The funny thing about sex is that people think a woman can’t be wack in bed. Every time sex is wack the finger always gets pointed at the man. That’s why it’s so much pressure on men to perform in the sack. It’s even more pressure when you’re a sex-blogger. But hey women can be wack in bed too, I’ve had my fair share of never-call-her-again-for-as long-as-I-live partners in bed. If you see potential in her, you may want to work on improving her sex game. However, you have to do so in a way that won’t offend her or hurt her feelings, because let’s admit it- women’s egos are just as big as men. So here’s How to Tell a Woman She’s Bad in Bed:
First, pick the perfect time. Right before sex, isn’t the best time because that will turn her off, she’ll dry up, and you’ll be left with blue balls. Then if you wait right after sex then she’ll be sitting in your bed embarrassed, thinking that she was curling your toes and it was really horrible. Here’s what you do, aim for the time when you guys are laughing and most relaxed. During that time that’s when people are most accepting of critiques or real talk. Say you guy’s are having dinner and chilling that might be the best time to talk.
Secondly, don’t say the wrong things and be nice. I’ve been guilty of turning women off with brutal honesty about their bedroom performance. So don’t be an asshole like me. Try something like this, “Brittany are you satisfied with our sex? Is there anything I can do to improve?” Hopefully Brittany says either “yes” or “no”, then asks “What about you? Is there anything I can do to improve?” If she doesn’t ask this, than most likely she’s selfish and you need to give her the boot anyway. Once she asks this, it’s your opportunity to make a few
sex-gestions(suggestions).
Finally, you assure her that there isn’t any pressure and you just want you all to have the best sex possible. You want to be able to please her and vice versa. You tell her that the more you guys have s*x the better it will be and that you want to learn things about her body and more about what she likes. However, if you don’t feel this way and it’s all bullsh!t, then just hop to the next one and send Brittany’s ass packing.
Ladies, has a man ever told you you were bad in bed? How did you improve? Is it hard bringing up shortcomings after sex?
I just can’t wait to read comments bruh this was a good topic.
I’m TOTALLY wanting to hear what the women have to say.
I once told a woman her head game was weak, she acted like I told her she wasnt about shit and was mever gone be shit. She got MAD offended. I simply said in the car “I mean you can use a lil improvement” when she started bragging about her head skills.
I shole hated to knock her down a peg but I had to.
Pride is a muh
Telling her that her head game is weak made her feel the same way y’all feel when we tell you that you have a small d*ck. Anyone who is bluntly disrespected is going to get offended.
Its tact, I would never say your head is wack, I will say what I like and hope she gets it
You went about it the wrong way. The best way to help her improve her game is telling her how you would like it as you guys are in the act . Come off like you like what she is doing so far but you like it better if she does it like this or that.
I wouldn’t say a woman is bad in bed, there’s certainly some women I enjoyed more than others. For less enjoyable experiences I tried coaching and teasing. Some adjusted and others
typically older women who be so stuck in their waysstopped getting called.i had an older woman once, she was about 45, body like a 30 yr old. But she was all on some “i dont do this and I wont do that” and totally ruined my vibe. I had to do specific shit like a machine to enjoy anything with her. as pretty as she was I had to pass on that. Especially when she tried to take me skiing.
Just to offer a spin on things, maybe the woman is disappointed in some way. Maybe there wasn’t enough wining and dining, maybe the dude took off his clothes and she was less than impressed, or maybe she’s just not that excited. Don’t get me wrong! There are women out there who may need help, but maybe the less than enthusiastic sex could be for another reason.
You bring up a very good point. There could be other reasons for the lack of bedroom enthusiasm in any given instance. But if it is a repeat occurrence, well then….
Lol true…which is why it would be important to communicate and find out what’s really happening and give the girl a chance instead of cutting her off. I think both men and women are too quick to leave sometimes without trying to get to the root of the issue. Personally, I have been more energetic, so to speak, with some men over others. It depends on what turns both sides on and if that person can bring that inner freak out (if that’s what you’re into lol). Also, maybe the lady is into something that’s kinda out of the ordinary and is afraid to share that with her partner cause she does not want to be judged and doesn’t think it’s worth the risk. It may not be honest, but could be a perfectly good reason to hold back. Not everyone is open-minded.
OMG, what a great topic….Ive never had anyone say I was wack/bad in bed. I’m a small framed chick so sometimes I feel like I have to put in extra work I dont have all the diversions. Im all about the honesty approach so I just ask especially after I’ve had a couple of sips so just in case I hear something I don’t like the I wont take the blow as hard. But I like to ask prior to, just to get a idea of what you may or may not like. Also porn is your friend, men look at porn for a reason so once again I’ll ask all types of questions the who’s whats when why where and hows…in every action there’s a reaction and Im listening. Plus men will try to guide you every once and awhile so clearly that’s what they like….but most importantly keep it TIGHT
Asking what is desired of me upfront always helps. I’d rather us be clear about things we want and do want beforehand. In a case where I do know, I just pay very close attention to wtf is going on.
Honestly, a lot of women think that they’re doing most men a favor just by even having sex with him in the first place. Many take the “beggars cant be choosers” stance when it comes to sex and more than likely will feel that you’re being ungrateful to even bring up their deficiencies in the bedroom. Its best to either just deal with it, coax her into doing what you like subtlety or move on to someone else.
Preach, that what leads to wack secks in the first place, dudes afraid to say what they want and she go thru life thinking that “move” of hers is the business
“Beggars cant be choosers”…Never make excuses in an effort to justify actions. If you don’t beg and make sex of the utmost importance, no one will make you subconsciously feel like a beggar. It seems a bit self imposed to me.
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I never had any complaints. Now I have dated guys who weren’t good in bed and I never bothered to tell them. I just don’t go back to them and communication between us tends to fade as time goes on. I am not about to stick around and teach anyone how to do anything if your skills in the bedroom are not at an acceptable level.
Hmm idk I’ve dated women that started of shaking but with coaching and a lot of extracurricular I’m sure the men after me have had no complaints, only one could be is that they are too open.
It’s all about chemistry to me, sometimes you gotta build it over a few tries. There’s ladies I’ve slept with that they’d tell you I was disappointing the first night maybe. But put me back in the game coach I’ll hit the winning shot. Give things some time,unless you just weren’t into those guys like that anyway lol.
I have had a man critique my skills yrs ago. It wasn’t a big deal because he & I had that kind of relationship….we were always forward with each other about everything. I also had a couple of suggestions for him. Also I was up front early in our relationship that I was inexperienced yet wanted to learn and pretty much asked for his coaching. My thing is I’d rather “check in” with my man periodically and get feedback on everything from my cooking, bedroom performance to if I’m being attentive enough, rather than just sailing thru the relationship thinking we’re great & secretly he’s unhappy. Communication is vital!
See you’re keeping it 100 and doing everything right. Sometimes we need to get and give each other progress reports in the relationship.
Lack of communication is the biggest obstacle in sexual satisfaction. If you’re too immature, or repressed to discuss it, then why in the Hello Kitty are you engaging in that activity? Ladies normally have issues communicating because of societal conditioning to protect their image. So either they hold back (which isn’t good) or act indignant (which is even worse). Gone are the days when we should believer “only nasty people do (fill in blank)”! Be in tune with your sexuality and be free and open to explore the limits and even push them with the partner that chemically brings it out of you. With porn being so accessible nowadays, there is no excuse for men and women to be the best they can be in the sack!
I agree if you’re less than mature enough to handle any adult topic in or out of a relationship you’re probably not mature enough to be engaging in that act as well as communication being the biggest obstacle.
But this is inaccurate, IMO: “Ladies normally have issues communicating because of societal conditioning to protect their image”. All humans discuss sex, (I feel that’s what you meant, but I could be wrong).
I love this topic and it’s something I have had numerous conversations with my friends about. This is pretty much how I see it, this is more about us telling women we’re really interested in that there are some things that could use improvement. I don’t know if a guy who has a woman he sees once in a blue and just “needs that” really cares too much about her performance. But a woman who we like to be around and love to have sex with or even want to be more serious with, she’s the one we want to improve. There is no sure way to do this without bruising a woman’s ego. But it must be done if you think it’s worth it. Ultimately transparency in the bedroom will do more good for you than harm. Just always make sure respect remains paramount.
As long as you’re not blunt with it. People like to brag about their “brutal honesty”, but tact is a skill everyone must master in order to become bearable in the social world. When I was 20, I hooked up with an older chick (26! Felt like “Da Man” lol) and I thought my sex game was infallible… until she told me otherwise. She did it with tact, and did it in a relaxed setting (chilling in a corner at IHOP lmao). So I know what it’s like to be told you’re not that good lol.
But OP is right: EFFECTIVE communication is the key
As with anything in life, especially when it comes to women, its never about what you say but rather all in how you say it. Tact is definitely a requirement here, or one can risk offending and making the young lady overly self conscious about her bedroom acumen and even the…er…um tightness of her tavern of pleasure. Needless to say, not the easiest conversation to initiate, but if done with finesse, it shouldn’t be that painful for either person.
This has been great and solid advice. Good write up.
Now if we can get a post on how to tell a woman she stinks in bed…literally, that would be golden. #ButThatsNoneOfMyBusiness
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Lol! Stinks, as in body odor? If it ever happens, you have to tell her….she might have an infection(s). She might be so used to it that she doesn’t smell it. Ewwww, don’t kiss it.
Just be honest in a nice way. If you can’t communicate your needs, probably shouldn’t be playing “tag-team sheet toss” or whatever yall crazy folks do, lol.
What is bad is when someone won’t listen to what you verbalize, but will go read books on what they think all women/men like.
Or if your girl is “whack” cause she isn’t doing “baseball’s and draws” type of extreme stuff.
O_o Some men are starting to act like if you are not doing everything done in online movies you are whack. But if you only want that you need to find a woman already into that. Not coerce her into extremes (everyone has limits) because of bordem. That is called taking advantage.
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My Success Story: And i am so happy to spread the news on the internet for those that need real and a reliable spell caster to contact without meeting with various fake and rip off spell casters online first just the way i came in-contact with like 4 fake spell caster online before now. I will start my success story by introducing myself to the entire world and were i am from. I am Sarah by name a citizen of USA that was in so much depression, frustration and confusion before i came in-contact with this spell caster that helped me solve my problem and made me happy once more. Late last year, to be preside October 16 2013, I had a problem with my relationship, So because of that i have to quit the my boyfriend / husband and move on to another man i fell in love with again outside after i have left Matthew the following week. Matthew really tried for me as he showed me real love, by playing with me all the time when i return from work, so good to me when is bed time, In-fact he was really a nice man. But due to the fact that sometimes he complains on so many things to much i had to seek for a divorce and i left him alone and went ahead with life. This new man i meant was caring at first and also lovely. But as time pass-by, I found out that this new man only loved me all just because i had a very good Job as all he want to do to me is to run away with my money and claim so many of my assets. I noticed this late November same year and i went down with depression and burst into tears and i was regretting ever seeking for a divorce to leave Matthew because i really started missing Matthew in my life to the extent that i was calling his cellphone but he was not taking up my calls. As the only time i hear from him is when he will send me a text message were he will be telling me that he do not want me anymore as he is in love with his new girlfriend as they are even planing of getting married first week of December Thanks to Mrs Stefany that introduced me to this great spell caster called Dr Ukaka that is so trustful and reliable in all his works and spell casting. His email is as follows:freedomlovespell@hotmail.com also contact him on his web site: freedomlovespelltemple.yolasite.com.