A Wall Street Journal article recently suggested that people in long-term relationships reported sleeping easier at night. Check out the excerpt below:
While the science is in the early stages, one hypothesis suggests that by promoting feelings of safety and security, shared sleep in healthy relationships may lower levels of cortisol, a stress hormone. Sharing a bed may also reduce cytokines, involved in inflammation, and boost oxytocin, the so-called love hormone that is known to ease anxiety and is produced in the same part of the brain responsible for the sleep-wake cycle. So even though sharing a bed may make people move more, “the psychological benefits we get having closeness at night trump the objective costs of sleeping with a partner,” Dr. Troxel says.
This got us to thinking… maybe having a cuddle buddy is a good idea. I’m a very light sleeper; any movement at night will wake me up almost immediately. For that reason, I always prefer to sleep alone. I’m also a very methodical sleeper too; I have to have my water, my snack, and the right temperature in the room before I doze off.
However, I don’t think there are many of us who haven’t been in a situation where your entire relationship with someone was just cuddling and no sexual relations. For men, this can be the most frustrating experience of our lives. You know, a spoon is for soup. Soup is usually serve before a meal, when I’ll get to use my fork. (That analogy will make sense on your way home.) Women, on the other hand, are notorious for wanting to have a cuddle buddy. They even cuddle with each other on occasion.
Although frustrating for men and soothing for women, this article has me thinking. Could it actually be a good idea to procure the interest of a long term cuddle buddy?
Women, on the other hand, are notorious for wanting to have a cuddle buddy. They even cuddle with each other on occasion.
What does that lead to?
Considering women are good for 'just cuddling' with a dude…nothing. Sorry.
I don't know if my disruptive sleep patterns were eleviated by the presence of my ex-partner, or aggravated by their absence. That to say, I am not certain if sleep is BETTERED by the presence of a cuddle buddy, or if that the actual cause of the sleep disruption is the awkward period where you have to get used to being in bed by yourself. For some people, they get over it in a few days/weeks. The first breakup I had where I no longer slept with a partner daily I didn't sleep right for half a year, so I don't know how that was factored in. I hope I'm making sense?
WIM get those dirty thoughts out of your head right now….. smdh & wagging my pointer finger at you…….lol
First off let me be clear – The only woman I've ever cuddled with in my life was my mother and I was a child. I've held my baby sister and both of my goddaughters as they slept, but they were babies or small children then.
Mother and child – understood. Women who are "just friends" cuddling for no real logical reason – Suspect. ijs – jmo.
I think there could be some truth to the article. Amaris I've never shared a bed with a man for years and years and years. Almost a year was the longest. I think I'm opposite and used to sleeping alone and slightly selfish in that respect that I don't particularly care to have someone in the bed with me and sometimes it disrupts my good sleep. If anything I have to get used to someone being there. I've been told I have some violent tendencies in my sleep sometimes….lol Again for the better part of my life I've slept alone and just got used to it by default or whatever.
Amaris I've heard many married people after a divorce, (men and women) alike say exactly what you said about how long it took you to adjust to not having someone there and how difficult it was. That makes perfect sense. If your used to having someone there for many many years, especially more than 5 yrs, that's a long time to share a bed with someone and when that person is no longer there, you probably feel that emptiness real strong for a long while and it takes some getting used to.
I don't know too many men who can just "cuddle" with a woman they are attracted to on a daily basis. Maybe once in a while, but all the time, or every nite……….why torture a man like that? ijs.
If the man wasn't attracted to the woman I highly doubt he would want to "cuddle" with her or be close to her in any way beyond a handshake or hug.
Keepin It 100, as a woman with a very strong practically man-like sex drive, I couldn't just be "cuddling" with a man and Never have sex with him.
So Doc J I am a woman who has Never Ever been in a romantic relationship with a man and just cuddled and there was no chex ever. Not gonna happen with Bree.
And let me be clear – If I'm not feeling a dude there will be No laying down horizontally, much less cuddling, Ever.
“I’ve heard many married people after a divorce, (men and women) alike say exactly what you said about how long it took you to adjust to not having someone there and how difficult it was.”
Yeah I’ve heard this as well but as for me, I had no problem adjusting to sleeping solo — I loved finally having the bed to myself and I still love it today besides when I’m sleeping I rather not be touched anyway, it gets too damn hOT.
"You know, a spoon is for soup. Soup is usually serve before a meal, when I’ll get to use my fork." <~ LMAO!!! I had to read it twice.
I think cuddling is awesome!… with my kids. If I'm sleeping alone and my babies just so happen to have decided to sleep in their own beds for a change, then I'm usually up pacing at night. I sleep better when they are with me. I guess it's a security blanket for me, knowing they are right there in case anything was to happen.
Now as for a cuddling buddy? With me? LMAO!! That would never work. Yes!! I love "spooning"… because it's only right to have the soup before the meal. Duuuhh, lol.
This is funny to me. Though I love cuddling…only while awake. I think having someone else in your bed while asleep is bothersome. lol I know, judge me!
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depending, because if someone just start to know, not exactly want to sleep with him / her …. and they end up losing the night. on the contrary, if someone in a relationship and end up having a very pleasant night's sleep
I like this article!!!! So interesting
This article is worth checking. For sleep disorder having peoples such article will be quite effective. Yes its true being is a longer and healthy relationship is really helping me get enough and comfortable sleeping in nights. Thanks.