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– Streetz the O.G.: Original Guido
Burning your bridges– permanently and unpleasantly end your relationship with a person or organization.
Growing up my mom used to always tell me to burn as few bridges as possible. She used to say: “You never know when you may need a person and when they may need you.” I never really grasped the concept of what she was saying until I became an adult. While there may be all types of bridges that you can burn I wanted to discuss two in detail:
Burning Bridges with Friends
As I’ve stated in a recent blog post, I’m re-evaluating all the relationships in my life. Some people won’t like where they end up at the end of my reflection. Depending on your personality type or how much you value certain friendships, you might be willing to let certain things slide. If I call you my friend then I mean it. I don’t throw that word around all willy nilly. It would take a lot for me to disown and turn my back on a friend. Now acquaintances I have very little patience for these people. It doesn’t take much for me to grab my can of gasoline and my lighter.
*We’re supposed to be boys but you tried to holla at almost every chick that I used to deal with or seems like they are in interested in me* ex-communicative.
*You left me at the club to take home this chick you know you have no chance to getting at and I rode with you.* reticent
For some reason I can’t think of any reason why I would have a fall out with any of my friends who have two x chromosomes.
Burning Bridges during Relationships
Now this is how most bridges get burned when it comes to dealing with me. Yes I’ve only been in 4 actual relationships in my short time on Earth but for the sake of argument let’s group women I’ve actually dated into this. When more in depth feelings are involved and said feelings get hurt, bruised or damaged the natural tendency is to want nothing to do with the person who brought you such pain. I find it so much easier not to deal with people who fall into this category. I mean walking by acting as if you don’t exist. “Don’t take my heart for granted and don’t take my heart and strand it. Don’t turn my love to hate, put back in it what you take or I will break you down.” Yes I quoted Terius Youngdell Nash. Despite his overall corniness, dude makes hits and makes sense occasionally. Where was I? Oh yeah.
*You cheated on me but tried everything in your power to make it seem like I was doing dirt because of your guilty conscious.* abhorrence
*You told me that was my kid until my mom made me get a paternity test because everyone said that baby didn’t look like me. Then I found it was your ex-boyfriend’s* disdain
I really can’t for sure what combination of actions with what relationships would cause burned bridges. I’m pretty sure I’ve burned quite a few bridges with people that were once a part of my life but I try not to cry over spilled milk.
Have you burned any bridges? What are some things a person can do to you to make you not want to deal with them anymore?