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How To Tell If A Man Is Bad In Bed Using Social Media


how to tell if a man is bad in bedIn Part One (How to Turn Her On), we examined the qualities that are critical to a woman’s genuine sexual arousal and satisfaction. I am stressing the word “genuine” because whether we like it or not, most women at one time or another have faked it. So even though you may believe you have left all of your conquests fully satisfied, odds are against you in that you have more than likely been a victim of that duplicity at one time or another! In this article, we will examine the specific ways in which a man shows that he just may not be capable of pleasing a woman based off of his behavior on various social media outlets.

Having a multitude of video vixen/thirst traps/porn stars as friends.

One of the biggest turn-offs for women as far as sex goes is feeling as if she is sexually insignificant and replaceable. She doesn’t want to feel like you view women as merely interchangeable orifices that you use in order to get your rocks off in a wide variety of ways and scenarios. She wants to feel like her mentality is special to you and that her unique physical attributes arouses you and are critical to your satisfaction. We want that viewpoint to be an honor not afforded to anyone else while you are dealing with us. Even if you spit all the game in the world but you are still following hundreds of women on Instagram, your actions and your words will contradict each other and she will see that. Her dried up loins will soon follow.

Think about it like this fellas, imagine if your girl was sexually attracted to hundreds of guys that are the physical equivalent of porn stars, anaconda dick and all. Would you feel just as adequate? How would that translate into your bedroom performance and general sexual satisfaction? Let me answer that for you: During sex, instead of focusing on how good you feel, you would wonder whether she’s thinking about you or how much she wishes she was with Mr. Anaconda Dick instead. Be honest!

He falls for extremely obvious thirst traps easily.

If he is not able to spot these traps from a mile away and keep his dignity and decorum intact, he most likely doesn’t have the mental capacity to sex a woman with his mind or his words. It is the equivalent of a woman being easily swayed and impressed by a man’s flashy display of material wealth. To put it simply, the way a man views gold diggers is the way women view men that fall easily and hard for thirst traps. Being the male equivlent of a gold digger is not the business.

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To women, these men have not fully matured past boyhood and are therefore not capable of pleasing a woman in a holistic way. He doesn’t have the substance to truly appreciate a woman as unique or special. He is shallow, superficial, and easily swayed by the next fat ass. He will not be capable of making a woman truly feel like a queen or exclusive during sex. In the back of her mind and in her heart, she’ll know that maybe she has him for a few minutes, but not as long as she needs to in order to truly feel sexually desired. Women need to feel like they are sexually desired in a very intense way in order to really hit that peak of satisfaction.

He is constantly liking porn pages.

Now, you are fully aware that your Facebook friends (including your momma, family members and coworkers) are able to see your interactions with other people and pages. It is public. Yet you still put all your business, superficiality, lack of self control and lack of judgement out on front street. Very sexy. That shows a definite lack of self-control. And as we all know, there is nothing worse than a man with little self-control or stamina in the bedroom arena. She wants to feel like her beauty and sexuality elicits an exclusive reaction out of you. If she sees you giving that same reaction to 50-11 other frivolous women, that will dry her up quicker than a sheet of bounty on a drink spill.  If she doesn’t get that feeling of exclusivity and feels like she is simply one of many, I guarantee you no matter how much she pretends and hits all those octaves, her enjoyment of sex with you will have decreased by at least 50 percent.

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Plus, it is desensitizing. Studies show that the more you look at highly sexualized images, the more you will require in order to get off. If a man spends a great part of his day looking at a variety of sexually explicit images, it will ultimately affect his sexual performance and satisfaction.  Suddenly, regular women won’t be able to get you off in the same way as before. It will distort your mind into what you find sexually arousing. Focusing on your satisfaction can become habitual to the point where it leads you to become a self-centered lover.You will be dependent on unrealistic stimuli in order to be turned on. That will have a domino effect: She will sense that you are not as erect, are taking longer and therefore feel like she is not as capable of satisfying you in the intense way that she’d like. That will be a huge blow to her ego and hinder her from attaining a mind-blowing orgasm.

A major part of sex is mental. If you are not able to view a woman, or at least make your woman feel like she is the only one capable of driving you crazy in that moment, you’ve already failed and are already on your way to having her faking it. Even worse, she will be having sex with you not because she enjoys it but out of low self-esteem, immaturity, and desperation. Maybe she wants to get a ring or get her bills paid. Is that really the type of woman you want to be laying up with or risk spreading your seed to? The choice is yours.

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Gee is a writer born and raised in Brooklyn of Caribbean descent.  The only girl with two older brothers, Gee is quite used to making waves by offering a feminine perspective in a male dominated world. A true product of the 90s, she likes to listen to Wu Tang, play old school video games and watch Seinfeld. She lives for playing devil’s advocate, never takes things at face value and always roots for the underdog.

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  1. I'm sure the ladies are with you on this one. I'd probably have to take your word for it on some of the stuff. I will say this though; I don't think I do anything in excess. I think that's what some of the points were hinting at. I know i like some thirst trap pics here and there, but I honestly don't think nothing too deep about it. I just thought that's what the Instagrams of the world were for. Now if things are just getting out of hand with the love for explicit content, then I definitely see the cause for worry. My aunt always told me that too much of one thing is good for nothing.

  2. all i got from this is that men should be careful not to validate a woman's insecurities.

    even if you DO view all women as replaceable peen receptacles, you shouldnt make that known. dont make her feel unspecial.

    because, contrary to the definition of 'special', all women are special and deserve special attention.

    1. Agreed. This message of 'make her feel special' is the same underlying theme being driven home in the other article, "How To Turn Her On". Because there is to be no distinction in the romantic effort made between a man's meaningless casual affair and the woman he decides to commit to, apparently. The one night stand is every bit deserving of the same treatment as the woman he adores. Show up with a vagina, and the red carpet Disneyfied Romance should be yours. Thats it!!

      On one hand I get the heavily idealized and romanticized view on sexual encounters as this blissful passionate, 'make her feel like she's the only thing that matters in the whole universe' sort of 1980's movie sex scene montage thing, but realistically neither men nor women typically approach sex in that fashion. Generally speaking of course.

      On another note, the author does raise an interesting and valid point pertaining to the dehydration plaguing many of the menfolk. Such rampant lack of dignity (thirst) displayed on social media is rather telling about a person.

      Mr. SoBo

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  3. I agree with this post. I would like to add, the guy who is always talking about how big his peen is. Liar if it was so big you wouldn’t have to keep saying it. True story

  4. all I got outta this article is "GEE HOOKS ISNT GETTING THE D"

    and what the fuck is wrong with your name lol, its like they got the first kid they could find with downs and asked the little nigga what a good name for they're newest addition to the busted prophylactic hall of fame.

    and you're ugly.

    1. @dontavioun

      I feel you. I notice that this "Gee Hooks" does nothing but write articles on sex. After all, that's all these females are good for nowadays anyways. That's all they know. She's a hypocrite nonetheless. Why not write articles on how women need to learn to be decent for once and to treat their men right? All she's worried about is who's liking who on the internet. I'm a grown ass man. All these modern day females want to do is to control a man's every move. Worry about being a women so maybe you can get and keep a man. Stop worrying about what the next person is doing.

    2. Bro, I feel your frustration and I even feel your disagreement with her outlook on sex and relationships. Trust me, her perspective boggles my mind too. However, you risk your voice being heard when you reduce your perspective to personal attacks. You may not even care, and I certainly have no interested in being the comment police; however I can't imagine why you deemed such a vicious retort necessary.
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  5. its not nearly enough. its funny how being a guy is demonized to the point that even giving a woman a compliment is on par with rape, stalking etc. maybe she should step her shit up? maybe shes busted in the face who knows? I just feel for the gullible fuck who scrolls through this garbage and has to feel bad for even looking at a female. but yeah, I should tone it down.

    if you want to end up with a shitty sexless society like Japan, gwan'n, follow her bullshit, im goin back to the BR where women are still women and not trying to staple dicks to themselves in an effort to compete with a man.

  6. Hmm… I'd call shenanigans on most of this. I may write about it later. Studies show that people who watch a lot of adult entertainment get desensitized. However, studies also show that people who watch the same entertainment are less likely to sexually assault women and cheat on their spouses and significant others. In addition, adult entertainment is often times used in sexless marriages to stimulate libidos in both partners for the betterment of the relationship. The main takeaway, studies show what they want to show.

    Only other thing to note is, "How do you know who I follow on IG, Twitter or Facebook or who's pages I 'Like'?!"

    Don't worry, you don't HAVE to answer that question.

    But yeah, I may write a rebuttal to this post on Friday.

    1. I gotta go wit Doc J on this one and side wit his pov. I've also heard that men who watch porn a lot and go to strip clubs are less likely to cheat on their partners because they have a sexual outlet. Simply put, most all men need a consistent, and daily sexual outlet one way or another. Be it from the woman their with or someone or something else.
      This statement right here – "A major part of sex is mental. If you are not able to view a woman, or at least make your woman feel like she is the only one capable of driving you crazy in that moment, you’ve already failed and are already on your way to having her faking it." I disagree with . Not that serious. Yes sex is 90% mental for Women, not necessarily men. And unless the man is with a prostitute, or a woman he can't stand and is not all that attracted to, but really feels the need to bust a nut, most all men do "make women feel like she is the only one capable of driving him crazy in that moment." If the woman doesn't suck in bed and she actually is driving him crazy. ijs.

    2. "Only other thing to note is, "How do you know who I follow on IG, Twitter or Facebook or who's pages I 'Like'?!"

      it's not that hard, for anyone to see who you are following on twitter, liking on IG, or your activity on facebook.

      unless, you lockdown your facebook profile, make your twitter private…not sure about IG.

      1. But that would imply that you was checking it…

        That's a problem. Anytime someone is going to my Twitter page and checking to see who i'm following they already on they way to snooping on trill.

        1. Yea I'm not big on the snooping business myself, truth be told most likely we're not snooping on shorty. I know I'm not at least. Either we gon trust or not.

  7. "A major part of sex is mental. If you are not able to view a woman, or at least make your woman feel like she is the only one capable of driving you crazy"

    Women typically aren't attracted to the men that feel that way about them.

  8. None of these dictate whether or not a man will be good in bed. Some might determine whether or not he's date-able, like #3 (watching porn occasionally is one thing, but liking it publicly on fb is overboard). #1 and #2 are kinda vague on the levels she's referring to, but if his "thirst" is like the IG comments in the photo then I wouldn't need social media to figure out he wasn't the one for me. Unless he has an alter ego that only comes out when I'm not around, I could have guessed by talking to him, listening to his approach, etc.


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