Home Empowerment Why That THOT Belongs To All of Us and The Need to Get Rid of It

Why That THOT Belongs To All of Us and The Need to Get Rid of It



Have you ever really sat and thought about society? I made an observation not too long ago that we’d reached a point where as a society we were in a good place but we were also in a really bad place. You see, at this point everybody should feel encouraged to express themselves, their beliefs and thoughts without feeling persecuted or discriminated against. That’s all well and good but every action has a reaction. There’s a reason why we have things such as cause and effect. I guess I should clarify that this really pertains to the factions of genders that ruin the image of the entire gender because they’ve been given the freedom to act out.

This is two-fold but we have things such as word counts that prevent me from doing that all in one post so I’ll do it in two. That means preemptively this post is ladies first and then we’ll come back to the fellas in another post. I don’t want to imply that only women need to fix this but I’m going to give a male perspective on how I think a faction of women are ruining things for everyone.

Stop being ratchet. Stop being okay with being ratchet. There is no such thing as ironically ratchet or turning on and turning off your ratchet, just stop being ratchet altogether. We can no longer allow our women to be viewed this way. It has to stop. The reason it has to stop is because it limits women in so many ways. People see ratchet in the clubs, they see ratchet on the radio waves, they see ratchet on twitter and then they see ratchet on TV. The second anyone does anything remotely close to the way those people act they are labeled “ratchet.” That means when a woman takes offense to disrespect from another woman and just so happens to raise her voice; she’s assumed to be ratchet. Does that make sense? You can’t raise your voice or you’ll be called “ratchet”? It doesn’t but that is what happens when you share characteristics with a ratchet.

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This was just pathetic… and partial motivation behind this post. Somebody save this thottie.

The next thing we have to do is get rid of all THOTs… and stop taking pride in being a THOT. I saw it on Twitter one day and it hasn’t stopped; it’s this feeling that it is cool to be called a THOT. If you don’t know what a THOT is, click here. Of course it’s funny to guys but you don’t want women to be considered “funny” to guys, you want to be taken seriously. You can extend this need to get rid of THOTs to a whole host of references for women that women empower themselves with that are inherently negative. You have to get rid of women who don’t mind being loose and known for being loose and you have to get rid of the women who aren’t but don’t think the reference is all that bad. If I had to equate this in business terms, it’s bad PR or horrible brand management.

Lastly, be cognizant of what selling sex for fast cash does for your gender’s image. Listen, I’m not going to tell you that deciding that all you want to be known for is a fat ass or that you don’t mind being a groupie if it gets you a few stacks here and there. I won’t tell you that you shouldn’t do that because that’s your choice. What I will tell you to do (because of some take pride in that life) is that it makes it hard on the rest of your gender when you do because you are the most popular. I have this theory around the Tea Party and how I tell people that the entire Republican Party isn’t like that, but because they’re the loudest in the room everyone thinks that is what the whole party is about. That’s what happens when women sell sex for fast cash. Whether you’re a stripper, selfie addict, groupie, reality TV star or any of the liking people see you more than they see the regular 9-5 woman who is out here choosing to go the other route. What that ends up doing to their self-esteem is making them feel like they have to do that too in order to get a man’s attention, to get anyone’s attention.

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I guess the point that I’m getting to is that nobody pays attention to the “regular” women. I use that term with caution because I’d hate to use the word “regular” to describe the people who are doing their best to uphold a great image and reputation for women. They aren’t handing out reality TV shows for single working mothers, they actually hand out reality shows for single, not working, mothers who almost never see their kids. They don’t want to do a reality show about the group of young women who can go out, dress appropriately and have a good time without it ending in broken glass and a floor full of weave. They just don’t want to do that. That’s reason I stopped watching it because I felt like if I wanted to get an idea of who women were, I best not use TV as a reference point. I would think of them as ratchet thotties who were willing to do anything for a dollar. I best find the ones in real life because those are going to be the only ones that resemble something worth desiring. I think it goes back to when people say not to worry about what people say about you. That’s all well and good but maybe you need to be worried about what people say about others like you because it has an effect on what they say about you too.

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Dr. J


  1. Gotta disagree with you here Dr. J. We can’t judge anyone based on another individual’s behavior. That girl in the video is what happens when you’re a celebrity. You get groupies. She’s not the first. Why anyone is surprised I don’t know. I don’t think her behavior is gonna ruin it for women everywhere. If it does then the problem lies in the people judging her; why do people feel it’s ok to generalize based on one woman’s actions? This is the media’s problem and also our own because people would rather watch ratchet behavior. It’s entertaining. It’s our own responsibility to watch tv and know that it’s not real life. I know women who don’t act like that. The problem is that people can watch a couple of tv shows or youtube videos and judge an entire gender(Not saying you’re doing that). Those are the people who’s problems need to be addressed because they are not using common sense. I can draw parallels to other similar generalizations but I’ll wait til the other part. Looking forward to reading it.

    SIDENOTE: US culture takes way too much pride and enjoyment in embarrassing someone. Everyone makes dumb decisions. Some people make even dumber decisions. You laugh, tell em why it’s wrong, send them home. This video ate up my feed. We need to think about other things.

    1. I don't think it's about just that girl in that video.

      I think we have to address how people are judgmental and generalize but we also have to do our due diligence to make sure our house is clean. There's nothing wrong with that. Ratchet behavior, groupie behavior, etc. it's not okay. It's like that scene in Crash when he tells the kid, "You not only embarrass me, you embarrass yourself." That's a big message we have to get society to understand (not just Black folks), nobody should have to speak for everyone but we should be aware of the impact our actions have on others.

      If i'm acting like I don't have any home training, I wouldn't imagine my mother saying, "Don't assume just because he acts like he has no home training, he didn't get it from me." That's not how my mother is going to react.

    2. How old are you? I ask this because Society judges ALL Black Men the same way off of what SOME Black Men do/don't do; Women as a whole are judged by what a few do/don't do; Kids, the Elderly, basically Everyone in respected groups are judged by the Few within them. What you just posted is the biggest nonsense I ever heard. JUST TODAY Kobe Bryant-a Black Male and Athlete- commented that he didn't come to protest during the Trayvon Martin movement Because he was black and damn near Everyone jumped on Athletes and Blacks NOT in the Inner Cities as being Tone Deaf, as if being from the Hood is the ONLY Way to "Be Black"

      Granted, nobody can actually live life w/o seeing Race, Sex-Sexual Orientation, etc. but Not Everyone WANTS to have the Labels around 24/7/365

      1. Exactly people never take the time to put the shoe on the other foot.
        If Bill O'Reilly did a segment on how society needs to get rid of n*ggers but not "good" black men. Get rid of black men who don’t mind being thugs and known for being thugs and get rid of the black men who aren’t but don’t think the reference is all that bad, Dr. J would probably be up in arms.
        If someone is out there judging an entire group of people by what they see in the media then they are the problem. Of course I wish black people were cognizant of the images they put forth in the world but just like I judge white people as individuals instead of as one group I'd like the same done to me.

  2. Honestly, Liberalism and Political Correctness have jumped the shark to where Anyone can be Offended, Anyone can Be Offended for Being Accused of being Offensive, and the proverbial circle Never Ends……SOMEBODY has to be Right, SOMEBODY has to be Wrong and there MUST be an Ending Point, Period

    1. While I'm not super Liberal, (I missed the elections) there are only a handful of times where there are clear cut universal right and wrong. if someone is offended by something what makes what they are feeling wrong? That's like consistently saying when black person brings up an issue involving race they need to "get over it". Why? This is a consistent thing. The person not drawing attention to it doesn't stop it from occurring.
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  3. Can we just somehow flash this entire post on all TV stations for 24 hours? Ratchet Thotties and men and women who inadvertently support these characteristics NEED to see all of this…and for 24 hours lol. Sad the only way we can reach the majority is through the TV screen but its the life we live in.

  4. I have jusy learned what the word thot means today, and it wasn’t worth me asking. I don’t really have much thought on the use of the word, but I toss it in the same pile as bitch, hoe and other words used to describe low moral women(with the exception of whore).

    But this video disgusted me. Anybody who knows my record can vouch that I am no defender of wretched black women, but those black male clown acted cowardly. Any time a group of men rally together to humiliate a woman is one of the weakest acts ever. They looked like a bunch of faggots running around calling her the derogatory term trying to get laughs. The average black man SERUOUSLY need some kind of manhood class. I feel ashamed just watching those hoods.

    1. "Any time a group of men rally together to humiliate a woman is one of the weakest acts ever."

      Thank you! This made the men look worse than the woman in the video. Just extremely immature.

      1. agreed am not happy with how the young lady behaved but 2chain and his pals are worse off than the woman
        they sound uneducated
        they are shady
        poor excuse of men,husbands and boyfriends
        ugly charaters

  5. I have to agree with Obvious, I was more disgusted by the ppl making fun of the young lady than the young lady herself. I was particularlly disturbed by the young women in the back ground laughing so hard at this woman as though her condemnation gave them some sort of validation.

  6. Aww, a groupie didnt get the play she was lookin for? She should be clowned. Because the natural order of operations (mashntoss) didnt flow I should feel sorry? Ha. Then if chainz hit and quit everyone would be like “oh, hes using women.” This is a grown as woman no.different from your standard Kim K. whos always been nothing more than a wealthy hoe. Women who have not been forced into prostitution, and pusue this lifestyle have
    that choice. Her actions do not represent me in anyway! She should be glad they were so subtle! Yall are too PC on this. A hoe is a hoe is a hoe. Each their own!

  7. And too add: in the industry world there is a hierarchy and certain way these groupie chicks get into the rapper circles (in the past ive worked around celebs in hotels, concert venues) So certain looks, and pedigrees are required. These days you need to be a legit model or really “know” at least someone to get in. They come to the parties, mingle make themselves seem like a “regular chick.” Then catch their prey. They work their way in. Thats how they get wifey status, baby momma status. Its a game that takes time. She came alone, looking like an around the way chick, in other words a obvious sloppy ROOKIE. The groupie game is a world in itself.


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