I think all men struggle with expressing to women exactly how they come across in conversations or in passing. It’s hard to tell a woman that she’s acting like a b*tch, even though you don’t want to sum that up to be the meaning of what she’s about. It’s like that’s what you mean and now you have the hard task of figuring out how to say that without using the words; you, b*tch, crazy, [see-you-next-tuesday], or anything like that. I came to a conclusion a short while ago, I would never ever call a woman “crazy” again in my life — I’d just let other women do it. That’s exactly what I did and it worked! I just shared stories about things that would happen in my life and let the women conclude what I already knew… “Oooh she crazy, Jay!”
I be like, “I know.”
Anyway, once you get past the point of trying to explain to someone their emotional state or how they’re acting, the next hard part is showing them how it affects you. I tell people all the time the reason why I get along with so many women is because I don’t really let them affect me with their shenanigans. I keep my distance from letting other people’s actions affect me. I do this with men too, but it’s a lot easier since I don’t think men are as expressive as women. Undoubtedly, i’m always told that the thing that pisses off women the most about me is that I never lose control. I never express my feelings and show any emotion when i’m upset or when “she” thinks it’s warranted (because that’s when I should). I have always told people, “I just try my best to not let my emotions affect other people because it’s not their problem, it’s mine.”
Yesterday I read an article on Elite Daily that touched on this very topic. Below is an excerpt of the article:
Quit Being A Bitch And Learn To Control Your Emotions
We let our emotions take over our lives every day and this needs to change. We mistakenly allow our emotions to control ourselves, when in reality, we need to learn how to control our emotions.
As a society, it is much more beneficial to learn to deal with things logically rather than emotionally. If you can train yourself to think rationally and realistically, you will become a much happier person. Your emotions cannot control you; you should control your emotions. Ignoring your feelings won’t make them go away, trust me, I’ve tried on numerous occasions.
Suppressing your emotions is inherently problematic. By bottling up all your emotions, you think you are hiding yourself from different instances of pain. However, one day you will reach your breaking point and the floodgates will open and you will become overwhelmed with a plethora of sentiment. It is much more beneficial to be in touch with your emotions, so that you can truly understand how to manage them.
People lash out at others constantly when they themselves are going through internal, emotional turmoil. Emotions cannot lead your life. You can control how you feel and how you react to things. You never need to feel this type of despair again. For some reason, we do not realize how much control we truly have over our emotions.
By not learning how to handle your emotional outbursts, you risk ruining different relationships you will have over the course of your lifetime. Personal friendships, intimate relationships and office interactions all revolve around the management of emotions.
You can read the rest of the article over at Elite Daily.
Here’s a quote from the article that really moved me because it made perfect sense to me.
“Comfort in expressing your emotions will allow you to share the best of yourself with others, but not being able to control your emotions will reveal your worst.”
What are your thoughts on this article and subject? Do you think that some people truly struggle with getting their emotions under control? I always like the term popularized by Jay-Z, Do you think some people lack the “power to get from under themselves”? Lastly, have you found that when you’re upset you’re unable to keep your emotions under control? We’re all friends here, ain’t nobody judging you.