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Love at First Sight: The Beautiful Black Woman



While entertained by the usual shenanigans of Twitter yesterday, an interesting post title caught my eye. Originally published on August 16, 2011, TheBlackManCan.org Twitter’s account @TheBlackManCan shared one of their throwback post, His Story: Falling BLACK In Love about a man’s instantaneous and unapologetic love for a beautiful black woman he but briefly encounters. I felt this story definitely needed to be read, heard, and shared – and who better to start with than our SBM family?

Hope you enjoy…

TheBlackManCan.org: Falling BLACK in Love

Once in an elevator I spotted a young lady. I was on my way to work and she was on her way to who knows where. At that moment, to quote The Godfather (one of my favorite movies), I was hit by the “thunderbolt”. Visually stunned, I took in her beauty. Her skin was a deep chocolate, her hair a kinky mass of velvet black, her teeth white like new Easter Sunday shoes. I think everyone in the elevator noticed my dazed glare. She looked at me in a questioning manner. Almost as if by some compulsion I blurted, “You’re so beautiful.” She smiled and appeared shocked. I think everyone including me was shocked. She was not the kind of girl who would understandably have men in such a state of adolescent panic. She was not some modelesque type with the generally accepted wow factor.

I can only do my best to describe what I felt at that moment. It makes no sense at all that I would feel that way about a total stranger. In five minutes of her presence I thought of things that hadn’t crossed my mind in all the years of my romantic relationships. I saw in her a wife, the mother of my children, the keeper of my house, and the comforter of my soul. She was like a vessel that swept me away to a place that I have never been, but had always been looking for. Home!

I pondered the entire day on what had happened inside of me. The misery I felt as she exited the elevator. What was it about this woman that had unraveled me so easily? It came to me suddenly that I loved her blackness. Every detail of her was unapologetically and beautifully black. Every part of me understood and appreciated every part of her. It was as if I had been living in a strange country my entire life and unexpectedly met someone from my homeland. This was in fact my first taste of Black Love.

The very nature of a black man is to love a black woman. I’ve come to realize…read more.

About the Author: Mike Phil of Miami. I’m a liberal, post racial, Agnostic, pro-feminist. I believe common sense is a refusal to individually reason. If legally permitted I would be a proactive Darwinist.


  1. not to detract from the love I have for this post – but where are all the up in arms over KimK sistahs at now?! leads me to believe many folks would rather be upset and b*tch just for the sake of b*tching… Applaud you all for posting this! Not to mention any posts that highlights one of my most favorite love songs will always be a win in my book!

  2. I'm just mad I have to go home to finish reading it cause this good gov't computer won't let me see the site!!!!!!!!!! GRRRRRRRRRrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    1. me too Cyn….I can't read it either…..damn firewalls! uuuggggghhhhhh!
      I've seen this story before a few weeks ago. Just don't remember all the details.
      Damn! Damn! Damn! (in my Florida Evans voice).

  3. This is lovely. It reminds me of the first time I heard a man correctly pronounce my name (listen, everybody has their ‘thing’, k?). There’s just a feeling of ‘home’ you can’t put into words, and it varies for each individual. Beautiful, beautiful post.

  4. I love this post… I especially love how he framed Black Love as an act of resistance and defiance, as well as an act of loving oneself. Absolutely powerful when you look at it within that framework. Thanks for the share.

  5. I enjoyed reading every word of this article. So very well stated. It 's nice to read something uplifting about us for a change, especially in these times when Black women seem to be under attack from most angles. Thank you for sharing. =)

  6. SO BEAUTIFUL!!!! A stark change in what I've been coming across about us these days. It's wonderful to read something so deep, meaningful, and loving from a black man to a black woman. Written with such sweet conviction! I'm going to definitely pass this on and also keep for myself to read again.

  7. I know this if off topic but I’m looking into starting my own blog and was wondering what all is needed to get set up? I’m assuming having a blog like yours would cost a pretty penny?
    I’m not very internet smart so I’m not 100% positive. Any recommendations or advice would be greatly appreciated. Kudos

  8. When I originally commented I clicked the “Notify me when new comments are added” checkbox and now each time a comment is added I get three e-mails with the
    same comment. Is there any way you can remove me from that service?

  9. Sono impressionato dalla qualità delle informazioni su questo sito. Ci sono un sacco di buone risorse qui. Sono sicuro che visiterò di nuovo il vostro blog molto presto.


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