A lot of men see cheating like this; do you remember college and how you paid for it? Let’s take that for example, let’s say tuition was $10,000, and you got financial aid for $7,500. How did you get the remaining $2,500? Anyway you could! And there was nothing wrong with that. That’s basically how men view cheating. They typically are going out there to fill a gap. (Be advised, this gap may just be, thrill and adventure.)
Do all men cheat? The short answer is, well, most do. There are tons of articles out on the Internet everyday about why men cheat, and how all men are dogs, and that it’s easy to assume that every man cheats. I’ll save you the time of reading them and I will tell you that there are men who do NOT cheat, yes, there are a few men who do NOT cheat, lol. But, here’s the real reason why men cheat…
…because they can.
The harsh reality of it is, men cheat a lot. Society enables us to cheat, and we feel obliged. It would be one thing if a man had to work really hard to cheat, but because women are bat sh*t crazy they don’t. Women will knowingly sleep with married men or men in relationships because to them there aren’t any real ties. Women sometimes prefer ignorance over knowledge when it comes to men. They make it too easy for a guy. When a guy says, “let’s keep this on the low” there should be a neon sign that goes off in your head that says, “GIRLFRIEND, GIRLFRIEND, GIRLFRIEND.” If he won’t introduce you to his friends, or let you come over to his place (or spend the night), or if you notice that he’s always fresh out of protection, he’s cheating on you, or you aren’t the main chick. However, women turn a blind eye to this behavior.
In addition, there’s something about having the power to have anything you want when you want it. Have you seen that State Farm commercial when the guy yells out, “AND CAN I GET A HOT TUB?!” and it magically appears. Men love to be able to have on-demand wishes. There’s nothing like seeing just how far a woman will let you go. How many times can I shade her when I see her in public? How many times can I ignore her texts? How many times can I tell all my peoples I don’t know who she is? And then, text her at 2:30AM and say, “come thru” and she breaks her neck to drive over wasted from the club.
And sometimes, men are missing something at home and seek to obtain it elsewhere. (<– Weak excuse.) If you’re significant other isn’t producing at home, then you need to let them know. But I mean, maybe a guy just wants to say some dirty things to the woman he’s having sex with. But he doesn’t want to call his wife, “b*tch” or “sl*t.” Maybe he’s not getting “serviced” regularly and keeps the company of a side piece who has an oral fixation. I’ll give you scenario from our previous example, if you end up going to a school you can afford, for instance, Howard instead of Harvard. You can’t be mad that you can’t register for classes online. You get what you pay for.
To be honest with you, if you want to keep a man from cheating, you might just have to take away his ability to cheat. And a lot of women do this very well. I had a boy who got caught cheating on his ex-girlfriend, by his current girlfriend and he got in trouble for it. She basically found out through the grapevine that he cheated on his ex. Do you know what she did? She made him give her all of his passwords: voicemail, facebook, gmail, AIM, etc. And when he goes out at night he has to call every 30 seconds, I mean minutes, to check-in. I guess this is why Chris Rock says when you get caught cheating break up with the girl. A few years later go by and he chose to marry this girl. Would you believe me when I tell you, I was at this guy’s bachelor party and he had the perfect opportunity to cheat and he DIDN’T? He was like an unfenced cow, all that grass in front of him and he didn’t do anything.
I wonder sometimes, that if you have to go through such great lengths to keep a man from cheating, is he worth it?
Before I go, a word about the men who do not cheat. There are men out there who do not cheat. People, men or women who say it’s in our nature, are less than human. It is not in our nature. That’s what makes us different than animals, the ability to not submit to our instincts. There are men out there who have grown up. They want wives and children and they want those relationships to grow in a healthy and fulfilling manner. They appreciate and respect the challenge of being faithful and the rewards it brings. The comfort of being able to trust your partner and exhibit self-control.
Sometimes women excuse men’s behavior on thinking with their wayward regions, that’s a cop out. Every thought goes through your brain. Every single thought. If you put the baddest supermodel in the world in front of me and told me she had HIV, I’d go LIMP immediately. While most men do cheat, there are several of us, who think things through and think about what we really want out of life. Besides, if cheating was natural, then it wouldn’t be called cheating.
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