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The Derek Jeter relationship model: Lessons that we can learn from Mr 3000

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Every time he bags a modellin chick, he does this!

 

 

He’s the Captain. he’s the model for which every baseball player strives to achieve. He dates the baddest women, and he is the newest member of the 3000 hits club. This is the man who put NYC on his back daily, and reps a city, a sport, and a culture like no other. This man is Derek Jeter. I always respected him because he shows that you can emulate an ideal and actually live that ideal. In an age where professional athletes are marred in scandal, steroids, and other legal and moral troubles, you have Derek Jeter. You have a guy who isn’t involved in any off the field bullsh*t. A man who on the field is respected by every opponent and teammate he’s ever had or will face. He just gets it when it comes to image and character. That Jeter, he has an edge. When it comes to relationships, Derek carries that same awareness and image conscious bravado. I mean, you don’t have a hit list like THIS without knowing how to move in a room full of vultures. For all his on the field success, there’s a few things men can learn from Derek Jeter’s relationship swag:



Discretion

I know who Derek Jeter has dated, but I’d be lying if I said whether or not I knew the inner workings of those relationships. Derek Jeter is the poster child for discretion. He keeps discussion to Baseball, his family, and not much else. He really isn’t heavy in the tabloids. You will not see him starring in a reality TV show. You won’t see him on that TwitPic screen showing his Metta World piece for the world to bear witness. It’s just not his style. Famous or not, people are messy. They will let the world know all the inner workings of their relationships, the ups and downs, the strengths and weaknesses. What ever happened to keeping things in house? What happened to having a bad day or a disagreement with someone, and just working it out instead of posting facebook statuses and sub-tweets on the Internet? One reason relationships fail, and people get embarrassed is because when people know everything about your personal life, they can twist it and use it against you in any way shape or form. Criticism won’t be as constructive if you tell any Joe Shmoe your relationship issues. It’s just not a good look!

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On another note, I really never hear the women Derek dates talking about their relationship either. See ladies, DJ2 figured out one of the crown jewel secrets of male-female interactions: Find a discreet woman, and you will find salvation. I’m private for the most part, and absolutely hated when exes would tell our issues to common friends and random people we knew (think associates, classmates, coworkers, etc). When this happens, people will form an opinion about you and about the relationship that you can’t really change unless you tell your side of the story and make it a complete mess. It’s a double edged sword: you either keep your mouth shut and let people think what they will, or you speak and lose privacy. Derek finds hot women and discreet women. You can’t beat that combo!

If you’re not ready for serious commitment, move on!

Men get caught up in this constantly. You never hear Jeter in any cheating scandals, and while it may be a reflection on his character, I would say he’s smarter than that. See, Derek isn’t maried and hasn’t been married to date. He more than likely enjoys his single/non-married life, and doesn’t want to complicate it with mistresses and such. He is probably on the list of the top 5 athletes in the world who could bone your wife without breaking a sweat, but he uses his powers for the greater good. He gets involved with these women and eventually, it “doesn’t work out” and he moves on to the next one. You ask me **looks around, now looks back at the computer screen** I think one of 3 things happens that has caused the relationships to fizzle:

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He’s bored

No matter how pretty/attractive you are, if you don’t have an engaging personality, you will eventually get broing, stale and expendable. When you’re a dude who’s been with gorgeous women, after a while that becomes your norm and you’re not going to stick around because “she looks good”. She needs to be a total package. As demanding of success as Jeter in on the field, I can only imagine his relationship standards. Poor women, lol.

The “where is this relationship going” question arose, and DJ replied “No Sir!! NOT ME!!”

The difference between Jeter and regular dudes, is when proposed with this scenario, the regular dude would dance around the issue, make up mad excuses, and hope they can buy time to think of a beter response until she brings it up again, Derek Jeter seems like the type of dude to say “That’s not what Im looking for right now, and if you are than maybe we should end this so no one gets hurt.” Remember, DJ is a winner, and winners can assess situations and knows that the right moves, even if it results in a minor loss, will lead to ultimate victory. he probably does a cost benefit analysis on the relationship, and if he doesn’t see it going farther, he chucks the deuces. Better to have loved and lost, right?

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Shes Crazy

Hello, Mariah.

These are just a few ways that Derek has shown men indirectly how to be a bachelor, date, and not get caught up in some BS, especially if you’re a celebrity. No baby mama drama. No 50-11 kids whom you don’t even remember all of their names floating around the world. No real slander that has been dealt on his name by women or anyone else. Now, no one is perfect, and I’m sure he has character flaws that he covers well (Ask A-Rod about how he holds grudges). One thing you can’t deny: He has been the quintessential role model for what’s right in sports since 1995, and he lives that and reflects that perception in relationships as well.

RT @reallifekaz: 3,000 hits. Endless hoes. Congrats to the Captain, Derek Jeter.

Nuff Said

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  1. DJ-3K

    – Come from a strong stable mother & father, so that is a big reason for his discretion & complete lack of bad behavior off the field

    – Relationships HAVE to be private for it to function…

    – Quintessential alpha male… Somewhere I heard that Jeter's is a zero-tolerate for BS in his life… A-Rod crossed him before A-Rod got to NYC… And he has been begging for forgiveness ever since (forgot what he did…)

    – If Chris Brown had never bash Rihanna's head in… How big would he be now… Jeter's image is legendary, and historically speaking, it will only get bigger…

    – You a great point, his relationship swag is impeccable… (He obviously chooses well…) I will have that kind of pull on women when it is all said & done…

    – I hope he doesn't get married, but I'm sure whatever happens in the future… He'll be fine…

    P.S. I wouldn't be too pleased, if he was f*cking my girlfriend… Or any celebrity figure for that matter…

    For some reason, Jeter never moved me like that… He reminds me of Tim Duncan, (quiet, hardworking, bland) but what he has accomplished in life is admirable…

    Nice topic

      1. But hasn't he been with Minka Kelly for a minute now…??? Like… for some years?? Who did he date before her?

      2. SCARELLETT JOHANSON DOESN'T IMPRESS YOU? jESSICA BIEL? JESSICA ALBA?

        Mariah Carey back in her prime after her divorce??? Tyra Banks? Dude this guy took down bad ones, they aren't even my type but they are bad!

        1. Eeeeeeeeee he dated Scarlett Johansson … that's the only white woman i'd publicly date, partly cuz she has a black woman look to her … I used talked to this chick that was the black version of her .. it was crazy.

  2. I never really follow celebrities like that and even tho this is one man's view or opinion, Jeter sounds like a real stand up guy. A real role model type. And if he was married then I feel like the media would really play on that and make him seem like Mr.Role Model

  3. I don't know whether or not to say Amen! or Ay, Man!…

    I swear me and my boy were talking about this Saturday night during the recap of the 3000th hit. I'm not even really into baseball and Derek Jeter has been one of my role models since I was a teenager, basically for exactly what you've mentioned above.

    Discretion is a lost art among men. I'll say that one mo' 'gin for the cheap seats… *ahem* Discretion is a lost art among men. *Message* Well, to be honest people in general (We all know women like to run their mouths a little too much sometimes too… well all of us except Kobe #SorryShaq&Pau). If you can learn to keep your damn mouth shut, and learn the people in your life you can actually confide in, your life might be a little more drama free.

    You'd be amazed how many of your problems are because of you and NOT your "haters".

    *Message #2*

    1. 'If you can learn to keep your damn mouth shut, and learn the people in your life you can actually confide in, your life might be a little more drama free."

      PREACH!!!

      You can't tell everybody everything…

    2. " well all of us except Kobe #SorryShaq&Pau" The Shaq thing was unexcusable, however it's not Kobe's fault Pau played like a little girl in the playoffs. Freaking bum… Sorry I'm not the biggest Pau fan. I need to make a shirt that says we will never forget and put Pau's face on it.

  4. Jeter is my favorite (current) MLB player… has been for a minute (irony: i'm a Met fan)

    but yes…DISCRETION…now only in you, as a man, but in the chicks you choose…

    funny how he did date MC..but i've never heard MC talk about Jeter…unless i missed a song subliminal

    only thing he's done..which might be seen as 'classless'…was actually not going to the All-Star game yesterday…and in the end, folks will forget…

    (sorry if i get carried away…i'm a sports fan and (rapping up) work for a sports company)

    "Discretion is the better part of valor"

  5. Mariano Rivera will always be my favorite modern era Yankee because he's one of my people. Derek Jeter is a close second because he's Derek Jeter. I think a crucial component about why Derek Jeter has never gotten in trouble despite being a bachelor on the most prolific team in American sports is because he's one of those rare types of guys that women are just happy to have had a chance to be with.

  6. Discretion

    Yes, Facebook and Twitter have made discretion a lost art. You can go on people’s pages/timeline and know their whole relationship from first date to break-up date. I see this a little more with the women than the men, so ladies if you have to get it out your system so bad , just get a piece of paper write your feelings down and throw it away. Also for the people who don’t spread their business on social sites, telling your friends your problems can be your downfall as well, they start to form their own negative opinion about your partner and if you ever decide to break up and get back with them again for whatever reason, you look stupid. (Also ladies when you’re on twitter using “him” instead of your boyfriend /friend boy name, we all know who you are talking about .You aint low)

    The “where is this relationship going” question arose, and DJ replied “No Sir!! NOT ME!!”

    I think being a part of team for some makes them less selfish. When you play with a team you have to think about what’s not just good for you but also the other person. I think that mentality is what keeps him from giving women the run along, as well as his access to so many beautiful, rich, successful women.

    1. Facebook/Twitter are the devil as far as relationships are concerned….get in a fight drive home check your phone and she posting Jasmine/Keyshia/Monica (the bitter chick trifecta) lyrics.

      1. This is why I've never linked to anyone ("in a relationship with ___"), never posted pics with me and a guy (been tagged in a few…but since I didn't do it or comment on it…that guy could be anybody, lol), never check-in anywhere (y'all don't need to know where I am…I may say where I was after-the-fact), and, if I post an angry status about a guy, the message is something only he'd understand based on recent events ("Everytime I try to do the right thing, something happens to make me regret it"…could've been about anything but he called me within 10 minutes, lol).

        Relationships should never be acted out on a Social Network.

        But, when me and my ex-bf broke up, he made Kanye's Heartbreaks & 808's cover his profile pic…and I was relieved that we didn't share many friends, lol. This questionable behavior is NOT limited to females…

        1. i'm hip, i be ready to message my boys on facebook like "yo, your emotions are showing" its like u wouldnt cause a scene around hundreds of people but you sure will hop on FB n get real reckless.

    2. "Yes, Facebook and Twitter have made discretion a lost art. You can go on people’s pages/timeline and know their whole relationship from first date to break-up date. I see this a little more with the women than the men, so ladies if you have to get it out your system so bad , just get a piece of paper write your feelings down and throw it away."

      Yeah… it is bad.Thats why I always say that you shouldn't use facebook/twitter as a personal diary. Sometimes its best to keep those thoughts to yourself… or like you said, write them on a piece of paper…

      "Also for the people who don’t spread their business on social sites, telling your friends your problems can be your downfall as well, they start to form their own negative opinion about your partner and if you ever decide to break up and get back with them again for whatever reason, you look stupid."

      Very true..

    3. "I see this a little more with the women than the men, so ladies if you have to get it out your system so bad , just get a piece of paper write your feelings down and throw it away.

      I actually have a journal. I real hard bound book I have to put pen to paper and WRITE IN. even weblogs aren't private enough for me, cuz LAWD the thoughts I have in my head sometimes. NOT for public consumption. of course my motto is, if you really want something to be a secret only tell Jesus. lol

  7. The Captain is a special breed of men. He's is self aware of his worth, and the aware of the women he chooses to deal with. He's confident hard-working and a fun-loving guy who has no need to get married.

    He's probably the anti-christ to most women, becasue he is a model to all men that you can be complete, rich AND happy without having to get married and having kids if you choose. Can you imagine if more men played the Derek Jeter role in life? I can imagine the Dateline 20/20 special.

    News Special: Marriage in the Black Community is low due to Black men being happy by them damn selves..

    1. "News Special: Marriage in the Black Community is low due to Black men being happy by them damn selves.."

      That would be great IF black men were EVER REALLY by them damn selves. lol.

  8. This is a dope post.

    Jeter, for the better part of his career has epitomized the term "above reproach." It's definitely refreshing to see a professionally athlete do things the right way and be consistently rewarded for keeping it thorough.

    One think I want to maybe start some conversation on, that was mentioned in the post – is this idea of discretion. We like to toss the word around as if it's a quality people either have or don't have, but that's not always the case. I think most people are capable of discretion, they just choose to run their mouths. I think there's always the rare individuals who, for the life of 'em can't keep things to themselves but most people are more than capable.

    So I'd argue it's not so much about choosing a chick who's discreet as much as it's about stating clearly, from the outset of the relationship, what is and isn't acceptable in terms of outside communication. If you establish those boundaries early on, and you make them an integral part of your relationship, you won't have any problems with discretion.

    Good post.

    1. "So I’d argue it’s not so much about choosing a chick who’s discreet as much as it’s about stating clearly, from the outset of the relationship, what is and isn’t acceptable in terms of outside communication. If you establish those boundaries early on, and you make them an integral part of your relationship, you won’t have any problems with discretion."

      Very true…

        1. Lmaoooo that's my n*gga from Star Trek … Quark, a Ferengi … I'm jealous of his naturally built-in sun-block brow visor with all this sun out here. I need relief, so in the meantime i'm just living vicariously thru his brows … Lol

  9. It speaks to maturity. It speaks to him not getting 'play' all of a sudden so he learned how to manage earlier in life than a lot of 'regular' players. They only got 'shine' in their mid-20's so they smell themselves and can't manage.

    OR

    He's unable to emotionally connect.

    Either way, I like this post!

  10. "What ever happened to keeping things in house? What happened to having a bad day or a disagreement with someone, and just working it out instead of posting facebook statuses and sub-tweets on the Internet?"

    THIS!!!!

    I was JUST (as in yesterday) chatting with a dear friend about discretion. I was telling her I didn't want people to know my business regarding a certain situation for more reasons than one. I have learned the hard way that women AND men like to run their mouthswhich can stir up some bullsh*t drama. As I was growing up my parents (especially my mother) would always tell me "Never tell your right hand what your left is doing"…in other words keep your business to yourself. Only a select few know how much money I make, who I am dating/interested in, or what my next moves are. Less is better. Discretion is a lost art.

    1. "Never tell your right hand what your left is doing” THIS!

      Its true I've learned the hard way that if I am going to tell someone my business its going to be 1 person that way if I hear it again I know where it came from. Otherwise I keep my business to myself. I tell things that i don't care are repeated period. Discretion is a lost art. Indeed!

  11. In general, I'm a fair-weather friend of sports. But, the hotties def register…and Bro. Jeter is in my top 5! All this cool stuff you said about him just confirms my carnal choice, lol…

    "If you’re not ready for serious commitment, move on!" [just say] “That’s not what Im looking for right now, and if you are than maybe we should end this so no one gets hurt.”

    THIS! THIS! THIS!

    Why people don't get THIS, I'll never understand. I'd fuss at men about it but it isn't just them. This is def a male and female problem that needs fixing…

  12. I dont follow baseball so I dont know much about Jeter other than the women he's banging from time to time and I can barely keep up with that. I will say that I have heard very little about him – even though I dont live in NY – so that probably says something since he is a super star athlete I hardly hear about. I'm sure that speaks to the discretion you spoke of.

    I've admired Jeter for not falling into the status quo athlete syndrome – marry a trophy wife, then cheat on her with a woman built like the mantle the trophy sits on. If you're not ready to get married, dont get married. I'm not sure why athletes – or anyone really – rushes into marriages they are clearly not ready for. See, Tiger Woods.

    Some people see it as immature not to get married after a certain age. I see it as equally immature to get married before you're ready. But, maybe that's just me.

    1. "If you’re not ready to get married, dont get married. I’m not sure why athletes – or anyone really – rushes into marriages they are clearly not ready for. See, Tiger Woods."

      EXACTLY!!!

  13. Yeah Jeter is a pretty stand up guy! Like everyone else I think the discretion thing is very important I only tell about four people about my romantic life, other people usually have no clue. I was just talking to one of my exes the other day and he thought that he was the last person that I've dated…mind you this was from Sophomore year in college o_0. He wondered how I keep my relationships so private when his other girlfriends were always posting pictures of them and writing mushy gushy "i love you babes" on his profile…..because I don't roll like that, our relationship doesn't need to be on display.

    And on the "where is this relationship going" question…..I don't understand why its such a scary question, JUST BE UPFRONT!!! I hate when guys skirt around the issue and leave you hanging on and wondering for far too long! (like 7 mothafreakin months!…for example) Let me know so I can know the deal a decide how to proceed!!! More men need to be like Jeter in this aspect…..but let me stop myself on this topic before I get all upset and ish.

    Good post Streetz!

    1. "And on the “where is this relationship going” question…..I don’t understand why its such a scary question, JUST BE UPFRONT!!! I hate when guys skirt around the issue and leave you hanging on and wondering for far too long! (like 7 mothafreakin months!…for example) "

      I think when most fellas here this question they automatically assume the woman is asking where the relationship is going in relation to marriage. This may cause the jumping around the question b/c if you're asking many guys this at 7 months or under most are seriously contemplating marriage (not saying they're not at all…just haven't seriously thought about it just yet). Also, I think some guys are hesitant to put an expectation on something in which they are still trying to figure out for themselves. At this stage they know they like you, but may need more time to conclude this is someone they can go to the next level with. (Don't get started on timeframes b/c they're different for everybody).

      Then again this scenario is if you're already a couple. Now if you're "just dating" and a woman asks you this in relation to leading to a committed relationship then the man should just be honest and answer accordingly. And, "I'm not sure, I'm still trying to figure that out" is an acceptable answer for most men,lol…how ladies react to that answer is on them *shrugs*

      1. I only ask this question if we are just dating, if we are in a relationship then I should already have a good idea where its going. And maybe its because I'm young, (23) but I'm not trying to marry anyone anytime soon soo when I ask the question there is no marriage pressure associated with it. If you can't figure out whether or not you want to date me then you probably don't, I don't know what you are still trying to figure out!! Obviously waiting around for 7mons was my fault…..it won't be done again!

        I just can't understand why relationships are soo darn scary to guys my age! I'm not trying to lock you in a dungeon or anything geez!

      2. “I’m not sure, I’m still trying to figure that out” is an acceptable answer for most men,lol…how ladies react to that answer is on them

        I feel like this is the answer men give when they are not that into you and not ready to commit. instead of just saying I'm not ready for a commitment you give her that answer to keep her hanging on. But @Larry is def right about "how we react to the answer is on us women" the ball is always in our court when he gives you this kind of answer reevaluate the situation cause a man that's wants to be with you is always sure about where it's going, if he's into you there is nothing to figure out.

  14. A tweet I got earlier:

    RT @songscriberesq: @streetztalk Love the article. Think another factor for DJ's relationship savvy is that he has a good model thru his parents

    I definitely left out the parents aspect. From what i see, his parent's are GREAT role models and carry themselves well. Set that standard for excellence at an early age. Another good look into this dynamic

  15. If discretion is a lost art, then the thirst for attention is the new black! I strongly believe that most (not all) use social networking/media to overcompensate for that hug/hi-five they probably never got in the home. I know people who will be bent out of shape if their status doesn't have 3 likes, or will delete a tweet if that "profound post" they plastered isn't deemed RT'able! They will do ANYTHNG to be relevant….

    Which is why I can appreciate this post for showcasing DJ and some men as those who choose to stay below the radar and are actually comfortable with receiving accolades based on accomplishments and not drama. It goes to show that not everyone is about being seen AND heard….

  16. Met fan.. but I pull for the Yankees and I have alot of respect for Jeter as well as the other black ball players who held down the sport in a time when there were not many of us around. Shame our generation didn't appreciate the game that Jackie Robinson, Satchel Paige and Elston Howard worked to hard to be able we had a CHANCE to play. I'm not mad or think its racist that we fell in love with Basketball so much, but baseball has a cultural importance to race relations. Jackie Robinson is in history books, not sport almanacs.

    **end of Adonis type off topic rant**

    There is something to having a sport mentality. You hear them say "Locker Room busniess" alot in baseball. Conversations between grown folks need to stay that way. You police yourself and you are not responsible to every tom d1ck and harry, just the other people in your locker room. You don't have to tell everyone yours problems or cry for every issue that happens. It makes your core weak when you let everybody inside your inner circle.

    1. "It makes your core weak when you let everybody inside your inner circle."

      Truth.com!

      In all my 30 years, I let one IMPOSTER in my Circle of Trust (last year)…almost cost me my freedom, lol. When a woman tells you they can't keep female friends, RUN…cause that chick is most likely crazy, lol. I don't know what the warning sign for fake male friends is…but I'm sure there is one, smh.

      And there is a HUGE difference between associates and friends…never give an associate friend treatment…you will get burned.

    2. There is a big difference between athletes and role models. Jeter, LBJ, MJ, Magic, Kobe ect those dudes are athletes. All time greats at what they do but will never leave a footprint anywhere outside of the sports arena.

      Jackie Robinson, Bill Russell, Ali, John Carlos, Tommy Smith, David Robinson, Arthur Ashe, Craig Hodges, ect those dudes are role models. They used their position of influence in sports to evoke change for African Americans. Most of them did it at a time when doing so was career suicide or you could face the real possibility of death.

      The modern day athlete is more interested in marketing then following in the footsteps of those who helped to dispel many of the false notions people had about African Americans

      1. So if I carry myself with dignity, dont embarass my family, and garner a general respect in the eyes of peers and the common man, yet never stand up for social issues, that makes me not a role model?

        1. @ Streetz

          No I’m not saying that. I despise LBJ as an athlete but have a ton of respect for how the man has carried himself. Coming into the league with immense pressure heaped on his shoulder his only faux pas was basketball related. He stays out of trouble, without any parental assistance, and has been clean his whole NBA career. I respect him for that but can't consider him a role model.

          That doesn't compare to someone like Bill Russell who held integrated basketball camps in Mississippi circa 1958, a time where he could have been lynched for such actions. During the Beijing games ESPN had an hour long special with Tommy Smith and John Carlos on the 1968 Mexico City games. As we all know John Carlos' wife committed suicide based on the backlash the family received for the black power salute. The interviewer asked Carlos if he would do it all over again. I don't remember his exact words but basically he said he would because the struggle is more important than any personal strife I may have endured. That was deep in my opinion because even knowing he'd be ostracized and his wife would kill herself he'd do it again because they message was that important. That's a role model.

          We used to hold our athletes to a more stringent standard. Sports were a very important cog in the battle for equal rights. A great deal of misconceptions about our intelligence, abilities, and humanity were dispelled in the sports arena. Nowadays athletes care about marketing for financial gain which is their right, but I'll always respect the ones who blazed the path for equality or uplifting a people.

      2. Agreed … DJ is doing what he's supposed to do … He's an exceptional sports figure today, but honestly outside of his baseball skills and staying out of bad press, there's nothing that stands out to me about him. I can't say he's been vocal as it relates to anything regarding anything outside of baseball, but hey i may be wrong.

        Come on, really there's no difference from DJ and cats like Tim Duncan. Not trying to take anything away from him, but due to the weighted scale it's easy to put dude's who are doing what they're supposed to do in the right way on a pedestal that in any other era they wouldn't be discussed at all.

  17. I don't agree but I respect this post.

    I can tell you everybody Jeter has dated since 1996. I can tell you that in the last two years of the late Steinbrenner's tenure as owner of the Yankees, he told Jeter that his focus was off the field and not on the field. He demanded that ARod and Jeter focus more on winning games, than their hotel suite parties. That's not discrete at all. We all were very aware when Jeter was dating Mariah Carey.

    Also to speak to his character, Jeter is not as good defensively as ARod, but he refused to move to 2nd or 3rd and threatened to leave if they would even think about doing such a thing. ARod had to step in and concede to the team captain. But the Yankees wouldn't have won that WS without ARod, if Cal could move to 3rd why couldn't Jeter?

    Jeter also plays the game with class, but not with integrity. Just last season he was in three controversies where in one case, he claimed that he was never touched when it was clear he was. In another incident he slapped the ball out of someone's glove. He broke rules and then when asked about it he said he wasn't going to apologize for it because the game was already over. That's not G my dude. Not at all. I love Jeter because he's got the fight of a lion in him, but he's not squeaky clean by any means, he's just a normal guy who hit 3,000 hits and has a few championships on the best franchise in all of basketball. He parties with ARod to the wee hours of the morning and then when things were going south he never hesitated to throw him under the bus.

    Mariano, Posada and Jeter stick together though. Jeter made it clear that he wouldn't take no disrespect towards Posada. But look at all the other players during his tenure that he never stood up for. I don't know, two sides to every coin. Lebron James said Kobe was a great friend and mentor, but we all hate him. Truth be told, we don't know Jeter all that well. He has given us no proof that he's any different than any of the other athletes out there.

    I look at Jete like I look at Jay, he's a great player, very skilled, but Jay-Z is discrete, that don't change the fact that he came up on things with the help of Dame Dash and Biggs, and then when he had his opportunity to ditch them he did for fame and fortune. You can learn a lot from a dude's relationships with their friends. You know that Wade and Bron are close friends, Magic and AC were close friends, ARod and Cano are close friends, who are Jeter's close friends? Not Mariano and Posada they are just teammates, but he don't party with them. I'm just saying…

    1. Spoken like a true Orioles fan, lol…

      Im talking about his relationships and the inner workings. Hes never been twitpicd. Never in no REAL scandals. All the things you mentioned about him not going to third, like I mentioned are shortcomings. Doersnt change the fact that in the eye of public perception hes teflon, and this is what we are talking about.

      Who do we REALLY know are friends like that? Jeter Posada and rivera all came up and been together years, how can you really refute that?

      Steinbrenner gets at ALL of his players for one thing or another. The most you can say is that Jeter holds a grudge. OK. Jay-Z is discrete yet ppl knew when he was dating beyonce, when he got married etc. Yes it does go both ways.

      You dont hear Jeter in Baby Mama Drama. You dont see him emaraased like Weiner or these other clowns. You dont see him in no Governator shyt. Speaks to his movements quite clearly as depicted in this post.

      Agree to disagree tho

        1. They know of everyone he dated though but what slander have you heard?

          Thats like bein on campus ppl "know" who u fukin but you dont put it out there. Its media!

        2. word streetz. Here is the difference. We knew Jeter was dating Mariah b/c of paparazzi. We knew Eminem was dating Mariah b/c he told us over and over again, than on a diss track describe the first time he beat and ejaculating prematurely.

  18. I've developed a taste for discretion & privacy over the past few years. That's not to say that I was not discrete in the past, because I've always been a master of the art when I felt it necessary. The problem was that I prided myself on being an open book, and I didn't really see an issue with sharing details of my personal relationships if they were relevant to the topic at hand (within reason, of course). I did the subliminal status thing on occasion, but most of the time no one really had a clue what I was on about, not even those who were "in the know". Sometimes I just need to vent, but I can do so cryptically.

    Nowadays, I don't really feel the need to share much beyond the basics, if anything at all. On blogs, I'll type out certain things and then revise my words when I can convey my message without sharing more than necessary. Sometimes I'll delete everything altogether. I see people updating their statuses & information every other second, and I sometimes wish I could let them know how it makes people view them. Then again, not everyone cares, so whatevs. On my end, all the guys I've been involved with are private in nature, and I appreciate some of what that entails. I'm not looking for a CIA agent, though, so a balance has to be struck somewhere.

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