“If you want to be interesting, you have to be interested” – Miss Allison Kirk
Recently I had a conversation with a woman I’d classify as my life partner. We reflected on why we love each other the way that we do and what characteristics attracted us to one another. It was my turn to analyze and express some of my thoughts, and my initial inclination was to tell her how dope she was. She embodies this amazing balance of being extremely beautiful, classy, feminine, cultured, while also being very intelligent and progressive. A balance that eludes many. We’ve been friends for over a decade, but I noticed her becoming more interesting several years ago. All this time I thought she placed me under a magic spell, but in her words, it was just her becoming more interested. Not her becoming more interested in me — although that subsequently happened — but her becoming more interested in the things that she found interesting to herself.
She began to dive into the things that peaked her interest: music, fashion, Seth Godin, sushi, Keith Haring, marketing, femininity, and many other things. She immersed herself in the things that appealed to her. As she began to learn and gain these new experiences, it made her more interesting. Our conversations became different, and eventually I would begin to expect lessons in culture every time we conversed. Years went by like this and I ended up falling in love with my best friend, but not before she fell in love with herself.
If you hope to find the love of your life, you have to start with the person in the mirror. Find your passion and then, in the words of the athletic brand Nike, Just Do It. Do you have an interest in cooking? Look at YouTube videos and the various cooking channels on TV, then cook. Lover of the piano? Take up some classes and learn how to play. A passion for writing? Get a notebook and start expressing yourself. Soft spot for the homeless? Go to the local shelter and feed them. Whatever it is that you feel a connection to, embrace that connection and feed your passions. This makes you distinguishable. Read more here…