We have had numerous conversations on the topic of chivalry. The most classic being SBM’s warning shot and declaration against chivalry in all forms. I sat back and thought about it, and while there are some points I agree with, I feel that there are basic elements of chivalry for dummies that all men should practice. I make dedicated efforts to exhibit more class in all areas of my life, and while I am a work-in-progress, some things I just do.
These basic actions of chivalry for dummies are simple, yet effective, and should be in any man’s repertoire:
Let women walk in front
Whether you’re waiting to get out of the train, bus, or a public establishment, if this group of people attempting to vacate include women, let them go first. This requires no complex thinking or methods of deduction on your end. Letting women walk in front of you is a sign of respect and passively chivalrous. No need to bum-rush in front of them. Be a gentleman!
Hold Doors Open
I understand that this may seem corny or submissive, but keeping with the classy/gentleman theme, I do this all the time subconsciously. If I’m with a group of people and I get to a door first, 8 times out of 10, I’ll hold it open for everyone to walk through. With women its 9.5 out of 10 (rudeness does not warrant respect or chivalry for dummies). Along the same lines as walking in front, the “ladies first” mantra is a dignified way to make yourself look good, make a woman feel special, and really should be an amendment in the constitution of common courtesy. Now, the exception to this rule is car doors. I’m a situational car-door opener. If I’m right in front of your passenger door I’ll open it. Otherwise, its auto-unlock ftw. I know this seems backward but I have a mental block with car door openings. Every other door is good $ though!
Give her time to get ready
If she says she’ll be ready in 30, get there by 30 and give her 10-15 minutes to get set. Some women are super punctual but most will need that overtime to start getting ready. So giving this time will benefit them, and you don’t compromise your egos and “manliness” in the process. So, let her rock…unless you want her to answer the door in spanx and a dubi like “what’s up boo?”
Pay attention and LISTENNN **DJ Khaled Voice**
Yes, it’s sad that this has to fall under chivalry, and this would require the most work, but you should develop these necessary communication skills for application in all facets of your life. Remember the things you speak about. Offer real and constructive opinions. This might be the hardest to do, but you will save. A lot of arguments, heartache, and “talks” by learning these common practices.
Leave the toilet seat down
I grew up with sisters and a mom in the same house. Trust me on this!
So.. These are some basic acts of chivalry for dummies, that should be applied in a man’s life as a norm, in my opinion. Did you get anything else? Disagree?