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6 Reasons I Got Out “The Game”

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One thing I DON'T miss

You would think someone who created a site by the name of “Single Black Male” would love being single.

Wrong!

One of my best friends recently re-entered the world of singledom.  After a long 5 year hiatus, now he has stories of bad dates, crazy chics, and random beats.  I … now in the happy relationship … listen to his stories.  Initially, it brought back found memories.

Buying bottles and picking girls off the dance floor to sit with us … yeah.

The end of the night surprise when a date went well and ended in a sweaty bed and a butt naked companion … good times.

Black Bike Week … nuff said.

Watching me reminisce, my friend was quick to check me.

“These broads are illogical. Man I hate dating. All the uncertainty, wasted money and time. And damn these inconsistent beats. Motherf* the game”

Actually yeah … F* the game.

As soon as all the fun moments subsided, I remembered of all the nights of blue balls after what a good date because f*ing Steve Harvey told you to wait.  I remember the “where is this going talk” that seemed to crop up out of nowhere like a crackhead in an alley.  I flashbacked to all the boring, overly demanding, “respect my degrees”, and substance lacking women I had to shift through.

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Sheeet … I even remembered not having fun at a bike week. Lets be real …

And this led me to this list … the top 6 reasons I’m glad I’m out the game.

I can say “I want some head”

Asking for a date … mastered that in high school.  Asking for some p*ssy … college taught me that.  But I could obtain nirvana and all the wisdom in the world without finding a foolproof way to ask a woman to taste my manliness and digest my machismo.  Sure some will be down … but after literally getting a side eye so serious that I went limp … I gave up on taking chances with that one.

I know exactly what is happening after a date

I have always been a master of dates.  For someone I was serious about, at least one of our first 3 dates would be a personalized experience that probably would never be recreated.  Consider it my signature on her memory … a way to always remember SBM no matter what pale comparison of a man came after.  Sadly, even something that special couldn’t ensure a coitus filled ending.  Now … whether we are going on a balloon ride through the French countryside or crushing some Four Loko on the couch … I know what’s going down.

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Finally some support

I didn’t realize how hard it was to do everything myself until I had someone actually help me with stuff. I’ve moved twice in the past two years (DC -> ATL -> Boston) and that sh*t was immensely easier with the help.  Even the day to day is just … easier.

There is still illogical craziness … but at least it’s not a surprise

I don’t care what anyone says … every woman is crazy.  But, there are immense differences in the levels of craziness between women.  So after you find a level that you are comfortable with, you just have to learn that particular brand of craziness so there aren’t any surprises.  Settling down will do that.

Women People are crazy

Every day brings me closer to the end of my mortality.  I don’t need these chics out here bringing me any closer.  Rolling by the house unannounced.  Bustin windows. Breaking and entry. Creating a fake persona to talk with my friends.  Yeah … I’m getting old and don’t need that anymore.

No More Inconsistent Beats.

Nuff said.  What’s a dry spell?

Basically … da game been good to me.  I built up a small library of stories to tell my sons.  I’ve done some stuff that I should regret, but don’t.  And I had fun.  But after all that … f* the game.

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For those in relationships, do you look back to your singleness and see Rosa Costa tempting you or Precious licking her lips?  Does the call you back or remind you a “dark period”?  For the SBMs and SBFs out there, do I have it wrong?  Loving the game till the day you die?

– SBM aka “Oh yeah … I forgot balls can turn blue” aka Hall of Fame Inductee 2010

Comment(84)

  1. This is great. To use a nerdy metaphor, the game is like a NES system… You remember it being so cool, but if you go back and play Zelda it sucks. It's great to look back on this girl and that girl, because it was all fun in retrospect, but while you were going through it, it was a pain in the neck. We block out the mediocre dates in favor of the really bad ones or the really good ones that we can tell stories about. Every time I write a blog I miss the game, but then I realize having a PS3 trumps even the best memories of that Super Nintendo. RIP to The Game.

    1. But the thing was this… Super Tecmo Bowl was the greatest football game ever for Nintendo, but do you remember how many people bought Sega Genesis just to play Madden 94 (the greatest football game ever made), and then there were subsequent copies but somewhere around Madden 98, Playstation was better than the Sega version. You see there's always going to be a brand new version coming out that will ruin that theory.

      But perhaps the best analogy I can think of was my TV/VCR combo from college. As many people can attest, I remember one day when my VCR kept ejecting and wouldn't keep the tape in, the problem? It was 2008. There was no reason for me to not have a TV/DVD combo. But you know what, my TV/VCR combo had been there for me since Freshman year. I didn't have a car, access to parties, a connect to get licks for parties, popularity or even a great work study … but I had Love Jones, Love & Basketball, Jason's Lyric and the Best Man. That TV/VCR combo was there for me at a time when nobody else was. And no matter how many DVD players came after it, and even blu-ray, I still only wanted my TV/VCR combo. I spent 14 days with a screwdriver set, some goggles, and a technical manual taking that TV/VCR apart. People came to the crib and they wondered what they hell are you doing? I held on, I would not be refused, I wanted to keep it.

      To get out the game a man must find his TV/VCR combo; it was there for him when he ain't have nothing, and it will always be there for him no matter what he has. A pleasant reminder of what the past has brought us. It may not be a Blu-ray disc player, but it works just fine. Because you can't find most of these movies on DVD!!!

      1. "…but I had Love Jones, Love & Basketball, Jason’s Lyric and the Best Man."

        Random…but this made me swooooooooon! How attractive is this movie list?!

        *fans self*

        Anyhoot…carry on… 😉

    2. You're insane. Games like Zelda never hit the suck moment. Its not the graphics that matter its the gameplay. Hell my 2 favorite games of all time are on the SNES and PSOne. Yeah better than anything I have on my PS3.

      #videogamenerdrage

  2. For everybody who is going out to DC,

    Be Safe, Have A Blast & Don't Anything That I Wouldn't Do <DEL> There Is Not Alot I Wouldn't Do Though </DEL>

    Good Morning SBM,

    As a guy who has spent more time on the sidelines figuring out the dating battlefield, and less time OUT in the dating battlefield…

    So, even though I really dislike courtship & all its flaws… Given some THOROUGH practice & mentorship from the right men… I can make this process really fun for me & for all the <DEL> Black </DEL> Men I help teach…

    The reason why the game is so frustrating for most men is because most men in this day & age were not taught how the game works… <DEL> Or that there is a GAME in the first place </DEL>

    At least now we have the Internet, and any guy that wants to learn & master it, can have that privilege…

    One of the main benefits I want to have when attaining a level of competence in dating… is to have & maintain any kind of relationship(s) with a woman/women that is less than marriage…

    Goodnight…

  3. LMAO! I thought I was the only one who took to labeling women's actions as different brands of craziness. Oh, love how marketing fits everything!

  4. "I don’t care what anyone says … every woman is crazy"

    I didn't know that I had a crazy side until my previous relationship got serious.It shocked the heck outta me and now I'm convinced we're all crazy.

    1. it's funny because it's true. i've only had one man that could get to me enough for me to think crazy. even my friends were shocked. it's amazing when you discover you actually have that side. i'm still nowhere near the crazy of my friends, but still. lol

      1. "i’ve only had one man that could get to me enough for me to think crazy. even my friends were shocked. it’s amazing when you discover you actually have that side."

        I'm pretty rational and laid back but the moment I found out I had a crazy side was similar to when a superhero finds out he/she has powers. It's frightening but amazing at the same time.

    2. I own my crazy and I could care less who is afraid to date me….as a matter of fact, fear is healthy. 🙂

      If you disrespect me, I turn into one of those Sour Patch Kids where I'm sour then nice again. This is great for s.ex. Some of the best Os I've had was when my ex was super heated with me.

        1. There is a such thing as healthy fear. I had a healthy fear of my mother, it kept me safe. A healthy fear keeps you safe.

          And in this case his healthy fear can keep him safe (from the crazy).

      1. "If you disrespect me, I turn into one of those Sour Patch Kids where I’m sour then nice again"

        I like that analogy. I understand it too. 😉

    3. Oh my Gee yes!

      A man can take you there, after my ex 3 years ago took me to my lowest point with all of his nonsense…lets just say I NEVER wanna be there again….I scared myself.

      I thought I would never do some crazy sh** like key peoples car…..let's just say been there done that

      But its funny how a man will tell you youre crazy, yet he keeps coming back for more

  5. "For those in relationships, do you look back to your singleness and see Rosa Costa tempting you or Precious licking her lips?"

    THIS had me cracking up this morning.

    Yeah, I agree, F* the game. I don't envy my single friends one bit. I also don't envy my recently divorced friends who are back out there after 10-12 years. No thank you.

    Just this week I got new carpeting installed in my house. It was nice to see my husband kicking off his shoes after work and walking around barefoot. He's not going to tell me that he loves the new carpeting, but I can tell that he does by the amount of time he's spending in the living room all of a sudden watching the game with our sons. I think what he REALLY likes is that I purchased the carepting and the way that I help financially.

    Having help is key. Nice write SBM…

    1. "Yeah, I agree, F* the game. I don’t envy my single friends one bit. I also don’t envy my recently divorced friends who are back out there after 10-12 years. No thank you"

      I truly understand what you mean here. That life while somewhat entertaining is nothing in comparison to what I have with my husband. Nothing.

      I also agree that consistent, willing help is the key.

  6. “I don’t care what anyone says … every woman is crazy”

    You already know I agree with that.

    I'm currently single but on a pretty good dating storm. Droughts are a mother. Anyway, as I've gotten older dating is a chore in and of itself. But I could go either way #NoBisexual (pause). Maybe I'll feel dif when I meet the next 'good' woman because due to age and the point I'm at in my life I'll prob throw a ring on it. Got no reason not to.

    Conversely, I'm the type to miss a relationship when I'm single and miss being single when I'm in a relationship. That's how my mind works but I'm happy in both worlds. I keep myself pretty well entertained regardless of my status.

    1. Conversely, I’m the type to miss a relationship when I’m single and miss being single when I’m in a relationship. That’s how my mind works but I’m happy in both worlds. I keep myself pretty well entertained regardless of my status.

      This is me all day. Lol. Regardless missing either status isn't a reason for me to dead a current relationship or snatch up the next random peen I see.

      The game has be aiight I guess, though I think I enjoyed more of the benefits when I was younger.

  7. I tend to think most people are crazy! Don't single out the women. *smiles*

    Been married for longer than a minute and chatting with some of my recently single friends reminds me of the blessings in the union. They want to know why I'm an advocate for all things It's Simple.

    If we know ourselves (likes, dislikes, wants and needs) that will generally give us some indication to what we find attractive (beyond the physical).

  8. awwww to this post.

    i am currently in the longest span of being officially single that i've ever been in since i started dating at 17. i've always been the serial-monogamous one out of my friends and so i was single for a total of about 5 months from age 17 to age 26 (2.5 relationships), and this includes random breakups and "we should take some time" spans too. shame on it all, i know.

    when i first became single i thought it was the greatest thing ever. it took me a while to get used to not automatically saying "i have a boyfriend" when men would approach me, but i adjusted to the life of random but mostly fun dates, men trying to impress me, and saying goodbye at my door or meeting them at wherever we went so they'd not even think sex was an option.

    however, i'm a little over it now. i would never rush into anything, and i've had a couple "this is getting serious" and pseudo-relationships, but i think the taken life outweighs being single, even with all the extraordinary black men i met. there is nothing like having someone you can share everything with, have consistent sexytime with (smh at "beats." men. lol), and always know you have a sane, presentable person to go to an important event with or watch SVU with or bring random get-well items and take care of you when you are sick. and i do realize you can have all of this as a single person, but the filtering that one has to go through to do so is just … a headache more often than not, especially if you're not having sex with that person, because well, a good chunk of a man's motivation is just that. lol

    LOL @ i want some head though. i was just having a conversation with a girlfriend about how a man will always find a way to integrate the fact that he'd love to make a manmeal of your pretty parts in like the first few conversations, whether he's joking or not. it's crazy. a man says that to me though, i will side-eye the hayle out of him.

    support is an important one. knowing someone cares enough to read my many short stories or articles or random chapters and actually offer feedback is important. and there is nothing like seeing the oil light come on in your car, mentioning it casually to your man and discovering that not only has the oil been changed, but your brakes aren't squeaking anymore the next time you drive it. win. lol.

    i always type long arse comments when on the phone. oops. lol

    1. All the reasons you stated are reasons why I told my friend that being in a relationship is better than being single. Even if being single is drama-free (for me at least).

      Although I'm not ready to be in a relationship just yet I look forward to the day I'm in one again.

  9. When I'm in the relationship, I want out, when I'm out I want back in again. I used to think I liked crazy chicks. Now I know I know I only like moderately crazy chicks. I can deal wit yo drama about the job or your folks or your ho friend cheryl; I can't deal with you turning Up outside my work
    Uninvited or keying up the ride cos I didn't return your calls.
    Guess I'm all done with the rip and runs.
    No fun in that game, anymore.
    What I kind of guess I need is someone who gets me and has got my back whatever happens.
    Currently, the squeeze is all flip flop with no agreement on the fundamentals. I don't like the game, no more. I just want some one cool to kick
    It with.

    1. I think i'm here too. I don't have the energy to keep dealing with a milliion different types of crazy. for me the slap when your single isnt't so much inconsistent so as it is "not necessarily my first choice but….eh i'll take it" more often than you would like. At this point i'm just kinda like whatever. If something quality comes along we can see where it goes. Otherwise I'll just be out creepin on the come up.

  10. I'm in "the game" but I've benched myself for a while. Things aren't going the way I need them to, so I need to sit down and rethink some strategies. I know I'm a little craycray but I've never shown it to anyone. "Its the quiet one you gotta look out for" Anywho, its not as fun as I'd like, but maybe Summer will change that.

  11. So it is possible for a man to grow up and get tired of chasing ass for the rest of his days? Ladies, there is hope after all… 🙂 Welcome to adulthood!

    1. I really hate this "every man is just obsessed with getting random beats all his life" type of thinking. When in was single I knew I wanted to settle down at some point.

      No need to welcome me to adulthood, I joined as when my boys started sprouting hair.

    2. Sorry, wanting to be in a relationship doesnt make a man an adult no more than women. It just seems that women feel less of woman if they aren't.

      TL:DR – Try again.

  12. Ooooh this is a good one. I'm very recently single but for forever and a day, I was someone's girlfriend. It's hard for me to be single because I'm used to having a partner and I feel like I shine better in relationships. I'm happier, etc. Right now I'm trying to work on being alone but I effin hate it. Anyway, to me, relationship s.ex is waaaaaaay better than single s.ex. Like you said, you can say sh*t like "gimmie some" or "I wanna fcuk" without worrying about offending the other person. You can have long over night s.ex, quick s.ex, ALL kinds of s.ex <del>raw</del> and it's effin great! Life overall is just more pleasant. I can deal with that bish at work knowing I can go home and get lovin from my honey. I know some people like s.ex w/o strings and kudos to you. To me, relationship s.ex is more comfortable…plus the person is trying really hard to satisfy you rather than just "gettin theirs".

    Oh and if you're in love too? Forgeddaboutit. This person loves you and your body inside out and can hit them spots way better than a stranger can.

    1. I don't know a single peen owner who would be offended by a woman saying "gimmie some" or "let fcuk". Then again, it could just be the people I know……

    1. Dang, my keyboard is stuck – Sowrry about that.

      As I was trying to say….

      Loving the game till the day you die? Hmmm, I'm not saying that I wanna ride off into the sunset with just me and a bunch of cats sitting on a patchwork quilt, BUT I am definitely enjoying the dating game for right now.

      I got married extremly young (he put it on me somethin Fierce!!!) *shrug* so to me it feels as if I got this new lease on life and I love the fact that I get to come home to NO MAN by choice. It's funny though because some of my girlfriends are single and becoming jaded/bitter by the day – they HATE the dating scene because they've been in it just as long if not longer than I was married and they always tell me "Yeah you are enjoying it right now cuz you've never had the opportunity to do it (dating) but it's going to get tired real quick." Eh, I'm sure they're right — Just not today though. :o)

  13. "I flashbacked to all the boring, overly demanding, “respect my degrees”, and substance lacking women I had to shift through."

    This in a nutshell is the dating climate of D.C. and the reason I enjoy being a selective recluse.

      1. @ Corey,

        When I lived there, although I saw MORE brothers, that didn't mean more brothers that were worthy of my time.

        I think that's what people are running into. I used to hear mostly women say that it is hard to find a 'good' man, now I hear men say this about women today.

        The sights in DC are grand, but everything that glitters sure ain't gold!

        That’s why its best to make sure you value what you have already (if it is worthy), because you never know HOW LONG it’s gonna take to get the next one that fits.

  14. Great post!

    I love love love being married. I enjoyed being single, but my greatness is to valuable to waste on the dating scene. Ironically, the dating game gets just as boring and routine as some THINK marriage does.

    I don't envy single women at all. My single friends are constantly searching for, waiting for, and wanting exactly what I have (including the bad times).

    There is nothing like having a person in your corner that knows you. There's nothing like knowing that what you have is beyond anything a stranger could offer.

    Sure, I have been through a few short moments of wondering what if I took the other route, but then I get a phone call from a homegirl crying/complaining about some dude she just met. That quickly reminds me of what I am really missing: NOTHING!

    1. Great post SBM. I love reading/hearing the positives about relationships/marriage from a male perspective.

      I actually enjoyed the dating process when I was single but I love being in my current relationship so much more. Maybe it's because I am finally with someone that hates drama as much as I do. My last relationship was full of drama that I actually believed I was crazier than I am. I was so wound up in my ex and I acted out of character more times than I care to admit. Hearing the horror stories from my single friends and those in unhappy relationships and knowing where I have been relationship wise just makes me appreciate my man even more, flaws and all.

    2. I couldn't have said it any better. This sums up my exact thoughts on relationships. You're making me sad now.

      Anywho, this:

      "my greatness is too valuable to waste on the dating scene."

      Is too cute, I'm gonna borrow it.

  15. Very well written. I'm at the beginning of grownupdom and it's nice to know that men feel it's easier to have a relationship as well. I've only been "single single" for about a year, and it was a BLAST (although i was casually dating my now boo thang) of excitement and quite an invigorating twist to the occasional monotony of a long term relationship. I'm going to agree and say short term singledom is the ish and long term…a partner is where it's at!

  16. I'm currently in "the game" and I don't like it. Dating kinda sucks these days. People are a little too crazy and judgmental for things to be fun anymore. As much as I am ok with being single, I much rather be in a relationship with someone to share my life and time with, than in "the game".

  17. Hmm..

    There are barely any male responses to this one…

    My initial thought is… this is the reason why so many (wo)men cheat (Best of both worlds) #shrug

    I agree that I enjoy being in a relationship more than being single. I recently ended my longest single streak since being 15 and it was a bag of mixed reaction.

    When times are good, they are good. But them droughts will have you on an internet site pissed and unsatisfied.

    Besides dating for a guy is EXPENSIVE!!!! And with no guarantee of any a$$, we are better off at one of the sketchy strip clubs with the real VIP room. Building with one person and spending $$$ on one lady is better mentally.

    1. Women have no clue how expensive dates can be. Even simple ones at the beginnig start adding up in the long run. Men don't get any real money spent on them until like 6 months into the relationship which ends up being about 9-12 months after first meeting. Men spend money on day 2.

      1. Youre with the wrong female… you gotta find one whose love language is giving. I met a guy in November, we didn't go on a "date" until mid-December… about 2 weeks later he had a gift on his doorstep for Christmas, something he'd talked about while we were out.

        #thatshowiroll

        1. Ma'am, if you would kindly refer me to the warehouse they store the rest of ya'll in I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you.

        2. Lmao. Corey my warehouse location is next to Obeezy's palace… aka the DC Metro. It's not as bad as SBM says. & don't listen to Streetz, he'll tell you that I live on a farm. lol.

    2. "When times are good, they are good. But them droughts will have you on an internet site pissed and unsatisfied."

      #YOUUBEKNOWING… LOL, COULDN'T HAVE SAID IT BETTER MYSELF….

      1. I used to not feel the same way (I always had a knack for finding slumpbusters) but now I see this drought ish is REAL!

    3. "When times are good, they are good. But them droughts will have you on an internet site pissed and unsatisfied."

      *This comment made me choke*

      lol

  18. Three hundred a week on random azz wit a one in three strike rate versus one hundred on your girl and a nice ridge to park your sleigh. No
    Brainer really , Diversification yield marginal returns whilst the long term return is greater. It depends on how you hedge your bet
    I guess.

  19. Maybe I'm just wierd but I found that happy place of existence when I wasn't in a relationship. I didn't date much. Honestly I found the women I ended up in relationships with on a whim. I was never looking to date anyone. I just met someone we hung out, things were cool, and then six months down the line we're laughing about the cheesy lines that were said on both parts when we met and were starting to get interested.

    Well *in my Suge Avery voice*, Eyes (almost) married nye!

    Yeah, the consistencies of relationships make life freaking amazing.

  20. This is my 2nd time commenting, but definitely won't be my last… 🙂

    Being single is for the birds!! I am so tired of telling my LIFE STORY…as exciting as it may be, it's beginning to bore even me.

    I used to tell the long dramatic version, but now, until I think the person I'm dating might be around for a while, I stick with my name, stats (education, age, etc.) and where I'm from and let my date do most of the talking.

  21. I'm usually a lurker but I'd like to partake today. I cannot stand "the game" in fact a hate games period I'm 20 (I know I'm young) I was a late starter, I began dating about a year ago, and I'm sick of it already the guys I meet always have some ulterior motive and I meet a lot of users whether it's for a ride, money, or sex I can't get down with that. although I want to be in a relationship my patience has become really short and I don't like sticking around for the bullshit. Guess I'll be sitting out on the sideline and focusing on my books.

  22. I'm usually a lurker but I'd like to partake today. I cannot stand "the game" in fact I hate games period I'm 20 (I know I'm young) I was a late starter, I began dating about a year ago, and I'm sick of it already. The guys I meet always have some ulterior motive and I meet a lot of users, whether it's for a ride, money, or sex. I can't get down with that. Plus every time I hear a friend talking about how another dude dogged them, I get more discouraged. Although I want to be in a relationship my patience has become really short and I don't like sticking around for the bullshit. Guess I'll be sitting out on the sideline and focusing on my books.

  23. I'm usually a lurker but I'd like to partake today. I cannot stand "the game" in fact I hate games period I'm 20 (I know I'm young) I was a late starter, I began dating about a year ago, and I'm sick of it already. The guys I meet always have some ulterior motive and I meet a lot of users, whether it's for a car ride, money, or sex. I can't get down with that. Plus every time I hear a friend talking about how another dude dogged them, I get more discouraged. Although I want to be in a relationship my patience has become really short and I don't like sticking around for the bullshit. Guess I'll be sitting out on the sideline and focusing on my books.

  24. Hey it's all in the game, some times you take
    Sometimes you get took. To stay on top is to stay #winning you just have to be real about what you want. I'm all this is my thing right now , no bull, if you want a ride say so, I'm into the lOng term long time thing now, so I just say so and keep it moving . I'm managing my expectations.

    1. I need to buy a PS3 or Xbox 360 just for Marvel vs. Capcom 3. I'll still destroy anyone with Magneto, Dr. Doom and Jin.

        1. I meant to type in MvC2, but it is disheartening to know Jin isn't in MvC3. He was quirky enough to throw most people off, if you know how to use him properly.

  25. But that's why there's so much bullshiz cos even if a female just wants to smash she can't say so. She's got to style it out so she doesn't appear whore-like. So guy's gotta be like this is all serious and she's doing the same. It could all be so easy ad lauryn says.

  26. I'm naturally biased; I love it when guys speak of relationships, particularly theirs, in a positive manner. Good post. I'm more inclined to be envious of people in relationships while single than vice versa. I'm relationship-minded, so I tend to lose interest in a guy if it doesn't seem as though there's that potential. That said, I haven't had a great track record. I've been involved in some pseudo-relationships over the past couple of years and finally had to put an end to my perpetual "it's complicated" status (thanks FB). I hadn't been completely, and I mean 100% single for the longest time until last year, and I feel great about my upcoming one year anniversary. It's nice to be able to function with a clear head, and to not have to put up with anyone's crap but mine. I'm not big on the dating scene, either, so I've just been sitting pretty. I'm looking forward to whatever special thing the future may hold for me, but I'm content in the meantime.

  27. The nerve of these people to expect me to work at work!

    Anyway, the major benefit of being in a long-term relationship for me is There is still illogical craziness … but at least it’s not a surprise. As the old saying goes, stick to the devil that you do know than the one you don't! I can handle her craziness (now), see it coming and deal with it accordingly.

    This could just be the words of an old man talking that's sick of dating, but I'll take an evening with Netflix with me and my girl on the couch, with a bowl of grapes or popcorn, with her laying on my chest over talking to random chicks in a club.

  28. Longtime lurker first time commenter *waves* . I just turned 30 and. This is the first time since 19 I am completely out the game. I'm just tired. The game sucks and like someone said upthread, I'm tired of telling people my life story, the pressure of impressing people etc. I'm taking a year off to reevaluate my love life among other things. The light at the end of tunnel is I am getting to know some great people through blogs and giving me some hope that I may actually find a good man and not have to play the game too long ;-). Great post and I look forward to becoming par of the sbm fam!

    1. I've never played MvC3. I haven't bought a game system since the GameCube. No time for it, but I'm very tempted to get one just for MvC3.

  29. Oh…..you don't have it yet….sorry Hugh, Jin & BLODIAII not on the game….yet! Dlc. Maybe? Jill & shuma gorath just made it in…

  30. This is really a great post, as a single man I am in the game, but im really coaching, sitting on the sidelines watching it unfold.its a better view, you can see the snakes from a mile away.i think people play the game, but don't know the rules of the game and thats how you become bitter, I will never hate it because it taught me so much about women and about myself i revert back anytime I'm stuck in a bad spot. I'm getting myself to together, I am not having reckless and meaningless cutty,but women are throwing it like the phillies bullpen lol I have issues I have to work on, I have a problem giving a woman power over me, then I feel I have no control, I fear picking the wrong one, thats hell on earth for the rest of your days. I would love to get out but when the time is right.

  31. Hell Naw, I dont miss the game. It is expensive and random. I cant deal with randomness…
    I tell my wife all the time " thank you for taking me out of the game." I look around now it seems like slim pickings.Dating is serverly overrated if you ask me.

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