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Relationships and White Lies: Brooklyn Man Fakes Kidnapping To Avoid Girlfriend



While catching up on current events in NYC, I came across an equally funny and disturbing article. A Brooklyn man went AWOL for 2 weeks. When faced with the proposition of explaining his 2 week hiatus to his girlfriend, he decided against telling the truth and opted to go this route instead:

Rahmell Pettway, 36, told cops he spent two weeks away from his Bedford-Stuyvesant home — and then staged the crime to explain his absence to his girlfriend.

But his poorly executed plan unraveled when the cops who found him hog-tied in the street noticed the roll of duct tape still dangling from his wrists.

He eventually came clean, and was arrested for filing a false report.

“He’s a total moron,” said one law-enforcement source. “It was a pathetic attempt to pull the wool [over] her eyes.”
Pettway was first discovered by a passerby at 1:10 a.m. Thursday between two cars on Macon Street.
His hands, legs and mouth were covered with duct tape and the rogue Romeo looked beaten up, complaining about pain in his ribs.

Another resident scoffed at his elaborate crock.

“He did that just so he wouldn’t get caught by his girl? The lengths people will go not to tell the truth.”

Now, I, along with everyone else reading, would be lying if they said that they never stretch the truth to a significant other. However, this is Mr. Fantastic levels of reaching here! After awhile you have to ask yourself, “how far is too far to go in a lie?” I would tell anyone that they need to beware of men and women like this who will Jason Bourne their way through life, assuming different identities and realities, and will take a lie to the absurdist of limits. Dude should’ve just kept it real and told his woman: a) he didn’t want to be around her; b) he had another joint he was shacking up with; or c) just break it off before that woman puts 2 and 2 together and flips out. This is how cars get keyed, clothes get shredded, and bodies get harmed. Not being an advocate, just being cautious.

You also have to evaluate the type of relationship you have if you have to become Ben Affleck in Argo just to avoid the wrath of a loved one. Are you under that much pressure in your relationship that you fear any repercussions for your actions? Is your relationship healthy if you can’t face up to the truth or you can’t keep it real with your significant other? If any of the answers to those questions indicate a problem, you need to cut ties before it gets out of hand.

What do you think of this story? Any situations like this happen to you readers? Speak on it!



  1. It's amazing how far people will go to have their cake and have it too…….why be in a relationship when you really don't want to be in one? I just don't understand. In my younger days, I endured a relationship where my significant other would say he was going to go out and kick it that night; I wouldn't see him for the entire weekend. Even still, he lied about his whereabouts and eventually I discovered he was out of town. Yes, many people, men and women, would rather go through pathetic unecessary lengths to avoid telling the truth.

  2. Wow. Anything to get out of spending quality time with your girl while she is on her monthly. Is it really that serious? Sheesh.

    j/k. But this is pretty hee-larry-us though. If the outcome is this funny, can you imagine what the planning stage must have been like? The back and forth pacing in the room. The blueprint. The conversations he had with himself about it.

    If this was the plan that got the green light, I am curious to know what the other ones that didn't make the cut were like.

    On a more serious note, we have all concocted and executed some plans at one point or another in our life to avoid (insert random situation with a woman/man here). Doubtful most people go to these extremes, but we all do some ish like this to a degree. Or at least have.

    Mr. SoBo

    My recent post Oops! My Fault: Social Hiccups Men Must Avoid

  3. I wonder if he and the girlfriend were shacking up???? Sure does pay to have your OWN space, doesn't it? LOL. As for lying, its funny, people lie, everyone lies, be it little white lies or movie-of-the-week lies, a lie is still a lie….and there is also lying by omission of info. But what is interesting is that folks who lie still want to qualify the lies of others and persecute them for it. Okay…too much? lol


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