I was browsing the web this weekend when I stumbled on a Yahoo article claiming to uncover our happiest age. What’s the magic age you ask? From Yahoo:
Friends Reunited, a U.K. website, found that 70 percent of respondents over the age of 40 said they did not find true happiness until they were 33 years old.
As a psychologist from the article explains, “Innocence has been lost, but our sense of reality is mixed with a strong sense of hope, a ‘can do’ spirit, and a healthy belief in our own talents and abilities.”
This makes sense to me. At age 29, I find myself growing more comfortable with, well, myself. I haven’t had the “I’m almost 30” panic, yet. In fact, a part of me looks forward to it. I’ve been fortunate enough to remain mostly on schedule with a lot of goals I’ve set out for myself, like getting out of debt, establishing my career, developing and improving my writing among a variety of other personal goals.
However, one goal that isn’t even on the horizon right now is marriage, since I’m not seriously dating anyone
anymore. I honestly figured I would be married by this age but ironically, some of the same goals I listed in the proceeding paragraph have hampered this particular goal. For example, a number of women I dated couldn’t abide by the numerous – and there are many – sacrifices needed to be completely debt free by age 30. I don’t blame them but it is what it is. Furthermore, there are times when I can become one-track minded in pursuit of certain goals. Specifically, I have chosen my career over at least one woman in particular that I know for a fact I would have asked to marry me if we had stayed together. I later found out that if I had asked her to stay (she followed her career as well), she would have but that’s not my style. I’m not the type to stand in the way of ones pursuit of their goals/dreams, and I would hope someone would respectfully feel the same about me.
Other times, my career and personal goals have conflicted with the relationship goals of two people as a whole instead of me as a single man. Admittedly, I have chosen to remain single at times because it’s easier for me to focus on myself rather than a relationship. Relationships, even good ones (or especially good ones), take work – and I already have a job.
What are your thoughts on the study? If you’re over 33, do you agree it was a good estimate of your happiest year? If you’re under 33, what do you think will be your happiest year based on your view of the future? In the grand scheme of things, are you happy with where your life is right now? Why or why not?