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Be Honest, You Have Some Richie Incognito in You Too


Richie Incognito

By now, even casual sports fans have read about the bullying incident with the Miami Dolphins. It’s a terrible situation that, as more details emerge, only seems to get worse.

In a nutshell, Richie Incognito, a lineman on the Dolphins, harassed his teammate, Jonathan Martin, with racial slurs and violent taunts over text, voicemail (NSFW language), and in person. The situation came to light after Incognito left a table with others just as Martin sat down at a team meal. Martin exploded, left the team facility and failed to report back for three days, then checked himself into a treatment facility. Further investigation yielded the taunting texts/voicemails, linked above.

For the trouble he caused, Incognito will be let go by the Dolphins; a move that lots of people are applauding online. As the story developed, the groundswell against Icognito built quickly with lots of people calling for his job. But the feeling I had seeing tweet after tweet of indignation was: “Doesn’t this happen on Twitter, like, everyday?”

And I mean every day.

I gave it some thought, and off the top of my head, I came up with the following examples of hypocritical treatment of people on Twitter:

–          This woman

–          Her too

–          Chey B (search his name…or not)

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–          Everyone who has ever been on the show Catfish

–          The MIAKA guys

–          Black Greeks who mess up step shows (this one has its own handle actually)

–          Kim Kardashian

–          Overweight people on Instagram (far too many to link)

–          LeBron James

–          Chris Bosh

–          The family everyone thought was George Zimmerman’s after Spike Lee posted their address

–          Just about everyone Joe Budden responds to negatively

All of these people have had the infamous Twitter Gang flood their mentions with threats, turn them into memes, Storify them, or RT them with demeaning jokes. In other words: bullying.

I mean, the woman in the first link lost her real life job because strangers on the internet invited themselves into her life…in real life.

How many of you have kept the joke going, without much regard for the person on the other end of that @ mention? It’s like batting a beach ball at a concert.

I’m guilty as well. It’s easy to pile onto a joke for a quick laugh and e-high five before moving on with my day. This situation made me take a step back. Martin had courage enough to remove himself from a bully situation, file a formal complaint, and allow the existing protocols go into effect. Most don’t have a union at their disposal.

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Maybe I’m getting soft in my old age (I am almost 30 after all). What about you? Are you ever a “Twitter Thug?” Ever regret it? Does the Dolphins situation make you think about your own RTing differently?

Here’s a related video that’ll lighten the mood:



  1. I think that Black twitter is guilty of this one the most. Black Twitter and Feminist twitter, but whatever. People don't see their own actions in the mirror so it's all for naught. People don't ever want to admit to bullying. Trust i've been a victim of it, despite never participating in it. I've learned that the best way to deal with it is to just stop replying.

    But yeah this goes on… depending on where you stand you're either one of the victims or culprits. The culprits are so well supported by minions, groupies or people who don't want to feel the wrath that nothging will ever come of it.

    1. Not surprised as black people tend to be hyper critical of each other. As a writer i see it on the pieces i write for sites. I always get the most negative reaction from “my people”. I wish it werent that way.

  2. Is being bullied on Twitter legitimately a thing? Everything is so immediate and the attention span of people is so short. Somebody's bullying you on Twitter block em/report em. Or just fall back off Twitter and come back when it dies down. I wouldn't necessarily definite that as bullying in the same category as this Dolphins situation. These 2 guys were co-workers and shared a common space together. Being harassed on your job isn't something you just deal with or suck it up under the guise of "hazing".

    It's funny how people have a habit of making themselves the exception though. I've never been a part of e-thuggin or bullying in general. I just don't get the concept and regularity of deliberately embarrassing a person you don't know, have never met, and isn't affecting your life.

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  3. Not surprised as black people tend to be hyper critical of each other. As a writer i see it on the pieces i write for sites. I always get the most negative reaction from “my people”. I wish it werent that way.


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