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WO-Manipulate: Ways to Dominate Your Man Without Him Knowing It


martin-gina-gifEvery man likes dominant women, they just don’t know it. The problem is women have become dominant in society in masculine ways, which is what shies men away. This is why I’m here to show you how to dominate your man in the FOUR most effective ways:


Dogs bark. Barks are threatening. When people see threats, they run. Don’t bark.

Men don’t like to be given orders, they might follow them, but they don’t like them. Every human being has some deviance in them. They want to break rules or not accept barks/orders, so to counter this behavior you insinuate. The insinuation is a technique of easing what you want. People are more accepting of ideas that are persuasive. Even the word persuasive is indicative of its gesture because it’s a nudge. It’s like the spooning nudge that a woman gets in the middle of the night for some action. No man is gonna say at 3 o’clock in the morning bluntly “Can we f*ck?” Nope, they wouldn’t say that because it’s disrespectful — because it is an order. They would rather poke you a few times and kiss on your neck to get their point across.

No one wants to be thrown in a pool, they would rather dip their foot in the water to see how cold or warm it is. Therefore, like water, adjust things to your partners liking before you blatantly demand them. And I promise you, he will do what you asked of him quicker and more willingly.

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Side note: This is subject to backfire if your man doesn’t like you not being straight-forward, but it is up to you to feel the situation out.

Seduce: a proven way to dominate your man

Out of all these rules, seduction is the most effective, full-proof, and easiest way to manipulate men. Women seduce every day without knowing, usually by just being themselves. Women are seductive like smooth music, the scent of great food, and mesmerizing sights. To seduce him; be soft, intoxicating, alluring. Men cannot really resist a woman unless she comes off conniving or trifling. But I assume you two are in a loving and caring relationship, and in which case you’ll have him wrapped around your finger like morning floss.

Be Interdependent, Rather than Ms. Independent or a Dependant

This means that even though you’re independent, you still stress that you need him too. It also means even though you need him, you have things other than him that hold your attention. You need a balance of both of these. If you have hobbies or interest that you are focused on this is sexy and the distance allows him to be fond of you. Men love women with drive, women that don’t cling like a nappy hair to a knitted sweater. Being free and setting aside time for yourself sets you apart.

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Punish, Forgive, and Request

If he’s ever messed up, punish him; don’t talk to him for a few days, don’t let him grab that booty, show your true emotions. Then quickly get over it as if nothing happened. This will put him in a state of suspense saying, “Are you ok, what changed since yesterday (or whatever the time frame was)?” This will catch him off guard and make him wonder more than Stevie. Finally, you must request. The reason why you submit your request is because he doesn’t want to put you back in that prior state you were in. He will then want to appease your desires.

In conclusion, in no way, shape, or form should you let these techniques dominate your relationship. Do what works for the both of you. There is no one-way to love or to be loved, everyone has differences. This was just some advice on understanding the male psyche, male wants, and why these techniques might work better for you.

What do you think? Let us know your thoughts on the ways to dominate your man?

TheSUNK.com or the Sh!t U Need 2 Know is a blog based on the explicit discussion of sex, relationships, and social commentary. “It’s Where Your Bedroom Voice is Welcomed…” TheSUNK’s author is a native of Chicago and a current Howard University student.


  1. fair points, easiest way to get me to do something is logic. make me understand why something needs to be done or why u feel some type of way and if i agree i will respond accordingly.

  2. How bout doing something reasonable that your partner really likes because you Love them, Care for them, Like them??? How bout that??
    Even if it's not logical to you, if it's not harmful, illegal, or extremely weird why not just do whatever your partner likes out of love. If you don't love and like a person enough to do the things they like to then why are you with them?
    People still don't get it….true partnerships and relationships aren't just about you and what u want and what you can get. There has to be consideration for the other person. There shouldn't be any games played or tactics. You just find out what your s/o likes and do it. Whatever they don't like, don't do it. That simple.

  3. Manipulation, boy I hate this word! I'm very aware that we all resort to it, at some points, in our daily interactions with other human beings but I hate the fact that women are expected to manipulate the men in their lives. As a woman, I utterly hate the fact that men are disoriented when they meet a woman who doesn't play mind-games. Yes, there are women out there who don't have time to participate in the perpetuation of sexist clichés. We're all the fruit of our past experiences: life's short. Some think they'll leave until 70, then they die at 26 of a car accident or an apparently simple and quick trip to the ER for abdominal pains. My point: once you're aware of the brevity of life, you don't take it for granted and don't waste it on feeling like your wife is bossying around because she asked you to do something. True, she might be bossying you right now but hey, call her out on it, express how you'd like things to be asked to you and move on. What's up with her using her feminine wiles and/or manipulating you into doing it without knowing it? SMH! Sometimes, I feel like human beings enjoy leading a miserable and complicated life by convincing themselves that dysfunctional behaviors are normal or the solution to a simple problem. Who said that wisdom only comes past the 30s?

  4. I once asked a man to turn off the light switch in HIS bedroom (it was an elaborate light switch and I couldnt figure it out). I was laying in bed by the way – not standing at the time. He told me to turn it off myself and asked me if I thought he was my servant.

    I am dead a** serious. If there is a right/wrong way to ask someone to do routine tactile things such as this around the house, I would much rather be alone. Sad. But true.


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