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The Last of a Dying Breed: The Fall of Generation Y and the Rise of the Millennial



We all have to get used to the fact that our time as Gen Y and our prime is in its sunset. Moreover, that the Millennial’s time has come; it’s their time to lead now. I realize that my mindset about loyalty to traditional roles of employment and being focused on making as much wealth in the time I’m employed is changing. I also have to realize that the way that my generation faces each of our issues in the realm of emotions and relationships is changing as well.

There are clear differences in the way that both generations face life and how they associate with society and life. While our lifestyles are similar they’re awfully different. We sometimes don’t understand each other and think that each other is dead wrong on our perspective and approach but it doesn’t change the reality that the Millennial’s time has come.

Work: Gen Y wants to work in a job that is fulfilling financially and head to early retirement. Millennials don’t worry about a job or career they want to find ways to be financially successful without working for someone else.

The biggest difference I notice between myself and the next generation is that I’m perfectly happy working at my nice cushy job in corporate America. I can deal with the ebb and flow of bad days as long as I get paid every two weeks. I see the world in black and white and shades of gray but I know that financial health is really determined by a solid career with steady income. Millennials have changed focus to wanting financial success but they won’t sacrifice their freedom or who they feel they are as people. Conformity is not an option. Simply put, they’re expecting that society will conform to them while Gen Y is trying to fit into to society.

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Life: Gen Y doesn’t take risks when it comes to life. We’re unlikely to do much outside of the norm. We find ways to do the norm with a touch of flair. Millennials don’t care about social norms, they’re blazing trails. They’re transitioning from fitting in to standing out.

I may take a vacation to a third world country or may buy a flashy car but I’m not going to do too much to risk my reputation to society. While I put satisfaction in my standard of living high, I’m willing to sacrifice some of my lifestyle in order to ensure that I can be accepted. Millennials don’t care. They’re not asking what they can do for society; they’re asking what can society do for them. They’re perfectly happy reaching their goals later in life if it means that they maintain happiness. While Gen Y is looking for ways not to seem too far away from the pack; Millennials are looking for ways to exercise individualism at all costs.

Love: Gen Y is marrying and having children later in life but they’re not completely sold on waiting until they’re satisfied with the life they’ve lived. Gen Y places family over themselves and will change their life to find a mate and have a family. Millennials still care about love but they’re moving away from the traditional institution of marriage and family. Heck they may not marry at all.

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In my mind, I believe that I will have to slow down, buy a home, marry and have a family and start saving for my family’s future. Gen Y is not marrying at the same age that our parents did but it’s definitely a conversation that we’re having in our mid to late twenties. If it doesn’t happen, no big deal, but it is still a deal. Millennials are not going to let marriage and family slow them down in life. Their spouses and children will be a part of them still chasing their goals. They’re going to have unconventional families. They may not marry in their twenties, thirties or at all but that doesn’t mean that they won’t have children. There is no clock for Millennials to figure out what they want in a partner, it will simply happen when it happens. As Gen Y is focused on settling down; Millennials are fine with hookup culture and casual relationships until they want to figure out what they want.

To be clear, this is not to say that both generations don’t still hold onto some of the traditional traits or live unconventional lives. There are tons of members of Gen Y who are members of the “Peter Pan” generation and live like we’re in our mid-twenties even when we’re well into our thirties (or forties). There are a plethora of Millennials who want to take the traditional route to financial wealth and virtue. There’s no way to say that these generations are absolutes but these are the observed conditions.

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As a member of Gen Y, I watch that my time to lead society is coming to an end. I’ve got to make room for the next generation to lead and I have choices. I have a choice to hold onto the old way or assimilate into the new way. Regardless of what I decide one thing can be for sure; in about ten years we’re going to look up and our world is going to look a lot different. And that’s not a bad thing, it’s actually a good thing. We had our time to shape a nation and our task is different in how we shape this nation. It’s time to let our younger counterparts show us just how great the world can be.

Dr. J


  1. I agree with all this 1000%.

    For safe reference, is Gen Y not separated from Milennials or are we the same??? I keep hearing multiple classifications so I’m not sure where I fit as a 26 year old

      1. Yes, that’s a good breakdown. Millennials can be used interchangeably with Gen Y but when you want to delineate that’s typically what we’re talking about 81-88 and 88-96.

        1. I am an ’87 lady but I disagree with the article. I feel like the author is trying to put generations (based on his definition of Gen Y and Millennials) in a box. Based on the article, the description of the millennials fits me better than the Gen Y description. I am a go getter and the sun has not set yet.

        2. How can there be a cusp?

          88 should be with gen y in my opine. Millenials simply are calling out society for their BS. Cameras, tweets, and all…

      2. The millennial generation starts with those born in 1981 and currently has no end date. All the research on millenials sets the date there. It has to do with being the first generation to grow up with a computer in the house. If this article is arbitrarily setting it at those born in the 90s it’s wrong.

    1. I confused too lol I’m 26 and I’m like wait a minute earlier this week I was reading an article that said millennials didn’t get out to vote meaning everyone under 30 registered now I’m in generation Y I’m so confused…lol I do agree with this article as well though

  2. You really think, as apart of Gen-Y, your time to lead society is coming to an end? Damn. I feel my time is still ripe for leading society. Millenials will still be and should be in positions to lead society, but there should always be a diverse group of Gen-Y, Millenials, and etc to lead together.

  3. I totally agree with your assessment with a few objections. I am not absolutely convinced that generation Millennial are the trailblazers that you have described to be. I agree that most young adults of this generation are seeking to stand out. But I do not believe it is because they are seeking to be unique and different. But they are seeking to be seen and noticed in the flood of ‘me’s’. This generation have become so individualistic to a point where no one recognizes another’s value and worth unless it is liked or considered popular in social media. Due to this narcissist mentality we have developed, I cannot imagine a functional society to exist because we lost touch of the concept of community living and relying on each other’s strengths. I believe that is why traditional milestones such as marriage, bearing children is becoming obsolete or not as important because it requires a person to stop focusing on themselves and more on others. To be honest, I am afraid of what our world will look like in 50 years…

    1. I can agree with this to an extent. I don’t want to offend them by saying that they are inherently selfish because that’s not entirely a bad thing. I do think that they have more collectivism with them that will lead to a more socialist system than the one we have now.

      1. Except for Civil Rights- nobody has the money to be bailing out 10 people from Jail, let alone 50 or 100 or 300; but Folks can pool money for a trip to Vegas, a Cruise Ship or Kickstarter for a non-innovative purpose………

      2. Except for Civil Rights- nobody has the money to be bailing out 10 people, let alone 50 or 100 or 300 but Folks can pool money for a trip to Vegas, a Cruise Ship or Kickstarter for a non-innovative purpose

    2. Fair enough. I think millenials are just exploring the scope of their options and living in their truth. Whether that is gay agnostic feminist buddist libertarian vegan yogi progressive geek turned self made millionaire, black republican (kidding on that one, Haha!) calling out racism and sexism in the workplace, challenging the notions of gender roles and purported “class” etc….

      Many people live by estabilished social mores just because and never bother to really understand why they believe what they do or who they are. Yes the younger gen is more tech reliant. But they definitely are way more real and anti bull. I aint mad at it!

      1. For the sake of risking getting into it with you, could you elaborate more on “definitely are way more real and anti bull” Please?

        1. I mean no need to come w disclaimers, its all in your approach Mr. Gumble 🙂

          I’ve come to realize that even uber conservative blacks who speak from a place of…Well. We all play our part 🙂

          I thought I was pretty clear. I listed several things millenials do that gen y is more likely to passive aggessively disscuss at home or when no ones looking:

          Millenials: not prentending that you have to live in the American fake system of societal constructs and conservative “founding fathers mentality.” That many of gen y never thought to question. Simply because they became complacent with the new landscape that was bourne out of the movements of the sixties and seventies. Gen y wanted to pretend that it’s “all good now.” Just so they could work kissing the pink booties of the “good ol boys” just to be the favorite token and given some fantastical “job security.” (haha) and a “your not like those other ones” wink and nod. Disgusting.

          Again, we all have our place.

  4. That was a very insightful juxtaposition of generational trends. Allow me to add commentary as it pertains specifically to the AFAM community. Since the Civil-Rights era, I feel that the passing generations have continued to lose substance in many social arenas. A big part of our plight is our lack of village/community ideals for the sake of individuality. Autonomy has its place, but the realization that you are a part of something bigger and having that value system influence your actions is paramount in my opinion. For example, there are many reports about the more salacious activities of Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Does this knowledge lessen his impact as a beacon of change? We have blurred the lines of conformity and character. I say we because whatever ideals the current generation have, we either gave it to them or were permissive in allowing them to be shaped by current values. The difference between having a right to do something and being right in doing it needs to be reinforced. Being a maverick isn’t always the order of the day. Dave Chappelle already showed us how “Keeping it Real Goes Wrong” many times.


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