Leaked nudes have hurt the game more than the abundance of stretch “4’s” in the NBA.
For anyone not into basketball simply ignore that. But leaked nudes aren’t a new thing. When nudes of famous people were leaked in the past it was sort of special. Not in a sacred way, but it was more of a rarity. In this increasingly viral world, nude leaking is a norm. As we retweet this content, we might also be sending wrong messages to women. Women are probably thinking: “I ain’t sending n****s any nudes!” I get it. We can blame the cloud hacker for part of this. But fellas we have to hold ourselves accountable as well.
I can’t remember the first nude I ever received.
Over the course of receiving them over the years I realized that what I have in my possession can make or break me. This is true in the event I ever sent one as well. If it ever got in the wrong hands I’m liable to get a major tongue lashing. What might be worse? A woman simply saying she wasn’t going to send anymore. We can’t have that right? I really think most guys love receiving nudes from women. Women have so many dimensions and parts of themselves that make them as fine as they are. If a guy sends a woman something provocative it’s probably one of only two or three things. The ladies on the other hand are equipped with everything to take our money.
I say that to say that men haven’t really been responsible with the nudes they have received from women. They shouldn’t want to put that privilege in jeopardy. It’s hurting the game for us and I felt the need to speak up. I listened to a podcast recently that was done by @IamJayMayo where he had panelists express their like or disdain for sexting. To my surprise many of the men and women on the panel were pretty conservative on the subject. With the exception of one man and woman the other four panelists weren’t with it. There’s nothing wrong with this but it made me think. Maybe they’ve seen too much evidence of leaked photos to ever feel comfortable doing such a thing. I’d be pretty weary of it as well.
With the advent of Instagram and Snapchat, there seems to be increased leaking activity.
I think certain realistic distinctions need to be made. I think it’s fair to say that some people may show a nude that they received to a close friend. It’s also fair to say that the photo you may show to that one person isn’t someone you’re seriously dating. To me that is the only excuse to ever show a photo to another. I only say that because I know it happens with some people.
When it comes down to someone you’re taking seriously, they have to be able to trust you.
Sending sexy photos are a way to keep the spice in your relationship. Don’t kill the spice!! I urge the fellas reading this to share this. If you get a nude from a woman, don’t share it. People are more self conscious now more than ever because of all the leaking going on. I feel a way about this because I come from a time when a girl wouldn’t sweat to just throw you a little something to light up your eyes. I mean they wouldn’t even think twice! Where has the generosity gone?! This whole thing should be fun. The abundance of guys putting women on blast and cloud hackers running wild is killing this other dimension for us.
Sending nudes are cool just like most things are…in moderation. How do you all feel about sending nudes? Have any of you done it but don’t anymore? Let’s speak on it. Snap responsibly my friends.
These are my words and I make no apologies.
DamnPops is a writer on the staff at SBM: “I’m not a biter, I’m a writer for myself and others. ” Brooklyn born dude trying to figure out this life just like you. Come on this journey with me. Follow me on Twitter @DamnPOPS