11 Things I’ve Learned About Relationships, Dating, Love and All That Other Stuff
Each one of these could have been an individual post here on SBM, but it’s really not worth the series. This is a quick list of eleven things I’ve learned about relationships, dating, love and all that other stuff over the years. It never became clearer to me than in the last few weeks when I was able to put these thoughts into the form of a post. Enjoy and meet me in the comment section with your thoughts.
1. Dating absolutely sucks
What could be more exciting than meeting someone new, experiencing butterflies and embarking on a journey towards love? Um… everything. Unless you are extremely lucky, you’ll spend the first few dates with awkward conversations trying to “get to know one another.” Then there are the awkward questions from “the world.” If you ever want to see something hilarious, walk up to two people on a date and ask them, “Are you guys together?” Watch their response.
2. Everybody is a little crazy
Everyone has it in them. Some people just do a better job than others concealing it. You know what the definition of “crazy” is in a relationship? Not the way you would do it, and also, making little to no sense to you. If you find a person, and you agree with everything they’ve ever said and all of it makes perfect sense to you, #twitpicsoIknoitsreal.
If you ask someone why their last relationship didn’t work out, I’ll guarantee you that, “Me” will be the last answer you get. Most people are convinced that they are the best thing since sliced bread so it’s always going to be someone else’s fault.
After you’ve been dating for a while, you’ll come to this point of wondering, “Do we go together?” Well, from that point until you actually officially consider yourselves, “In a relationship” it’s just weird. Nobody knows what expectations they can place on one another and they don’t know what conversations or questions are fair game. It’s just an all around generally awkward stage until you finally agree that you’re only seeing each other, you spend most of your time outside of work and friends, with them, and you really would be upset if they weren’t in your life. That’s called a relationship.
I hate arguments with a passion. I personally don’t think you should argue if you’re not in a relationship, so I don’t. I keep quiet. I let the other person say their side, and then I move on from the conversation. It’s okay to have a conversation in which you don’t agree or you realize a difference in preferences, but if you’re in a shouting match or sending angry texts, you’re doing the 40 yard dash in a 30 yard room.
Over the course of your life you will encounter some people who are great for you. You know it on the inside, it’s everything you’ve ever wanted in someone. However, you’ll tell yourself that something isn’t quite clicking right and you’ll spend time mulling over the decision to move forward. Then, that person walks right out of your life and you never see them again, or they realize you don’t appreciate them and they leave.