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The Booty Text: Because Who Needs to Talk Anymore?



SBM hasn’t been single for a very long time, but I have my memories.

Back in the day, I called women. I would get their number, eventually set some time aside, and finally I would call them (usually multiple times). Generally at night, up to an hour for the first call. If things went well, it could continue on into the night. Then, once we were good and comfortable on the phone … we would go out.

But, the phone was not just for getting to know someone. It was also for getting them guts.

*ring* *ring*
Ms. Wet Wet: “Hello”
Young SBM: “You still up? What you up to?”
MWW: “Nothing. Sitting here in the bed watching Flavor of Love. You?”
Young SBM: “Well, I was thinking I might come over. Give you some company.”
MWW: “Hmmmm. And do what?”
Young SBM: “IDK. Got this bottle of wine and a new dvd (pre-netflix time). Chill & talk.”
MWW: “Yeah, I guess. But we just watching a movie.”
Young SBM: “Yeah girl. Ain’t no one even in the mood for all that. It’s late.”
MWW: “Aight, well call me when you are outside.”

You know ain’t no type of movie watching took place … I was 100% in the mood.

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Fast forward a few years. SBM is “matured” and married now. I’m talking to one of my friends and trading stories and talking about his inflated ego and the problems it might be causing. As I reminisce on booty calls from back “in the day”, he gets all excited waiting to talk. Then, he proceeds to tell me how much easier his life has become for our kind. He tells me about …

The evolution of the booty call

Apparently, today’s male doesn’t have time to pick up the phone and talk in order to set up a late night d**king. He merely goes down a list of women he has and uses basic text message script until he hits paydirt (soon there will be an app for that). Today’s man has deals to be closing and must use technology to his advantage.

*boop-a-loop* (text message sound)
Generic SBM: “hey”
The Target: “hey. whats up?”
Generic SBM: “what you up to?”
Target: “nuthin. home.”
Generic SBM: “cool. I’m bout to come over.”
Generic SBM: “Aziz got a new standup on netflix”
Target: “idk. it’s late”
Generic SBM: “I’ll grab some moscato”
Generic SBM: “the champagne”
Target: “aight. text me when ur outside”

I saw the proof … whole convo takes 4 minutes.

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And for the advanced user, you can even text more than one girl at the same time. And, if you are lucky enough to get 2 people to say yes, apparently you can easily ignore one of the people and claim you fell asleep or some other excuse.

But, texting has taken over more than just the late-night creep.  Now, you can get a woman’s number, get to know her, and ask her out all without actually hearing her voice.  It was a universal truth that any woman on the receiving end of the “all SMS treatment” would be mad.

Don’t get me wrong, I be texting my a$$ off. I  hate calling anyone anymore and am basically on IM, email, and text only. BUT, when it comes to relationships, calling my significant other, or dating … communicating only with text feels too impersonal.  Call me old-fashioned.

The question to you the fam: Is this a problem or evolution?

– SBM aka “Speak sexy to me girl” aka “Holla, holla, holla”


      1. no lie back in college i copped Moscato for the first time just to see what the hype was about just off that line lmao. And I bought a bottle for a shorty smh lol.

  1. Personally, I rather call to set something up I get a direct answer instead of watching my phone like its a now loading screen, but even then the conversation is gonna be short because i too hate talking on the phone, once that yes is confirmed, i'm bout to let my phone charge or whatever excuse i think of
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  2. Honestly for me it depends on how "into" the person I am. If I don't know you like that yet and we are just in the initial stages then sure texting is cool. I'm not gonna waste my time chatting you up until I know you. However, once we are more serious, regularly dating, getting towards a title etc. then yes we will have to transition to including phone time in our lives. I think I'm just old school because there is nothing like one of those convos where you look up and it's two hours later and you didn't even realize b/c you just been enjoying chatting it up w/ boo. Once you are good and in the relationship I think you use all forms of communication – good morning text, gchatting all day, talk on the phone on the way home, etc. Like to me the texting thing is only a red flag if that's the ONLY means of communication for an extended period of time. If I call you and you don't answer and basically only text me I'm gonna assume you're hiding something.

  3. LOL yes I have seen it, done, heard of it. It depends on the relationship you have with someone. If it's a booty call and we aren't FWB then all it takes is a 2 min texts (his text time was wayy to long). Technology has made us lazy in all aspects of life. Work, appearances, etc, people want to do the least amount of work to get their desired results.
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  4. this is the age of text messaging. keep up with the times or get left behind.

    its good to know how to chat on the phone for adaptation purposes. but having good text game is clutch. And, as the post showed, its a lot easier and more convenient than having good verbal game.

    And all those chicks who prefer guys to call them will just get passed up for the chicks who are easy to lay with texts only. Natural selection at work.

  5. This is some Real Stuff, did this in college nad had it done to me (Howard Women have Game, ya'll. Howard Women have GAME).

    Sometimes it's annoying, other times it's Amazing. Both genders are offenders and victims- IF/WHEN they are not About That Life

  6. what you spoke is real stuff…and you're right those hardly go down in the way of an actual phone conversation, but as a whole conversation is becoming null and void as texting is rapidly replacing it. But i don't mind the booty texts because you get right to the point and hey, you can talk or whatever when you come over, I'm only wondering what you're doing and can I/you come through. Simple and to the point.
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  7. Personally, I'm for face-to-face interactions, that way I can read non-verbal cues and see how much progress I'm making or not. Ladies are naturally verbose, so they enjoy phone conversation and it helps them judge the capacity of a guy to communicate effectively. I notice that many people are "selectively old-fashioned", progressive in so many social aspects, except for the dating scene. It's part entitlement and part hypocrisy simultaneously. Only way to truly get to know someone is to spend time with them. So any communication that is not attempting to achieve that goal, in my opinion is irrelevant and unproductive. It's a major factor why monogamy isn't as prevalent as it once was. Too many of us holding out and fighting evolution and progress under a guise of having "values and standards" cest la vie!

  8. This is going to be the way of the future. People have gotten lazy and do whatever is convenient. I have never been a booty call nor have I ever hit someone up for some late night action…well not from someone I was in a relationship with. To each his own though.
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  9. Such a shame. Life as we know it will cease to exist once men discover how to create a perfect woman bot…. And the sad thing is no one will even care!

  10. What's the purpose of making a booty call so complicated? Simplify it as much as possible, that's what I say. Not about to try to make a woman feel special when I'm just gonna bounce as soon as I smash. Now if we were talking seeking a relationship/getting to know someone, that's different. But if it's 2 am and I'm trying to hit something, I'm not sending a bird with a note attached lol


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