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10 Things Insecure Men Do That We All Hate


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Here’s a list of 10 things insecure men do that we all hate:

1. See that you looked in the vicinity of their significant other, prompting them to grab hold of that person tightly and be overly affectionate. Perhaps this is like a territory mark for people worried that someone else making eye contact with their girlfriend is a challenge to a duel for her affection.

2. Make fun of Drake’s music, but secretly listen to it and find the feelings & emotions relatable. If you see a guy constantly referring to Drake & his music as “soft” and “corny,” realize that there’s a reason he’s familiar enough with the lyrics to know what they’re about. Check his iPod, I guarantee at least 2 GBs of it is occupied by the smooth sounds of Aubrey Graham.

3. Angrily inquire about who that other guy you started following on social media is. “SO WHO IS THIS JACOB TOOL BAG, HUH? HOW DO YOU KNOW HIM? WHERE’S HE FROM? DO YOU THINK HE’S ATTRACTIVE?.. Oh… I see… So, uh, how long have y’all been cousins…?”

4.Talk to/have sex with as many partners as possible. Insecurity and constant talk/statistics of your hookups go hand in hand. What ever happened to I-don’t-kiss-and-tell? It often seems as if the attention seeking, insecure ones get off a second time by telling everyone about their sexcapades. Good for you, really, but unless there’s some hilarious or significant aspect to the story, you’re sharing it because you expect some type of kudos, fist bumps or round of applause.

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I’ll sum it up like this: The most insecure dudes I know can’t stop telling everyone about how many girls they’re hooking up with, planning on hooking up with, totally wanted by, etc.

5. Attempt to shoot down their significant other’s dreams and goals because the thought of them doing something like going to school, making more money or having a great deal of success in their field is intimidating.

6. Constant hating on other guys for taking shirtless pictures. Look, who cares if a bro worked hard to get shredded abs and wants to share it with the world? Let him do his thing and drink his confidence boost shake with 50+ Insta-grams of protein in the form of likes. Never has a dude who was completely satisfied with his own body, cared that much about someone else posting theirs.

7.  Buy large trucks and rev the engines in crowded parking lots. Hey, I’m not comfortable with my penis size and in 7th grade Meghan Hernandez dumped me on my birthday, so I’m not sure anyone will ever love me, but listen to all this noise I’m making! Oh you want more? Just wait ’til I peel out of here. The squeal, the smoke — it’s gonna be so badass.

8. Disrespect and/or slander the name of any woman who dare reject them. If you hear a guy calling a particular girl a “bitch” or a “ho” chances are there’s a “✓ Seen 5:12pm” with no response from said lady in his Facebook inbox. Nothing makes the insecure saltier than being ignored, but sometimes a response isn’t better. I once had a friend of mine tell me she declined a strangers offer to fly her to visit him, to which she was berated with a bunch of explicit phrases, emphasizing how much of a “bitch” she was. Hey, guy — now not only are you insecure, your temper and Jekyll-Hide turn is terrifying.

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9. Not make decisions. For example, invites like “Want to hang out and eat or watch movies or whatever? I don’t know, just if you feel like chillin’?” are asked instead of a firmer “Can I take you to dinner this Thursday?”

10. Kill the confidence of their partner, ideally making that person as self-conscious as they are. Often times they’ll put the cherry on top by being harsh and critical, openly vocalizing how obnoxious their significant other’s newfound self-consciousness is. Uh, you helped make them this way, fella. See, insecure guy’s goal is to drag you down, and then condemn you for having discomfort in the relationship.

Originally posted at Thought Catalog.

What would you add to the list?


  1. Great article. I am in 100% agreement with all the points listed above. A lot of these dudes these days are just boys-in-mens clothing. Definitely forwarding this.

  2. Good article indeed. I got a good laugh out of this but particularly #1, #4 and #8 because they immediately made me think about a few past situations I've been around for that fit in perfectly.

    1) This non-greek (GDI) dude that came to a party held by my frat at a state convention some years back. He came with a couple of bros I know. All of them brought their wives. So another brother is looking over trying to get our attention while he is in the midst of conversation with some other guys. Well this GDI gets TIGHT thinking that brother was disrespecting him by staring at his wife. So much so he actually made mention that he didn't care if he was at a frat convention, he would still kick his ***. SMH. Long story short, nothing happened but it turns out that not only was the brother not looking at his wife but his wife was by far the least attractive woman within a 100ft radius. No one was paying her mind. All his anger was because he THOUGHT someone might be looking at his lady.

    4) I have this white Italian co-worker that I refer to as Johnny Bravo. I tell him this straight to his face and he HATES it. But its hilarious to me as he has the has the hair cut, the arrogance and talks about nothing other than lifting weights and and women. He delites in talking about, and showing nude pictures of, every woman he is, has or is pursuing sex with. Its annoying beyond words. Mind you he STILL, to this day, continues to only attempt to talk to me about weights and women.

    8) Worse than the insults by these insecure dudes in the streets is to see it happen on the internet. If a girl doesn't respond then just let it go. At least no one know. SMH….enter another of my co-workers. He went on myspace back in the day and sent numerous messages to this woman. But the kicker…..SHE WORKS IN THE SAME DANG BUILDING WITH US! He sees her every day but only tries to strike up conversation via the internet?? And when she doesn't respond he goes into this long tirade about how she is beneath him. How he knows she read the message and is wack for not responding. How she is nothing and tries to belittle her employment. Continues on talking about how he makes music and is big time (lies) and greatly exaggerates what he does for his 9 to 5 (mind you we WORK in the same building). She was cool with me and showed the me the messages. I couldn't not believe what I was reading. Straight comedy. And when she pressed him in person…..dude turned ultra quiet and got with the "well nah…ya see….its not like that…im just saying" crap. Smh lol

    1. There is nothing worst than a bigger rejected man LOL. Some dudes can't take rejection. Get over it and keep it moving too many out there to cry about one. And the wonder why they lonely no woman wants a man that whines like a female.

  3. 9. Not make decisions. For example, invites like “Want to hang out and eat or watch movies or whatever? I don’t know, just if you feel like chillin’?” are asked instead of a firmer “Can I take you to dinner this Thursday?”

    This ^^^^^ I would love for him to say, hey what are you doing on friday night? i'd like to see a movie with you. That is secure. What i get is "would you one day like to go out with me?" grab some balls honey!!!!!
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  4. I most dislike when insecure guys can't admit they are insecure or fearful of anything. I can accept it, but if you can't admit you have an issue they how you gonna fix it!?

    Also, saying, we should do that or just mentioning something casually when I know you want me to do it with you. You can't expect a woman to pick up the slack for you all the time. Not this one anyway.

    And lastly, the projection of their insecurity onto you. You're overweight, not me, stop talking about how you don't want a fat woman while you eat pizza, chicken and cheese a the same time! Lol. Some guys are a trip.

    I HATE when any guy hates on another. He's short…but you are 5'6, to me ya'll both short because i am taller than both of you. Pointing out the perceived flaws of others highlight the insecurities within yourself.

    Anytime a guy says a girl he dated in crazy, my antenna's go up. Even if she is, why are you even telling me that. That tells me more about you than her. and more than likely, he is the nutcase.


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