M Dot: SBM. I got this brand new theory for you.
SBM: Do tell …
MD: Dating older guys are the key. They have gotten the clubbing and the women out their system, and their ready to settle down.
SBM: You sure about that …
MD: I mean yeah … of course. It makes sense.
SBM: Yeah, but haven’t you seen those older guys in the club. You think the 42 year old & single guy buying college seniors drinks is ready to settle down?
MD: Yeah … he’s got a biological clock doesn’t he?
SBM: *burries face in hands*
When I was younger, I spent a lot of time thinking about what was the perfect age of women I should target. If I went too young, I would have to deal with youthful nonsense, an altered view of dating, and a lack of experience. With a 25 year old woman, I might find something I liked, but who knows if she was in that “my career is everything” stage of her life. As you got close to 30, the marriage thirst g0t serious. Nothing worst then dating a woman who drops wedding magazines around your house. Post 30 was a sweet spot … beaten up by the lack of marriage, comfortable with herself, and lowered expectations (don’t be mad at me … accept it).
Basically, when it comes to age … I can stereotype women. The biological clock starts ticking, the mom starts asking about the ringless finger, and women start dreaming of a wedding. It’s predictable and the marrying age for women is set in stone. Once that age hits, she is ready to get married. She may not be married, she may have given up on marriage, but she 100% without doubt wants a husband (divorced doesn’t count … she already had one). End of story.
Men, for once, are more complicated. Men seem to get married all over the place, or never. With Black Men still winning, some are really taking advantage of the situation. Every man has picked an age range to get married. It could be 18, it could be 58 … every guy is different.
Think about it …
We all know someone who has gotten married at the “expected age”. Met their girl a little after college, stayed with her for a few years, then made a real woman out of her. Mid twenties marriage … just like our parents (well … maybe “thier” parents moreso then ours). They had a kid before 30 and things just sounded like something out of a sitcom. He set his internal age, entered “marriage mode”, and found his girl.
But then you went to the club later that night. You saw that 50 year old brother eyeballing every 20 something that walked near him. You know this guy (he’s “that” uncle). Has no plans to get married, loves the game , and can pick up girls half his age with ease.
When a man has decided he is ready for marriage, he enters marriage mode. They way he thinks about women and relationships changes. Suddenly the allure of the game is less appealing. The club might not be as fun. Intelligent conversation might actually matter again. And the days of dating 8 months before you get a title are gone. Either you are in wifey consideration … or your dead. It’s just like W.I.M. said yesterday , at this point dating more than 12 months without commitment is a waste of a woman’s time. He hasn’t hit the age and he isn’t in Marriage mode.
The decision to get married is a lot more personal and varied for men than women. For any woman trying to date or get married, look for the signs … don’t try and force it … cause it doesn’t work!
What is your marrying age? How can you tell if a man is close to his marrying age or not? Believe in marriage mode?
– SBM aka “I hit my age” aka “Texas was hot as hell”