

      "Guys have this unyielding hope that they will always get some, but it’s bullshit ladies.

      Men aren't stupid. If it didn't work, we wouldn't do it.

      "The average guy will only be with about 7 females during their lifetime…"

      Really? I guess I never really thought about it because I surpassed seven a long time ago.

      "Anyway, I do see what you mean abt relationships ending In the summer, but I have yet to see an adult, serious, monogamous relationship end bc it’s the summer…it’s illogical to commit to one person and still want to behave single on the summer. It’s immature, even. Keep single, until you have a good reason not to be, and the bloody winter isn’t a good reason."

      100% cosign.

    4. IT finally got my internet working again. Me and the GF are still going strong, and I have never dumped someone simply because it’s summer, but I can answer some of those questions.

      “I’m curious to know why guys feel they have a buffet of women to try during the summer months, on vacation, etc.”

      Because for a relatively decent looking guy with a good job and a place to live, it’s true.

      “Do men conveniently forget that it’s a lot more difficult for them to get laid than it is for women?"

      True, because women are the gatekeepers that decide if anything is going down or not. But just because it’s “more difficult” doesn’t mean it’s difficult.

      “The average guy will only be with about 7 females during their lifetime…”

      Really? I guess I never really thought about it because I surpassed seven a long time ago, but I guess that number could be accurate.

      “Anyway, I do see what you mean abt relationships ending In the summer, but I have yet to see an adult, serious, monogamous relationship end bc it’s the summer…it’s illogical to commit to one person and still want to behave single on the summer. It’s immature, even. Keep single, until you have a good reason not to be, and the bloody winter isn’t a good reason.”

      100% cosign.

  8. Yeah summer is somethin' else. It's a conundrum On one hand, showing off the legs and skin in general is a great way to hook a guy, but at the same time, there's a lot of it going around so he may not be entirely hooked unless you got somethin' else goin' for you…

    As for those already in relationships, summer is a great reason why you shouldn't get lazy on lookin' good when you get into a relationship. And that goes for men and women. Don't get it twisted like Lil' Wayne's locs, women got great eye candy too with the menfolk washing cars and mowing lawns shirtless and they're just dying for a lady to bring them an innocent glass of water. 😉

    1. Uh huh,…I always bring my landscaper a bottle of water…he's married though..but, he sho' is fine….I can look! (don't judge me).

  9. I'm too self absorbed to notice this trend. LOL. I don't think I've ever had a relationship to end in the summer–they mostly end right before the break of spring–foreshadowing maybe? LMAO.

    but yea like Peyso said–if the main is arm candy, no need to worry. that goes for men and women. step your game up–of course this should be a year round occurrence.

  10. As long as my man stays away from the "desert dimes" we're cool. They say that a deployed woman gets one point more attractive for every month your away, lol.

    Other than that I'll just try not to embarass my single girlfriends by looking a hot mess at the bbq's.

  11. Ok… so as far as the summer ending relationships… lol. I've had two of those. Both happened right as the spring semester ended. I smell a #swindle. The first time, it was me. Like TMIMITW… I think I was restless. He was being a lil unresponsive and I took it to a whole 'nother level. Mailed him his stuff back to his house in a box w/ a 4 page letter. Ah… the younger days. The 2nd time, he ended it w/ me. I can't say that it was solely b/c of summer but a mix of good weather & the fact that I'd graduated from school and he had 3 years left. He felt I was a little too old/mature for what he was 'going' for. #GloraWestAllDay

    I've actually been single since that last break-up. Single life has its ups & downs but there are never really that many downs in the summer time. Seems like you aren't the only one single anymore. Hmph. Not really looking for a 'summer fling' but we'll see where the good weather takes us…

  12. Chidi has an excellent point about the "average" guy – this should've come with an "a bird in the hand beats two in the bush" disclaimer, lest the average fool ends up with a dry idck all summer tryna be somethin he ain't

    But overall this is a year round ploy utilized by the non-committal man

    Pre-Birthday breakups to avoid giving gifts

    Pre-Christmas breakups to avoid giving gifts

    Pre-Valentines Day breakups to avoid gifts and/or having her think she's more special than she really is

    And the Pre-Summer Purge…

    If women are smart they will know their true status and not be surprised or hurt by any of this and even take advantage of the season…if that's your thing

  13. Who cares about seasons anymore. Like – get over the KID ish about summer is here – I gotta let wifey go. come on son. Like really? grow up.

  14. This just happened to me earlier this month! And I couldn't figure out why the guy I was dating all of a sudden was like let's end this until my bff reminded me that summer was around the corner and that's what guys do! I guess it doesn't help that ALL of his friends are single. Hmmmmmmmm

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