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Things That Make Relationships Work: Volume 1


**Chillin’ all comfortably and sh*t.**

Me: I got nominated for Blogger of the Year by the African American Literary Awards Show (Q14).

Her: Yayyy! It’ll be great if you win! *pompom type action*

Me: I’m not gonna win though. Did you see the other names in my category? Do you remember how much I struggled with that last award show nomination process? I never do well with the popular vote. I know about 142.7 people I can count on. That’s my tribe. That’s it. People just don’t support me en masse when it comes to votes. They be treatin’ me like I’m Slim Romney, Michelle. They see what I say, then keep it moving. Or, they’re just not the (online) vocal types. I know my friends aren’t and they support everything.

Her: *pet name* You can win. A lot of people know who you are and support you. You don’t give ’em enough credit. And if that’s the attitude you have, that’s the result you’ll get.

Me: I’m a realist. If you gave me an hour, I could sit and write down the names (well, handles) of everybody that regularly supports me. I notice ’em and I subconsciously keep track. All my opportunities come because of my professional relationships and acknowledgment by influential people. You know? Many of which aren’t heavily engaged in the blog community and social media, but they keep tabs. It’s my gift and my curse. Popularity wise? I’m not winning. I gave up on that buttermilk biscuit a long time ago. You smell nice.

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Her: Well if you wanna look at it that way, popularity doesn’t equal quality. And these people who support you see your value and your potential to be great the same way you saw X’s potential to be great. Look at him now. You were one person that helped him when nobody knew who he was. You didn’t have to do that. That turned into one other person helping him when they didn’t know who he was. That then turned into a *insert major opportunity*. It doesn’t matter how popular you are. It’s that the right people believe in you and are willing to support you.

Me: You’re right. I guess that’s all that really matters.

Relationships have their perks.

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  1. Hm. I could support an ambitious Republican, someone with lofty goals for his woman and family. He has to do something really cool though. He actually has to need my support. Like first black man to [insert one of Obama’s accomplishments] in need of my support. No laurel resting. and I could probably be the sweet, supportive type. *shifts uncomfortably* I could be the consumate woman for a man like that. Nine trust fund babies, Audi strollers, souped up family utility vehicles….*twirls on my toes while sighing* I would support a man like that cuz he’d be making my dreams come true. I think I might only care about men whose purpose is me. There’s a lot of respect in meeting my standards and rising to the occasion. Some men just do such great feats I really would feel honored and genuinely behind him……*lost in thought for the rest of the night (next two minutes before sleep overtakes me)*

      1. because God forbid on a post about supporting a man's hard work and ambition that has political jokes laced into it, I actually speak on what kind of man I would support and my tolerance for the attitude of a black Republican. Because there clearly aren't enough people who will only leave "awww/I'll vote/that was so cute/good job" comments. I won't even be influenced by the engagement ring ad scrolling the top of the page. because that clearly would be the wrong reaction to such stimuli.


        1. *Imaginary southern gentlemen escorts you off my premises before I can get around to cocking my hand back*

  2. Reminds me of the song, "Your all I need" by Method Man and Mary J. Nothing beats having a good down to earth woman in your life.

  3. Very sweet post. This is a great perk of a romantic relationship but support can also come in the form of family and friends as well. I think healthy close relationships of any kind should just naturally be uplifting. I personally wouldn't expect anything less.

  4. Excuse this estrogen infused moment but…


    When it works, it shonuff works, doesn't it?! #WIN4BlackLove

    *going to vote now*

  5. Awwwww n shit.

    Having that one person in your corner is definitely an undervalued relationship perk. My ex was a huge fan (or at least believable enough to convince me) of my artwork, looking at them now some were pretty good others were turrable but she admired either way.

    Also i think you have a great shot…this is the only nominated blog i frequent, maybe the black TMZ (YBF) here and there
    My recent post Today’s word is… INTIMIDATION

  6. btw i didn't even know about this. where have i been? i voted for you though. i see my pastor is also up for fictional book:

    Rev. Joseph W. Walker III – Becoming a Couple of Destiny: Living, Loving, and Creating a Life that Matters
    My recent post Mood Muzik

  7. Ok gotta vote, but first…
    Gotta have a balance in the relationship. My guy is my anchor/ rock…sometimes Im his.
    Respect and communication are apart of our foundation.
    Im thankful for that… 🙂

  8. *high five* …and love how you randomly told her she smells nice lol

    Everyone needs a cheering section..even as adults. I'll get on it and vote! Best of luck!

  9. < Not voting for a blog that entertains certain kinds of women and promotes men crossing the boundaries of women who have clearly and repeatedly defined those boundaries. Nor am I voting for a blog that is so drastically different from my ideal set but I do think the content is the best on the net; more specifically, in terms of the topics that are posted…..but I can honestly say I don't care about supporting a man in any way, shape or form. unless he's the type that doesn't leverage a woman's emotion to get something quick out of her. When "you" need me I'm apathetic. No dice on the vote, but good luck with that.

  10. " It doesn’t matter how popular you are. It’s that the right people believe in you and are willing to support you."

    AMEN!! People believe in you Mr. Slim! God Bless You! I hope you win!



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